Well, well, well... tonight the 2nd episode aired and I watched it with my mother. Before I start talking about my scenes I guess I'll discuss everybody else's scenes first.
Now let me say this: I LOVE Lisa, but seeing her and Ed getting in the bath tub together was a bit much for me...LOL. I don't know why, but the whole romantic scene didn't feel right to me. Maybe because the whole time I'm thinking about how the camera crew is in the room. Were they naked for real in the tub??? Or did they have on swimwear??? I will have to ask Lisa about that the next time we talk.
OK, I also wanna say that I LOVE Nene's husband Gregg. Nene, not so much (LOL), but Gregg is great! I love the way he is always so diplomatic and a peacemaker. The way he breaks things down just really make you say, "Yeah, he's right." Did anyone else laugh when Nene was talking about apologizing for something and he said, "What does that sound like?" and she said "What?" and he said "you apologizing." That was funny to me.
So that brings me to the dinner with Kim and Nene. They looked like they have fun together. I wonder how many drinks they had when Nene decided to do the boobie squeeze. That looked crazy as hell. LOL...I wonder what sparked that. And did she light weight throw Sheree under the bus with the nose job line??? I'm not trying to be messy but when she said it, I was automatically thinking, "Is that true?" and if it is true, is she OK with the world knowing? Not that it's a big deal, because it isn't. But we all know stuff like that is a sensitive subject for some people.
Kandi, I like yourself fell in love with a man who has six kids and three ex-wives. We will be celebrating our 10th anniversary October 1st and I have the most amazing husband, BUT your mother is right. There has been many trials, tribulations and suffering along the way. Although not as successful as yourself, I am a very strong and independent woman and the experience has humbled me, aged me and caused much suffering. On the flip side I have a love most would kill for. You love this man for all the right reasons. The only thing that has gotten me through it is my faith. At the end of the day everything is good and my family has grown to love and appreciate my husband because he is so good to us.
Hello Kandi- Well I know the show has been taped months ago and hope your relstionship in still intact. It's great to see your love for AJ but there is room for great concern and your mom has only your best intrest at heart. I wish you all the best. P.S Thanks for sharing that you kept yourself modest and humble no matter how much fame you got.
I think you have helped a lot of women in situations like yours and I applaud you for that. I am from Atlanta (went to TCHS) and I could understand everything you were saying but, I did not like the fact that there were captions when you were speaking with A.J. I called a few friends from other states who noticed the captions and they could understand you perfectly as well. I know you can't do anything about the Editing part but, that really got to me. You are THE Original GA Peach and I love our accents down here in the South. We love ya-Stay Peachy~
You are my favorite. You were my favorite in xscape i tried to get your hair do once when i was younger, you know you wore iy down with that deep part in the middle. It was a disaster for me but you wore it well. I am an alto and i all ways admired your voice.
A guy with six kids sounds different but it;s your choice and no one else and only you will know how you could handle it. If you can handle it then you handle it. Choose it for yourself don't let them make your decision for you and then always wonder if they were right.
And yes i laughed so hard when Greg asked NeNe what that sound like as far as her apology. He his my favorite "housewives" husband of all times. Now i also thought NeNe probably would regret saying that about Sheree's nose even if it is true.
Okay Candie you take care girl
Hello Kandi I am a Doctor in the atlanata area,I think your one of the sexiest women i ever seen in my life u have mad sex appeal and buisness about yourself if you and aj every break up holla at me
Kandi you handled that situation with your mom great, but you must know that she is just looking out for you. When it all comes down to it she has your back just like the rest of your family members that were there. Let the haters hate, you keep on doning what makes YOU happy, at least you know your record sales will go through the roof cause with all their negative talk they will still go out and buy the CD, hahaha all the way to the bank.
Oh i forgot to mention your aunt reminds me of my family. Aunt Bertha was so funny! When she was talking and said excuse me everbody when i say this and flat out laid it on the line.
She rolled her neck and said her peace and she was like and "thats it".
your mom and family seem like beautiful people. I hope it all works out Candi you deserve it just as much as anyone else.
Again take care of yourself and your beautiful daughter/family
I really like you Kandi, you are quickly becoming my fav housewife. I really felt you when you told your mother-I don't know how to please you and still be happy in your relationship. I swear I've cried those same tears. This situation will work itself out be true to you and your mother will recognize your happiness and be fine with AJ because she love you. God Bless you all.
I really enjoyed watching the scene with your family--it reminded me of my own. You are so lucky to have so many people in your life who care for you.
I don't know how well your mom knows your fiance AJ, but I think you should give some serious thought to your momma--mothers always know best and she's just looking out for you. AJ may be a great guy who is taking care of his children, but to have 6 children with what? 3 or 4 different women is not the height of responsibility. Do you want your 2nd child to be his 7th? He just brings too much baggage to the relationship. That being said, I wish you much happiness and hope everything works out between you and AJ.
Kandi u need your own show. just the drama u and yours have is enough w/n it self. Really u should think about asking bravo.
You have already become my favorite Atlanta housewife. You are so level headed. Every relationship is different and it's all about what's right for you. And at least in the scenes they've shown thus far, your fiance seems like a wonderful family person. If things didn't work out in the past he should not be judged for it continuously, it seems like he's owning up to his responsibilities while trying to grow his life and be a father to both your daughter and his kids.
Good luck and I wish you the best.
Kandi, You're the best. I wish they had more Atlanta housewives like you instead of the others. Its getting old - Not all women act like the other housewives. Its all about love and family
If you love AJ and he loves you, treats you and yours with respect, kindness and caring go for it. It is not easy to find someone that is there for YOU. Families have their own agenda...
I feel that Sheree said some stuff and Kim said some stuff about NeNe. It seems that they will never get to the bottom of it so they need to just let it go and move forward. That romantic scene with Lisa snd her husband did seem a little much but hey I love them both. Kandi I just feel that you have to do you. Whoever don't like it including your mom just have to step back and let you live and learn, I hope evrything works out for you. That new CD of yours is gonna be HOT.
after reading your blog i think you are really a sweet girl with alot of compassion...as for your relationship its you life you need to do whats best for you no one else can make that decision, also good chance it will be all good..even if he had no kids it might not work i wish you the best!
kandi stay with your man dont let know body change your happiness if you feel hes where you need to be STAY. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP THINGS WILL GET BETTER AND YOU MOTHER WILL EVENTULLY BE BY YOUR SIDE AS FAR AS YOUR RELATIONSHIP GO
DO YOU Kandi! Six kids and four baby mamas is A LOT, but hell if you love him go for it. He seems sweet and has a beautiful smile. I am also assuming that with six kids he has a great "up and down" - ENJOY! ;-)
Welcome Kandi! I have been a fan of yours from back in the day girl! And I just want to say I like your mature attitude, you seem to not jump on hater bandwagons and you call it as you see it. much respect to you for that. Girl dont even trip about people hating on your man. I use to worry about what people thought about me and my life, but I finally said "oh hell now, I am going to do me nobody else is paying my bills, feeding my child, so why the freak should I give a damn about what you think" that is my life motto. also when you start to feel down or fed up with the haters listen to a song called " MY GIVE A DAMNS BUSTED" Im not sure who sings it, but google it LOL. god bless you and your man. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. XO
Kandi, You are the new darling of the group. You appear to be level headed, humble and so down to earth and at the same as per the coming attractions, you are well prepared to give as good as you get. Love ya.
Hey Bravo, what does it take to get posted around here.
Kandi, as a divorced mother of two boys i will say this. looking back, i remember my mother putting her two cents in about my past relationships and me thinking that she was being judgemental , or that she just didn't understand. there is a lot to be said about the wisdom of our mothers. we don't heed the warnings until after the fact. your mother has been there and back, trust and believe that. nothing that our mothers tell us is out deceit or malice, it is purely out of love and knowledge. blended families are rough and it will definitely be an adjustment for your daughter (who is absolutely phenomenal from the little bit that i have seen of her). children also carry a wisdom and a sense of caution that we don't give enough them enough credit for. regardless of your decision, don't just marry because you want Riley to have family, hell, from what ive seen in your mother's kitchen...she has an ABUNDANCE of love and a great family already! and let's keep it real I KNOW there are a million children in your family already because your family mirrors mine! LOL i understood when you said that having a father-figure in Riley's life would be good for her, and we always want the best for our children. perhaps before rushing to transform your engagement into something permananent, you should just take a little more time to see how things go. which ever direction you choose, i send my blessings your way. from one single mother to another...much love mama!!!
I enjoyed your blog very much. It feels very personal and I like the fact that you don't feel the need to save face, or present a united front by pretending to agree with everything the other women do or say. Your opinions felt refreshingly honest without being tacky. Looking forward to your next "book!"
First off Kandi I Think that you are A very smart and beautiful young lady. Mothers can be very hard on there girls especially because they have this "I've been there and Done that" mentality. She may feel that because He have all these children that hes just like the rest or that hes not a good man. She may also feel that your fiance has alot on his plate with the different baby mothers and all that and she dont want that drama to put stress on you. Cause believe me the drama will come. The only thing You have to think about is if You and your Fiance relationship is worth holding on to. If it is Yall will conquer every obstacle and your love for each other and your family will come out stronger. but if it isnt then it can defiently BRAKE you. It can damage your spirit and everything else.Just have faith, give it your all and if it dont work out at least you can walk away from the relationship saying that You gave it all you had and if that wasnt enough then it just wasnt meant to be. Stay Blesses Kandi and keep God first.
Kandi , I just love you, you seem so real, and so talented. You're quickly becoming my favorite. Your family was hysterical, so funny. Aunt Birtha should get her own show...I'am sorry to get in your buisness, Aj seems like a good man, but please get a prenup, just in case. Love you kandi, I wish you all the best.
I shed a tear with you last night, because I dealt with the same exact thing with my mom, when I was about to marry the wonderful man I married two years ago. Although he doesn't have any children, we married the same year we met and in my mom's eyes it was too soon. No matter what, we want our mother's to be proud of the decisions we make. The only unsolicited advise I can give you is to pray about it, and follow the holy spirit and it will lead you. God gives us common sense and allows us to see things for what they really are...it's up to us to pay attention.
If you don't have a relationship with Christ, you really ought to consider one, because that's the foundation that will support your marriage.
I wish you much peace and blessings.
p.s. Oh yeah, AJ has good taste, that ring is hawt!
Kandi..Please think long and hard about marrying a man with six kids and baby mamas..this is not natural and it could cause you so much unecessary stress in the future..stress you can't imagine...Think about this, if the shoes were on the other foot..I can almost guarantee it..that he would not marry you with all that..if he had what you have..he would likely marry a woman of another race trust me...and please get a Prenup..and talk to a lawyer to see if you could be responsible for his debt i.e child support..when you get married. Please stay strong..
Hey Kandi, you know at first I was singing that same song as far as "why she want to be with a man that has 6 kids by 4 different mommas" but what's missing here is how old was he when he first started the baby boom system and do he have proof they are all his??? If he makes you happy than ride it out. By the way, I was feeling that song in the studio!
hey, kandi. i never post on these things but i wanted to say that i respect you as a woman. everyone always has their two cents to put into other ppl lives because it makes them feel important. It is your life. At the end of the day whether you are making the right or wrong decision, you are the one making it, not any of us. I really enjoy watching you on the show. i feel you are a no nonsense kinda woman. Don't take it wrong but you remind me of Nene. You both tell it like it is, albeit that you may be a little more refined in doing it. I can see why you guys would not be the best of friends. Your personalities would seem to clash. But i do look forward to seeing more and more of you on the show.
NeNe..Love you girl..please continue to keep it real and don't change..like your hair long or short..it's more of what's inside that comes out that I enjoy..thanks for being yourself..
first i must say the haircut is banging.
second, speak the truth. many men dont take care of one child, but he has six and looks out for all of them. that sounds like a definite positive in my book. if he loves u, and loves your daughter, i say go for it. life is about taking chances and if u decide not to take a chance just because u are afraid of the outcome, you may miss a blessing that God has in store for u.
keep yo head up; moms will come around b/c she loves you. might not agree w/ everything you do, but she definitely loves u.
Kandi you are one of my favorites on the show. I cant stand Sheree, Lisa or Nene to be honest with you. I think they're still on some high school sh**!!! I mean they're all grown women and still act like teenagers...this girl said that, that girl said that!! Its pathetic! I like that you have your own opinions and don't follow the crowds :).
Kandi, if you love him and you think your love is strong enough to survive 4 baby momma's and 6 kids and your own child won't get hurt in it all...THEN WHO CARES! However...it's amazing how much your daughter looks like Tyler Perry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kandi, if you feel that you love this man and his kids, then, so be it. No one knows the content of your relationship. Stay true to yourself and all will be good. I, too, am with a man with many kids from different women and it's working for me.
Hi Kandi, Girl I love your family your mom and her sister are beautiful your uncle cute too. Hey it clear you grew up with a love in your family. Your mother a wise woman keep her thoughts in mimd. But also this is your life and you got to evolve so make your own choices. Your babygirl is beautiful so she wants them as friends I think that's wise too. So be careful take your time about marrying this man. I love that song you were singing too good.
kandi- you seem to be a very caring and giving person. all i can say is that mothers carry boat loads of wisdom. you just cant see it right now because you are in it. children also carry wisdom as one of the other commenters has stated. just think long and hard about what you are entering into. he has 4 baby mommas and there will be more drama then you can imagine. this man has 6 kids! is he even paying support for all of them? what can he offer you outside of love and support? HE stands to gain so much by marrying you. your mom seems to be very sincere and wants nothing but the best for you.
Love the hair, love that your happy with AJ, sometimes parents don't understand and its cool she just want the best for you and even though your grown your still her little baby...lol! It's nice to see you happy can't wait to see how the story unfolds for you and that song with Jazzy Phae u was scattin is gone be a head banger girl......Rock on!
I was so feeling that song you were singing! It's going to be a hit. As for your relationship with AJ, If you feeling it's right in your heart then don't be discouraged just talk to GOD and be encouraged. Also listen to Riley and your mom and try to UNDERSTAND where they are coming from as well. You look great and you doing great. Stay blessed!
I WOULDN'T... KANDI IF AJ IS SOMEONE YOU LIKE/ LOVE AND FEEL A CONNECTION WITH Y0U'LL LEARN TO LOVE HIS KIDS AS WELL. I THINK YOU STATED YOU DO....KIDS ARE NOT A BAD THING....BE HONEST WITH YOUR FEELINGS FROM THE BEGINNING...BUT BE SINCERE..GOOD LUCK AND HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT FOR YOU GUYS.. TELL YOUR MOM THANKS FOR LOOKING OUT, BUT YOU HAVE THIS ONE AND IF YOU NEED A SHOULDER TO LAY ON LATER JUST BE ASK HER TO BE THERE.. GO WITH YOUR HEART...
Hey Kandi gurl i wish the best to u n ur family..personally i think that u r rite about A.J. he seems lik a pretty decent guy..n ur daughter is really funni i lik her lol..im glad that u did make the choice to do the show because i think itz better with u on there anyway!n i knoe wat u mean by a dad u loves u rather than a dad who disowns u..my mom is a single mother..although my dad isnt around i do have a close relationship with him unlik my sisters dad(we have diff. dads)anyway can't wait til the new album! im surly gonna get that..God Bless!!
I have so much to say but I am going to keep it short. Girl, listen to your mama. Have you ever dealt with baby mama drama? Well if you marry this "what i think is a freeloader and an opportunist" then I wish every blessing and pray for peace of mind, because they are plotting and will be bringing some drama. I really wish happiness for you and I hope he genuinely loves you and Riley and can support you more than you support him and his six kids. You have a great supportive family of aunts and uncles. If this is what your going to do, good luck.
I really love that you joined the show, I hope you stay around for awhile. Its good to see someone representing on the show that's down to earth and keeps it all the way real. As far as your man and family is concerned, I can relate to having very close ties with my family and them not agreeing with my choice of mate but its your life and you only get one. Enjoy your life! Your family should trust and believe that you are going to do what you feel is right for you and Riley. Love you on the show, can't wait to see what happens next week!
Kandi honey, I am a fan of the show and love the flavor you bring to it. I loved you since bak in the day day :) anywho, I surely hope this is one blog read....as a single mother of four children (2 girls, 2 boys) all by different men I have been discriminated against by mothers of men I have dated after the relationships had gone soar with my childrens father and unfortunately it easier for people to pre-judge a person and attempt to define them by situation or circumstance. Because I have four children by different men doesn't mean that those relationships were anything less than lovely during the time it ran its course. Because I have four children by different men doesn't mean that I am unworthy of love and happiness in future relationships. AJ has six children by four different women so what. All that matters is how he treats his children, how he treats you and your daugher and how all of you (him, his children, you and your daughter) interact as a family. Although we value the opinions of our family and wish they'd except our mates the real value comes from your opinion and the exceptance of your mate by you. Your mother has lived her life and loved whom she saw fit for her life what makes you think you should not be able to do the same. At the end of the day the only opinion that should matter are the opinion of those in the household that lives within the four walls of your door when you close it at night. Stop making how many children and mothers AJ has an issue. There is some woman out there that won't care about what the viewers or her family thinks and it openly accept him and all that comes along with him. Don't let people's opinion punk you out of a relationship and rob you of your happiness. It is your life and no one else has to live it! Unconditional everlasting love means a love throughout a lifetime with no stipulations and/or strings attatched. What God has for you is for you and whatever God wishes to teach us, HE WILL teach us. Seek the Lord for all understanding and be encouraged waiting on HIS word. The plan that GOD has for our life may have a road in it we must go down that no one else agrees with nor understands however in order to get to where God wants us to be we must follow HIS plan. The essence of who we are is not measured by how many times we may fall in life yet how graceful we get back up and start again. We serve a God of second chances; who are we to not give to another as God gives to us? I am so thankful that God decides my fate, not man! Live your life loving unconditionally just as God loves us. Because she is your mother and she loves you soooo she'll come around. My mother had 6 children (all by different men) before she married my father and he had (four children) then together they had me and they were married for 45 years until his death in 2004. It happens! It works! Noting in life is easy nor it will ever be. I will pray that you are at peace with all your decisions and that verbal destruction doesn't tear apart your relationship. I love you all the way from Columbus, Ohio. Pray. Your life depends on it :)
Kandi, You are a beautiful person (inside & out). You know what's best for you. It's so hard to find a man that makes you happy and you've found that HappYness (happiness) not only for you but for your beautiful daughter. I see the love you have for your mother (and I couldn't miss the LOVE she has for you) but sometimes you have live your life. God will carry you no matter how things turn out.
Stay Blessed :)