The great thing about an opinion is that everybody has one. I know I do, and so does my alter ego Miss Cindi B. Last week I told you all about me, but I neglected to tell you about the evolution of Miss Cindi B. While filming the show as a first time "housewife," I sometimes found myself in situations that were very uncomfortable for me to deal with. Enter Miss Cindi B.! She stepped right in and pulled me through. The funny thing is, I think that she has always been there, but lately she can't seem to stay out of the spotlight. It's not that she’s mean-spirited; she just tells it like it is. Looking back on my first blog, I think you got your first taste of her then. Going forward, I thought it only appropriate that she be properly introduced. We might be holding peaches, but everything isn't always "peaches and cream!"
So where was I? Yes, Episode 3. I enjoyed talking to my sister about my issues with getting married. Malorie and I are very close. She is one of few that I can talk to about anything. It is really important to me that you guys understand this whole wedding/engagement thing. My mom has been married twice in her life, and in both of those relationships she endured physical and mental abuse. Unfortunately, Mal and I were there to witness some of those painful episodes. We were between the ages 5-17 years old. It killed me to see my mother being mistreated. I vowed that I would never be in her shoes. Being the oldest, I think I took it worse than Mal did and always tried to protect her. She doesn't seem to remember some of the things that I can't seem to forget. It is pretty clear from the episode that she has emotionally blocked out most of those childhood memories. I just remember feeling so helpless and confused as to why my mother could not free herself of abuse. We have since talked about it, since I am grown, and now I understand. It still upsets deeply, but I do now understand. However, my mother's abuse did have a lifelong affect on how I view men and my relationships with them. I was afraid to trust and always felt safer alone and living by my own rules. This attitude made me incredibly independent, but left me also very empty. It took me a long time to realize how much my past still affects me. There are no words to describe how much I love and adore my mother. After all, there is nothing like a mother's love. It still makes me extremely sad to know how much my mother went through to protect and shelter us. What a price to have paid. I love you, mom.
Cynthia/Cindi B. I love your additude and personality!! You are my favorite housewife followed by NeNe and then Kandi!! I don't care too mcuh for Sheree ---she seems to be very pretentious!! Kim ... whatever!! Phaedra ... the WORSE housewife ever, with her bourgiese self! Ms. Bailey ---you ROCK! Go on girly with ya bad self!!
You are very interesting! I can't wait to c how you "play out"! Very beautiful and classy - w an edge!
Cynthia, you are insanely gorgeous. What a relief to see a LEGITIMATE person from the fashion industry finally on board with this show...the first two seasons were hot messes with this editon of the franchise's forays into the fashion world, lol.Wishing you continued blessings, may you stay ever graceful, and... since you mentioned last blog you still have your old trusty bible from your teenage years, if you ever find a need for a little spiritual encouragement against old traumas, thought patterns and strongholds that keep us modern ladies so guarded- a group of American girlfriends and I checked out Beth Moore's "Breaking Free" ; that bible study is THE hotness (if there IS such a thing where spiritual growth is concerned, haha). Best wishes and much success as the new wife on board. We're all looking forward to the new mix of ladies on the show!
Hello Cynthia, Welcome to House Wives! I think you fit right in hun, lol. I encourage you to work on your unresovled issues and biases with marriage..,.it seems to be strongholds and generational issues but YOU and your sister have the power to break them and not led a life a emptiness. Take care hun!
You are beautiful, classy and have done very well for yourself. Do not let bad experiences your poor mother had stop you from having a wonderful life. Not all men are the same. Your partner seems to be very well put together, a successful business man, and very handsome. Don't let love pass you by. You obviously love him, marry the man. Enjoy your life and let yourself go. Marriage is what YOU make it. If he treated you badly, you would not be with him. Marriage will not change that. Let yourself go, hun, give him the committment he wants.
Cynthia So far you seem to be the most authentic person on the show. And, you're a beautiful woman. Your fiance seems like a terrific man and very handsome. YOU have to decide what's best for you in terms of marriage, but he seems like a great catch. I hope that you stay classy for the rest of the season!
You're right on as usual Miss Bailey! Those moment s had me laughing and thinking the same thoughts also.
I wish you the best with everything, and remember, you have to do what's right for you! My mother was abused also, and I nearly ended my life trying to please others and not thinking enough of myself.
It's Cynthia time!!
You've lived abroad so I know you can handle yourself. Can't wait to see you handle "Fakedra". Apollo seems really sweet, but that woman is a mess. I'm glad you know how to be yourself. That's why I love Nene and now Sheree, they try to be themselves. I think you add class and more spice to the housewives.
Sophisticated, well-mannered, honest, not a show off although there's lots to show...keep up the good work
I enjoyed watching you again last night. You and sister seem really close. Too funny when she called you out for being engaged more than 3 times..
Wow you are so brave to be so open and honest about your story and about growing up with your mom. I really admire you. I feel like I can think more about my relationship more honestly now because of you. I love Cindi B and Cynthia!
Also I love the fact that your sister works for you. You guys seem like you have a great relationship. I think you should go ahead and give her a raise! LOL!
Miss Cindi B u need to talk about some folk because Fakedra needs to be called out bad..And please don't forget about Kim.
You were amazing as usual..We still don't know much about you..Maybe your sister Malorie will give us some dirt..
I just love you. You seem like a well educated woman with a lot of class and I really hope to see more of you and your sister just loved the conversation between you two last night.
cynthia bailey you are the epitome of true style and grace a legend in the making i cant wait to see u on the next show
I also have friends in my head, my favorite is Gladys. Listen to your heart and the voice in your head. (Cindi B) stay as u are. What I like about you, you don't have to tell people how classy, or southern lady like you are, it just comes through. At least no one has called either of you out.
DO IT, DO IT, DO IT, marry the man! Wait until the day of the wedding before getting your ring. Why are you so scared? You can not dictate your life by past family marriages. You would think if you came from a broken home you would try even harder to make it work. Everyone in my family were divorced, mom and dad, both sisters. That just made me more determined to make my marriage work, married at 18, two great kids by 20. It will be 36 yrs come next March. It is work, but if you have love, trust, commitment, ect., it will and does work!!
Cynthia, you are becoming my favorite housewife. You tell the truth about your co-starts and do it with humor.
Still trying to figure out why your're on the show - In a good way! All of the other ladies (except Kandi) are a bit touched. Phedra (how ever you spell it) makes my skin crawl. Nene is...Nene. Sheree loves herself wayyyyy to much to even be likeable. Kim is just too caught up in that "Lady Gago" moment that is going to blow up in her face.
You and Kandi seem to be beautiful from the inside out. Keep it up!
You're the first housewife I've ever posted a comment to. My sister and I are 11 months apart too. So when you said you two were practically twins, I laughed because my mom used to dress us alike in the first three or four years. Pray on whether or not you want to really get married. You might be by now anyway, but I hope you made the right choice for you and your daughter. Don't let mom's life be the deciding factor though. It's good to recognize it, but remember that it is meant for you to talk it out in order for you to move on. I'm sure you are doing just that. Keep rocking, girl!
Cynthia you are a breath of fresh air for the Real Housewives and reality t.v. in general. I had made up my mind that I wasn’t going to watch this show this season but you have single handedly changed my opinion of the show. You bring a level of beauty, class and sophistication that wasn’t there before! Keep doing what you are doing and setting the bar of excellence for those other Diva-Lettes! The Real Women of Atlanta are watching You and we are talking about you girl and it is All Good! Peace & Love ~ A.T.
How gorgeous are you?!! And how precious is your beautiful little daughter. Also that man of yours is very handsome and seems so loving toward you. What a great couple! You seem to have it all with no air about you. I hope everything work out with your marriage. I'll be watching to see what happens next! Luv you already!
Welcome to the show. You bring a much added balance and flair. Will be keeping my eye on you this season.
Cynthia, I understand your position completely. Please do no make this good man pay for the deed of the bad men you've had in your life. This is easier said than done, trust that your man loves you and your daughter and move forward with your life.
It's really great to see you are close to your family..I haven't seen that in the other housewives..