Cynthia Bailey

Cynthia thinks making money is easy but finding love is hard.

on Jan 10, 20110

Happy New Year!

I hope all of you had a wonderful holiday and are ready to make 2011 your best year ever. With that said, I am not going to do my to moments this week, because I really want to get right into show. I cannot stress enough to you guys that when you are watching a scene on the show, you are only seeing a snippet of what is usually a three hour shoot. There is so much that is said that never makes the show. You can't try a case fairly without all the facts.

So here we go! Peter and I have a relationship session with my friend for many years, Hill Harper. Hill is a well known actor and talented author. Some of you may know him from the hit show CSI and a number of movies. His book 'Conversations' made the New York Times Best Seller List, and it was very insightful. If you are in a relationship, I highly recommend it. I think that most people will agree that the number one thing that can put stress on a relationship is finances. Peter and I have been together for about three years now, and most of our financial issues began with Uptown and the recession. It felt like as soon as the restaurant opened up, BAM, the next day the US was in a recession. Peter and I met when he was building Uptown, and he was putting every dime he had into the restaurant. I loved his vision and believed in his dream. I knew that I wanted to be with this man, and I loved having his back. He was smart, ambitious, strong, handsome, and very sexy. The grumpy old man you guys have seen for the past couple of episodes is not the man I fell in love with. I do not like the tone Peter uses when he gets upset, nor do I like him using curse words. But I guess he is keeping it real, and we already have a enough fake people on the show. I have to say that after seeing himself on the show, he has had the opportunity to see what a jack-ass he looks like, and he does not like it. We have discussed this, and he is working on it. There is just so much about both of us that you guys don't get to see. So many layers that never get peeled to show you the core. All I can say is I would never be in a relationship with anyone that did not make me happy. Nor would I put my child in an unhappy situation. I love Peter, but my child and I will always come first.

189 comments
PiperProsperous
PiperProsperous

I hope Peter is good to you. You deserve all good things.

Kelly Scott (Kel)
Kelly Scott (Kel)

Hey Cynthia,

Can't buy me love as well! I admire your tenacity! You're a humble woman as well! I sense that you love the Lord! And is lead by the Holy Spirit, not many people have that gift! You said, that you're following your heart, which is the spirit as well! I can totally relate!! Also, you said, the decisions you've made has gotten you to the space that you are in now. Love is the key, without love what do you have? I've modeled as well, but that's been a while. I decided to go for LOVE and I found it. (Praise God). And I'm considering getting back into it. As you can see, love was my first and foremost priority! In life we have to give up in order to get. That's Life! Again, good luck on your marriage! And may God continue to bless you as you continually seek him first! Peace and blessings!! Kel

M.Valdez
M.Valdez

I hope everything works out because personally...I think Cynthia and Leon made a gorgeous couple, and he seemed to be sweeter and kinder than Peter. Peter is grouchy and mean...he is also rude and disrespectful. Leon seemed to treat her with more warmth. Peter comes off as cold and the way he talks about NeNe and puts his two cents in...its just rude. I also don't like the way he made that comment about how Cynthia does not like surprises but he did it anyway because he wanted to do it "HIS WAY"...that was selfish of him to say that. But it was sweet of him that he planned everything out for her and the candles etc...it was romantic. I have mixed feelings about him. I just hope Cynthia ends up happy, I really like her alot. She seems genuine and has a wonderful mother and sister. Good luck to her, and many blessings. I hope Peter softens up and treats her really good, because she truly deserves it.

raggalady
raggalady

Cynthia,

I think that you and Kandi are the best two on the show. The other ladies leave alot to be desired with their excessive obsession with material things. You should not marry anyone just for money! Money does not make a happy marriage. If that were the case then why are so many stars getting divorced left and right? You make sure as a woman that you can take care of you and your daughter regardless of whether a man does or doesn't okay. I thought your wedding was gorgeous and you rocked that dress,too. Keep that third eye open and surely you will see who your friends are or aren't. Peace n blessings

Sheen_86
Sheen_86

Congrats on your Wedding, I saw you guys in the Essence magazine and you all look wonderful. Peter seems like a really good guy who just want to be a man and provide for his family. I have grown up with Jamaican men all my life and I can see that he's just stressed out with a lot an his mind. Also, most would not go to therapy unless the person was worth it. At the beginning of the season it even seems like your Ex also supports your relationship and he obviously knows you very well. So congrats!!!!

carolo43
carolo43

They were married last summer in July.

Real Housewives of Atlanta newbie Cynthia Bailey married her fiance’, entrepreneur Peter Thomas at a private ceremony held at the Fernbank Museum Natural Museum of History this past weekend. Bailey’s new hubby is owner of Atlanta’s Uptown Restaurant and Lounge.

Wrightn221
Wrightn221

WOW!!! Is all I can say! Thanks Cynthia for sharing that part of you. My mother asked me before I married my ex-husband "Are you sure you want to marry him?" I said "Yes! I know what I'm doing." But in reality, I really didn't and just wanted the marriage and not the drama that would come with it. The minute I found out my ex-husband was cheating, out the door I went! Prior to the wedding, their were signs that he could be a cheater but I ignored them and married him anyway. "What you see is what you get! If there is something you don't like about a man when you're dating him, you better not marry him because it'll only get worse." Words of my mother. We don't have to do something to prove a point, we can be by ourselves and be happy. Loneliness is a state of mind. You can be with someone and still be lonely, so learn to love yourself and be happy in your own company. I wish you and your daughter the best. A wise man learns from the mistake of others, a fool his own. (Latin PProverb)

Mary H
Mary H

Please don't do it Peter is not honest he is a scammer he got you to put your money in his place he tells you when you can talk on the phone but won't tell you he has no money come on it's time to use your noodle don't be ashamed to call it off. kick him out til he can take care of you and you don't have to depend on him just know he can is the key. good luck

Kay Collin
Kay Collin

You're forgetting that she would have had the money, her OWN money had she not loaned it to him for his business. Princesses don't work for their money nor do they loan it.

Sherrie Grayer
Sherrie Grayer

Hi Cynthia,

Simply Beautiful!

That's all I can say. Thanks for sharing. I wish you both the best.

keep it movin
keep it movin

Cynthia, I don't know about this possible marriage? I will just start with questions that i feel that you ask. Did he learn anything from his last marriage/relationships? After all this is not his first rodeo. Is he cut out to be a business owner? Its one thing to start a business a whole other thing to make that business profitable and the restaurant business is one of the toughest. Is he ok with you making more money then him? Doesn't seem like because he does seem controling on the show. Out of all the husbands that has been on the show he seems the craziest and we all know cameras love crazypeace and blessings

eulette
eulette

he just want you for your money he never loved you he saw you tall beautyful young lady with your own money and you where going places now look. now look your money is low you can`t do what you want to do you are in a trap you need to let him know that you are a grown woman. he can`t tell you aboput your money youi don`t need him he is not in your crocner. he is for him self he has used you for what he can get you were young at the time open your eyes god did not say be a fool

Patty Abear
Patty Abear

Cynthia,

It's all the same pocket in one marriage, the more you separte things the worse your relationship will get.

Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia
Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia

Hi Cynthia,

I hope everything goes fine with you and Peter. I read that you and Peter married months ago. After I have saw the past 2 episodes, and since I have been married 3 times and divorced, if I were you at that time, I would have postponed your marriage at least for several months until things (financial and emotional) were better and you had a good understanding of where you and Peter were at. I believe that you are a great person and I hope your marriage will be sucessful.

God Bless you, Noelle and Peter.

"Saludos" San Juan, Puerto Rico

angelsstr
angelsstr

Cynthia, I empthazie with you being a Pisces. It seems that you want to be the good guy and if not the good guy you just dont want any troubles and stress. You dont care to be perceived as more than you are or more than you deserve. But it is quite apparent that you have experienced more in your career than your counterparts. You have a soul that was designed to be viewed by the world, it proves that pureness still exist. However; it is imperative that you recognize those around you that smile on your deterioation of happiness. And is imperative that you recognize that you are alone in your quest for happiness because most are envious of your ability to carry with you a sense of blist that has been stripped from them. Your counterpart, your other half, he has a very severe dark side of him that you need to be weary of. He is even envious of your success. If you are not careful he will destroy yours to keep you down and submissive to him. Nene is aware of your attributes. However; Im sure deep inside you could really care less if your remained friends with her or not. But for the sake of tv, it proves brutal to strain your friendship than to save it. You are getting older. Do you. Everyone will understand if you leave this loser or decide to postpone the wedding. He needs to feel the same thing Nene is placing Greg through. He needs to know that media has no indication on your emotions for him. And if anything, media can help you to move quicker than you ever could with nothing to occupy your time as much. I am rooting for you. But because of your emtoional weakness, I wonder how long before your media demise. Kept it together girl. Dont be a stepping stool and you will go far!

Pryncess
Pryncess

I love this blog post!! I can tell that it has genuinely humbled you. I can completely understand where you are coming from when you say that you want the wedding of your dreams. You've worked hard for 20+ years. You deserve to give yourself a nice wedding... a day that you will always remember. Whoever said you are materialistic, clearly didn't read the very words that you just wrote. I pray that God blesses yours and Peters marriage.

mrs. sherman
mrs. sherman

Cynthia, if you are not happy now, you will not be happy after marriage.. what will you do if it is something such as a life and death decision you have to deal with..in any relationship we all have differculties and dealing with life..don't take on more than you handle..and don't base your choice on money...find a way to come to terms that's good for especially for you, when a child is involve..the cost in the end will be, more than you can ever deal with

taylormae28
taylormae28

ALSO CYNTHIA YOU NEED A COMMUNICATOR AND PETER IS THE OPPOSITE. MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE, BUT DONT ALLOW ANY TO RUN YOUR LIFE.

taylormae28
taylormae28

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP FRIEND

HELLO CYNTHIA, YOU REMIND ME OF MY SELF. ALWAYS WILLING TO GIVE AND BE SUPPORTD TO OTHERS EVEN WHEN OTHERS ARE NOT GIVING YOU THAT SUPPORT BACK. ACOURSE I DO NOT KNOW ALOT ABOUT U AND PETER, BUT FOLLOING THE SHOW ITS SEEMS TO ME THAT PETER HAVE NOTHING TO GIVE YOU BUT IS WILLING TO RECIEVE FROM YOU. PUT A END TO IT NOW. YOU ARE YOUNG GOURGEOUS AND A LOVELY FASHION MODEL. PRAY AN ASK GOD WHAT YOU NEED TO DO, ALWAYS PUT GOD FIRST AND ASK HIM TO LEAD YOU. IT MAY NOT BE WANT YOU WANT BUT ITS WHAT GOD WANT. IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO GET THIS, BUT EVERYTHING WE WANT IS NOT WHAT GOD WANT US TO HAVE. STAY STRONG MY SISTER AND KEEP DOING YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER. I REALLY DO WISH YOU AND YOUR CHILD THE BEST. U DESERVE TO BE HAPPY AND BEING WITH PETER DONT SEEM TO MAKE YOU HAPPY.

Bonnie Shroyer
Bonnie Shroyer

LOVE YOU TOO GIRL!!!!!! Cynthia, you just stay true to yourself!!!! You are the type of person who if possible would help out a perfect stranger, if they needed help within reason! You are such a beautiful woman! You will find your prince, even if Peter is not the one! With your personality, looks, attitude, and zest for life, you will find a man who will love you and your daughter for who you are, not what you can give them! Stay true to your self, and in parting " LOVE, PEACE & SOUL"!

ms b
ms b

Cynithia , you r beautiful inside and out, and your contract was cute and ne-ne was wrong but she has no class anyway, now as far as Peter, run ,run as fast as you can, u will regret marrying him( DON'T DO IT) he loves u yes, but it is that crazy love like (snapped) kind of love , be careful ,you might just want the wedding more than the man .... love u girl .

the real housewife of atlanta , Mrs B . cll me girlie real talk--- 404-963-5311

The Truth Speaker
The Truth Speaker

Please do not let other influence your decisions about your relationship with Peter. All relationships have problems, you guys need to work out your problems together. Please stop looking to NENE for advice. She is an UNSTABLE person, who does not want to see others happy. I guarantee if Nene can have Peter for herself she would. Peter seems to be a good man who adores you. You guys need to work out your problems together. You should never seek advice about your marriage from people who are single or people whos marriage is going down the drain.

You need to be a strong woman and stand by your man. One thing I can say about Phaedra is she stands by her man no matter what others have to say.

If you find a man who loves you unconditional and respects you, please hold on to him. Just remember the grass is not greener on the other side. No one is perfect.

AND PLEASE, PLEASE STOP LISTENING TO NENE LEAKES. SHE IS NOT A GOOD FRIEND. How many times does she have to disrespect you guys for ya'll to realize it.

allyr
allyr

Peter is out of his mind thinking you have no right to know what happened to your INVESTMENT, the to react upset. The guy lives in another world.

appreciate you
appreciate you

I saw your disbelief and disappointment in Peter when he announced to you that his restaurant was closed... hello?? no discussion argument or apologies can change his actions. When he gets in your face and has tantrums DO NOT BACK DOWN. African/Carribbean men have a domineering controlling trait.They thrive on the traditional beliefs that a woman should not have an opinion..Do not be timid or look at him as an older man. he is your man and you all should work together. he is afraid of failure.. been there done that. do not run away from a relationship. work on all of it's flaws. Peter needs help talk about it...

ThePastryProphet
ThePastryProphet

Yay!!!!!!! Thank you and preach on!!!!!!

I say this and people think I'm bitter. I'd rather be alone than with someone who makes me miserable!

almajones1
almajones1

Well said I have been with my boy-friend for 10 and it's hell at times but we do get over the bump and we have been thru some major storms but weathered the rough waters I even stabbed him in the heart but we are still hangin tough just stick to what you want and what is going to make your family grow but always keep the line of communication open. But peter is being unreasonable when time gets hard u don't throw in the towel and u really don't consult the person who has given money to keep it a float thats a lot of money for him not to consider getting your input on shutting the doors u have every rite to be upset but this to will be resolved. Hey I did my own wedding and it was great so u to can do your own and it will still be great just think econommy remember why u r getting married. Is it for the glamour or for the love you share with peter thats all I'm saying just let your heart be your guide. Stay stong.

Love Redd from San Diego.

TaciRene
TaciRene

Amen to that!!! i've been married 14 yrs and i hear you!!

Pam B
Pam B

I know tha wedding has already happen but I totally agree with my daughter, Pam B. Cynthia is a child. I hope you are a better wife than you were girlfriend. so selfish!!!! YOu did not care about your husband to be and his worry. Couldn't you see that he was worried about money and your crazy million dollar wedding is hurting the situation. And get over yourself, you are no Tyra Banks sweetheart!!!!

Pam B
Pam B

Peter is not a control freak. He is worried about money. He did not expect his wife to be to want to spend a million dollars on the wedding. It is plain to see that he does not have the money for her wedding. She is so blind.She can not see the pressure on her man. I really think that this woman does not deserve such a wonderful man. What a immature little princess you are!!!! I can not stand this childwoman.

Anita31
Anita31

Oh no Cynthia! GAH! I was reading some of the replies here, and I see people saying u did marry Peter! NOOOOOO! I am watching the new episode tonight where he tells you that he closed Uptown. Oh Cynthia, what do you see in him? It is not my place to tell you who to be with. Heck you dont even know me girl, but I have been watching this whole season and I just dont see any chemistry between you and Peter. I hope you drew up a pre nup! He seems to be shady and well how DARE he borrow money from you etc and then close the restaurant down without consulting with you? You both put money into it. Because he is not telling you anything, well thats real fishy! Peter gives me the creeps! UGH! I hate watching him on the show. He is controlling too! Not cool! You dont deserve that!

Rachel Evans
Rachel Evans

Well first of all- Hello Ms Cynthia. I too realize that drama makes ratings and often drama is created by the omission of some information. That said... you show us how stressed you are over the wedding you want and about your relationship with Peter lately. Well, my question for you is "Is this WEDDING more important than your relationship and subsequent MARRIAGE?" If you do not have a definite income right now and neither does Peter then wouldn't conserving right now for you and your child and for your day to day life safety be a good idea? You can have a beautiful meaningful small wedding right now and plan for the big wedding later when the ground is more stable. Why have you not tried to do like other celebrities and get someone else to foot a portion of the wedding bill? Also, consider that Peter is worried and super stressed also - about the future of the family beyond this WEDDING- he just lost his dream and sometimes that is not easy to move past. Yes he can regroup - with your support- and reinvent. But pride is HUGE in him - that is obvious. You are so walking on eggshells and it is not real and counter productive that is why he tells you so little. You will be married so it is time to pull off the mask and let him see the real you and for you to see the real him. LOVE IS BLIND but MARRIAGE IS BIFOCALS. Listen to your SISTER - she knows you and loves you.

Just a thought Tks- Rachel

AuntCarma
AuntCarma

DO NOT LISTEN TO SOME OF THE IDIOTS ABOVE! Peter borrowed the money and its NOT about the money it is about his word! If you can not trust his word, then there is nothing worth having with him at all. You go girl.

SAW
SAW

oh and another thing is to Cynthia you sit there and you talk about money and your dream wedding and that there is no money coming in and you tear up and get all emotional about getting married but i didn’t here one dam thing about love in that relationship how you going to get all mad because there is no money for your dream wedding i don’t know where you are from but me and my man got married in city hall and it was not about the money it was about loving one another through the hard times! Get over your 20,000 dollar wedding!!! there is hungry kids in the world and you are complaining about money!!! PLease!!!!

Stephanie M
Stephanie M

Yes it was a investment,but he is real wronge 4 him to throw this business away like he just give up and don't care about her feeling at all.Something not right about him,it like he running some sick game.Cynthia just chill out please so you don't make no more mistake.

karonn
karonn

Hi i love cynthia shes a face book friend and shes going be fine ! i am a spiritual advisor in the industry god has shown me new oppurtunity that will be approaching for her! at least shes real , honest and very sincere lady she will go on too do bigger and better things 2011 2012 god bless take care !!!

patsy from colorado
patsy from colorado

cynthia: yopu are involved with a man that is clearly using you. you are a beautiful woman and you do not need to "accept" a man. he is a user and a no bocy using you because you are a somebody! please dont let his usery make you feel like you are less than a woman strong and beautiful kick him to the curb and move on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Viewer  hummingbrd
Viewer hummingbrd

Hey Cynthia ,I just wanted to share my thoughts to you ,now I do know that editing can make it look worse than it really is ,BUT speaking as a survivor of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ...Ineed you to know that Iam seeing RED FLAGS with this guy !you seem like 2 different people .And I agree with other people as far as him asking for money from you WOW!But to yell at you for being upset about maybe loosing the restaurant (so you can get your money back from him),he seems like a controlling man that may end up god forbid hurting you and I hope you have a great support system.....DITCH THE DOE DOE!!!! MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND PLEASE WATCH FOR THE RED FLAGS HONEY CUZ THEY ARE A BLOWING IN THE WIND WITH THIS GUY!!! MUCH LOVE TO YOU :) FROM SEATTLE WE LOVE YOU!

kikilee
kikilee

Thank You!!!! Peter is a selfish control freak, from the time he had a problem with Cynthia talking to her friends on the phone, we could all see he was self-centered and didn't want to share Cynthia with anyone or better yet, let Cynthia be friends with anyone with a lot of confidence who may convince her she was marrying a controlling jerk. Hmmm...now we find out Cynthia met him when he was building the restaurant and she then gave him all her money to invest in the restaurant? DING DING DING DING DING!!!!! Has the light bulb gone off yet? He's a controlling pig who used Cynthia's nice humble personality to help him get his restaurant business off the ground. He can't love her because he only loves himself. HE IS A SHADY ASS GUY!!!!!!! And now she's married to him ??? :( Poor thing.

token
token

You The Lost Yo Mind! I'm so tired of you talking about Peter and Uptown that's the reason he treats you like that. I don't care if it was downtown the way he talks to you is just a disgrace and you sit there and let him. As long as you let him he will. America already think you is ditsy and dumb the way you act and how you let Peter treat you. I like you but when you opened your mouth and said about to the extreme about your money and Peter and still want to marry him I had to double look at you and ask is you for real. Is you for real about marrying ole Peter? Oh, and yes you said in your blog Peter is handsome and sexy well anyway whatever! His attitude makes him ugly! You already going into a marriage with financial problems and you don't want to hear it and you still want to get married and to think you can change him or the situation when you get married no, how he is now, he will be when you marry him. Just remember the writing was on the wall. The things you do and say come out your mouth is sometimes hilarious and ridiculous. He couldn't sit there and tell me he don't want to talk about the business and you the put your whole savings into it. Girl, you better start getting a backbone and you and Kim need to stop worrying about Phaedra because Phaedra is not worrying about her money. Phaedra is doing ok with her marriage, but old Peter is going to be the straw. You see the writing on the wall you choose to ignore it, I guess it will come back to bite you. Hope you have a prenup, because ole Peter asking for money already is not good. I could see if you was already married to him but to not be married and he already have his hand out, well you know what they say about fools. The marriage should of been put on hold and I think old Peter really wanted to tell you that but knew you would'nt take it too well. Whatever you decide start thinking and making more wiser decisions and good luck.

Candy Pants
Candy Pants

You got married - congrats!

But you really did need to see "all"of who he is. It's important to see people at their worst: You really are dealing with an unknown until the ugly comes out. Guess you loved who he revealed under pressure. (Hopefully you didn't go through with the marriage for appearances sakes.)

Also: When you "loan" money, NEVER expect to get it back. Let them call it a loan if they like, but you should just consider it a "free gift" you're giving out of love. If you can't afford to lose it, if you REALLY need your money to be repaid, then the answer to their request needs to be NO.

Peter may wind up needing lots of money-love before his business is firmly established. When you give it, don't bring up repayment. This is love. Otherwise, he may feel you're calling his competency into question. This embarrasses them. Proud island men strike out when you do this, one way or another.

Bridget Smith
Bridget Smith

Cynthia, You had every right to react the way you did on tonights' show. I can't believe how Peter reacted to you. "I'll never tell you anything ever again?" You were just told he closed a business you had invested in, right before your wedding?! There wasn't going to be money for the wedding?! He wasn't about to discuss things with you as a responsible partner. Be careful with your heart. His true colors are ugly. Bridget

ViewerBecky
ViewerBecky

Peter is a loser who will keep losing your money honey You will wind up supporting him while he tells you what to do, wear, and say ! Before you know what hits you, he will be controlling the money you make, and you will have to ask him for money to buy tampons !

gagirl1970
gagirl1970

Why does it have to be a black/white thing? My Momma gave me the exact same advice. We women need to have each others backs! Cynthia you need to run, and run fast!! You are a class act. There is someone out there worthy of you.

MsFab
MsFab

I am sooo weary of sistahs who has to have a relationship with thier friend's man. These are the type of women who have no problem sleeping with your man because they don't have one of their own to keep thier attention. My advice to you is to get your own man then you won't have to worry about developing a relationship with your friend's man. Cynthia, your man is your man. There's no need for your friends' to have a relationship with your man unless that friend wants to sleep with your man.....this game has just not started in 2011 and no real woman worships no man. Real women worship themselves and put themselves first.

ViewerBecky
ViewerBecky

Peter is a control freak that has run through all your money ! Do not marry this man or he will bring you down with him !! Been there, don't you make the same mistake I did. You are far too self sufficient, successful, beautiful, and talented to settle for a user !

JuneRogers-Batten
JuneRogers-Batten

I so agree with MsFab's comment. He is very alpha male..strooooong headed & it appears to be his way or the highway and I don't like that in a male. I do think that you and Leon are right for each other but obviously you broke up for a reason...by the way i though that I was the only person that saw that when he and Ne-Ne went off to the side and talked and flirted with each other. However i don't think every women on the show is a cat. It seems like Kandi, Phaedra & Sheree could be somewhat trustworthy.