Cast Blog: #RHOA

Backstabbing and Negativity

Cynthia shares her favorite Twitter comments and the girls' weekend disaster. 

Things that made my Twitter followers giggle, cringe, or just left them confused: 

1. Twitter sum 1913: When Phaedra said, "My mama said don't nobody know when you are hungry, but everybody knows when you are homeless." 

CB: I have never been homeless, but when I'm hungry, I make sure everyone knows.

2. Twitter lelewezzy: When NeNe said to Kim, "Wig! Wig! Bye, wig! Gone with your wig. Bye Wig!"

CB: Classic, there are no other words. 

3. Twitter supastar219: When Phaedra said that you looked like a pretzel dipped in cottage cheese.

CB: Well, maybe next time you can be the swimsuit model, and I can sit in the audience. Mmmmm Hmmmm.

4. Twitter 1pur3_warrior: The craziest was NeNe going hard on Kim... "Break your legs and pop your eyes out!"

CB:  Um, maybe Kim should sign a friend contract with NeNe. Just to be on the safe side.

5. Twitter Blaquemagus: Kim said Phaedra was an entertainment attorney. Adult entertainment rofl!!!!!

CB: Southern belles have to pay the bills like everybody else.

6. Twitter babildoll511: My cringe moment was when you checked your messages at the table, and then started crying.

CB: Yes, I'm still cringing.

7. Twitter Unforgetable83: NeNe going in on Kim when NeNe's friend Diana showed up. "Watch those B words!" ahahaha

CB: I secretly wanted more people to just keep showing up, just for the fun of it.

8. Twitter Khrissichris: Ur cat walk and everyones reaction was priceless. Also Lawrence freakin hilarious screaming, "You betta werk Cynthia!"

CB: Never met a queen who couldn't appreciate a fierce runway show.

9. Twitter cynthiabailey10: Shreee calling me an ungrateful b----!  

CB: I'm very grateful that I have enough class and strength to just leave that alone.

10. Twitter cynthiabailey10: Fly above the haters? I would need a rocket ship to do that on RHOA.

CB: What time do we start boarding?

Lord have mercy! Where do I even start? First, I apologize for my blog being late. I really do try to have it up every week on time. Also, thank you to all my Twitter fans for helping me with my moments this week. You guys have been so supportive. 

Let's go! Honestly, outside of the stripper party and my fashion show, Miami was not the trip that I thought it would be. It was five days before the wedding, and I was very tired and stressed out. All I wanted to do was lay out by that beautiful pool, read, relax, and chill with the girls. Unfortunately, none of that happened. I really tried to bring my game face and have fun in Miami with the girls, but there was just too much backstabbing and negativity. The whole tour bus thing really put a damper on the weekend. I just don't have the energy to even discuss the bus drama, but it was unfortunate for all that were involved.

Moving on. What was up with all love and support in my face, and then judging me so harshly behind my back? These ladies (yes, I said ladies), were not in Miami in support of me. Not in a way that friends show love and support. Let's just clear that up. This whole season, I really tried not to judge these ladies too harshly on the things that were really important to them, and they all know what those things are. The same respect would have been nice. However, I do feel in my heart that some of the girls did have compassion for my situation, (only they know who they are), and I appreciate the cast mates who reached out to me when the cameras were not rolling. It meant a lot.

Moving forward, next week is the wedding episode, as well as the finale. I am truly overwhelmed just thinking about it. I can't really get into the wedding (don't want to give anything away), but please know that our God is a wonderful God. On the days that I could not find the strength to walk, he carried me.       


Cynthia Bailey and Ms. Cindi B

Follow me on twitter @Cynthiabailey10 

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Kenya: "I Will Always Be a Queen"

Kenya Moore dishes on the truce with Phaedra Parks and the non apology from Porsha Williams.

The reunion represents closure on all levels. I believe most women need closure. Reunions are tough because you live through filming, then through seeing it on TV, and then again during the reunion. You can feel you have moved on from something difficult and then you have to discuss it and rehash it. I felt good about this reunion, because I have grown so much. I am stronger now and nothing or anyone can destroy me.

Speaking of opening old wounds, I was respectful toward Phaedra during the conversation, but it’s clear that after our truce, she still wants to call me a whore and liken me to other “whores in the bible.” God doesn’t like ugly. Maybe sitting alone on the sofa now is confirmation.

There was a part of me that was hopeful about getting an apology for being physically attacked at the last reunion, since that would mean the past was behind us. You have to own what you do wrong in life. Children are taught that you don’t hit anyone first or at all. Whether provoked or not, isolated incident or not, physically attacking someone is legally and morally incomprehensible. As such, doing the right thing should be easy. But this is the same person whose grandfather was a greatly respected civil rights activist who fought for non-violence, yet thinks the Underground Railroad was an actual train that took people to freedom.

In typical fashion, Phaedra attacks my character in a preplanned soliloquy. But in her own words, her “THOT” friend thinks that spreading your legs wide open and accepting gifts from married men is admirable. Yet, it’s basically teaching young girls that having a square card reader between your butt cheeks is how one becomes “blessed” and “successful.” That’s why I will always be a Queen, literally and figuratively, because when I am wrong, I can apologize, forgive, and move forward. I can love, though I have not always been loved, and I can be talented and successful on my own merit without needing men to finance my lifestyle, and I can be the bigger person when others try to bring me down.

Some viewers ask why there are single women on a show about Housewives. It’s simple -- every Real Housewife franchise has single women, from Beverly Hills to OC to NY to Atlanta. With that said, there are only two Housewives on RHOA that are currently not married, Claudia and myself. In fact, approximately 43 percent of all Black women have never been married. My journey is not unlike the many Black single women who watch our show. Nearly half of Black women want to be married and find true love but are not willing to settle or can’t find the right man. NeNe and her puppet would like everyone to think it’s better to be in a horrible marriage rather than be single.

Having said that, I have never received so much love from the viewers as when I was featured on The Millionaire Matchmaker. It made me realize is that I am no different from all the single women around the world looking for real love. My journey is their journey, and ultimately they want me to fall in love with them rooting me on. It happened for Kandi, Kim, Bethenny, Tamra, etc. and it will happen for me too with all of you by my side. Therefore, having single women as Housewives is good for the show. Everyone deserves a chance to be happy. And we can inspire and give hope to those looking for love.

Rumor has it that someone said single women should be fired from RHOA. As such, we wouldn’t have witnessed the beautiful rekindling of NeNe and Gregg's love or her wedding special. Therefore, those people clearly didn't create the successful model for this show. If it's a play to get me fired... Try again. #CatchThatShade

Love Kenya,

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