Knowledge is power. (Proverbs 24:5)

What necessary phrase... super, excellent idea

Completely I share your opinion. It is good idea. I support you.

kandi you are a very i need to be in control person which is so cool and your the one housewive that not running to the bottle cool again certainly in that buz. kandi i know your mon loves you but let her know you are women enough to pick your own life partner

Kandi girl you are a real woman. Not cuz you are a girl but a lot of things people say to you that are negaitve you don't let it get under your skin. Your daughter is beautiful jus like her mom. I am a single mother of 2 boys and I understand how you where feeling about your mom an Aj. Its hard to get your mother to understand wat you want an wat makes you happy. My mom is the same way girl. I think they look at us as the little girl that they jus wanna protect an that gets on our nerves cuz we feel like they don't understand. I loved you an your music for a long time. I mean xscape came out when I was like 6 or 7 an my sister listened to the music a lot. Fly Above is an inspiring song for me and I jus wanna thank you for your talent. If there is any way for you to respond please do so cuz I would like to hear wat you have to say. Well now its time for me to go back to youtube to listen to my fav. song Fly Above.
I Love you Kandi an so does God an your fans.

Kandi
I got into the "Housewives" after a friend told me what you did for Kim, and so I watched the re-run of that particular show where Kim gets the magical setting of your studio to manifest her dream. After that I kept watching. You truly are an inspiration and your songs are empowering. I'm in LA. I would fly there to help me do the same. I've been after this dream for quite some time, and it would be the most incredible thing if i could get my song recorded. I already have the lyrics and melody! I know this is a long shot, but magic is all around you, so I thought I'd give it a faithful shot!!!
Best,
-Ellie

My, My our sweet Kandi..I am a 62 year old white woman and found myself watching the program and thought ( rise above that ladies) and then you came to the show and then wrote your song and I think so far you show that you want to rise above..God always wants us to do that. I agree that your family is like "Caroline" family really.. I love that Caroline, she put a smile on my face just looking at her...Thanks for for just being you young lady.
I am really sorry for your loss of AJ, and I really was concered about your sweet little girl.. That is a big one for you..Love the gift God has placed in you...Judy

I so know what you're talking about, Kandi. It's been just over a year since I lost my soulmate. I still feel the same way... shocked ...and well, it's just too weird. It's still not real. I don't now how it ever can be.

You're TRUE,
Stay Solid,
Lynn in KC

Hi Kandi,

you are one of a kind. I love the fact that you are not afraid to show your hard outer shell and at times show your soft side. you can be intimitating and still cry.It is so hard to balance the two but you do it so well. I love it. Out of the all the characters in the show, you are by far the most balanced person and my favorite. I am also sorry about your loss. Time will heal your heart. In the meantime, keep on "flying above all the haters".

Kandi:i m sorry for ur loss,u r a great person n i dont need to c any drama to no u r a great person!!!!dude u r great enough for me! i so love who u are!!!!i no that in real life u r like me!!!lost!!!!!!!!

im trying to find out what kind of t-shirt kandi was wearing one episode. it was a dark brown and white with some bling with what looked like hand making peace sign graphic on it. she wore with some black capris. was shown when lisa went to kandis home to chat.

U TO PRETTY TO BE CRYING

Hey Kandi:
Love you but I have to ask what is the connection with Kim? She is the biggest phony on the show. I would love for you and NeNe tobe friends because I think she is just as real as you, and she really does have a big heart. I wish you the best in pursuing the music because you are one talented woman. God bess you and your family! PS...Ki CCANNOT sing!!!

hi, kandi I just want to say that nobody knows how you feel, but you it touch me that your fiance passed away. I am a fan of yours. I pray for you and your family. you have my blessings and everything will be okay. love kiikii from indiana. you and your family are in my prayers.

Kandi, my blessings go out for you and your family... and A.J.
I know he never got much media time, but no one should go out like he did.

On another note... watch out for NeNe ! The way she treats Kim is wicked to say the least. Every public event on the program, NeNe attacks Kim (supposedly her friend).

NeNe is insanely jealous of people who take her spotlight.

km

Kandi, God's peace & love on YOU and AJ's kids...you're all in my prayers!

Kandi....let me take a moment by saying that you have been in my prayers...and that you are my favorite character on the show and a peacemaker yourself....and I can tell that you try to be drama-free but you have so many negative obstacles in your environment...but that's how some people are...hate to see somebody doing good...when your happy there's gonna alwayz... I mean alwayz be somebody in da crowd that's unhappy and want you to feel like them...huh...SCREW 'EM...And I must say that was a great thing you did for Kim...but you must know that when she get what she wants...she's gone...IF YOU NEED SOMEBODY WHO CAN SING AND WILLING TO WORK WIT' CHA...EMAIL ME....I'M A SINGER WANTED...SERIOUSLY!!!! =)

Hello Kandi, I know you cannot respond to each post individually, but when I heard the news of your ex-fiance I was devestated. I was at a hairshow in Killeen, Texas and when the commentator made the comment about your ex, my stomache dropped and my heart felt heavy for you and his family.

I know that this is a difficult time for you, I just want you too know that I am one of those fans who will pray for your family and his. Death is hard to accept especially when it is unexpected. In life we think we have time, but we really don't. We just have each passing moment that goes buy.

I know that your fiance new you loved him and he is looking down smiling and saying you will be okay, just give it time. God bless and keep you and most importantly.....keep your head up, the lord doesn't put anymore on us than we can bare! Smile

Kandi,

This is my first time ever writing a comment to any blog but I felt compelled to do so. My daughter's father was killed almost 8 yrs ago only 5 wks. after we bought our 1st home together. My daughter was 21 months old and we were just starting our life. My heart goes out to you, your daughter, his children and families. It was the most painful thing I ever experienced and the pain never goes away. Although it gets easier as time passes. I always prayed for God to give me enough strength to get through the hour, day and months that followed. Be strong and keep his name alive by sharing stories of his life.

Kandi,You are a sweet person and my heart goes out to you,riley,AJ's children,and his family stay strong sister.

Hi Kandi,

OMG! I was in shock when I read in the paper today that A.J. was killed.My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. You should have no regrets because you loved with all you had.Also not everyone would except a man with so many baby mama's.You cared and treated them like your own. Stay strong and reach to God to give you strength and support to carry on this heavy cross.Put your faith in the hands of the lord and he will guide you and strengthen you each day. Let your music be your mental medication ans insirpations.

Kandi You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kandi, I really don't know what to say right now, but I want to just offer you my sympathy. I never lost the love of my life due to death and I don't know what I will do if that were to happen. My situation is different, but is also the same as yours. I am a single mother with four children and I am with a man who accepts me for who I am as well as my children. I have two oldest daughters that aren't his and my last two which are boys are his. Even though we aren't engaged or married we are raising our kids as though we are. I know a lot of people are against children out of wedlock and baby moma/daddy drama, but we are doing it. He was there when my daughter's father wasn't. I love him with all my heart even though we have our bad days. When I watched the show I understood how your mother felt, but I also empathized with AJ, because when I first met his family I got that vibe from then. "She has an already made family and he had no kids, what are you doing with her?" Kandi, I have respect for you because you are drama free, a hardworking mother, and a fighter. You can get through this with prayer. At the same time I will be praying for you, your family and AJ's family.

My sympathy go out to Kandi, however when something is meant for you will have it. I believe Kandi should have listened to both her mother and daughter concerning her fiance. I pray for the families involved. Kandi please listen to your mother and your daughter. They love and need you. Be careful who you allow in your life. You do need Christ as all of you women do. Kim should not be with a married man. God will never give you someone else husband, never.

I hope now you will listen to sound judgement.

Kandi,I just wanted to offer my sympathy.I felt like I knew the both of you and I really feel your loss.I am praying for you,Riley,AJ's children and his family.I know you have gone through so much this yr.and now your heart has to hurt again.Let your music heal you.Aj wanted only the best for you.I really care.

Was Kanie's fiance was killed?

My prayer goes to you and your family.
Much Love

I know you're not doing okay right now, but I pray for strength in you, the children & family.

God bless.

you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kandi I just want you to know that it do not matter what anyone else thinks about you and A.J. It only matter how you feel deep down in your heart and you know you love that man so good luck to you and may god bless every thing you do Fly above girl love you cant wait for the CD to come out...

Our prayers are with you!!! May GOD keep you in these trying times. We love you Kandi!

I'm soooo sorry for ur loss u will be strong for you for ur family

Kandi, you are the real deal. I'm certain that you're going to move into films and land a role that gets you an Academy Award nomination. Not kidding......go for the WORLD and settle for nothing less. Your "pocketbook monologue" during rehearsals was spot on. You are such a "giver", and it's obvious in the great songs you've given to other recording artists, and it pours out of the tv screen, not to mention your singing. It's your time, Kandi, and I'm so happy for you. Your good heart and beauty match your talent. You're a cut above these gals on the show. All of your hard work is paying off, and I can't wait to see your huge success continue to pay off. Enjoy every moment and know how deserving you are. You have that quality that a person is born with and can't be reproduced. Thank you for sharing it with all of us!-Katie in Chicago

I'm a Kandi Girl all the way!!! So, glad they put you on.

Kandi,

You are a very talented, gifted and talented women. Keep representing.

Kandi, I want to be your friend.....no not for the recording. I can't sing worth a S....t.

I, just think you adoable!

Kandi-
You are so classy and a beautiful sister with an especially beautiful smile! I wish my teeth blinged like that! Anyway, women with a good heart like you ALWAYS win in the end. ALWAYS. Don't ever forget that and you will be fine. Keep your head UP and know that sisters out here are wishing the very best for your life and are constantly sending you positive vibes to combat all the hate! Haters never win.

kandi i just want you to know that your great you are talented independent,and special everybody dont have those skills even after being away from your group for so long you still got it and still keeping it positive and your honest at first i was like what is she doing on that show shes better then that although your not in the group anymore your still a star your actually more like my biggest fan now then you were in the group you stand out alone better.and dont worry about nene real talk i think shes jealous of you because she was making her little comment trying to act like she was playing all the time from the day you got on the show trying to test you are something thats how i took it and those women are drama dont get caught up with that they have their own click dont fall into that you have better things going on in your live and i give you props because i like how you deal with them without having to talk bad about the nrxt one even we they just be running their mouths you just listen without actually making a negetive comment for them to have to run back and say you said it even if you do say something its real and you still keep it clean. but nene please she act like she trying to be the ring leader of that drama and since she dont have nothing on you and she know you are talented and not with that drama shes hating but let the haters hate dont let her get the best of you because thats what she wants beleave me im outside looking in i don watched all the eposiodes and im just calling it like i see it, but before i go i wanna tell you iit was good to see you and t-boz together i didnt even know you guys kicked it like that and last but not lease about your boyfriend listen to everyones thoughts but follow yours

Kandi,
you are one cool lady. i watch that show to see you. i think you are the only sane, grounded one of the group.

your a real class act

darla

Kandi you truly are a classy gem! Go with your heart not with what a bunch of strangers are blogging about A.J. Thank you so much for being there for Kim, she has gotten such a raw deal from the others that it's really been hard to watch at times. Stand your ground when it comes to NeNe somebody needs to put her in her place. And yes your absolutely right about everyone of them constantly trash talking Kim as if their obsessed with the poor woman then turning around and accusing her of it. You have brought so much to the show and I'm so glad they found someone with so much talent. You have a beautiful voice and what you did with that song was absolutely brilliant! I love it! You and Kim are truly good hearted, wonderful woman!

Hello Kandi,

I,too, am a 32 yr.old, single, educated woman. I do not have any children, however. I, too, would love to be married. I know that we, viewers, only get small glimpses into each one of you lady's lives. However, what we do get is very plain or does become very plain if one analyzes a situation long enough--and trust me--it doesn't take much. Test this man--I mean, look at his characteristics. See if he truly is kind, responsible, compassionate, caring, respectful, sincere, and loving--not only towards you, but towards others. And not just when the "cameras are rolling." Look at his life in normal everyday circumstnaces. And to do that, you need TIME!! If your fiance passes those tests, then by all means, "go forth." But if he doesn't, then as hard as it may be, "stop and let it go." Know that he is not the one. If you are asking God for a mate, then know that God ALWAYS, and I mean ALWAYS shows us the answer if we truly want to see it, AND will provide the RIGHT person in due time. And guess what? It MAY NOT BE what WE WANT!!!Ask God--and be willing to accept what He shows and tells you. God bless

I know that it means the world to you tho have your mother approve of your man, but here is the real deal if you love him and if you belive in God pray about this whole thing. Please know that your mother loves you and wants the best for you, but at the end of the day your in charge of your own life. And if your not sure then you too need to pray about your man. I really feel that he needs to reach out to your mother. It would be nice if he would sit down and try to reassure her that he loves you and your daughter. And he does that and she isn't hearing it then do what makes you happy. I'm not sure if your the only child, but if so then face that fact the no man will ever be good enough for her baby. I've also found that nine times out if ten if your mother has a felling then she not wrong, but like your Aunt said that's what family is for to pick you up when things go wrong. So do what is in your heart, but give your holy father a call and let him take care of it all.

I wish you the best and God will give you the peace that you need.

Okay Kandi,
First of all I loved the show where you changed you photo shoot. My grandmother was killed by a drunk driver about two blocks from home. The guy and his brother came from a titty bar and was racing, he hit my grandmother head on. He was doing a 100mph and when he hit her car she was crushed. I was so moved and cried when you did your pictures. And lets go to your man now. Listen it is so hard to find a good man don't let him go. Hell it's damn near unheard of finding a black man, or hell any man, that doesn't have at least one or more baby momma. It just show's he is a good man for trying to be there for his kids. I have raised my step daughter since she was 4 so I know about blended families. Keep your head up and respect your momma for what she says and feels but you are the only one paying your bills and laying with your man so she will either be happy or have her pity party at her house alone.

hi kandi

i think you should listen to your mom ...about A J ...no harsh feelings towards him but the feelings that your own mother has are for a reason ...she feels that her grand duaghter * your daughter * will be unhappy having to share your love with these other three or five kids A J has ....dont make a mistake on marrying him ...look out for your daughter and you .....give your daughter the best of you not the worst of you ...sorry to have to say this ....best of luck ....do the right thing ....

Hi Kandi,

How about this, exchange places. Put Riley in your place and you, in your mother's place. And really see how you would feel if Riley came to you, and wanted you to except, an AJ...Remember Kandi AJ has had a sexual encounter with 4 other women, with whom he still need to see from one time or another, due to the children, are you ready for the time you may find out he (AJ) was kissing one of them, or another baby on the way, it could happen, they are not strangers...

You better go see a lawyer, check those Georgia laws out concerning spousal support, if any...This is where he could file against you, you would have to give money to him for him, which would be separate from child support...That's if you get married and break up...See, you are making more than him...You want to make sure YOUR daughter is taken care of financially, do this before you get married...See a lawyer about incorporating yourself, before marriage...Go see a lawyer.

Hi Kandi,

How about this, exchange places. Put Riley in your place and you, in your mother's place. And really see how you would feel if Riley came to you, and wanted you to except, an AJ...Remember Kandi AJ has had a sexual encounter with 4 other women, with whom he still need to see from one time or another, due to the children, are you ready for the time you may find out he (AJ) was kissing one of them, or another baby on the way, it could happen, they are not strangers to him...

You better go see a lawyer, check those Georgia laws out concerning spousal support, if any...This is where he could file against you, you would have to give money to him for him, which would be separate from child support...That's if you get married and break up...See, you are making more than him...You want to make sure YOUR daughter is taken care of financially, do this before you get married...See a lawyer about incorporating yourself, before marriage...Go see a lawyer.

ROTFLOL@"I need to go in the backyard and dig up some dog sh*t for siding with that relationship!"

LMAO!! I cannot stop giggling, that is sooooo funny, I love the Golden Girls, I am young but I just can't get enough of that show and I would probably love your family too if they are anything like them.

Keep ya head up Kandi, your a good woman trying to create a good family life for you and Riley and sometimes you just gotta go with it even if it doesn't seem right to everyone else.

I agree with your mom but *shrugs* life happens and you can't stop living b/c someone doesn't like your decisions.

Hey Kandi,
I watch the show every week and I just want to say that you if you truly love A.J. and it works for you then go for it. You mom will come around. You mom need to realize that you are a grown woman and even though she can give you advice on things. She also need to realize that you have to make your own mistakes that is how people learn by making mistakes. On another note I just want to say keep doing you and I do think the others are hating on you because you don't need a made to have the things that you have. You are very talented and they probably wish they were you.

As for NeNe I think she is just playing both sides and talks about everybody including her suppose to be best friend Kim.

Kandi,

I want to start off by letting you know that you are my fav on the show! I know it's the real housewives; but, you don't really fit into that category; nevertheless I still truly enjoy watching you! I said that because all of the other women are truly housewives, women who are successful because their husbands are successful; and you made it on you own, so kudos!!!
I feel that you should always follow your heart; but, there are times/situations that you must use your head! I know you and AJ had only been dating for 7 or 8 months when the show aired; but, from what I have seen you are more into him, than he is into you! He was on the phone (texting) the entire time you all were at the exhibit! He just seems to be there! He might have a quiet, reserved, introverted personality; but you can always tell when some one is truly into some one!!!
Anyhow, do your thing! I know you are a smart woman, so you will make the right decision! Make sure you sign a prenuptial! Good Luck!!!

Kandi,

~I'm a straight shooter and I always follow the facts. The truth can stand on it's own. It needs no help from others, and still, it is often the hardest thing to believe.
Having said that. Your mother and daughter have a valid point. Don't you think they both want you to be happy as much as you do? Secondly, that is a lot to take on Boo! I don't doubt that you love him, that is evident. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. If you marry him, you will regret it and end up one of those angry bitter women that you are trying so hard to not be all because you didn't listen to your mother like your heart has to be telling you to. It amazes me that someone so established and accomplished can still not get the obvious things in life. He may be what you want, but he is not at all what you NEED! You look like a steak and lobster dinner to a man who is used to cold balogna sandwiches. I feel sorry for you.