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Dwight gives us his side of the $10,000 argument.

Oct 18, 2010

I think it is embarrassing for adults to behave like children! It's ignorant and very unfortunate. First of all Gregg came to me and asked me to lend him some money, $10,000, as a favor. I admittedly only had $500 to spare, and that's what I lent him. Nene is married to Gregg, so Gregg needed to tell Nene that he borrowed money from me. If he could not tell her about the loan, then that speaks volumes about their marriage. And besides, it was a gentleman's agreement. He asked that I not mention it to Nene, and in respect to what he was trying to do for his family, I honored his wish.

The bottom line is, if Nene needed to be in anyone's face, she needed to be in her husband's face ... period! Now let's get to my big picture. Gregg never paid me back in the time frame that he promised, and I made no fuss to Gregg about it. 

A few epiphanies here: How can you trust the word of Kim, the very person you argued with for being a liar. Kim twisted the truth. I did tell Kim that Greg asked me for a $10,000 loan. I never said I lent him $10,000! Hell, I was struggling like everybody else in this bad economy! And you know what the truth is, if I had $10,000, I would have lent it to the Gregg. By the way it is quite telling that Kim repeated what I (supposedly) had to say, but never told Nene what she had to say! Nene should read her own book where she decries domestic violence! Violence is violence sweetie. We must set the example for our fans, friends, family and particularly our children.

Now, I'm through ... and Kim should just come clean about everything she had to say about Nene, Gregg, and Sheree.

Dwight!

 

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But...part of a gentleman's agreement is not telling someone else about the other man asking you for a loan. You telling Kim he asked for the loan but then saying you didn't give the loan is just splitting hairs, it's not keeping up your end of the bargain. Of course he should have told Nene, but who are you to tell Kim?

Dwight - in your blog post, you reference how you only had $500 & if you had $10,000 - you would have lent it to Greg. Yet in episode 3, you have a meeting with Sherri and say that you put in $30,000 of your own money for her fashion show. It seems you have money when it's "convenient" for your purposes.

Thank you for your offering your view on this controversy, Dwight. I applaud you for keeping your cool when confronted by "the gang"...

and we wonder why many children in our society today resort to vile, disrespectful behaviors.

I feel bad for the way NENE reacted with you. but its not just kim being a fake. nene is worse. dd u see how NENE was acting when kim was suppose to come over for the first time.......come on that was embaressing. Nene is always talking about how she doesnt like backstabbing, but she is the one who does it all the time. She is always talking about someone, and loud and crazy. She needs to get take a good look at herself............thank God nowu know how she really is. but i think youve known that for a while now...lol

You were a favorite before this season. Now you come off as a gossip, disloyal, quasi-liar and a follower of where the popularity wind blows-apparently at Phaedrea's house. Hope you redeem yourself (if you can).

Dwight.....I believe you.

I love me some Dwight!!!!

Let me first just say that Dwight you should not had let Greg borrow no money no matter what or how much is or was. Like NeNe said you is not Greg friend you are NeNe friend, so if he came to you for money you shoulda of told NeNe right away and then all this mess woulda never happen, Now I am not saying I agree with the way NeNe treated you cause I don't. but at the end of the day NeNe is a "SHOW GIRL" and anywhere she go she like to put on a show.

Dwight, I feel so sorry for you. I told Nene on her blog that I was surprised that she would trust Kim when Kim kicked her to the ucrb last year, called her a moose and several other things. You were there for her and you were good friends. But Nene believed Kim without even talking to you. Kim is very jealous of your relationship with Nene and I think she used it to get back in good with Nene. It "appears" as if Nene's has fallen for it. too bad. Kim really is a snake.

It ceased to be a gentleman's agreement when Gregg didn't pay him back. Dwight couldn't go and tell Nene that her husband had borrowed money from him.

He only had $500.00 to spare. He spent his money helping Sheree.

I don't think that the issue was the money. It was the fact that you shared it with other people. A little tasteless. But, no one is perfect. I still think you have great qualities. But, a lot gossiping goes on. I have learned not to share private conversations. It doesn't make for a healthy friendship.

I'm glad that you were able to share your side about the loan with Gregg; however, Dwight, you also showed that you really can't be trusted. Gregg came to you as a man and asked for a loan. You gave what you could. You respected his wishes of not telling Nene about it, but you told Kim. Regardless of whether Kim and Nene were speaking or not, that was very malicious of you. I don't blame the cast members for feeling the way they do about you after this. The next time you feel you need to share someone's business, write it down then burn it... A little advice, continue on the path that you are and the only person that will associate themself with you will be yourself.

I wish you just explained what happened & apologized for telling Kim .... instead you squirm around - not attractive !!! and by the way WE ALL make misatkes - just own up without tattle telling on everyone else

Dwight, that's weak. You admit you told Kim Gregg asked you for $10,000, so calling her a liar is muddying the issue and splitting hairs. She didn't lie. The point is, as Kim told Nene, if you felt you needed to keep it a secret from Nene, you should have kept it a secret period and not spread their personal business all over town. Was you telling everybody BUT Nene part of the "Gentleman's Agreement"? Take responsibility for once, don't blame everybody else.

Dwight I loved you from the begining to last season. You have changed your whole attitude is different this season you stuck up under Mrs.Parks is not a good look for you.I feel you better off with NeNe than Mrs.Parks she bitter stuck on herself an just arrogant an if thats a southern bell hell I don't know what that makes me cause i'm a true Bell myself and I act nothin like her.

Dwight...You could have saved yourself a lot of embarrassment - and you could have redeemed yourself - had your blog posting been one that began with "I was wrong. I should never have told Kim about Greg's request." Instead, you took this as an opportunity to play the "she did it, too" game. Tacky. If you wanted to be a 'gentleman,' then you should have simply kept the secret between you and Greg. You are not responsible for Kim's behavior - but you are responsible for your own.

well said XOXO, very well said!

I think that this is some BS i dnt believe Dwight gave Gregg or Sheree ANY MoNEY and that whole sit down he had wit Sheree wordS speak VOLUMEs and Dwight was muTE

Dwight, bless you for not stooping to Nene's level. I agree with other that perhaps you shouldn't have shared the information but I also agree that Nene should have been upset with Greg, not you. I also read this week that Greg acknowledged the truth of what you are saying and Nene owes you an apology.

Dwight - I applaud your response to NeNe truly ugly behavior. To say you have class and behave the way she did. Embarrassing. Stay true to self.

Now we have the truth. People make mistakes and I hope people will always remember the truth will always set you free.

I think what was most upsetting was the fact that Nene thought you were her friend, and when you said you were sorry and that you learned from this experience and so did Nene, that was a backward apology, if I ever heard one! Nene learned you are not a friend, and her feelings were really hurt. But you were not seeing or feeling that at all You are now Phaedra's friend apparently, and that is a big mistake. What I see about Phaedra is that she is a very selfish woman who obviously has a bad view about white people. When she talks to her husband, she has derogatory things to say about white people, which are totally off the wall. She really turned me off. Good luck with that Dwight!

That was your first mistake. If you promised Greg not to tell Nene, then why you tell anyone else? Especially Kim? not a bright move. You should never told anyone period. Nene has a right to be mad at you and Greg. You both lied to her. I don't believe Kim had it wrong. You just said he askled for $10,000 but that you only gave him 5. Did Kim just pull $10,000 out of her ***? don't think so. HOpe you learned a lesson

Dear Dwight 1st you made the fashion show totally, 2rd thank you for being the friend to some of the biggest egos in Atlanta.Keep doing what you are doing,

I totally agree with Sharon35. You should never have lent Greg any money. And how is it that he is talking to you without Nene knowing? You should have told Nene about this instead of gossiping about how much you lent Greg, etc...that was no one's business...besides, real gentlemen do not gossip! If you think you did this for attention and ratings knowing the consequences- that it would get back to Nene, it worked. I guess you will survive another season since you went the slimy way about betraying a friend on national tv- that's great for ratings, right?

blah blah blah Dwight you are still Dwrong, if it was a gentleman's agreement then why did you even mentioned to Kim ugh? blah blah blah DWRONG!

Dwight, I feel when Gregg camed to you about the money you should've explained to him that he needed to speak with his wife about whatever financial situation he may have been going through-I believe that would've have shown your loyalty to Nene. Nene's right, you were her friend, not Gregg's. Because you guys handled this behind her back & because you told Gregg's business to Kim is why this blew up the way it did. When you lend money to a friend you're not suppose to go around talking about it...point blank! You ALL are accountable for your actions. Gregg should've talked with his wife first..forget gentleman's agreement, his loyalty & agreement is to his wife & your loyalty was with your friend (Nene). Lesson learned for everyone involved. Now that you've all realized this, it's time to forgive & move on.

Ohh Honey!!!! The claws finally came out!

I have a lil somethings for all of them. First, I think they are all wonderful people, but they are no different than anyone else. First, I think Kim has no real care in the world because she has taken Kandi for a loop.She used her in getting her to record a song and then doesn't pay her for it ( what friend does that) Nene blows up as soon as she hears something that she doesn't like, but I appreciate her no nonsense attitude, Shree', child please, she talk a good game, but she aint talking about nothing. When Dwight told her about the seamtress, she immediately said "for that", and didnt even mention about te fact of what it was um, he indeed PAID for the person for HER show. Pheadra, is spoiled, as she should be getting used to that attorney life style, but don't forget Athens is the country, u had bad like some other people, some of the time. And as for the model, I don't think she is ready to be married to her man, she is too unsure about too many things, but I am loving the way she is reasonable about thinking some things through, like she should.

I understand the explanation, but the issue was the betrayal, confiding in Kim when you really should have told Gregg (as a gentleman) NO.It appears that you have become apart of keeping the drama brewing which is good for ratings. I commend you for getting your 15 minutes of gossip in. I'm not mad at you. I'm glad you & NeNe came to terms with this issue.

Dwight you were wrong period. I do believe you CAN be friends with Nene and her husband Gregg and it was not your place to tell Nene. My husband and I share friends and thats healthy so Nene needs to calm down about you betraying her. However if that was the stance you took it should of been told to NO ONE. All women gossip did you not know this? why Kim, why someone close to Nene (they always make up) Dwight by no means is anyone perfect but find someone outside the circle to talk/gossip with

Dwight, Your loyalty should have been to your friend 1st and foremost. You broke that trust and loyalty by going into a gentlemen's agreement with her husband. For her husband to go behind her back and ask you for money should have prompted you to go to NeNe. I really hoped you have learned a lesson from this experience.

Dwight, Your blog is one of the better written ones...thank you. Now the question...when will all of you realize that NOTHING said to Kim is confidential? It appeared in seasons 1 and 2 that you and Nene were close friends and you definitely knew how volatile the relationship was between Nene and Kim so despite your explanation, I think sharing it with Kim was terrible judgment. I agree with the other bloggers, you need to stay away from the wanna -be southern belle...Ms. Phaedra has issues!

You answer alot of questions in your blog BUT what are you implying @ domestic abuse and NENE should read her own book? Why do you talk in circles - speak the truth - IT WILL SET YOU FREE! and make your life alot easier!

Own what you did! You ran your mouth and put Gregg's business out. You have learned a valuable lesson here. Stop gossiping and for Pete's sake, you said that to Kim of all people? What where you thinking? Your gossiping was the cause of this entire fiasco, however, I do agree that NeNe took her wrath out on the wrong person. She should have addressed it with her husband, and on the same token, you should have been a man of your word. You are not innocent in all of this, but NeNe's behavior was absolutely unacceptable. She was just being her ghetto, alley, self. I don't expect much and I wish she would stop trying to act like she is above everyone and has class. Money can't buy you class. And another thing, you cracked me up when you said something to the effect of you being a tiger when you are forced into a corner. It must have been Tony the Tiger, more like Tigger, because when she backed you into the corner, all you could do is call on others to get her out of your face. But, I guess I understand because she was out of control and might have tried to swing. Now, that would have been ugly! Word for the Day: Integrity

Dwight..the best combinations on this show are you and Nene and Nene and Kim. I think that being said You were wrong X's 10 for telling Kim anything about Greg's needing to borrow money from you. This was between the two of you so why bring anyone else into it? As you mentioned about the past friction between Nene and Kim, so why would you tell her of all people?!!It seems a little suspect to me. I think you and Kim are in competition for Nene's friendship and you both will end up on the outs in the long run.

All i got to say is this if the Economy was sooo bad that you couldn't lend greg 10,000 but it was ok for you to give sheree 30,000 for her show.....

Presumably, Ms. Whitfield's fashion show happened before Mr. Leakes asked for the loan. It's plausible that after laying out 30K that he no longer had 10K to lend anyone else. This is just based on what has been said all around.

Fair enough. It doesn't justify Mr. Eubanks failing to be a gentleman.

You can't just call yourself a gentleman when it's convenient. Conduct yourself with dignity all the time, AND don't make claims about being superior (more trustworthy/more adult/more composed/classier/insert whatever).

Mr. Eubanks,

Throwing jabs is not the same as being blameless. Mrs. Leakes marriage is not your concern. She fully admitted that she lost control, and yelling is not the same as being physically assaulted. It's ghoulish that you would compare the two experiences. What Ms. Zolciak did or did not say is not relevant to whether you 1) spoke about a matter concerning your supposed friend to someone you do not care for at all, like petty gossip or 2) you misrepresented the nature of your dealings with the husband of a friend.

On the first, you said what you said to whoever. So, own it. On the second, you did not give Mrs. Leakes an accurate play by play. If Mr. Leakes asked for 10K and received 500, then you should have been plain about that the first time you had a conversation with Mrs. Leakes.

I think you're embarassed, upset, and a little bit ashamed that you got caught out and publicly thrown out of Mrs. Leakes life.

Coastline you are 100% CORRECT in your assessment of Dwight's behavior. He has loss me as a fan. Friends don't tell friends personal business!

Dwight- You should have known better than to tell Kim anything!

Dwight, you should have told Greg that he needs to speak to his wife before loaning the money. If he insisted, then you should have told Nene, not anyone else, especially Kim. That's when it became gossip. You should have known better. Also, if you spend $30,000 on a show, you should have the expenses itemized so that when you talked with Sheree, you could tell her specifically what you spent it on. In fact, when the expenses were reaching over $1000, I would have told her something. $30,000 is hard to believe that someone would just spend that on an event that is not your's.

right,that's what im saying...Dwight you just trying to make yourself good. If the economy was in such bad shape,why in the hell would you lend Sheree 30,000 for copies from Kinkos???...I'm waiting

Whatever he had so much crap to say behind her back and when he got called out on it he didn't say anything but your a tiger and you'll fight....rite...

Ok let's not take the casts lives so personally. Yes this could have all played out differently. Who's to say any of this is even true? Let's just see what happens next. That is why the show is split up into epsiodes. But if anyone wants my opinion, I must agree that because NeNe n Dwight r "friends" the loan should have never taken place without NeNe's permission whether Gregg approached Dwight or not. But that's just my opinion. lol

I'd have much more sympathy for you if you hadn't told KIM!!!! Of course she would tell Nene and spin it ugly. So sorry you got caught out there like that and I hope you learned who to trust. You just have to be CAREFUL! You're so swimming with Sharks! And I adore you!