Cynthia Bailey

Cynthia talks about her time on 'Kandi Koated Nights' and answers some of your questions. 

on Nov 29, 20100

 

Things that made me giggle, cringe, or just left me confused:

1. What are you looking at your watch for? Because it's on my wrist, and I can. He has a point, I saw it with my own two eyes, and it was definitely on his wrist.

2. What is my freak number? First of all, who feels like changing pee-pee sheets after sex? Second, I still believe food products "down there" is a yeast infection waiting to happen. And thirdly at the end of the day it just feels like way too much work. I would be pissed if Noelle had an "accident," and peed in the bed. How would I explain mommy peeing in the bed? 

3. I still never figured out if Dr. Muhammad (I want drop the Dr. until I know for sure) is a doctor or not. Am I the only one still confused? This is supposed to be a "yes" or "no" question, right?

4. Dogs don't bark at parked cars. I actually tested this out with my brother's dog Dusty, and it was true. As long as my car was parked, crickets. The minute I pulled off, he lost it!

5. Prove you are a woman, and I will prove I am a doctor. I have to be honest, I almost kind of like this guy for Sheree. He really pushes her buttons. But then again, I'm a Pisces, I like everybody.

41 comments
Stylist
Stylist

To a Super Model: You seem to be out of your zone, by babbling with the others on RHOA. Please start a reality show with other Super Models within your comfort zone. Peter is, it appears is treating you like he is your DADDY, you are a grown beautiful woman, already grown up. You shouldn't let any man husband or boyfriend tell you in so many words who you can or cannot talk to.You are not a child.

Angelwill77
Angelwill77

Cynthia, I'm not sure what's the real deal but from the episodes, it seems like NeNe is infactuated with You and Peter's relationship. Nene is going through a bad break up and seems to be a bit insecure about herself these days. She WAS checking out your man or that's at least the way BRAVO has made it look. Peter is a bit controlling but I also think he knows that NeNe can be trouble in you guys relationship. I know you want to be there for Nene but your man has to come first, if you want to keep him. If you don't want him, then give him to NeNe, she will gladly acccept him. From experience, it's never good to mix your girlfriend who's in a bad situation in with your own relationship, it's a recipe for disaster.

KendallKing
KendallKing

I think you are a wonder person, but don't go heart first go head first when dealing with woman when you have a man as fine a as peter. Always watch your back and keep your eyes open there are people in this world looking for what you got and what you dont have much, love

KASSIE597
KASSIE597

Before you had that problem, God already had the solution. I THIK HE LIKE NE- NE ARE HE JUST ABUSIVE I THINK U LET ALL THE GOOD ONE GO AND FITS TO KEEP THE BAD ONE AFTER WATCHIN THIS I HAVE ???????AND DOUBT ABOUT ALOT OF STUFF WITH U AND PETER????? HOPE YOU DO'NT MARRY THIS ONE A BIG MISTAKE!!!!!!!!!

VeryLinear
VeryLinear

I so agree!! Run, don't walk, from marrying this guy.

Georgia Peach
Georgia Peach

Cynthia,

I just read that Russell Simmons and Jayson Williams both proposed to you in the past, and that Peter once dated actress Nia Long. Is this true?

Regardless, I think you are a smart, beautiful woman. I think you will make wise choices in regards to your relationship with Peter and your friendship with Nene. It is a balancing act but at the end of the day, I think you can be loving to both of them --with Peter being the priority of course. (Although you don't always have to drop what you're doing when he's at home. That's unrealistic.) Take care!

Tlisa19
Tlisa19

Cynthia, I love you, your my favorite, but seeing Sunday's episode on Dec 5th had me a little disturbed, Peter is starting to show his true colors, he's controlling you, by telling you who you can speak to on the phone, please listen to that intuition that all women have, I know he loves you, but love does not CONTROL, first he will allienate you from your friends, next after the wedding, he'll be telling you not to have a relationship with your Mother and sister, watch for the signs Cynthia, your a lovely woman and I don't want to see you go through abuse, all the signs are coming out of Peter, You turned him down before for a reason. So please think about your man, and especially pay attention to his actions.

Lindsey809
Lindsey809

you are such a great part of this show....peter reminds me so much of my husband when I am on the phone lol watching you both is so real...god bless you and your family!!! By the way Love the short hair

Tlisa19
Tlisa19

Yes I did notice that on the last episode, how he was telling her she cannot be on the phone with NeNe when he comes in, if that doesn't scream controling I don't know what does, Please think about marrying this man Cynthia.

PLEASE PLEASE CHECK HIM !
PLEASE PLEASE CHECK HIM !

NAAAA! I DISSAGREE! YOU MAY BE ABLE TO GET SOME EDUCATION ONLINE..TRUE! BUT HE WAS A JERK..AND NERDY JERK AT THAT! AND FRANKLY LIKE SHEREE..COME ACROSS A BIT ARROGANT BUT SHE IS WHO SHE IS AND I HAVE ALWAYS LIKED HER..SHE HAS A RIGHT TO PRIORITIZE WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO HER..AND IF MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO HER...WHO CARES ..SHE HAS TO LIVE WITH THE SHE CHOSE..I SAY DO YOU SHEREE!

4 REAL
4 REAL

Great comment!!! I feel the same way.

Nikki C.
Nikki C.

First, I would like to say that I am SO GLAD that you are a part of the cast!! I watch every episode now, since there's finally a "character" on the show I can actually relate to! Second, you're gorgeous, girl. You hear that all of the time, obviously, but it never hurts to speak kind words to folks. You look amazing and I'm really looking forward to your beauty blog! (Please, not too many "sponsored posts" and PLEASE more Black beauty brands like Iman and Black Opal, etc. Those are the brands me and my friends use and trust.)

And finally, I understand the previous comments of concern regarding your hubby's reaction to your phone calls. I, too, was surprised by his behavior (it seemed unpredictably controlling and a bit selfish to me), but viewers have to keep in mind that the show is chopped up and edited in a specific way that is - in the end - meant to manipulate your perception of the cast members. What we see happening on screen is not necessarily an accurate depiction of their lives or their behavior.

Let's keep that in mind as viewers before we pass judgment and give off marital advice.

ViewLATANYAer
ViewLATANYAer

HELLO CAN YOU WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFE GURL YOUR MAN IS TRYING TO CONTROL YOU AND THATS NOT RITE GURL YOU NEED TO PUT YOUR FOOT DONE ON HIM

char char
char char

misery loves company and nene is messy each season she gets worse and she talks about you and all her friends behind their backs but feels she is the only star on the show and demands attention worry about you and yours

ViewerCosby
ViewerCosby

Cynthia don't be mad at Peter or fustrated with nene. I posted a mesg on nenes blog dec 4. Peter wants you to feel for him what you feel for nenes problems and he stated that after his conversation with nene on the phone in the car. He Really likes her , on the show nene was hurt and she said you should have addressed this and you did. So don't be angry she didn't KNOW. Don't know if this will be posted. On dec 5th showing. I've been married 40 years and to find a strong female your husband likes HER he ain't mad at her he wants more attention and men get feelings of displacement in our lives when they feel replaced nene is hurt because men she trust betray her I know this will not get posted ask Peter would perfer you be friends with Kim phaedra or shree or live with Kandi coated

AIN'T actually MAD HER. HE WANTs YOU TO TALK More About HIM

Run Cynthia
Run Cynthia

This is the first time I have ever blogged on a show!!!! Cynthia I am not the one to try to break up people, BUT peter is showing signs that he may be a little abusive!!!!!! You better pray over this marriage before you commit to it!!!!

Bravoella
Bravoella

Cynthia is crazy to let Peter talk to her like that!! Like he was her pimp. Some old restaurant pimp, mad cause he is going broke with his five kids. What of Cynthia's daughter- does she hear him speak to her mother like that. Cynthia is showing the child how to have low self esteem and be bullied in her own home. Peter does not have a cent so it is clear he did not buy that house Cynthia films in, or pay the bills for the phone he demanded she hang up. The house was paid for by Cynthia's child support (must likely) and Peter wants to rule over Leon's dough and his child. Cynthia looked real weak and bottom byotchlike while Peter told her when she could speak. It seems he has her in training before he pimps her out hard. If Peter lived elsewhere he might not have been able to pay the rent as he could not pay the rent for the club. The rush to be married was that Peter needed to move into Cynthia's house in order to have a place to live. It would not have been proper to have the Peter live with the little girl other wise.

Catherine1
Catherine1

Too bad it didn't work out with your daughter's father...he seems like a perfect match for you. Peter...not so much. He seems sexist and controlling and I believe you should break it off asap.

BAToni
BAToni

Cynthia, In the episode where Peter was telling you that when he walks in the house he wants your undivided attention. I could see the look in your eyes. He is acting like what you feared. Men do change when they think they got your ass! I think he was out of line and being insensitive. When things are calm tell his ass nicely but firm how he made you feel & don't do that crap no more...you have to have friends for balance you are not his freakin barbie doll (you are beautiful though) Let him see how strong you are he gotta respect that if he really loves you. All that creating friction with your friends is not cool. I bet he got his darn friends..ok Ima calm down. I was married for 14 years to an French African...I can write a freakin book....lol I need a double Pepsi now my nerves are shot

Debra from Texas
Debra from Texas

Cynthia, One thing I know about women is when they hurt they won't you to be there to listen to them when ever they call. NeNe has a best friend, you need to keep your relationship with your man first. As women we always want other women to be there for us but so does the men especially when he is going through something and want his woman to be there to listen to him. It's not rocket science, NeNe would love for her husband to open up and talk to her and if he said I'm having a bad day, month or year and wanted her to listen to him and help him cope through it believe me she wouldn't even answer the phone.

Stick with your MAN!!

Brown Sugar Babe
Brown Sugar Babe

Girl i would marry that Peter!!!!What are you waiting for he is really in love with you aint nothing wrong with qt with you man girl!!

Brown Sugar Babe
Brown Sugar Babe

I feel the same way about that whole situation myself.If you call her a friend Cynthia be by her side.

BadMammerJammer
BadMammerJammer

Cynthia, This is actually the first time I've blogged to you. You said that you have been engaged several times and got "cold feet", i.e. runaway bride. This would be the time for you to run....and run like hell. Peter is not for you. Initially I gave him a chance because I was looking at the superficial: you're beautiful and classy and sophisticated, He's looks o.k. Later on when I found out he has five children..I thought oh-oh...but then I said o.k. he's 50 so it is reasonable to think that he's had some relationships. But when I saw the show where he proposed and on his head shot he said "I know she doesn't like surprises but I don't care I'm doing it my way" I thought whoa....why would someone who loves you do something that they know you don't like? And then tonight when he said "when he walks in the door you should drop everything and focus on him" I thought "aw HELL NO".....If ever there was a time for you to run it would be now. And please don't make excuses for him "he's under stress because of the restaurant". If you want to know how a person really is, pay attention to them how they act when the pressure is on. If he is having problems with his restaurant then a million dollar wedding is the last thing he should be thinking about. And maybe, just maybe, he's treating you like this because he knows he can't afford you and he's trying to make you leave him. EITHER WAY....RUN LIKE HELL!!!!!

eggcream
eggcream

Cynthia, I agree with the previous poster. Peter is showing danger signs....beware...

louloubird
louloubird

I love u but please leave NeNe alone. She will destroy what u and Peter have and friends are there to support u not to put second thoughts in your head. NeNe is on a indepentent woman kick because of her and her husbands problems and right now whe is also down on marriage and anyone telling anyone what to do.U can be there as a friend but u are just to nice and when NeNe calls and Peter is there that u have home time and friend time cause if u dont u will find yourself being NeNe,s sounding board and shrink until she is over this and in the mean time she will have destroyed what u and peter have. I have watched AHW from the begining and NeNe is a in your face suck the life out of kind of person with her problems.Take her in small doeses or u will alone and she will have moved on.

Stop Violence Against Women
Stop Violence Against Women

I don't normally comment on these blogs unless something on the show really does bother me. I could not agree with Daisy more. Peter is definitely showing very strong control issues. It is very alarming. Cynthia, you are a great person, love you on the show. But, please be careful with this guy. No woman should be told what her schedule is by the man that supposedly loves her. If he is going through a difficult time, he shouldn't be taking it out on you or your friends. Definitely looks like he's trying to alienate you from friends. Later he'll try to alienate you from your family and it can just get scarier from there. Also, he gave you an ultimatum on marriage...who does that? Especially if he really loves you. If anything he'd be patient and wait until you are ready.

Patty Vanneque
Patty Vanneque

Cynthia.. I was married to a controlling tempermental man and Peter is both. If he is telling you whom to speak to and when rather than asking you .. key word is ASK.. then you are headed for a very unhappy future. This will be the 3rd broken engagement.. better than 3 divorces!!! Run away as fast as you can Cynthia.. Peter cares more about Peter than he ever will about you.

SOUL4REAL
SOUL4REAL

Cynthia,I know you said that you don't want to go through what your mother went through. Your future husband said you spend to much time with NeNe,that is a red flag(controlling).Being married shouldn't interfere with you and your girlfriends,I bet you don't interfere with him and his men friend. When a person is trying to control you they seperate you from family and friends. I love all of you, but NeNe need you all right now,so please be a friend and don't turn your back on her,you to Peter! God bless you all!

Litfire
Litfire

Congrad to Cynthia & Peter

SOUL4REAL
SOUL4REAL

Hi Cynthia & Peter, Please don't listen to these people about NeNe, she's hurting. Put yourself in her shoes,her whole world is crumbling,she need you all now. Remember, she helped put together the marriage purpose, the little get together you all had,she really respect the committment that you and Peter have for one another. She can remember her committment to Gregg,this is all about the price of fame. Gregg should be happy for his wife, because she's making things happen in their lives. What ever NeNe profit from the entertainment world,her family profit also. Peter, be the respectable and mature man that you are and don't feed NeNe madness,show her love. I love all of you all, we need to stick together,first we are human beings with feelings and they get hurt easy. Stay true to yourself and the people you Love. God bless you all! Just a little reminder!

K-dog
K-dog

where did you get the bracelets you wore on watch what happens live with nene and andy? they were fabulous

DAISY 1
DAISY 1

LOVE YOU ON THE SHOW..... ALWAYS LISTEN TO THAT LITTLE VOICE..... I AM JUST SAYING.... SEEM LIKE PETER CAN BE A LITTLE CONTROLLING?????? BE CAREFUL...... NENE IS YOUR FRIEND SHE IS REALLY IN A BAD PLACE NOW... SHE NEEDS YOUR LOVE AND SUPPORT... PETER KNOWS THIS AND YET HE COMPLAINS ABOUT YOU TALKING TO NENE... HE SHOULD BE COMMENDING YOU ON BEING A FRIEND TO NENE INSTEAD HE'S WHINING LIKE A BABY..... BE CAREFUL OF THESE SIGNS... MEN WILL TRY AND ALIENATE FAMILY AND FRIENDS... BE CAREFUL....... THAT HAS BEEN ON MY MIND..... AND WANTED TO SHARE... GOD BLESS

ShawnaLanne
ShawnaLanne

On/off topic but Noelle's dad's spot in the Just Like a Prayer video is one of the most memorable video's I've ever seen. His eyes are just so beautiful.

Anyhow, I know it's not the end of the season, but I really hope you do marry and have another baby. Your fiance seems like a wonderful man, if a bit possessive sometimes and there is something wonderful about him when he talks of his kids. I hope you two do marry and have a child together. Best wishes.

that's~mRs.~TeRRy~2~u
that's~mRs.~TeRRy~2~u

you're just great! real, nice, lol love having you on the show... the other newbee not so much but hope to see you next season too!

Aly Johnson
Aly Johnson

I really like you Cynthia but the jury is out on Peter.

JEAN ROBINSON
JEAN ROBINSON

Cynthia, enjoy getting ready for your marrage to Peter. Leave NeNe along for now. She caused her problem, let her take care of it. She have other friends. I like your mother and sister would like to see them more. You have a very lovely daughter you are raising her right.

JewelB
JewelB

I have to say, that I love your blog. You have a wonderful sense of humor and always crack me. I'm going to comment on the whole Dr. thing just because I once worked in the Accreditation Office of the American Psychological Association. All states have their own criteria for licensing however almost all states require that you graduate from an APA accreditated program in order to be licensed in their state. With that being said, the school he said he graduated from is not APA accreditated and currently doesn't even offer a PhD program. Tiye can not officially call himself a Doctor of Psychology because he is unable to obtain a license. Because he wasn't up front about his "license" and there has been so much speculation, I doubt that he has a license. I hope this clears up that question for you.

aRealBlackWoman
aRealBlackWoman

I'm concerned with your friendship with Nene. I suspect it will blow-up quickly. Women like that in declining marriages always seem to hate and ruin successful relationships - be careful. You wont see her coming. Like you, I'm a tall, beautiful woman and sometimes woman with serious life problems seem to become good friends with me. I love masculine Jamaicans! Used to visit Negril often - If Peter thinks you're talking to Nene too much he's right. While controlling, Jamacaicans are right when it comes to their women. Listen to him and stop letting Nene flirt with your man in public. She wasn't flirting with men in public before Greg lost interest in her, right? Your life and fame is stable, Nene's is not. Be careful. Nene's jealouse of everyone and it shows! She's not on your level. Your neighborhood selection is authentic, not like someone extremely "new". I do have a beauty tip question, your sister is younger with forehead wrinkles. What have you done to remove or avoid forehead wrinkles because she's a class act too! Do you mind sharing what've you done hear? Take care and stay strong but keep an eye on Nene. I suspect she'll take someone's husband soon. Kandi's desperate, too many pots in the fire - mentions that Grammy too much. She too could take lessons from you. No reason to keep mentioning historical sucess. Sorry "Tardy For the Part" is not a major sucess. I hope her genuine personality rubs off on you. The rest of the country is not that familiar with Escape - can you share that with her? Suggest all flame is fleeing - Escape is history along with her voice. Sorry - but I think you're the only RHOA that's living for today and understand you've started a new chapter in life.

Valbee
Valbee

I wanted to like Peter so badly because he is fine as frog hair and I love Black Love but I don't like how he treats Cynthia (at least what they show on air). He seems very controlling and insecure in the way Cynthia feels about him.

His marriage proposal should have been just between the 2 of them if he knew that's what she preferred. When he said "I knew what she wanted but I did what I wanted to do.." That made me hope that she pulled a Runaway Bride on his ass. Everything doesn't have to be for show!

Sidenote: I love this blog. It shows Cynthia's funny/silly side that wasn't shown on the show.

Sharon from NY
Sharon from NY

Lovin' You! My comment on your first blog was pretty harsh. And I enjoy being wrong here. You are so real and totally freakin' funny! Keep doing what you do!