Cast Blog: #RHOA

The Peacemaker

DeShawn Snow gives some background info, and blogs about Sheree's party.

First of all, I just want to say that I am so excited to be a part of the wildly successful Real Housewives franchise! I am even more excited about the opportunity to write to you each week, providing a fresh perspective. On the show, I would say that I am the peacemaker. I don't play both sides of the fence. I am cool with everyone. You can get to know more about me and my passions at www.deshawnsnowfoundation.org and www.deshawnsnow.com.

I met my husband our freshman year at MSU. (Go Spartans!) We started dating February 1992 and got married in 1997. We have three beautiful boys, ages 9,6, and 5. I always find it amusing when I hear people say that I "married money."

Eric and I had no clue what God had in store for us! Eric wasn't the superstar in college - in fact, we weren't even sure he would make it to the NBA. I would drive him and his teammates around campus in my Geo Metro (those were the days)! And when he did go to the NBA, he didn't even get to play. But he became a student of the game and learned from the best. He was finally given his big start three years later in Philadelphia.

Now on to the first episode.

In 2006 we purchased a beautiful piece of land in a neighboring community. This was the start of a dream project! We got with an architect and developed custom plans to suit our family and lifestyle. This process took about six months. Finally construction was underway.

During the time of construction, I was living in Ohio managing the home, taking care of our boys, and supporting my husband's career. Simultaneously, I was commuting back and forth to Atlanta to run my real estate company. Eric and I decided to hire interior designers to help with the home building process. The same service I had provided to Eric with the 10+ homes we have bought and sold throughout his career, and for my VIP real estate clients, I was finally able to experience for myself. I had someone to take care of everything for me and manage the process--all I had to do is just walk in (and of course, make the final decisions). This was definitely a blessing for us.

As you saw on the show, I was waiting until Eric was in town to see our fully furnished home for the very first time. It was definitely challenging to not sneak a peak into the home during the full week that the designers were there (the boys and I were renting a house in the same community.) We were pleasantly surprised! Our designer, Lori Halprin (Envisions) had definitely done a fabulous job. It was actually quite overwhelming for us...to see how God had covered us in His grace and mercy.

Once settled in our home, the process of finding a staff to assist me was first on my to-do list. God has provided us with this incredible blessing to be able to focus our time solely on our family and our community. It would be impossible to do all that I need to do without any assistance in the home. While traveling (as we often have to do), it is imperative that I have proper care for my boys in my absence.

Sheree's party was fabulous. I do not think that she left NeNe name off the guest list intentionally. I don't think she had anything to do with it - I believe it was an honest mistake. At the same time, I can understand NeNe's frustration at the door. I think if Sheree had come out personally to welcome her, it would have been different.

Will they or will they NOT make up?I guess we will need to watch and see what happens!

Until next time!

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Kenya: "I Will Always Be a Queen"

Kenya Moore dishes on the truce with Phaedra Parks and the non apology from Porsha Williams.

CLOSURE
The reunion represents closure on all levels. I believe most women need closure. Reunions are tough because you live through filming, then through seeing it on TV, and then again during the reunion. You can feel you have moved on from something difficult and then you have to discuss it and rehash it. I felt good about this reunion, because I have grown so much. I am stronger now and nothing or anyone can destroy me.

Speaking of opening old wounds, I was respectful toward Phaedra during the conversation, but it’s clear that after our truce, she still wants to call me a whore and liken me to other “whores in the bible.” God doesn’t like ugly. Maybe sitting alone on the sofa now is confirmation.

THE NON APOLOGY
There was a part of me that was hopeful about getting an apology for being physically attacked at the last reunion, since that would mean the past was behind us. You have to own what you do wrong in life. Children are taught that you don’t hit anyone first or at all. Whether provoked or not, isolated incident or not, physically attacking someone is legally and morally incomprehensible. As such, doing the right thing should be easy. But this is the same person whose grandfather was a greatly respected civil rights activist who fought for non-violence, yet thinks the Underground Railroad was an actual train that took people to freedom.

In typical fashion, Phaedra attacks my character in a preplanned soliloquy. But in her own words, her “THOT” friend thinks that spreading your legs wide open and accepting gifts from married men is admirable. Yet, it’s basically teaching young girls that having a square card reader between your butt cheeks is how one becomes “blessed” and “successful.” That’s why I will always be a Queen, literally and figuratively, because when I am wrong, I can apologize, forgive, and move forward. I can love, though I have not always been loved, and I can be talented and successful on my own merit without needing men to finance my lifestyle, and I can be the bigger person when others try to bring me down.

SINGLE VS MARRIED
Some viewers ask why there are single women on a show about Housewives. It’s simple -- every Real Housewife franchise has single women, from Beverly Hills to OC to NY to Atlanta. With that said, there are only two Housewives on RHOA that are currently not married, Claudia and myself. In fact, approximately 43 percent of all Black women have never been married. My journey is not unlike the many Black single women who watch our show. Nearly half of Black women want to be married and find true love but are not willing to settle or can’t find the right man. NeNe and her puppet would like everyone to think it’s better to be in a horrible marriage rather than be single.

Having said that, I have never received so much love from the viewers as when I was featured on The Millionaire Matchmaker. It made me realize is that I am no different from all the single women around the world looking for real love. My journey is their journey, and ultimately they want me to fall in love with them rooting me on. It happened for Kandi, Kim, Bethenny, Tamra, etc. and it will happen for me too with all of you by my side. Therefore, having single women as Housewives is good for the show. Everyone deserves a chance to be happy. And we can inspire and give hope to those looking for love.

Rumor has it that someone said single women should be fired from RHOA. As such, we wouldn’t have witnessed the beautiful rekindling of NeNe and Gregg's love or her wedding special. Therefore, those people clearly didn't create the successful model for this show. If it's a play to get me fired... Try again. #CatchThatShade

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