What's "especially a black woman" got to do with pointing a finger in your face? It makes white women JUST as mad.

Dear Kandi, It's a joy watching you. The other housewives can be "entertaining", which you are, too, but for all the right reasons. I love your voice and admire your song writing talent. It's amazing to me. Plus, you have dignity, compassion, and kindness. As for your mother's concerns, I understand both of your positions, having two daughters, myself. What really stands out, is the enormous love you have for each other, in spite, of your disagreement. If not for your love, both of you wouldn't be as affected as you are by the circumstances. Follow your heart, because it seems wonderful, and all will be well. God Bless.

Kandi, I admire what your doing? Love your personality, you do not judge, you go on your own thoughts and opinions, not others..You do not get deep in drama, however you bring it if you need to. You keep doing you girl.

I LOVE YOU KANDI, You seem like someone I could really hang out with. You and Tionne. But, the only concern my friends have about you is you don't open your mouth wide enough. They said it seems like you talk through your teeth. But, all that aside we all love yah. I can't stand NeNe, Lisa, and Sheree. But, you and kim are our favorites. With the thing about your mother and her beef with you marrying AJ. I just think your mother wants the best for you. She never imagined you wanting to even think about marrying some man that has six kids. It's an expensive mistake to make. TRUST... But, like all of us that have made mistakes before. You have to make it. I just pray for the best for you and your mother as well as that cute daughter of your's. GOD BLESS KANDI.

I think you are a great addition to the cast. Enjoy watching you on the show!

i love this show

Kandi stick by your man if he treats you right and your daughter likes him. You can't live your life through your mom, which is something I had to learn. (my mom didn't like my husband either) Eventually she will come around.

love you girl. You are so classy. And you truly are a real woman

Hey Kandi,

Hope all is well with you. Just laugh at everyone thats has anything negative to say. You are an amazing woman. Keep doing your thing and stay positive.

Much love and respect, Your Fan Monie. P.S. you have a beautiful daughter.

I like your blog and agree with most of it..

Except Sheree was wrong....pointing at someone and calling them out of their name is diffrent than laying your hands on someone and chasing them outside.

The issue isnt about black women or white women...its about respect and class..and I clearly see Sheree as being wrong because she took it to another level when you grab someone.

If I was Kim I would show that to the police for harrassment and assault.

Kandi I hate to see you with AJ he a scrub.

Well I feel you on that one....like you said a BLACK WOMAN will take it to the next world....if you know what I'M saying....lol

I thought that was funny as well, The lunch with Tboz.I think you are a good addition to the show. I have no idea how you will interact with Ms Kim. I hope you dont have to go there with her , becouse she does bring the drama. All I have to say is watch your back.

Girl.... your too sweet & I enjoy watching you. Stay sweet,stay true to yourself & stay AWAY from NeNe $ Sheree, and when / if they turn on you don't Ghetto out like to do ! Keep your warm smile and you will find that thousands of Bravo viewers will buy you CD when it's released. I can't wait as obviously your very talented.

Also, give Kim a chance... I think she just wants to be friends with anyone who will give her a chance. I like her too and felt soooo bad for her during the "street fight" !

P.S. 138 lbs is NOT that big ! But I also understand stage presence.

Kandi,

Great post!! I agree with everything you said and I love your sense of humor!!

@ Teemarie

I don't think she meant it in that way!! And besides she IS a black woman and knows what ticks "HER" off. But, I do agree, don't put your finger in my face and don't call me a B*itch!!!

I was right with you on the floor laughing when NeNe said, "What size would that be bitch?" That was so funny! You are a joy to watch and your voice is amazing!!! Continue keeping it classy, by far my favorite on the show!

hey girl stay true to your self all those girl are DRAMA and they will try and put u in the DRAMA when they anit got nobody eles to blame .........

I feel this show needs a peacemaker... a matriarch... Somebody to help the ladies fall in line because all of that bickering and fussing between you all is not a good look. I would be more than happy to take on this role. Think about it!!

First off you are my FAVORITE on the show. Your daughter is adorable and you seem to be the most real. Now back to the drama...I completely agree with you on the Kim thing. How are they gonna get mad at her for talking about them when they do the same thing about each other. They all talk about each other behind each others backs. Why is it when Kim does it it's such a huge deal? It's very hypocritical if you ask me.

I agreee with Teemarie. Can white women not get pissed off about that too?

We lvu you Kandi!!!

I have to agree with Tee on this one. It doesn't matter what color you are. If another woman is going to get into your face, call you names and make a fuss in a public place, it doesn't matter what color your skin is, you're going to get upset.

Now, on a side note, I'm curious to know when your album is going to be released?

Kandi I admit I have been giving you a lot of flack for some of your decisions, (well mainly just the one) but I see that you are just a regular girl, who wants love, and there is nothing wrong with that. Who are we, or am I to judge you? I mean yes, you have that part of your life on air for all to see, so who wouldnt comment?

you seem like a very funny, warm, and sincere person. You are not like any of the other women, who are craving the attention, and the spotlight. You have been there, and done that.

I just wanted to apologize for being so judgemental. Do you girl/

I WOULD LYK 2 FIRST OFF SAY THAT KANDI, U AND LISA R SO BEAUTIFUL AND THE ONLI ONES WIT SENSE ON DIS DAM SHOW FA REAL N I HONESTLY DNT LYK SHEREE'S ATTITUDE I DNT THINK NO ONE DOES NT EVEN LISA. NE NE I COULD SEE HER KICKIN KIM'S ASS LOL..... KANDI UR MY IDOL AND FOREVER THAT YOU WILL BE

P.S. HOLD ON TO AJ HE SEEMS LYKA GOOD MAN SO FAR IN THE SHOW IM SURE YOUR MAMA TOLD WHAT DNT KILL U MAKES YOU STRONGER.... MY BOYFRIEND HAS 2 SETS OF TWIN BOYS BUT IM HANGIN IN THERE LOL SMILEY FACE(TREY SONGZ)

I really like seeing you on RHOA. Overall, I think that you're a cool, easy going person. I would also like to see more of what direction your music is heading to. I been following you since Xscape to Debra Killings Message In The Music. Also, I like the way your hair be in the shows. Keep up the good work Ms. Kandi.

Hey Kandi! I've been a fan of yours since 1993; XSCAPE was and still is one of the most talented female group ever. How many groups can say that each member is capable leading on a song. T-Boz has always had a down-to-earth vibe about her, so I can see why you are still cool with her. It was funny to see Lisa and NeNe get hot and bothered when Sheree's friend read them like a book. NeNe's reaction was classic! Now I hate to be beating a dead horse, but I have a ?. In an interview you did you were asked about qualities you demand from a guy when dating, and you said honesty. AJ lied about 3 of his kids, yet you are eager to marry him. What's up with that?

Kandi is my favorite house wife hands down.. Love her to death...She's not with all that extra drama that keeps this show going, her as a person makes her interesting.SUCH A LADY! Keep doing what you do Kandi! On your relationship do what you feel is best momma.. If it dont work.. Who cares his lost! You have alot going for yourself! Focus on you and your pincess! XOXO Zia-Fort Lauderdale, FL

Hi Kim,

I love the way you write your blog. I've got to give you proper respect on spelling out your words and not using the "texting lingo". I'm thinking . . . do people even know how to spell anymore?? :) Anyway, your blog is very well put together and very easy to read with the content and way if flows. You are delightful on the show like fresh air and I'm praying that all that going on with your love life and career work out for the best. I watch the show strictly as entertainment and I think it's a blast for real! I'm not judging or hating on anyone ~ I know that when the audience at large begin to take things personal and express themselves, you are laughing all the way to the bank and it is all good! Keep it together and keep it tight Kim! You've got what it takes to be the next break out star on Bravo!

I really admire your strength as a single parent. No one to judge and I wish you the best in your new adventure with your fiancee. Moms do have a 6th sense when it comes to their children. Hope it all works out for you!

Kandi,

I understand that you truly want love but after you marry AJ and he love his children and your daughter where does your love come from? I must ask are you ready to deal with ALL these baby mamas believe me when you marry this man they are all coming out of the wood works, Boo quisha and nem are just sitting back making a plan to get more money get ready.

Hi, I think you are very classy and it seems as though you really don't belong with these other ladies... not because they are better but because you seem to have a deeper since of value then they do... we actually see you talking to your daughter and willing to marry a man with 6 children... that says a lot about your character....these other women are focused on there on lives and have children they don't even sho on t.v....i'm not trying to be judgemental but they only get an hour a week to gives us insight into their character and i'm judging what they give... you seem to give so much more...

I love watching this show and it is a trip because I wonder what drama lies in Los Angeles. Kandi, I did not grow up with a father but he was in the town and we saw him every now and again, every man I chose from 12-39 years old was exactly like my father. AJ has six kids, is that a sign (red flag) that you would have checked at the first conversation, if you would have known what a real good father was! We are always justifying what is good with these black men and assuring ourselves by saying yes, but. I am not a hater and at some point homeboy will be forever proving to be someone he is not, I just want you to know, in this life, we have to have the experience to know what it is to mature. Psychology teaches us about development. Remember when we were adolescents, without those experiences we could not tell someone else, oh she/he will grow out of that!

I really like you on the show. You come thru as being a decent person...Don't turn like the rest..

Kandi, You are so cute. I love all your comments. The boob thing cracked me up because i sometimes have to accentuate the boobage with some inserts and you do have to be careful with them and i have thought about how embarassing it would be to have one pop out. I have never had to worry about it on film though. Good luck with AJ! Your daughter is adorable. Love the real mom things you do with her like the amusement park! Although I love Nene and Lisa, You are so real. I hope they keep showing the real You.

Kandi,

What differance does it make if the person who's face your wagging your finger in front of is black or white? The same rules apply. Sheree should not get a pass for her behavior just because she is a black woman. Her behavior was deplorable, she is the one who got physical with Kim...not cool, not cool at all. I just felt sorry for the other patrons at the restaurant!

Kandi Hey girl keep doing what you doing. As for your man all I can say is for you to pray about it.Really see if this is the man that the Lord has sent to you.You seem to be a beautiful woman on the inside and out.If you are having any doubts then maybe he is not the one,however I can tell you this God has a man out there that was especially made for you but you have to wait on the Lord. Be Blessed and know that the fans Love you.Columbus GA

Please listen to your mother!!! I didn't he was sucessful and wonderful (later a dark side)but dealing with ex- wives and ex baby mothers can be crazy. In my case 3 that are still in the picture, the other women childen are grown. (7-8 baby mamas) Please listen, take your time ( I married in about 1 year). Ask yourself we as women dont like to raise a child alone, why did he go through so many woman and didnt stay with anyone a length of time ?. Read the word on marriage. PRAY ON IT ALDAY EVERYDAY. Many Blessing Ms. Valentine

Kandi, I thought that was funny when NeNe said, "what size would that be b@&*H"? your daughter she is too cute, and she has alot sense. As a far Kim all I can say is keep on being yourself. And if Kim doesn't like you, which I hope that won't be the case, keep it movin'. Enjoyed the lunch scene with T-Boz. You guys had me cracking up.

when is that song gonna come out with u and jazze pha

Hi kandi I just would like to say if your man is making you happy and your child, then you gone head and marry him I know that you mother made dont like it but she have to undestand that you not marrying her its him so i wish you the best with AJ and your child . God Bless you

Kandi you are too much of a woman to settle to be # 4....how many kids does AJ have ? That means he's been with that many women and More. Listen to your MaMa she's looking after your happiness and your daughters.

Kandi aside being so, well, quiet on the show, and showing what a lady should be. I love your voice. will the son you were working on during the show be out sometime soon. It sounds like it will be great. As far as your marriage, mom is not always right. My mom didn't talk to my husband for almost a year when we first got married. Just before she died she told me she was wrong and that he was a good man and she respected him. So give mom time. She'll come around as long as she sees that you're happy and that you are being treaated well.

Hi Kandi, I'd like to say on your Mom's behalf, she only wants the best for her child and you can't fault her for that. I've been through a situation quite similar to yours when I started dating my husband who has 2 children to my 3. My mom gave him a hard time until she really got to know him. Now he's her favorite son-in-law! With all that said, give her some time and she will see just how happy your man makes YOU and your daughter. Best wishes and may God Bless your relationship!!!!

Kandi--love the little song you seemed to just whip up from the top of your head, "Must be good". You're very talented. With regard to your relationship, GOOD LUCK...I agree with T-Boz, I couldn't deal with all them heffas. Cool or not, they are still female. Although I agree with your mom, my heart goes out to you. You seem so sensitive and sweet, your mom just doesn't want to see you get hurt. By the way, he has "lot's of businesses", what in the devil does that mean??? Does that mean he doesn't have one that he's good at so he has a bunch???

Welcome Kandi! You are really fun and sweet! Please dont get into all the drama, its nice to see a normal person!

kandi, i peeped you read your blogs so let me say this don't cry mama, pray. God is good and he will talk to your mother. I like this show and am glad to see a women like you join. I saw a clip with you and Nene arguing who's ghetto. Gurl we all could bring out that side but as your personal life if you feel this is your man then you go for it. It don't hurt to try. We live, we love, we lose. Wether through death or heart ache. Your mother has been down this road obviously so let her have her say and really listen but at the end of the day when your mother has spoke her words your man will be there to hold you tight for that moment. It feels good at the time so enjoy your self.

Hi, Kandi,

I have saw you singing a little bit in one of the episodes. You have a wonderful voice!! It seems that you have a lot of emotions inside and you project those in your singing and your composition. When is your last CD in stores?

Take care,

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia San Juan, Puerto Rico

Kandi, please do not marry AJ. It will be hell to pay. No new bride wants to overwhelmed with raising another woman's children. It will be total chaos. A man with that many children by that many different women is incapable of making a commitment. Four baby mamas oh my goodness. Don't do it. It takes a strong woman to raise somebody else's kids. You deserve better. Find love elsewhere. It's some gorgeous men in Atlanta. Listen to your Mama

You are my fav. by far on the show!!!I've been a fan forever every form of music you release is great in my opinion...Xscape, your solo cd Hey Kandi,Peach Kandi & Your a wonderful songwriter (The most successful woman on tha show and the most realistic) Keep being real and giving us young women someone to look up to!!!

Kandi,Kandi,kandi, Please, I agree with your mother. I am the fifth of eight children and I know I got lost in the shuffle of kids. Im forty now and still have a bad taste about the inner loneliness from that. You are violating your daughter everything bringing all his kids into your home. Just be his Boo but don't marry him and his 4 baby mommas. Unless is income doubles yours after his child support payments then you don't know what your are in for. You are to much for him and he knows it.

PLEASE, LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER.