Cynthia Bailey

Cynthia introduces us to her feisty alter-ego.

on Oct 19, 20100

The great thing about an opinion is that everybody has one. I know I do, and so does my alter ego Miss Cindi B. Last week I told you all about me, but I neglected to tell you about the evolution of Miss Cindi B. While filming the show as a first time "housewife," I sometimes found myself in situations that were very uncomfortable for me to deal with. Enter Miss Cindi B.! She stepped right in and pulled me through. The funny thing is, I think that she has always been there, but lately she can't seem to stay out of the spotlight. It's not that she’s mean-spirited; she just tells it like it is. Looking back on my first blog, I think you got your first taste of her then. Going forward, I thought it only appropriate that she be properly introduced. We might be holding peaches, but everything isn't always "peaches and cream!"

So where was I? Yes, Episode 3. I enjoyed talking to my sister about my issues with getting married. Malorie and I are very close. She is one of few that I can talk to about anything. It is really important to me that you guys understand this whole wedding/engagement thing. My mom has been married twice in her life, and in both of those relationships she endured physical and mental abuse. Unfortunately, Mal and I were there to witness some of those painful episodes. We were between the ages 5-17 years old. It killed me to see my mother being mistreated. I vowed that I would never be in her shoes. Being the oldest, I think I took it worse than Mal did and always tried to protect her. She doesn't seem to remember some of the things that I can't seem to forget. It is pretty clear from the episode that she has emotionally blocked out most of those childhood memories. I just remember feeling so helpless and confused as to why my mother could not free herself of abuse. We have since talked about it, since I am grown, and now I understand. It still upsets deeply, but I do now understand. However, my mother's abuse did have a lifelong affect on how I view men and my relationships with them. I was afraid to trust and always felt safer alone and living by my own rules. This attitude made me incredibly independent, but left me also very empty. It took me a long time to realize how much my past still affects me. There are no words to describe how much I love and adore my mother. After all, there is nothing like a mother's love. It still makes me extremely sad to know how much my mother went through to protect and shelter us. What a price to have paid. I love you, mom.

81 comments
anisa54
anisa54

i love your style and your personality. i enjoy watching you from week to week, ur very chill. stay that way :)

Smalltownsista
Smalltownsista

Yes she is. Just want to share one thing: My great grandmother told me, before she passed away at 103 years young, "you can get married when you can't do nothing else". Cynthia please get married, or not, on your own terms and on your own time. If he loves you he'll understand and wait. If he doesn't then that's o.k. too. Good Luck, Be Blessed!

sassyshawn
sassyshawn

GOOOOOOOOO CYNTHIA- IM WITH YOU ON APOLLO!!!

Vera Espada
Vera Espada

2 things that had me lmao:

1. from your blog, "Fresh bacon or processed foods? Hmm, I'm going to leave this one alone."

2. from this week's preview. "Apollo taking showers in prison is the only way he can be cleaner than my man"

high-larious!!!!!

Sunta
Sunta

Finally a really classy housewife!!

lamrod
lamrod

I can't wait to see Monday show.

JBespn
JBespn

I'm loving that you are keeping it classy on the show.

queenmrs.
queenmrs.

I think me and Miss Cindy B would have a ball over a margarita or tea. Love it, love you and stay true. If viewers pay close attention, they will see how your life is complete with or without the affiliation of the other cast members. The good things is, you are an example to show others how they can be friendly and not necessarily be friends with everyone.

new york sista
new york sista

Love,love love ,you.Now finally ,a really stylish girl.Excuse me ,llove kandi ,too

atlgirl27
atlgirl27

Has anyone ever told you that your sister looks like Kita from the T.O. Show? Anyway, if you're not sure about marrying the guy, don't. I'm not sure if you have yet, or not, but IMO it's not right for someone to give you an ultimatum when it comes to marriage! That's a big step, girl... I just hope you sign(ed) a prenup!

lyn33
lyn33

I can't to see you on the next week show.

tgait304
tgait304

Cyn...I love love love you...I mean I love Miss Cindi B. too...She literally cracks me the hell up. I mean you do call it and nail it right on the head. Keep it real Girl

LKG
LKG

A breath of fresh air. I think ur a beautiful person and I love that you are a part of the show.

princess_workstoomuch
princess_workstoomuch

You are a very beautiful girl. I am looking forward to see you let your guard down a little so we can meet the down to earth Cindy soon. Oh, and seeing no reason nottt to marry a man is not a good reason. Like other comments before me...you should be jumping for joy in anticipation if he was the right one. You can afford to take your time and meet that special one who will make you feel that way. Love your sister!!

Viewer LA
Viewer LA

i think your Pretty Cool Miss Cindi B....and i hope just looking at the previews for next week, you put that fake a** Phaedra in her place...cause just watching how, you was saying you and your finacee' live together and she bust out well me and apollo didn't move in together until we was actually married...maybe cause i only saw a snippet, that how she said that kinda pissed me off...like she was looking down on you or something....and then her "everybody who's a model don't mean they pretty" like really what was she trying to say? i think Phaedra is a hater! and i hope you check her seriously...btw you and NeNe one of ya'll need to give that "southern belle" a reality check! but anyways look for to seeing more of you this season and less of phaedra Ugh!

bobbe
bobbe

Cynthia you are simply beautiful! I love your style. You have brought class to the Atlanta housewives show.

KeaNixon
KeaNixon

You are just all types of amazing! I was afraid that with Lisa gone the new girls would be atrocius. And let me say YOU'RE not! Keep doing it diva!

hey lady
hey lady

you are so great on the show, love your presence!!

NESA
NESA

simply beautiful

soulasylum
soulasylum

Pretty Cynthia.......you do what you want but I think you ought to find a way to meet Tyler Perry........you two would not only be beautiful together, but you would understand one another. Did you see his visit on Oprah today?? If you did then you will know what I mean when I tell you that you and he could definitely ease the pain and maximize the gain. Figure out a way to meet him, no offense to your current man, I apologize because I know this sounds unkind. Just if you are not jumping up and down to marry him, then you need to think about that. Blessings..........love you and Cyndi B.

Gail Hudson
Gail Hudson

I can't wait to see more of you on the show Cindi B, you're My Favorite.

In awe
In awe

You are by far the most beautiful of all housewives of ANY season and ANY location. In terms of composure, grace, and genuiness you and Kandi are tied.

Carolyn L
Carolyn L

Hi Cynthia, follow your heart and you do what you feels is right, don't let those horrific experiences with your mom stop you from getting married. not all men are abusive. whatever choice you make enjoy your life and have fun while your at it. I wish you guys all the best.

Stacey the Cat
Stacey the Cat

Just dropping by to say you are one of my favorite people EVER!!!! And that Phaedra is a HATER!!!

lyn33
lyn33

I love the way you are presenting yourself..with class.

dirtyred
dirtyred

I would love to hear what Miss Cindi B thinks of Phaedra comments regarding white household.

kahari
kahari

I remember you on the Cosby Show..You haven't aged a bit..Still looking good.

Joe75
Joe75

You are my favorite by far..

army bratt
army bratt

Can we see more of you and less of Phaedra please..

annie75
annie75

Miss Cindi B...I understand you are going to have plenty to say when it comes to the other housewives because they are a hot mess, especially the other new girl..But please don't lose yourself while doing it..I think you are a classy beautiful woman..

vee12
vee12

Who did we need to call to see more of Cynthia Bailey?

JBespn
JBespn

It's really great to see you are close to your family..I haven't seen that in the other housewives..

lamrod
lamrod

I am definitely on the Team Cynthia crew..You rock Miss thing..

butterfly diva
butterfly diva

Big welcome to the Atlanta Housewives..We love your classy attitude.

eve4ever
eve4ever

Cynthia, I understand your position completely. Please do no make this good man pay for the deed of the bad men you've had in your life. This is easier said than done, trust that your man loves you and your daughter and move forward with your life.

k hamilton
k hamilton

Miss cindi b i love your honesty and candor. You are classy thats what this show needs

Faithful Watcher
Faithful Watcher

Welcome to the show. You bring a much added balance and flair. Will be keeping my eye on you this season.

Debbie Ann
Debbie Ann

How gorgeous are you?!! And how precious is your beautiful little daughter. Also that man of yours is very handsome and seems so loving toward you. What a great couple! You seem to have it all with no air about you. I hope everything work out with your marriage. I'll be watching to see what happens next! Luv you already!

XOXO
XOXO

I think you are GREAT addition to this cast .... look forward to the season.

BamatoHotlanta
BamatoHotlanta

Cynthia you are a breath of fresh air for the Real Housewives and reality t.v. in general. I had made up my mind that I wasn’t going to watch this show this season but you have single handedly changed my opinion of the show. You bring a level of beauty, class and sophistication that wasn’t there before! Keep doing what you are doing and setting the bar of excellence for those other Diva-Lettes! The Real Women of Atlanta are watching You and we are talking about you girl and it is All Good! Peace & Love ~ A.T.

Ceeceebravoteevee
Ceeceebravoteevee

Hi Cynthia,

You're the first housewife I've ever posted a comment to. My sister and I are 11 months apart too. So when you said you two were practically twins, I laughed because my mom used to dress us alike in the first three or four years. Pray on whether or not you want to really get married. You might be by now anyway, but I hope you made the right choice for you and your daughter. Don't let mom's life be the deciding factor though. It's good to recognize it, but remember that it is meant for you to talk it out in order for you to move on. I'm sure you are doing just that. Keep rocking, girl!

Brattus Rattus
Brattus Rattus

Still trying to figure out why your're on the show - In a good way! All of the other ladies (except Kandi) are a bit touched. Phedra (how ever you spell it) makes my skin crawl. Nene is...Nene. Sheree loves herself wayyyyy to much to even be likeable. Kim is just too caught up in that "Lady Gago" moment that is going to blow up in her face.

You and Kandi seem to be beautiful from the inside out. Keep it up!

RHOA Fan
RHOA Fan

Cynthia, you are becoming my favorite housewife. You tell the truth about your co-starts and do it with humor.

karentc
karentc

DO IT, DO IT, DO IT, marry the man! Wait until the day of the wedding before getting your ring. Why are you so scared? You can not dictate your life by past family marriages. You would think if you came from a broken home you would try even harder to make it work. Everyone in my family were divorced, mom and dad, both sisters. That just made me more determined to make my marriage work, married at 18, two great kids by 20. It will be 36 yrs come next March. It is work, but if you have love, trust, commitment, ect., it will and does work!!

Gladys2
Gladys2

I also have friends in my head, my favorite is Gladys. Listen to your heart and the voice in your head. (Cindi B) stay as u are. What I like about you, you don't have to tell people how classy, or southern lady like you are, it just comes through. At least no one has called either of you out.

chuckwheat
chuckwheat

cynthia bailey you are the epitome of true style and grace a legend in the making i cant wait to see u on the next show

sanray
sanray

I just love you. You seem like a well educated woman with a lot of class and I really hope to see more of you and your sister just loved the conversation between you two last night.