Africa Miranda

Africa can't believe that Alex followed her into the bathroom, and that her bad actions forced her to stoop to her level.

on Oct 15, 20130

I could write about all the other things that happened in this episode but really for me there is only one thing to talk about: the bathroom fight.

I always like to have a "funny" or something cute to say, but I don't have any.

I've never felt as violated or unprotected as I did in that moment. To be followed into the bathroom by someone who's intent I will always believe was to attack me, is both alarming and disgusting to watch.

I've never been in a physical altercation in my life, but in that moment where my back was literally against the wall I had to defend myself. In that moment I couldn't believe it was happening and that she actually struck me.

99 comments
MsCreant
MsCreant

You are so much more than Alex! Personally I think Alex looks like a rejected contestant from RuPaul's Drag Race. Not to diss RuPaul....

AggieHoustonHousewife
AggieHoustonHousewife

Alex, I have to give you major props for this blog. Even though I don't think there are many people that can say they wouldn't have reacted the same way you did once that trash laid her hands on you, you still aren't proud of the moment and that takes a big person to admit that. You are a beautiful girl, continue to hold your head high and stay away from trash like Alex. Also, you can find a way better man out there than Vawn. Someone who will treat you with the up most respect, and not just be "honest" with you. 

noireetblanche
noireetblanche

Africa-you don't need to stress over Alex or vawn. You're much better than that from what I've seen and I think that Alex is jealous of you. So, just shake off what went down in the club, put your head up and pull your shoulders back and walk right on ahead. Don't give either of them a second thought.

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

Africa,  you need to leave Vawn alone and not fight a whore like Alex over him because she's seems to be a dog begging for a bone of attention.  Let her have him so that she'll get hers at the end when he leaves her for the next woman and so one.  Vawn has no morals and neither does Alex.

spiritoflaughter
spiritoflaughter

Africa, please girl, you know that you are far better than to allow a man to talk you into his bed.  Do you not?  Surely you know that letting yourself be baited as you were in the bathroom is stupid.  If you allow someone to govern your reaction, then you have truly handed them the means of controlling you.  You Do Not Give Away Control Of Your Emotions or Reaction.  If you do, then sooner or later they will have your soul.

lizl-a
lizl-a

Africa - Vawn is not worth your time! Save yourself for a MAN!!! Vawn is a brainless dog! Trying to hump anything it means nothing to him! Every dog has his day!

TenderStorm
TenderStorm

Africa you have too much intelligence, class and sass to be wasting it on Vawn.  Most women have dated a man like him and the conversation sooner or later ended with the man saying some of the following....“How soon 'not now' becomes 'never'.”

 

We are all here looking from the outside in....you know the rest.  Good Luck Africa..we luv ya

mariah12968
mariah12968

I'm almost fell off the couch when Vawn admitted to seeing Alex and Africa was okay with it. Really?? He is a scum bag.

BoricuaBlueEyes
BoricuaBlueEyes

There is absolutely nothing sexy or physically attractive about Yawn, I mean JeVon.  Not his ghetto name, oh-so-90's bald head, poseur sunglass antic, or his speech (the ignoramus said 'sussesses' instead of 'successes') and typically boring 'I'm never faithful' manner that contributed one more boy to the 75% born out-of-wedlock statistic.  Yes, Yawn is soooo progressive, out-of-the-box, and different. *sarcasm*  It was refreshing to see another female wearing her *own* long, natural hair instead of clown wigs/weaves, and I had high hopes for Africa until she disappointed by:

 

1) buying into a dude telling her he was unfaithful then erroneously claiming to be "cool with it" because he was

      "honest"...obviously Africa wasn't too "cool with it" when she "honestly" saw him flirting then ducking out with

      another chick

 

2) having such low self-worth/expectatons to even choose low quality like Yawn (too cheap to take a woman out to

      dinner then passes out paper towels instead of napkins)

 

3) giving her body without taking 3-6 months to get to know a guy, and failing to demand mutual testing for STDs

      upfront

 

4) being 34-38 years old and fighting like a hood rodent

 

The Tribbles are the way to go!  JeVons exist because females that don't know their worth, and settle for less, continue to give them play decade after decade.  I'm 23 and don't understand why some females continue to make the same mistakes over and over yet somehow expect a different result.

Djra
Djra

Africa... you had no CHOICE!!! She attached you. You are so beautiful, classy and talented. Alex hates you for it. She acted like an animal.

divatwenty4seven
divatwenty4seven

I just watched the episode.  You did what you had to do... I bet Alex will never come for round two!!! The greatest misconception out there is pretty and nice people can't fight...

I commend you for taking accountability for your actions, having a plan set for future scenes, and also wish the fight scene did not take place as well. It just perpetuates the unfortunate stereotype for us sistahs...

Africa keep your head up!

 

Foxxe1
Foxxe1

Africa, you're a very classy young lady; don't allow the douche bag Vawn and that child Alex bring you down to their level. Vawn is NOT a man he is just male.

carmenc1
carmenc1

Africa you seem a very nice woman but in your thirties you really should know about men like Vawn and what they are all about - and furthermore you should know that someone being honest does not equate someone being good - honesty in and of itself has nothing to do with morality and its concerning that you seem to equate the two - to say that when someone is honest you can't get mad is an insane thing to say - if you are married and your husband goes out one night and sleeps with a bunch of women, and then is honest with you about it the next day is that okay?  What if you have kids - should you not feel hurt and upset - should you not need to address his actions and the obvious lack of care or respect he would need to have had in the first place for his own family to act in such a way?  I could give a hundred more examples - the point is honesty just means someone isn't also lying on top of whatever it is that they did, and this does not deserve a medal - honesty should be there anyway in any sort of relationship based on any level of respect......I mention all of this because I was so shocked at your attitude of excusing Vawn's general disrespect towards women because he is honest about the fact that he has no class - you say you are a strong woman but you come across as having very low self esteem to even let yourself be involved with someone like that - when Vawn and Alex were together chatting in the bar it is Vawn who was in the wrong - he was with you that night and let another woman overtly flirt with him and any man who has any respect for the woman he is with, even if it is just for that night, would not allow this........I do hope you find a way to value yourself more - you have every reason to want and demand more for yourself.

Lovethatshow.com
Lovethatshow.com

Africa please drop the man and move on Vawn is the type of man that will never be a one woman man.  I just wish you would have snatched that really tacky weave out of her head.

matchboxpatty
matchboxpatty

Africa you are class, she is trash- plain & simple!

BoricuaBlueEyes
BoricuaBlueEyes

There were no weapons directed at Africa, so there is no basis for any claim that she was pushed into a corner to the point that she *had* to protect herself, least of all fight.  At the end of the day, had Africa simply ignored Alex and proceeded to do what she needed to do in the ladies room, instead of engaging her, she wouldn't have gotten into a physical altercation.  Deep down, Africa knows she had the optiion to walk away, and *this* is why she feels ashamed and disappointed in herself, and rightfully so!  No matter how it's cut, two grown females fighting is hood rodent behavior and a disgusting sight.

franmer
franmer

You should stay away from this girl and that guy Vawn.  Show and keep your worth at all times.

nikkidl
nikkidl

Nothing to be ashamed of.  Like everyone said, she pushed you into a corner and you had to whip that ass.  I would hate to meet you in a dark alley.  You are a small woman that knows how to handle her own.  Alex knows what she's doing.  She's making sure that she continues to get a paycheck next season.  And trust me, after last weeks episode, the show will be picked up next season.  Keep doing you Africa.

flaviacaval
flaviacaval

the only thing you should be ashamed of is to be with the Vawn guy or whatever his name is. You are nice he is a LIAR !! and so full  and over him self. like he is baby face or something! he speaks only ( I, I, I, I ) love your self first .

RL14
RL14

Africa, you read that girl-child for filth and she had no choice but to start using cuss words and getting physical. Her brain starting puttering out and she lost it! 

chiefblocker
chiefblocker

Africa is a talented and dazzling lady with class and style. It is shameful that she was attacked. She will be stronger for the tests and trials she endures. I'm looking forward to watching her star rise.  I hope that she went to the police and reported the attack. The man who attacked her should be charged with assault. I bet he is embarrassed that a lady gave him a beating. He deserved it.

TallCaliGal
TallCaliGal

Girl, it's clear who the people love and adore, it's you! Alex and the ratchetness that she is, is going to be the vilian in this story, believe me. Keep your head up baby-girl, you'll be o.k, without Lion King or Yawn, I mean Vawn...

musique
musique

Hey Africa,,, If you need a hit that will last a lifetime. hit me up... talking about real music! I see you are serious about your craft. It's a shame to say, but it rare that a producer.artists relationship succeed. don't know why, maybe egos, or control but its weird/ I could hope that you expected a demo out of the relationship,but that what everybody expect.. When you r serious an d i believe  you are hit me up!   I have a producer that will birth a new you! original 

 

akluv4u
akluv4u

Alright Africa. Get up and brush yourself off. Make this a "DO OVER" or a "START OVER". In order to proceed with this process you will first need to take out the TRASH. Ummm...that would be Vawn and Alex. I would keep both of these dumb ass individuals at arm's length and just remember who you're dealing with. You can't change who they are but you can certainly change the way you deal with them and if I were you I would start by removing all feelings whatsoever for Vawn or Alex. I would be cordial when necessary but I wouldn't have a damn thing else to say to either of them. You know how to play this game so put on your game face. No more feeling sorry for what you did. It's a new day. The best of luck to you.

AtticusFinch
AtticusFinch

next time, go in the stall and lock it behind you. use your cell phone to phone a friend to come in and help you. if you would have called vawn to come in there it would have been priceless!

 

 she went there looking for you. they showed her and her friend plotting it.

 

 vawn, he's a phony. and, you gave it up way to quick.

 

alex will end up with him, and they will tear each other up. both will be left bruised, burned and broke.

promotepeace
promotepeace

You had every right to defend yourself from that THING!! You have something she will never know anything about! Morals!! You are to good of a woman for the likes of player Vawn. No question as to who the lady is here. I think Alex & Vawn are a good match!

Brenny130
Brenny130

Nice to see someone who admits when their behavior does not match the person.  Stay classy, please.  The best way to handle Alex is to give her more rope to hang herself with.  Just laugh and say "you are so funny" and laugh again..then just walk away!  She will continue to show her true colors and make a fool of herself.  Get rid of Vawn.  He is a child.

jperry45
jperry45

Africia I want to say leave Vawn alone he is a player and a scum bag and those words I just used are really to nice for him, he isn't worth S. he will mess with any woman that will let him and I think you will enventually see the kind of DOG that he is , you open up your heart to the wrong guy. That girl that looks like the LION King she has a lot of growing up to do it will probably take her the next 25 years to get there and then again she may never grow up, I do wish she will get a make over because she is not as cute as she think she is not at all.

B1YB1S
B1YB1S

Africa... Baby Girl, if you don't have any sisters, I will be your big sister; with that being sed... Nobody mess' with my fam... so holla if you need that big sister, and i got you!

kaysum
kaysum

Africa, I am disappointed that you made that witch Alex get the best of you but you know what, you live and you learn. Please don't allow yourself to stoop to her level.  I don't know what English courses she took in college because her grammar and sentence structure is VERY POOR.  You are beautiful, sexy and classy...no wonder your parents named you AFRICA!!!! make them proud honey, because AFRICA is BEAUTIFUL!!!

iloverealitytvs
iloverealitytvs

You should not feel ashamed!  You had no choice, but to try to push her out of your face.  Her feelings were just hurt because you killed her with your words and she is not that bright so she had no come back.  All she could do was talk about her (probably non- existent) trust fund and then get in your face and strike you. 

sugarbabyluv
sugarbabyluv

Girl as soon as you mentioned her mama, those were fighting words. 

Calendargirl@20
Calendargirl@20

Run Africa run, and never look back.  Otherwise, you’re going to spend a lifetime full of misery if you stay with that Jerk.

jA1
jA1

Hi AFRICA!,

 

I felt violated watching you get put in that position!!  I KNEW what that crazy nut was going in there for and it was SO sad.  You had no choice but to defend yourself.  I am so sorry that happened to you. You are literally the most lovely woman on reality t.v..   Nothing says JEALOUS more, by the way, that being stalked by a complete basket case like Alex, thankfully she didn't really hurt you.  Keep your head up pretty girl it is very obvious who demands attention and who is seeking it. 

Piper321
Piper321

Africa!! You are the classiest one on the show. No need to feel embarrassed, that idiot deserved what she got. She's so annoying!!!! Who cares if you rent your things, nowadays that seems like the smarter way to go!!!! She owns nothing, her parents do.

ShiningStarr
ShiningStarr

Africa, it is clear that you are already caught up in Vawn's web and I hate that because you are making excuses for his behavior. This guy shows you no respect by flirting with other women and Alex in your face and I'm sure that you really want and deserve a real man who loves you, respects you, and is faithful to you. But unfortunately we as women sometimes get our feelings caught up with men like that. And if you have any kind of self control in you, don't continue to invest any more of your feelings into this man, and don't kid yourself into believing that maybe in time he will grow to love you and become your knight in shining armour, because the chances are very slim that that is going to happen. By continuing to be with Vawn, you are absolutely setting yourself up to get hurt.  Just maintain friendship and a business relationship with him and date other people who respect you. Ignore Alex...she is a pure joke and there is nothing about her that warrants you even giving her the time of day. Actually she and Vawn belong together because they both would feed off of each other's ego and you are much better than that.

Esmerelda
Esmerelda

That was an altercation you couldn't avoid. I would have been disappointed if you hadn't defended yourself from that overgrown brat. It did stalk you right into the bathroom. You are a lovely lady and intelligent too. Alex was an embarrassment to her self and her family.

bravoliscious
bravoliscious

You were literally pushed against the wall.  Alex WANTED that fight, she wants to engage in a negative way because you won't bend to her "spoiled brat" antics.  Clearly, Trust Funds don't give you class.  Out of all the horrid things she said and did, throwing out the "you rent" comment was horrid.  The majority of us have had to earn what we have and we, as you, have done so without feeling the need to belittle others.  You have far too much going for you to be with a guy like Vawn.  The Sunglasses alone should be your warning.

Canufeelthecoolness43
Canufeelthecoolness43

You were defending yourself. It is a shame that a young woman that claims that she comes from an affluent family would conduct herself like that on national TV. If anyone should be ashamed, it should be Alex. She is classless and uncouth! Every dime her parents have invested was WASTE. Africa, you are the epitome of class and I wish you well in all of your endeavors.

Emerald2k
Emerald2k

Africa,

Vawn's honesty is a total SCAM, it is a way to keep you hooked in. I was involved with a man just like him and I kept telling myself "as long as he is honest  he his showing me respect.", NOT. He will keep you hooked and make you the laughing stock until he meets the next victim, then you are old news.

TallCaliGal
TallCaliGal

 @BoricuaBlueEyes You're right BBE, when people do the same thing over and over again and expect different outcomes evvery time, that is literally what insanity is....

Djra
Djra

 @chiefblocker I think that guy was security from the show. It looks like he was trying to help.

matchboxpatty
matchboxpatty

 @chiefblocker

 I'm all for Africa, but I don't think the man attacked her. I figured he was security or just a bystander trying to stop a fight.

lisarc
lisarc

 @kaysum

 she had no choice but to protect herself. she didn't do a damn thing wrong.

B1YB1S
B1YB1S

 @kaysum i don't think Africa really let Alex The Alley Cat get the best of her, I think she was caught off guard, and probably a befuddled with the actions of the Ally Cat. I don't believe Africa has the hoodrat instincts. As far as her grammer... you can take the Alley Cat out of the Alley but they will always return to their natural habitat. Africa... tell Vawn to KIM... Keep It Moving, he is not ready for a classy Sista. Banish him to the Alley with that toe (torn) up cat!

Blossomthyme
Blossomthyme

 @iloverealitytvs Yes Africa had every right to "defend" herself.  Even if someone just invades your space by getting up in your face, that can be considered an assault.  Man, I wonder how the rest of the season will play out since Alex cannot look any dumber, I guess.

divatwenty4seven
divatwenty4seven

 @sugarbabyluv

 Alex's mother was not mentioned with evil or malicious intent. Africa actually complimented her mother. The issue here is "the truth hurts".  Alex is immature and her actions appear to stem from her own personal insecurities. The fact is a girl can never successfully compete with a women.