PLEASE ADOPT!

Hey Roger.

I think you and Rachel are both awesome!! I watch the show regularly, and I while I think Rachel is an awesome business woman and someone to be reconged with, I also think that she is frightened and not really truthful about the whole pregnancy thing. I understand her being frightened about having a baby, but yet if she truly wants that, like you seem to, then she should also be very open, which she doesn't seem to be. I was very floored, by the latest episode of the "blood test".. and couldn't understand why Rachel wouldn't take a simple blood test!! There was no obligation, no set in stone decision, only a single, simple, blood test!! I still don't understand her reasoning and I don't think I ever will... You are an exceptional husband... she is very lucky to have you.. and while I don't think for one second that you don't both love each other, because that is very evident in the episodes, I am starting to wonder if maybe this was something that wasn't fully discussed and has now become an issue... I would hate to see the two of you part for any reason... I think you are perfect together, but I really think you and Rachel need to find the time to get together to discuss this very important issue and salvage this very special relationship that so many of us look up to! I hope Rachel will come around and have a baby... she would be very cute pregnant and I think you both will be excelent parents!!

Rodger,
You are a great husband! I do not think Rachel realizes how lucky she is. You derserve to be happy, and you'd be a great father. I think Rachel needs to re-evaluate her priorities...I feel she is too bossy and thinks "what does Rachel want?",the majority of the time. I do love Rachel's business sense, I admire that side of her tremendously. I just hope the best thing that has ever happened to her (you), doesn't get ruined by a bunch of damn fashion shows! Enough, already-- LIFE'S MORE THAN CHANEL, RACHEL!!!!! Good Luck & God Bless! I'm rootin' for ya Rodg'!

Hey Rodger,

My family loves the show for various reasons, but this season instead of being upset by how Taylor rips on Brad and makes drama, we're upset by how unhappy you seem to be, how it appears you're being marginalized and disrespected.

You were right about the video shoot. Rachel should have taken a back seat that day and done everything to support you, just as you support her in ways I know many women find enviable.

There needs to be a balance in your life, you need to be receiving the love, acceptance and support that you're giving out and that appears to be why you're so unhappy. You want your marriage to be a true partnership and it's not quite there anymore. Don't go for those rides in the car where you are constantly waiting while she's busy. Make alternate plans, have some Rodger time and get the both of you into therapy. I lost my ex to his job, and it was the hardest thing to have his job as "mistress" and always in the way. Fight Rodger, don't be passive.

Best of luck.

Hi Rodger, Being in a marriage for over ten years I get small blow ups. That is just part of marriage. We only see a snap shot of your life and it is still very apperant that you guys love each other. It took my husband and I five years before we were ready to have a baby and another 5 to have our second. Most of the reason for that is I wanted to establish my career and when I work it is hard for me to turn off work when I am home. My husband probably would have had them the 1st year we were married, he loves kids. It is never to late to start even if it is not how you thought it would be. My best unrequested advice is be patient with each other and think with love (all the time) even when you are totally frustated with each other. All the best and for what it is worth I think both of you would be great parents.

During the shoot, Rachel was very disrespectful of you, and her "friends" followed her lead. You were not in the wrong at all, they were acting immature.

I think Rachel is all business and it is really affecting you, and it should, because you are getting nothing back. I hope she wises up soon. You are a great guy who has all the best in mind for her career, your business, and you are often just completely forgotten. I personally don't know why you haven't lost it even more.

Good luck, I'm praying for you two. For you to get what you deserve, a family and an adoring wife, and for Rachel to wake up.

Rodger,
I completely get where you are coming from. Being a business background myself, you just want what is best for Rachel business-wise.

On the baby front I COMPLETETLY agree with you and watching this week's episode I think I cried for 20 minutes afterward with my sister after watching Rachel express her scared feelings about carrying a baby due to her frailty. I just wish you both the best of luck on getting pregnant. You both deserve it. L'shanah Tovah.
Emily

I think the more famous rachael gets, the tighter you hold on. If she got pregnant she would need you. You get angry because you're always in the background. You identify yourself as a business man. Why aren't you doing your own thing? My husband would not go to a fashion show. He would rather have brain surgery. That doesn't mean we aren't happy. At night I tell him about my shopping finds and he tells me about the blood and gore in the afternoon rugby game. At night - send Brad home! I love you all!

Rodg, I adore this show. I am addicted to you and Rachel and the gang. Your wife is unique and you are perfect for her, despite the impasse re parenthood. Thank God you both are honest to the camera. It makes for a deeper, more real, poignant drama. Please don't give up on each other. Just remember that Rachel's talent is way way out there and and few could do the fabulous job she does. And she loves it so. What would she do without it, even with a child? What would we do?

Rodger; After watching this last episode, I have to say that I agree with everyone that I understand why you are feeling frustrated. However, when you listen to what Rachel is saying, she is just scared. Please understand that. I feel that my situation was very similar. I pursued my musical career and married much later in life. I actually had to stop singing because of becoming very ill. Then after I married, I really wanted to have a baby, but because my health was so bad the doctors warned against it. Well, right after I went to the doctor to talk about it I found out I was pregnant. Believe it or not, all during my pregnancy I felt great. I started at 100 lbs and gained 48 lbs. and then had a healthy 8 lb. girl. The delivery was challenging only because we had moved from LA to a remote little town in the NW and they had no epidurals! I did it though and you need to reassure Rachel that she can, too. She will be surprised probably at how good she feels while she is pregnant. I did have some bad days with migraines and the nausea, but overall I did much better than I normally do. And, in the long run, it definitely was worth it. I have an almost 17-year old daughter who is the most amazing and beautiful human being. SHE is my best creation and I know that you two could make a beautiful one of your own. I truly wish you all the best. Dina

I have one word for Rachel.. SURROGATE. Your sperm and R's egg, fertilized = your baby but just carried by another woman. Rachel seems terrified of pregnancy and I can see why she would feel that way. CALIFORNIA IS ONE OF THE BEST STATES IN THE COUNTRY FOR THIS PROCESS1

HEy Rodger....I think RAchel sometimes belittles you a little too much.
I couldn't stand all those people "Brad" around ALL THE TIME..Like,
they should tell her no every now & again so you guys can have
more "couple time"? I don't know how you handle all that "dress" talk
it would drive me insane? I understand it's business, but I think Rachel
totally forgets that your her HUSBAND? YOur very good looking and
I hope she'll change her mind on the baby issuse cause the baby would
be gorgous!! Much love to you both....

First, the people in the room were rude and unprofessional to be talking and texting while business was being carried out, so I do understand Roger's frustration. But it's not good to single people out publicly. I think I may agree that Roger would be happier doing his own thing business-wise. The constant fashion seems to be an irritant and perhaps he needs more separation from it. If he's going to stay in, Rachel must be the one to insist that everyone respect and listen to Roger.

As for having a baby, it does seem like Rachel is not into it. Surely this was discussed before marriage??? But perhaps the answer to the problem could be to adopt. Then Rachel's frail body wouldn't have to carry it. But they need to consider who will be the primary caregiver. Rachel? when? Roger? maybe. Nanny? hmmmm ...

I love Rachel, and I think she is EXTREMELY talented at what she does. Unfortunately, she is in danger of losing her most valuable asset, you. Having a husband that truly loves you and that you can count on is a blessing, one that should not be taken for granted. Because I love and admire her so much, I really hope she realizes this soon!

I have enjoyed this season. I love Rachel and I can see that she is wonderful at what she does but it's time to just start a family get a nanny to help out if you need it, it no crime.

BRAVO, PLEASE PRINT THIS, MANY VIEWERS WANT TO KNOW!!
Rodger,
Would you please explain in your next blog why you served turkey at the passover (Seder) meal. Perhaps you or your family don't eat red meat or some other good reason, it is just curious to many of us. We too celebrate passover and lamb is always served, along with the other traditional dishes which symbolize the plight of the Jewish people, as slaves in Egypt. For those who are not familiar with "passover dinner" it is a ritual dinner celebrating/remembering the Exodus of the Jews from Egypt. The Jewish people were instructed by Moses to slaughter a lamb and spread the blood over their door post. The first born child of the households that did not have the lambs blood spread would die (including Pharaoh's son). The angel of death would "passover" the homes with the blood of the lamb on the door posts. The Pharaoh and Egyptians were so distressed by the deaths of their first born, the Jewish people were able to quickly leave and make their way to "the promised land".
For Christians, Christ was celebrating the Seder meal or "passover" with his disciples the night before he was crucified, which is referred to as "the last supper". Those of Jewish Faith along with Christians participate in Passover because it is our heritage. Christians are more accurately "Judea-Christians", for the Christian Faith came from the Jewish faith with the birth of the awaited Messiah, Jesus. For Christians, Jesus, is "the lamb of God", quite literally, his blood was shed to save humans. The Jewish Faith still awaits the coming of the "Messiah", where the Christian Faith believes Jesus is the "Messiah".
So much time was spent on this episode talking about the making of the Seder meal. This is so intriguing and it shows a deeper side of both you and Rachel. I was surprised that it wasn't explained, at least minimally by you or Rachel. Viewers really love watching you and your wife and would like to know more about your lives besides "fashion". I hope next season will continue to show a broader view of your lives. Love your show!!!!

TEAM ROGER! I hope Rachel wakes up and tries to get pregnant PRONTO!
We all don't think of clarifying the baby issue when we first marry. I know its something that should be etched in stone...like, "we are having only one child by age 35", or something...and then life, careers and biology interfere with our best laid plans.
I was full-frontal career and waited too long to have been able to get pregnant. My career always came first, and by age 40...welllllll....
The happy ending is we adopted a wonderful baby girl from Columbia.
Rachel, wake up. It's time to try. Otherwise just tell Roger the truth, and that you don't want a baby. It is not fair to him, despite whatever career and family plans the two of you may have made years ago.

BLESSINGS ARE EVERYTHING: Rod and Rach, I was 38 years old when I became surprisingly pregant. I was not able to have a child, "medically" according to all the docs, but....I did, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I am and was so incredibly blessed.
It did destroy my marriage because I married a man who did not what children at all. My daughter was born pre-mature and very ill. I became ill as well. I did loose everything I worked so hard for, my very well paying job, my husband, my home, my finances...But, Rach....it was all worth every penny, every scary moment, every step of the way. Without her I do not know what I would have done. Luckily for you Rach, you won't have to go where I have been, since you have Rodger. Fear is devastating sometimes, but when you hold your child in your arms, (actually it was my hand....since she was so so tiny), fear escapes you, pain escapes you, and you never knew it existed in the first place. You become so strong and the feeling that comes over you, never ceases to amaze you. Rach, you dont have to be afraid..but you can be afraid...its okay..its just the unknown...which is an adventure in itself. You can do this...both of you. You love each other very much, so much so that when and if you decide to create this present, this gift from that love, it will bring you more power than you can imagine.
My daughter is now 17 and I am trying very hard to help her get into a college. Financially for me its an impossiblity, but I am still trying anything and everything...because that is what you do. Its not for me naymore. Its for her. Everything is for her. Your business will thrive even farther than it did before because your doing it for them now...not you. It will be your legacy. I wish you well. Both of you. AND I AM SUCH A FAN....Thanks for listing..Susan Lane Oxford Ct. Can't wait to hear the news......

Roger,
It has been painful to watch the past 2 episodes. There's nothing entertaining about watching all that tension. I completely understand your frustration and I feel bad for you. I really like you and Rachel and I hope things work out for both of you.

i stand by rachel in sticking up for brad because thats a business and thats not professional to do that in front of people. He def flipped out but he apologized for it which was very good and I like Rodger for being a business person and i know that he's not into fashion, but i think he should play more in the background if he doesn't like sitting in the car and waiting for rachel at fittings that was from the previous show. I do feel like Rachel and Rodger need more alone time and Rachel would you rather lose him than work cause who's gonna be there when your done in fashion. Karl L lives in paris not LA lol

I second that. we are looking into these people lives only for a 1 hour a week. for everyone to jump down Rodger's throat for wanting to have a baby is crazy. He shouldn't have to put his wants on hold because Rachel doesn't want to have a child. I'm married and I know that if the two people in the marriage dont want the same thing the marriage will suffer. Good luck Rodger we love you, because you bring a Man's view to the show as well as being the doting husband.

No one watching that show can know exactly what goes on between you two. You both seem normal and great to me and I enjoy watching you on the show. Couples love, fight, and continue to love. The last thing I wanted in my life was a baby but I agreed to "try" for one because my husband wanted a family and I had been told 10 years earlier it would be very hard for me to get pregnant even then so there was no way I thought it would happen 10 years later! But I knew we would eventually grow apart as a couple if I didn't try when it's what he wanted out of marriage. My, now, 15 year old daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me. I hope you two continue to work, love, fight and play together and find what's right for both of you.

Rodger, please stop telling Rachel to have a baby. You can't and shouldn't force someone to do that. I am tired of watching you and her family pressuring her into pregnancy. Not every woman wants to be a mother. (My husband and I agreed before we married that we don't want children.) I suggest a relationship therapist, because having children vs. not having children can cause major rifts in a relationship. Rachel's heart isn't into it (having a baby), and it shows. You don't want her to have a child just to appease you and others, right?

I LOVE Rodger!!!!

I understand your frustration and you had every right to be upset. I'm glad that your on the show because you bring the realness to the show as far as how people in real relationships act. Rachel and you make a wonderful couple and she needs that peace of sanity in her fashion obsessed crazy world. Your her peace before the storm!!!

I'm sorry but Rodger being involved in the business to begin with is murder-suicide! I really think that another way to help this marriage is for Rodger to quit & find his own separate world. That doesn't change the fact that Rachel definitely needs to rethink her priorities in life. But ya Rodger, save your marriage... your sanity & step down!

I loved seeing seder scene last night. It was so nice to see everyone together at one table. I really feel bad for you Rodger. Your feelings are totally disregarded. Rachel needs to really start listening to you and both of you need to communicate so you can see if this relationship is still the right fit for both of you. It seems you're on both very different pages. Maybe it's time to reevaluate. Its obvious how much you love and care for her. But I can't say the same for her and her feelings towards you. It sad seeing you week after week express your frustrations and unhappiness and nothing ever changing. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully next season we will see a preggers Rachel or maybe some happiness in both of your faces.

I really, really like you Rodger. You're exactly the kind of man Rachel needs in her life. Unforunately, you would like to start a family and she isn't ready. Pushing her into doing this would be a very bad mood. Hopefully, she will come to this realization on her own.

As for the photoshoot, I think I would have been frustrated too. Poor Brad, took some of your wrath that I think you wanted to unleash on Rachel a little bit. It's not like Brad was being filmed at the time he was on his blackberry (from what was shown on the show).

Rachel probably doesn't understand all the work you put into this project. She was having fun and you were working hard.

I know you two belong together. The love you have for your wife is palpable. I just hope she doesn't take too much longer to learn to section off time and attention for you or she may ruin a good thing.

I watched last nights show and felt compelled to write something. I wish my husband had as much patience as you!!! Rachel seems to have some issues, you can see it all over her face when she takes about a baby. I think you should really think about your realtionship and down the road you will really regret not starting a family.Rachel is very lucky to have you!!

Rodger, I was so sad to see pictures this week of NY Fashion Week of you and Rachel at Luncheons and Rachel at every gala and Fashion Show. Nothing has changed. There is no joy or light in either of your faces because thats all there is for the 2 of you- that is your life. No real home private life to go home to. No day off from Shows to explore the city. Very sad.

Some of these comments blow my mind, and I feel sorry for YOUR spouses. Rodger and Rachel may have built this life together, but I'm fairly certain he never anticipated the complete lack of respect, consideration or attention he receives from his wife. I don't care if she's the friggin President of the United States, they married eachother for better or worse and agreed to LOVE and HONOR one another until death.

Baby issue aside, Rachel needs to check her priorities. If they truly have no one one time together, the marriage will continue to suffer for it. Marriage requires you to put eachother first, and even though it's not always easy, you can do it if you really want to.

Roger, I think you better face the fact that Rachel does not want to have a baby,,,, I think like she said if you could carry it for her she would love it, thats the truth. I know alot of successful women who have amazing careers who have had babies and do it all, as Rachel could she just doesnt feel like she can have it all. She should talk to her friends like Demi, the Kates they have accomplished all of it and have had time for kids. I think she hit the nail on the head talking to her stylist shes afraid she cannot physically handle it, I guess I dont quite get that as shes a normal women, I know shes had the vertigo problem but that shouldnt effect a baby, look at her sister shes just a little thing and shes had kids...... It feels like she just grasps at anything to delay getting pregnant. If you truly want your OWN blood kids then I think you should move on, you two are great together but if its something you really want it might not happen with Rachel, and cause major problems the rest of your marriage. Have you thought about adopting??? Theres so many kids out there that need a loving home which Im sure you two would provide too them. You are a good man and husband to Rachel, I just hope she knows it, I think she needs a reality check on that part of your relationship. It seems this year shes taking advantage of you and really not caring what the outcome is, take care of yourself and move forward even if Rachel is not willing to. There will always be a need for fashion and stylists, but her clock is ticking big time..... Love the show Thanks

Hi Rodger, this episode with the Seder and the pivotal talk with Joey showed that Rachel shows love to celebs, clothes and fashion Shows, and has made that her real life. Joey's astute question of whether the clothes will love you back did not elicit meaningful introspection. Her showing such love and enthusiasm for five minutes with Johnny Weir or Kate Hudson, who are really strangers with their own lives, shows her blurred sense of reality and intimacy. Joey tried to make her see that giving of oneself, giving love to a child, could have so many fulfilling rewards, but was met with a blank stare and worry about her frailty. It is like a child who thinks Disney land is real.

This is similar to a few of the Starlets in the news who end up making parties and clubs their real life.

You guys really need a chance to have a real life. Good Luck!

Roger,

Rachel has to tire of her business before spending time as a mother. Right now she is on top of her game. You appear as an "also ran." Give her a few years. Others will come along. She will tire of it all, especially the pace. One can have children into their 40s. It's a difficult situation as you are left in the dust for all her close working relationships.

My ex didn't wait. He left for another who was a stay at home with a few strong interests. In retrospect, I wish I had babies when he wanted them.
Luckily, I went through the respected career phase, met another and had
a child, who is the light of my life. Having a baby now will only put stress
on your relationship and more stress on Rachael because she isn't ready to
let go of her work quite yet.
-Been there

You had nothing to apologize for. Rachel consistently undermines you at meetings and in other professional situations. Working together is not always such a great idea, especially if one partner is more powerful than the other. It appears to be hurting your relationship.

Dear Rodger,

I really sympathize with you. I think you need to put your foot down on some major issues or you too will get swallowed up by airkissing Lagerfeld and wake up at 70 years old at yet another Luncheon in a nice suit looking forward to a bowl of cereal at 1 AM, living only in the flash of cameras, when even the biggest celebrity goes home to a life with kids away from the cameras.

Best regards for a Happy New Year filled the warmth and giggles of a baby,

Jess

Rodger, I was horrified by the immature way Rachel acted during the shooting with Amy Phillips. Her taking up for Brad's rude "texting" and her lack of defense on your behalf were shocking. I would and have defended my husband above all others throughout our 30 years of marriage and he has done the same for me. I lost any remaining respect I had for Rachel during the last show. You were completely correct to try to not waste everyone's time during the shoot and, frankly, your wife and her little side-kick acted worse than elementary school kids. Rodger...you can do so much better and do not deserve to be humiliated by the one person who should always have your back!

Oh, and Rachel, it does not take a genius to be successful when you spend your entire existence on one lone goal...many people do that much and more while also having a LIFE!

I feel for you...Your wife has no clue to the words
MAJOR or BANANA'S until she has a child! The two of
you need to visit Bethenny from BGM and maybe then, she'll
be able to make up her mind on the baby issue?!?

Rodger, Rachel is afraid that having a baby will take away from her career, which IS her baby. The problem is that anyone can have a baby, but not everyone can be a personal stylist to the stars. Having that makes Rachel feel important and it makes her who she is. It appears that you are jealous of the time her job takes from you and your life together, but what makes you think that a baby will give her back to you? It might make matters worse as she tries to "do it all" and ends up spreading herself even thinner (no pun intended). She needs to work this through and not be pressured into the decision. Give her your understanding and listen to her concerns. Express your needs in a non-threatening way instead of delivering an ultimatum.

I get that Rodger is frustrated. Really. I do. But here is the deal. He and Rachel have built this life together, what we are seeing is nothing new to him and nothing that he didn't help to create. He knew what kind of woman Rachel was when he married her and should not expect her to be different today. Especially not after building the empire that they have. Just because he is ready to have a baby doesn't mean she is. Ultimatums are NOT cool. If you are questioning your relationship with your spouse so much that you want to put an ultimatum on them to get something out of them you think will make you happier - you should just leave already. Don't tell her what she should do to get you to stay because you can now NEVER know if it is sincere. I married my husband on an ultimatum and while I have forgiven him, neither of us will ever know what my decision would have been on my own. Ultimatums are POWER TRIPS. Rodger has been mean to Rachel on camera - imagine what he is telling her off. I get that she may be even nuttier off camera as well, but on camera, she has been mostly respectful, but Lord knows I would be a little cutting to my husband if he was throwing ultimatums around on camera!! This is so sad - I think Rodger and Rachel both want a baby, but now, because of the stupid ultimatum, we will never know if Rachel really was ready or if she did this just to save her marriage.

Rodger, Rachel is not reading for a baby, can't you see it? Not yet at least. Give her space, ultimately it is her decision, I hate saying that but it is true!! I hope she is talking to you about the baby situation like she talks to her team. The fear will always be there about having a baby, even for you. When you two are ready you will know!! My thoughts and prayers are with you both!

Brad, you have the patience of a saint. Every excuse Rachel gave to Joey about not having a baby fell flat. A pregnancy is temporary, the shows will still be there, as will the endless parties. Joey was really sweet encouraging Rachel to take herself a real life before it's too late. I hope she can for all your sakes.

I think you should start by only accepting party and show invitations 2 weeks out of every month, and every trip to NY has to have days off for the beach and some fun day trips shopping and restaurants with friends. Every celeb Rachel knows does this- why can't she?

The media said Rachel was a "fixture" at all the fashion shows. Why does she feel the need to go to all the shows? That has to be fixed before you could ever have a baby or a life.

Rodger, you are the most patient and amazing husband.
I understand your frustrations. But you have got one of the most fashionable, driven, committed, well-spirited, gorgeous wives. Whatever will be - will be. I just hope she finds the way to spend more time with you...you are so worth it.
You two look really good together, you complete each other.
When the hard times come, i always tell myself :" Things have the way of working out"....and they do !
Cheers,
Russian Girl

Dear Rodger,

I understood your frustration during the shoot. Those lines between work/friendship/play are dangerously blurred from my viewpoint. When the line was not clearly drawn with Taylor, it was a train wreck.

I am CHEERING for you two to have a baby. Fashion and work will fade. Nothing replaces family. NOTHING.

Blessings.
DJ