Kandi Burruss

Kandi talks about Kim, NeNe, and Sheree's confrontation, and her relationship with her mom.

on Aug 7, 20090

Well, well, well... tonight the 2nd episode aired and I watched it with my mother. Before I start talking about my scenes I guess I'll discuss everybody else's scenes first.

Now let me say this: I LOVE Lisa, but seeing her and Ed getting in the bath tub together was a bit much for me...LOL. I don't know why, but the whole romantic scene didn't feel right to me. Maybe because the whole time I'm thinking about how the camera crew is in the room. Were they naked for real in the tub??? Or did they have on swimwear??? I will have to ask Lisa about that the next time we talk.

OK, I also wanna say that I LOVE Nene's husband Gregg. Nene, not so much (LOL), but Gregg is great! I love the way he is always so diplomatic and a peacemaker. The way he breaks things down just really make you say, "Yeah, he's right." Did anyone else laugh when Nene was talking about apologizing for something and he said, "What does that sound like?" and she said "What?" and he said "you apologizing." That was funny to me.

So that brings me to the dinner with Kim and Nene. They looked like they have fun together. I wonder how many drinks they had when Nene decided to do the boobie squeeze. That looked crazy as hell. LOL...I wonder what sparked that. And did she light weight throw Sheree under the bus with the nose job line??? I'm not trying to be messy but when she said it, I was automatically thinking, "Is that true?" and if it is true, is she OK with the world knowing? Not that it's a big deal, because it isn't. But we all know stuff like that is a sensitive subject for some people.

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Knowledge is power. (Proverbs 24:5)

darla
darla

Kandi, you are one cool lady. i watch that show to see you. i think you are the only sane, grounded one of the group.

your a real class act

darla

Robin
Robin

Kandi you truly are a classy gem! Go with your heart not with what a bunch of strangers are blogging about A.J. Thank you so much for being there for Kim, she has gotten such a raw deal from the others that it's really been hard to watch at times. Stand your ground when it comes to NeNe somebody needs to put her in her place. And yes your absolutely right about everyone of them constantly trash talking Kim as if their obsessed with the poor woman then turning around and accusing her of it. You have brought so much to the show and I'm so glad they found someone with so much talent. You have a beautiful voice and what you did with that song was absolutely brilliant! I love it! You and Kim are truly good hearted, wonderful woman!

Viewer
Viewer

Hello Kandi,

I,too, am a 32 yr.old, single, educated woman. I do not have any children, however. I, too, would love to be married. I know that we, viewers, only get small glimpses into each one of you lady's lives. However, what we do get is very plain or does become very plain if one analyzes a situation long enough--and trust me--it doesn't take much. Test this man--I mean, look at his characteristics. See if he truly is kind, responsible, compassionate, caring, respectful, sincere, and loving--not only towards you, but towards others. And not just when the "cameras are rolling." Look at his life in normal everyday circumstnaces. And to do that, you need TIME!! If your fiance passes those tests, then by all means, "go forth." But if he doesn't, then as hard as it may be, "stop and let it go." Know that he is not the one. If you are asking God for a mate, then know that God ALWAYS, and I mean ALWAYS shows us the answer if we truly want to see it, AND will provide the RIGHT person in due time. And guess what? It MAY NOT BE what WE WANT!!!Ask God--and be willing to accept what He shows and tells you. God bless

Debbie
Debbie

I know that it means the world to you tho have your mother approve of your man, but here is the real deal if you love him and if you belive in God pray about this whole thing. Please know that your mother loves you and wants the best for you, but at the end of the day your in charge of your own life. And if your not sure then you too need to pray about your man. I really feel that he needs to reach out to your mother. It would be nice if he would sit down and try to reassure her that he loves you and your daughter. And he does that and she isn't hearing it then do what makes you happy. I'm not sure if your the only child, but if so then face that fact the no man will ever be good enough for her baby. I've also found that nine times out if ten if your mother has a felling then she not wrong, but like your Aunt said that's what family is for to pick you up when things go wrong. So do what is in your heart, but give your holy father a call and let him take care of it all.

I wish you the best and God will give you the peace that you need.

La Tricia Mc Cloud
La Tricia Mc Cloud

Okay Kandi, First of all I loved the show where you changed you photo shoot. My grandmother was killed by a drunk driver about two blocks from home. The guy and his brother came from a titty bar and was racing, he hit my grandmother head on. He was doing a 100mph and when he hit her car she was crushed. I was so moved and cried when you did your pictures. And lets go to your man now. Listen it is so hard to find a good man don't let him go. Hell it's damn near unheard of finding a black man, or hell any man, that doesn't have at least one or more baby momma. It just show's he is a good man for trying to be there for his kids. I have raised my step daughter since she was 4 so I know about blended families. Keep your head up and respect your momma for what she says and feels but you are the only one paying your bills and laying with your man so she will either be happy or have her pity party at her house alone.

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Viewer

hi kandi

i think you should listen to your mom ...about A J ...no harsh feelings towards him but the feelings that your own mother has are for a reason ...she feels that her grand duaghter * your daughter * will be unhappy having to share your love with these other three or five kids A J has ....dont make a mistake on marrying him ...look out for your daughter and you .....give your daughter the best of you not the worst of you ...sorry to have to say this ....best of luck ....do the right thing ....

Chessnut
Chessnut

Hi Kandi, How about this, exchange places. Put Riley in your place and you, in your mother's place. And really see how you would feel if Riley came to you, and wanted you to except, an AJ...Remember Kandi AJ has had a sexual encounter with 4 other women, with whom he still need to see from one time or another, due to the children, are you ready for the time you may find out he (AJ) was kissing one of them, or another baby on the way, it could happen, they are not strangers... You better go see a lawyer, check those Georgia laws out concerning spousal support, if any...This is where he could file against you, you would have to give money to him for him, which would be separate from child support...That's if you get married and break up...See, you are making more than him...You want to make sure YOUR daughter is taken care of financially, do this before you get married...See a lawyer about incorporating yourself, before marriage...Go see a lawyer.

Chessnut
Chessnut

Hi Kandi, How about this, exchange places. Put Riley in your place and you, in your mother's place. And really see how you would feel if Riley came to you, and wanted you to except, an AJ...Remember Kandi AJ has had a sexual encounter with 4 other women, with whom he still need to see from one time or another, due to the children, are you ready for the time you may find out he (AJ) was kissing one of them, or another baby on the way, it could happen, they are not strangers to him... You better go see a lawyer, check those Georgia laws out concerning spousal support, if any...This is where he could file against you, you would have to give money to him for him, which would be separate from child support...That's if you get married and break up...See, you are making more than him...You want to make sure YOUR daughter is taken care of financially, do this before you get married...See a lawyer about incorporating yourself, before marriage...Go see a lawyer.

Tiki
Tiki

ROTFLOL@"I need to go in the backyard and dig up some dog sh*t for siding with that relationship!"

LMAO!! I cannot stop giggling, that is sooooo funny, I love the Golden Girls, I am young but I just can't get enough of that show and I would probably love your family too if they are anything like them.

Keep ya head up Kandi, your a good woman trying to create a good family life for you and Riley and sometimes you just gotta go with it even if it doesn't seem right to everyone else.

I agree with your mom but *shrugs* life happens and you can't stop living b/c someone doesn't like your decisions.

Miss Tee
Miss Tee

Hey Kandi, I watch the show every week and I just want to say that you if you truly love A.J. and it works for you then go for it. You mom will come around. You mom need to realize that you are a grown woman and even though she can give you advice on things. She also need to realize that you have to make your own mistakes that is how people learn by making mistakes. On another note I just want to say keep doing you and I do think the others are hating on you because you don't need a made to have the things that you have. You are very talented and they probably wish they were you.

As for NeNe I think she is just playing both sides and talks about everybody including her suppose to be best friend Kim.

Honest
Honest

Kandi,

I want to start off by letting you know that you are my fav on the show! I know it's the real housewives; but, you don't really fit into that category; nevertheless I still truly enjoy watching you! I said that because all of the other women are truly housewives, women who are successful because their husbands are successful; and you made it on you own, so kudos!!! I feel that you should always follow your heart; but, there are times/situations that you must use your head! I know you and AJ had only been dating for 7 or 8 months when the show aired; but, from what I have seen you are more into him, than he is into you! He was on the phone (texting) the entire time you all were at the exhibit! He just seems to be there! He might have a quiet, reserved, introverted personality; but you can always tell when some one is truly into some one!!! Anyhow, do your thing! I know you are a smart woman, so you will make the right decision! Make sure you sign a prenuptial! Good Luck!!!

Arjai
Arjai

Kandi,

~I'm a straight shooter and I always follow the facts. The truth can stand on it's own. It needs no help from others, and still, it is often the hardest thing to believe. Having said that. Your mother and daughter have a valid point. Don't you think they both want you to be happy as much as you do? Secondly, that is a lot to take on Boo! I don't doubt that you love him, that is evident. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. If you marry him, you will regret it and end up one of those angry bitter women that you are trying so hard to not be all because you didn't listen to your mother like your heart has to be telling you to. It amazes me that someone so established and accomplished can still not get the obvious things in life. He may be what you want, but he is not at all what you NEED! You look like a steak and lobster dinner to a man who is used to cold balogna sandwiches. I feel sorry for you.

QTESSA
QTESSA

Kandi i just wanted to say that i'm sorry for what you r going throw with you mom i no just how you feel i have the same issue with my mother not liking my kid father and him have 8kid with 3 baby mamas we not married but been togther for 15year "i dont want to marry" mothers just have to face the fact that as there child we learn from our mistake and if its not right we no next time me and you have to live our lifes for use and ourer kids and to do what make us happy dont let your mother make you miss out on a good thing i heard man dont become man until they hit there 30th any so let the pass be the pass and get ready for you furture GOOD LUCK HAPPY DAYS WILL COME!

Natacha G
Natacha G

Hey Kandi girl, I dont know why people act like they have known you and AJ for years they nneed to stop, this man had a life before he meet you and these kids and obviously he is taking care of them cause if he wasn't you would have tons of drama around you. I am a single mother and have alot of friends who are single mothers know grant it I don't have any drama nordo I bring any But my HOMEGIRLS on theother hand have plenty...lol. so I know for a fact with as many children as he has and mothers of those children if it was like that for real. not only are you smart enough to get outof the relationship but i truly belive he would not have gotten the time of dasy at all. so kudos to you boo for being happy .people are jealous and want you miserable just like them. don't feed into. just like your PR person said stay off the blogs. well you can read them just dont feed int them.

On another note I hope we get to see more of you in the studio I mean it is the HOUSEWIVES of atlanta not the soon to be husbands,,,,,lol. I can't wait for your cd I know it will be hot. atlanta artist always keep the r&b groove going.

Viewer
Viewer

Kandi dear: Mothers are left on this earth for a reason. Some have wisdom, some don't. I have four daughters. From what I have observed, it seems more you wanting to get married than AJ. I think he sees you as his good ticket to help him with his six kids. Have you met these baby mamas? What's so different about you? Trust me, when you say I do, baby mama's will. Lawyers are waiting. The "two shall become one" (assets included). You are in your 30's, quite successful, have a beautiful voice, and can make money for the long term. What does he bring to the table? you can get a man when you can't get nothing to eat, but getting a good man is the trick. Mama isn't being hard, she's being real. I won't pretend or be phony for any of my cdn, or any one else. You should appreciate that. She's not trying to control you, and she's not going to let you control her. The right man will bring the righ response from her. She's just backing off and letting you make or break your own heart. I truly believe she willhave to pick up the pieces. Have you ever met the other four women you're marrying? (the baby mama's) You should 'cause the babies are going to always need something, and it will have to be the best. I pray you give it some time, it not, go on with your "papa rolling stone".

Selina
Selina

Okay, here is the low down on marriage. Have you ever thought of having Biblical pre-marital counseling? With all the baby momma drama, I think you guys need to go to counseling. What is he bringing to the table besides a lot of kids and if he doesn't make the child support payments you know they will be coming after you for it. I don't get the feeling your daughter really is ready to accept this situation yet. It's okay to be engaged for a year at least because pre-marital counseling should be for at least 6 months. Well that's my point. Take it easy and keep God first in your life and everything else will fall into place.

Erica Robinson
Erica Robinson

Hello Kandi, out of all the messages you read I hope that you really read this one. I just want to elaborate on you and your fiance. First off, I respect you mom and her wishes but you are an adult and would have to make your own decisions. Kandi, Riley loves your fiance and eventually will connect with his children becoming her step brothers and sisters. I thought about you this morning because I have been watching this movie that really makes a lot of sense, in regards to parents trying to run our lives and all though we are grown and successful, for some reason they don't want to let go. But I want to recommend that you watch this movie carefully because it would help you out a lot in regards to the struggles you are having with your mom and fiance. You know the movie with Sanaa Latham (Something New) I think you would love it and you should follow your heart. Don't give up on your fiance and trust me you mom will come around and learn to love him just as much as you. May God Bless you and keep you safe. Ms. E. Robinson

Chessnut
Chessnut

Hey Kandi, here's my two cents about your situation...Go see a lawyer, ask them about spousal laws in Atlanta, no, not for you, him. If you get married & break up, he could file for spousal support from you, and while you are in the office you may want to get info on a pre-nupt...Just CYA, has nothing to do with love...Who's taken care of the six kids now, and after the marriage who will take care of them, in other words how much free time will you have....Here's something to try, for about two weeks or more, pretend you are married, & have all the kids around as if you were married, now this may or may not give a true picture, because we don't know how AJ will change after the marriage. Of course the kids may not be around any more than what they are now. Oh, and lets see how your daughter handles it, very big change at her age. there you go, my two cents. If anything, go see a lawyer, hopefully you've done so already.

Viewer from NYC
Viewer from NYC

Kandi I think you have a beautiful voice.. Can't wait to hear your new music.. I hope that you give Kim a positive try she is a great person from what I have seen during last season and now!!! Not everyone if perfect but Kim is a great women to have as a friend.. I feel a women is going to do what she wants to do no one can stop her when she puts her mind to something!! But I am 32yrs old also and I have 1 daugher 8yrs old.. I am the only baby mommy for her dad. Not trying to be self rightous but, for the past 32yrs my MOM has always been right!!! I would have cause myself a hell of a lot of pain many many times if I would have took her word and ran fast with it.. MOMMY KNOWS BEST!!! You are a beautiful talented black women living in Atlanta, DOin the DAM thing BY YOURSELF.... YOU IN HOT-LANTA GO FOR THE BEST

Lisa M
Lisa M

Kandi I totally agree with you about the nose job comment...I was thinking "I thought NeNe and Sheree were cool!" And again I don't know why they are coming down on Kim so much when they all talk about each other. And Lisa tries to act like she is Miss Goody Two Shoes but she is steady talking about people too. I just think this shows how we as women try to bring each other down instead of lift them up.

www.alinotalli.wordpress.com
www.alinotalli.wordpress.com

Kandi: YOU ARE IN LOVE!!! Screw what everyone thinks. They will still love you. They will still get over it. Prove them wrong!! YOU are my favorite "new house wife!" Ali

Viewer
Viewer

DOOOOOOOOOON'T DOOOOOOO iiiiiiiiit!!! It's Just too soon, to get married if it's the real deal, then there is no need to rush it, because it will be there.

Nel
Nel

Kandi, Your mom is controling your life. You want her to have a relationship with AJ that she is not capable of having. Your mom is putting you into a situation where you are going to have to choose. You need to express your feelings to her and stand your ground. For example, the photo shoot was important to you. She knew that and deliberately walked out knowing you would come after her. If you do not express your feelings, you will be the one to suffer because it will eat at you. You clearly love AJ and your mom. Get married. Invite her to events. If she chooses to not participate, that is her choice. Why chase after her? You know the drill. You will never get married if you are waiting for her to have a relationship with AJ. You have a right to be happy. If she chooses not to be a part of that, it will be her loss. Stand up for yourself! You are talented and have a right to be happy! Do the unexpected. You can love her and AJ!

Dimples30
Dimples30

I'm sorry Kandi, but I agree with your mother. "Run forrest run." I too fell in love with a man who had multiple baby mommas. (and not 1 committed marriage out of all of them). I loved him because he treated me like a queen. And because of that treatement and the love for my son, I had more baby mamma drama than you could ever dream of. It became to much of a strain on our relationship and we parted ways. When our mothers give us advise about our men, we always look at them cross eyed. But, most of the time their advise turns out to be true (9 times out of 10. Good luck with your bright future.

Jobaby
Jobaby

Ms. Kandi you have my blessings. If you are happy with your fiance', your mother will ajust. I have been in your shoes in the past. Starting out, it was a difficult marriage. My mother initially did not like my husband. As time progress, he grow on her. They became functional people... If you beleive in GOD, he will make a way. GOD bless you in your futher... Smile, GOD loves you...

A concerned viewer...

Jobaby

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Viewer

I suggest that the 3(mother, AJ, & yourself)of you sit down and talk. Your mother needs to express her concerns( in a nice way) to him and he needs to do the same. At the end of the day even when you marry him it's gonna put stress on you and the relationship if your mother still doesn't come around. This can also be a good exercise for you because when he sits down with your mother you can observe his body language and his answers which will tell you if he's genuine. Also remember a person who genuinely cares about you cares what your parents think about them and should be willing to atleast get along with your family. Hopefully and he'll pass the test and you too will live happly ever after. Good Luck and God Bless

Dallas chick
Dallas chick

Hi Kandi, we only get the edited version of your life with A.J. When I was in my late 20s I dated a man in his early forty's; he had 4 different baby mommas. We dated on and off dysfunctionally for 12 years. I loved him unconditionally, he did not return the love. Please be careful to make sure you and your daughter are FIRST! And don't not waste your time! I am in my early 40's and can not bare children.

Viewer
Viewer

I'm not here to judge, but if you knew what I know you would not get married to a man with 6 children and 4 mothers. It may all seem well now but, believe me when I say things will change as soon as you say "I do". You will have to deal with not just 4 different mothers and their kids, but also their extended family. People and situations change once you are married. It is WORK to deal with one or two children and their mothers, let alone 6. I want you to be happy and I pray that you will REALLY take some time away from everything and everyone and evaluate what you want in your life. Pray and ask God what is His will for you, because at the end of the day - the PEACE OF GOD is the determing factor. Love ya girl.

Chessnut
Chessnut

Hi Kandi, Kandi,at the photo-op, AJ didn't even act like he cared for your mother, he should have made an extra effort, to assure your mother, that he is right for you, and assure your mother that he will keep stress of his others kids mother's drama out of your life...At least make an attempt...This was is chance to show your mother, he's a man and not just a baby-maker... You better go see a lawyer, check those Georgia laws out concerning spousal support, if any...This is where he could file against you, you would have to give money to him for him, which would be separate from child support...That's if you get married and break up...See, you are making more than him...You want to make sure YOUR daughter is taken care of financially, do this before you get married...See a lawyer about incorporating yourself, before marriage...Go see a lawyer.

Denia
Denia

Hi kandi,

I just want to say that you are very talented (of course) and very professional in how you carry yourself. I like you alot. It is ok that you guys love each other and I do wish you the best. The only thing I am concerned with is rushing into marriage. If you want to do this I would get a prenup and not make any kids with him. Just be his wife and be a good stepmom. I would hate to see you end up being the 5th baby momma who had to walk away because it didn't work and then have an extra mouth to feed on top of it. His other baby mommas might act cool for right now but that can easily change once he makes you his wife unlike the rest. There's always that "unstable" one out of the bunch that have the potential to either start harassing or all of a sudden claim she has 6 months to live or some other nonesence. It doesn't have to go that way but you never know. Always remember that yes, love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener. Good luck and much love.

Nay
Nay

Kandi I have been watching the show and been wondering in your heart of all hearts do you really think you’re going to be happy? Kandi please listen to your daughter in her own little way she told you she is feeling uncomfortable about AJ extended family. Your daughter called AJ children her friends not step sisters or step brothers. As mothers we sometimes tend to not listen to our children because we want that love, we want that family, we just want, and our children go unheard. The worst thing you want is to lose that love, that trust, that bond you and your daughter has. You can always meet another AJ but you cannot replace that bond you and your daughter has... So please look and listen all the signs are around you, you just have to listen.

Nicole
Nicole

Kandi,

I think that you should marry the man who loves you and enjoy your life for you. As adults we must understand that the decisions we make for ourselves is our business.

Your Mother should respect the fact that she raised a great strong woman and not try to control your decision in our lives and live vicariously through you.

If she would not respect my mind I would distance myself from her. Your are 34 years old and not 4 years old. Also, she is being very disrespectful to your fiance' which is totally out of line.

You should back everyone up and go forward with what Kandi wants. I am sure that you don't want to get to be her age and be lonely, bitter as warwood and sharp as a two edge sword.

I would marry the man that I love, accept his kids and live my life with my new family and say to hell with what my mother thinks. She also would not see another dime of my money if she could not respect my mind!

Viewer
Viewer

Kandi, just wanted to say how much I enjoy you being on the show. You seem so tiny and sweet, I hope you're careful swimming with that school of sharks on the show. It can be difficult for a nice lady like yourself to hang with such ruthless women.

tracy carpenter
tracy carpenter

Kandi I love your hair. It's beautiful. If you are happy with AJ that's all that matters. Your mother will come around.

Jena
Jena

Kandi, I to was in a relationship where my mom was not crazy about the guy. I began to laugh when your mom got up and left the photo shoot, due to the fact my situation was at my birthday party and it was a family shoot. My mom and my daughter was right with what they where telling me. When you child said she was like I am not happy happy you might need to step back and look at that. She has been an only child and to put her in the mist with six other children may be a little to much. Needless to say this is something to really think about. Your child is and only child to put her in the middle of a six kids circus might be to much. Take her in to talk with a child counselor before you go to far and be out of a lot of money. Oh and by the way I use to live in the ATL so I know a little about AJ's past so walk carefully. Be blessed.

Real-Life5
Real-Life5

I watched your show for the first time when you went to the King TUT exhibit and I was disappointed that your friend was texting the whole time....thing is I can never judge no man....but 6 kids is a lot to except...his issues and problems become yours as well as yours his...Kandi I leave you with this though..put God first! Make sure you do the counseling with the pastor...trust me...your foundation has to be a foundation of God and then your questions will make since...Kandi seek God! I am not all the way sure if this will find you and even if you will read this but remember you are a very important person...your message comes in song...please be careful who you introduce your song to....

your new fan (Mikey T)

Kimberley
Kimberley

Kandi I know you love your family especially your mom,but you have to decide do you really love your fiance? and if that answer is yes then you are going to have to keep your family second. Your fiance is being judge based upon how many kids he's father,and not on the love he has for them. I say to you Kandi don't have regrets because you let someone else decide your love for you. I know your mom will always have your back,but what will you have if you let that man get away?

angie
angie

k uou are a classy women but i feel 4 baby momma is a little to much sometimes following your heart is not always good. what maybe good dating is not good married thimgs change and people. Take your time a long engagement and NENE have nerve calling you ghetto she have nerve you the only real one and stay kim friend help her out she good people to she is not a hater like the rest of them stay focus sister been in the same situation.

Viewer
Viewer

MY DAUGHTER IS 26 AND SHE'S DATING A MAN WHO IS 35 WITH 4KIDS AND 3 BABY MAMA....MY DAUGHTER HAS A SON HER ONLY CHILD...I WANT THE BEST FOR HER ...HE WANTS TO MARRY HER, I'M TOTALLY AGAINST IT! I KNOW ITS HER LIFE AND SHE WANTS TO BE HAPPY...I LOVE HER SO MUCH,BUT IN MY HEART I KNOW THIS IS NOT THE MAN FOR HER...LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER SHE ONLY WANTS THE BEST FOR YOU..WHEN YOUR DAUGHTER IS ALL GROWN UP..TRUST ME..YOU WILL UNDERSTAND WHY WE MOTHERS FEEL THE WAY WE DO ABOUT OUR DAUGHTERS...SHE'S MY ONLY CHILD..

ViewerHUNEE72
ViewerHUNEE72

KANDI KEEP YOUR HEAD UP DONT WORRY ABOUT YOUR MOM AN AJ GOD WILL FIX IT CONGRATS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT AND NEW ALBUM I WISH YOU THE BEST

Mary
Mary

Kandi, I watched last seasons show and I think you are by far the most realest and genuine housewife and I am not surprised that you and Kim hit it off because it appears that she doesn't do drama very well. I think you are a beautiful young lady and your mom has alot to be proud of. Continue doing what you are doing and keep praying about your situation with A.J. Keep in mind that God is not an author of confusion. If it is meant for you and him to be it will go well and you will have peace about marrying him in spite of all the nay sayers.

Electra A. Lampkin
Electra A. Lampkin

I love the atlanta house wives.... i say this kandi. my mom always tell me this whatever man you want to live and marry, i dont have to marry or live with him.lol my mom always tells me that. i say that you know what best for you and your child. who really cares that he have 6 children atleast he love and cares for them. i think you guys will stay together for a life time. just keep praying and things will get better in between you and your family. i support you 100%. i went through the same thing, things will get better and fall back in place.

Love, Electra A. Lampkin

Michelle
Michelle

Kandi, I really don't know how to put it other than "run or your life". I am currently going through a divorce with a man who had multiple children prior to our marriage. Whatever peace you have and enjoy now will abruptly come to an end the minute you marry your fiance. Your Mom is firm and somewhat abrasive but she is absolutely right about the problems you will have with the "baby mamas". I don't have to tell you how much your mom loves you; she's just angry about the potential heart ache this man is going to cause you. While going through this divorce, I am learning how to be patient and let God have his way. I firmly believe there is someone better out there for me and there is definitely someone better out there for you. I'm not hating or in the least bit jealous, I'm exercising my obligation to warn sisters about the troubles that lie ahead with baby mama drama. I would be less than a woman if I didn't speak up. Seek God in this matter and ask him to show YOU the truth. In time all of the confusion will disappear and you will be able to make a sound decision and stand firmly on it. Love, Peace, and Happiness.

Roman
Roman

I think you are an awesome young, yet mature and classy woman. What I love most about you, in respect to the other housewives, is that you got everything you have through your own talent, work ethic and determination! (Can that be said for the rest of them? hmm) I also love, love, love your family. That is what African-American families look like, love like and talk like. I am a 37-y.o. woman and my mother is deceased now nearly 12 years. When I am able to look back on our relationship and our ups and downs, I can say for sure that when it came to me and her advice on me the people around me she was dead on - every time! I think you are clearly level-headed, responsible and very intelligent, but at the very least take your time with this man. It has probably been over a year for you guys by now, but get to know him, his family, his friends and associates and the women he had children by - get to know him through their eyes - and then you can make a better informed decision. People typically surround themselves with the same quality/caliber of people that they are. You are grown and independent, but don't ever dismiss mama's words. You two are obviously close and she knows you best in this world. I would give anything for my mother's advice and our relationship at the time of her death was not as near as yours. Love

Chessnut
Chessnut

Hi Kandi, Kandi, at the photo-op, AJ didn't even act like he cared for your mother, he should have made an extra effort, to assure your mother, that he is right for you, and assure your mother that he will keep stress of his others kids mother's drama out of your life...At least make an attempt...This was is chance to show your mother, he's a man and not just a baby-maker... You better go see a lawyer, check those Georgia laws out concerning spousal support, if any...This is where he could file against you, you would have to give money to him for him, which would be separate from child support...That's if you get married and break up...See, you are making more than him...You want to make sure YOUR daughter is taken care of financially, do this before you get married...See a lawyer about incorporating yourself, before marriage...Go see a lawyer.

Kay
Kay

Kandi. You are the best in my opioion. I think that you represent yourself as a classy & very open-minded grown 'ass' woman. I think that is the best asset that you possess. You are in a relationship that YOU want to be in. I can truly relate to your situation & lost of other woman probably can relate. But it is your heart & mind. In my situation it is my older sister, who says little nasty & snippy things about my son father. ** I only have 1 child* and my child father & i had a MAJOR break-up. No one ever cheated, but a lie was placed in our relationship, and it just got real worst & bad. Now the truth is out & my sister is all in it. But if your heart tells you that HE is in fact the 1. Do you. Just like I will be doing me. GOD Bless you. ** Reminded*** do not get involve in that NeNe & Kim B.S. HOw childish. I use to like NeNe, but I see her for what she is really worth. & it aint much! SHe is very judgemental & narrow minded. Again.. take care... follow------> your heart!

Evette
Evette

I'am sorry i think Kandi is just a ok singer she should just stick to writing she dose very well at that.Not trying to mean but it is what it is! that stuff she did in the studio with jazz sound just like her old stuff.

Sherann
Sherann

Kandi,

You bring a great positive energy to the show. Too bad they didn't leave DeShawn on there with you, because I think you two would have been great friends. Love, love, love your music!

As far as A.J., I've been married 24 years and my husband didn't even have a job when I married him - think my family was worried about me? My boss tried to talk me out of it, but I knew it was right! Hang in there. If your daughter loves him, that means a lot. Children have a special ability to see right through to the soul of a person. They're not looking for what they want a person to be, they see WHAT A PERSON IS AND WHO THEY ARE. Maybe that's you're mom's problem, she want's to pick out for you what she wants in a man, not necessarily what you want. Remember, it's your life and you're the one that's got to live it. Hang in there and we'll all say prayers for you. Remember, positive thoughts and energy brings positive results!

teachergirl156
teachergirl156

Kandi,

You are adorable and I appreciate that you try to be ladylike. That's the only reason NeNe is hatin' on you. She wishes she looked like you. I can also tell by the way she sounds that if she were singing, she couldn't carry a tune in a bucket, with the lid on it. Best of luck with your music. I love to sing also, but I think I'll keep my day job.