I haven't blogged for what feels like forever. The tour I was on with Fantasia just ended on January 1st, and now I'm back in Atlanta! So I decided to blog a little about last week's and this week's episode. Well last week's episode was interesting. A lot of people were tweeting me asking questions about why I had Kim on tour with me, how I feel about the way Kim talks to Sweetie, why I disrespected Kim (huh?), etc.
First of all after last season during our off time, a promoter paid Kim and I to do a show together and it went really well, so when it was suggested that Kim and I to do another tour together, I was cool with it. We were taping the show, and having her open up for me sounded like something fun to do.
Now as far as how Kim talks to Sweetie, I don't care. Sweetie seems to not have a problem with it. That's their relationship. They talk crazy to each other all the time, and it's no big deal to them. Sometimes she says things to Sweetie that if she said to me I'd be offended by, but hey, she's not talking to me, and Sweetie can speak up for herself if she doesn't like it.
Some of Kim's supporters were tweeting me saying that I disrespected Kim last week. How? I don't think so. Everyone knows that last season NeNe called Kim a monkey with a wig on, so I was just making a joke when they were coming up with alternate names for the Thirsty Beaver. Now my joke may not have been funny to her, but I wasn't trying to disrespect her. Also when Don Juan and Kim were going back and forth about her being risque or not because she did "The Ring Didn't Mean A Thing" while dating a married man, I tried to stay out of their disagreement. But when she said, "Poppa never cheated on me," come on now! You all know that didn't make sense. I couldn't help it. I had to say something!
Now I like to have fun, but when it comes to rehearsals and shows I'm a little more serious. At times it drove me nuts that Kim was so carefree about everything. I understand that she's new to this whole entertainment thing, but it still bugged me. This tour with Kim wasn't a major tour. It was just a promo tour of a few cities where we were performing in clubs, but the fact that it was being taped for the show made it a little stressful. I can't be around cigarette smoke like that. It makes me hoarse. I can't take it. So Kim was kind of annoying me with that. Kim and Sweetie's loudness was bothering me too. I've been on vacation with Kim and Sweetie before, but we would do some things together and then break off and do our own thing and link up later. In other words, we were able to give each other space. On this promo tour we were on most of the time we were on the bus and only in the front living area of the bus, because the crew took up the back room. Needless to say we didn't have that well needed space. I'm real laid back, but when Sweetie and Kim are together they have a lot of high energy going on. Too much for me. So at times I was aggravated. Not to mention I was just tired of the cameras at that point. So if I came off as uptight, maybe I was.
Kandi you seem to be the most real of all the "Housewives". Good luck and best wishes to you this new year.
Kandi, you are the greatest of the "Housewives of Atlanta". Good luck and best wishes to you in this new year.
Sorry, but both you and Kim have talent, but to other viewers - and not everyone is for everyone. As of the last two episodes I am done and no longer watching Real Housewives of Atlanta - there has been way too much DRAMA for my taste -- Sheree is ok it took a while for her to grow on me. NENE just needs to get a life and pay her bills, as her mouth gets her in too much trouble. Cynthia -- is done and over not even worth listening too and then we come to the GREAT BIG FAKE Paedra --- next and move on ---
Hi Kandi, How did you manage to stay sane? Why would Kim take NeNe on the tour bus? Why couldn't NeNe just show up with the other women? Next time taking someone else might be a good idea.
What's up Kandi, I think your right about the Kim & Sweetie relationship, but Kim needs to be carefully around her peers not to get to open with the sista , sista, ebontics. (hehe) We as viewer's know thats she has a sista girl mentality and she feels comfortable around kinfolks. Kim prefers the brothers (hehe) because she has a nice bump, but when it comes down to it she still a southern (gone with the wind) gal.. Love you and keep up the good work! I would like you to do a CD of (old classics) by such artist as Phyllis Hyman, Anita Baker, Regina Belle, Roberta Flack, you know remakes. Your voice is excellent but to resolve your heart from being broken you have to sing the joyful songs too**
This blog is right on. Honestly, I've never heard you say or write something that is petty or untrue. You call it as a normal, rational person sees it. I don't think you were uptight at all, but I do view Kim as slothful, overly entitled, and narcissistic. Nene is a bully who can dish out the worst but can't take the most minor perceived slight. How can she be blind to this? Also, K sucks as a performer. She is dead in the eyes - there is no energy coming from her. It's like she thinks being there is enough. Probably the same in the sack. I hope they don't pressure you to amp up the drama, because it is imperative to have normal people to offset the crazy.
You should be nominated for sainthood for putting up with Kim.I think the reason she and NeNe can't get along is that Kim is so full of herself, and always looking at HERSELF through rose-colored glasses, always making up reasons to excuse WHATEVER she does.And NeNE is just a straight shooter.Got to givve it to NeNe-she doesn't do much talking behind anyones back, she just usually tells them to their face.I think since Kim is obviously so delusional(she still can't sing)maybe it is wrong to keep helping her to do songs.Did I mention she STILL CAN'T SING??????
Well Kandi, I felt so bad for you having to deal with sweetie and Kim that whole bus tour, personally them Biatches would've been on the next thing flying back to the ATL, or end up in the hospital. And if I didn't know any better I would say Kim is the slaved master and sweetie is the slave, simply for the way she treats and talks to her, and for anybody who doesn't see that has issues starting with sweetie...lol and the reason why sweetie is so snappy is probably because she knows thats and feels dumb. But all in all I cant wait till the reunion.
I wish you the best in your future endeavors. But to be taken as a REAL artist and producer, you are going to have to let Kim GO!!!! Who else in the music industry would put up with that. When Big Poppa got her time with a Real producer Dallas Austin, he didn't put up with that crap and told her the truth. No on takes any of you serious as housewives. But you should want to be taken serious as an artist and producer.
You Go Girl. The tour was a success and we want to see more of you. You are such a good friend to help Kim. She is just a little flighty, but I think she does really respect you as a person and appreciates your true friendship. Thank you for not letting the bus incident turn into a full fledged fight. Although it would have been fun to see some hair pulling and cat fighting.
kandi you are the most level headed person on that show the others girls should take notes on how to act in public, treat people, and own what they say. this weeks show just shows how real you are and that everyone has a breaking point! keep being you!
Kandi, Thank you for being you. You really do tell it how it is without bias and with a RATIONAL mind, something many of these wives lack. Also, thank you for sticking up for Kim. While she did come across obnoxious, super materialistic and fame hunting at first, this season she is coming off as a strong woman with rational and maturity. I think being around you helped her chill out in front of the cameras etc. I have no idea why NeNe is so popular, it seems all she does it try to tear other people down, she really does need an anger management class.
anyway, as a songwriter and a future housewife, i think you are very admirable and very, very, lovely
Kandi, you are a sweet woman and I respect your God Given talents and your relationship with your daughter is priceless...I question why you were placed in the situation to be involved with Kim in the first place,people cross our paths, seasonal and some permanately ...I pray for your revelation about Ms. Kim...we only see what media allows us to see. You are in my prayers and I pray no hurt harm or danger to your heart Kandi, or your family...
Kandi, You are so real! You are the only one who stops to think before you react. You don't get sucked into the drama. Kim and NeNe live for the drama. Thanks for keeping it real.
I love you. You keep it real and you are a gifted, talented woman. Please drop Kim. She is not your friend, not talented, and not worth the time and money you are investing in her. There are so many people out there who truly deserve to have their voices heard and are willing to put it in work to accomplish their goals. Kim is NOT one of those people.
Much success with your new album!
How DO you put up with Kim, honestly?!? You have a beautiful spirit! Good luck in all you strive to accomplish!
Kandi First of all I love your new songs. You really are incredibly talented! I hope your album does great! You had to put up with a lot on that bus ride. I like Kim too and think with your help she did both songs pretty well. You are a very giving person and deserve a lot of happiness. I think Kim realizes how fortunate she is to have you for a friend.
. It is so obvious, for some reason, Nene is very jealous of kim. It is amazing to see how badly Nene behaves. She is scary. Really no class at all. She always tries to stir up trouble. Was she going to beat Kim up or choke her again? She is worse the than the kids on Jersey Shore. Nene needs anger managment. I hope you meet a great guy if you haven't already. I am sure you will. You are one of the few who can be proud of how you act on the show. Best Wishes to you! Cathy
Thanks for your take on the fight. Personally I think Nene has gotten too big for her britches. Kim was just being Kim. Good luck with your new/renewed career.
YOU DON'T OWE ANYONE ANY EXPLANATIONS! IF I WAS PLACED ON A BUS WITH THOSE 2 IGNORANT LADIES (LACK OF A BETTER WORD FOR KIM AND HER ASSISTANT), I TRULY WOULD HAVE GOTTEN OFF AND FLOWN TO MY DESTINATION! KIM'S ASSISTANT SHOULD WALK ON HER OUT IF SHE HAD AN OUNCE OF SELF ESTEEM. SHE'S ALLOWED KIM TO STRIP HER OF THAT?!!! WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT YOUNG WOMAN???????? THEN, ADD NENE TO THE MIX!!! CLASSLESS MEETS CLASSLESS! IT WAS YOUR TOUR, YOUR SHOW (FANTASTIC VOICE) AND YOU REALLY DO HAVE THE PATIENCE OF A SAINT. YOU'RE MUCH TOO EDUCATED AND REFINED TO BE AROUND KIM AND NENE. LET THEM GO OFF AND START THEIR OWN BAND--THEY CAN CALL IT "CLASSLESS."
Kandi, You really dont have to explain yourself. Kim is crazy- She knows how to get money though and besides you on this show she seems to have her finaces together. She still owns her cars and her house so kodos to her. But besides that shes a fool and she is not talented at all. Ne Ne needs to learn how to control her anger before she gets arrested. Everyone who watches this show knows that Kim has no talent. Ne Ne did not have to scream on her about that, sometimes things are better left unsaid. NeNe should have had much more class than that. She knows better... Kandi, I think you a strong, talented woman who does not need to explain anything- without you thier would be NO TARDY FOR THE PARTY. I still cant believe Kim did not give you any money off that... Thats Crazy..
Love you and you are one of the professional ones on the show. I know you were helping a friend, but you should drop Kim like a bad habit. She is soooo unprofessional....
I can see where you may have been irritated because she is a bit much!! So high strung with that smoking and all.
Kim likes attention, and she will go the extra mile to get it....Sweety seem to have a good relationship with Kim and her kids...Kim talking to her like that in public is just for the attention and Sweety cannot respond accordingly because she is afraid of being fired, so she' s just "going with the flow"...i am not sure why Kandi is getiing so close to Kim...Kim is very ungrateful, disrespectful and doesnt have any class...and she takes everything for a joke..she needs to understand that business is business...i am happy that Ne Ne fix her busniess and put her in her place...however, Ne Ne could have omitted calling her name to J. Duprie..Kandi, if u mess with trash, it will cover you baby...emancipate yourself honey
Kandi,I think you and Don Juan are great! I also think it's funny that Kim's fans (she really has them?) accused you of being rude to her, since I thought her complete lack of professionalism as a performer and her "up yours" attitude to Don Juan, who should have kicked her ass for her behavior, showed what a self-centered moron she is. As a professional musician who's toured, I know what a managerial nightmare it can be, and Kim did nothing to make things easier. You should have left her on the side of the road.
Kandi I already wanted to give you a medal for making Kim succeed in her 'music' career. Now you deserve a medal and a million dollars for living with Kim and Sweetie in a confined space. I was waiting for you to do a "NeNe-Choke" on Kim or Sweetie. You have such a good soul. That's why God blessed you with such talent.
I totally understand how you feel living in close quarters with a friend. I've been dorming with my friend/roommate since Freshman year and honestly, the stupid comments she makes from time to time annoy the heck out of me! It's hard to be quiet when someone you're close to doesn't think before they speak. Sometimes you need a break from people. Something Sweetie should consider. But, if she can handle the remarks Kim says to her face then she can certain handle a joke from you guys. Anyway.. Love you Kandi, keep up the good work!
Hi Kandi, You have an amazing voice! I would so love to hear you break out in a gospel song, seriously! Now Kim, oh my! The lady has no voice. I can't believe she actually thinks she does. Has she actually heard herself. I'm sorry, but I do have an ear for music, and I've been singing since I was 5 years old.
I've always desired to make an album. It would be christian. I've dedicated my voice to the Lord and to be used for Him only. That's just me. No emotional battering intended. I saythat because it irritates me that someone like her is given such a chance when she can't hold her own without electronic help. Know what I mean? And then me, who can carry a tune in a bucket or anything else, who has never had such an opportunity and probably never will. Can you understand? I hope so.
I sincerely think you are the absolute only "real" person of all the women on the show. The rest seem to have taken selfish advantage of their "limelight". Maybe because you've been doing this long enough that it's just you, that you have never come across to me as being full of yourself. You have always managed to be real on stage and off. Thank you for that. And God bless you!!
Love you Kandi! If I were in your position, i'd keep Kim at arms length. You are the only one on the show thats been a "friend" to her, and she talks nothing but smack behind your back. Friend, I think not. Just my two cents.
Hey Kandi. I'm still mad at you for breaking up my favorite group - Xscape. I know I should be over it. But I miss yall. I was cracking up when you all stopped for food. Kim drinks, smokes, and sleeps with married men but evidently eating meat is where Kim draws the line.
I just wanted to say that i really like the relationship you have with Kim. Kim has issues, but who doesnt? Kim is someone that i would probably be friends with. She's cool, funny, loyal and appears to be a lot of fun.
Now Ne-Ne on the other hand, STAND CLEAR. She is crazy and out of control. I dont trust Ne-Ne at all. She comes across as having a jealous spirit, ghetto fab and somewhat fake. Ugh She gets under my skin.
Hey Kandi!!! I just wanted to stop by and say hey :) I know these shows were taped months ago so this is all old news, but I did feel like you were kinda wrong when it came to Kim (based on what the show shows us). Im sure she's selfish and we don't see everything, and I know that probably there is some type of resentment with "tardy for the party", and it was tight quarters on the bus...lol.... BUT.... I felt like you were not being disrespectful, but a little mean. Don Juan WAS mean. I dunno I guess what I get from Kim is that she IS a pain in the ass, but if you are loyal to her she's got your back. You never see her say anything bad about you even in solo interviews so I guess when you guys were kinda picking at her it was hard to watch. The reason why it's harder to see you get pulled in to the"mean girl" type roll is because you've always carried yourself the total opposite. You're a classy lady and maybe dont even realize how it probably made her feel. NeNe tortures her enough. Although Nene seems like she's ready to dig her claws into anyone who looks at her crooked. Stay you....Fly Above Kandi...Fly Above....LOL
girl why would allow sweetie to talk to you like she did? talk about disrespect, sweetie dis you on your on tour. she would have been on the greyhound bus had it been me. Kim has no respect for you either i didn't know why you continually invest in her she cheated you out of tardy to the party and dis you when you first wrote ring didn't mean a thing and now she and her assistant is on you tour talking about you...wow...that's your girl huh
Kandi, you have great talent and seem down to earth. However, on the tour - frankly I think all you were racist. If the tables had been turned, Al Sharpton would be out front picketing. Enough. If white people go barefoot - who are you to say anything about it. And Nene, I've been a fan - no more - she is trash - worse than Kim and that's pretty trashy. I wouldn't spit on Nene if she was on fire.
I have a problem with how everyone told Kim how she was treating Sweetie. If Sweetie was white would that have been an issue? Would anyone tell Kim that she treats Sweetie wrong, without bringing up race? Yes she treats her unfair sometimes but she does work for Kim. Would anyone come to Sweetie's rescue if she was not black? I just feel that the whole thing went to a place that it did not need to go. I really don't believe Kim was looking at it that way so why were you all?
Kandi I dont understand how is it you invite Kim yet you trash her at every chance you get. She a mess and you knew that from before. You might be a better singer but Zim was more fun.
Kim seems to be ungrateful for the success you have helped her gain and thinks that her songs with her voice will get her a grammy......NOT!!!! However, as far as Kim and sweetie goes she must have low self esteem because Kim is totally disrespectful....Also, I saw them together in the Bahamas with out the cameras and little sweetie was Kims puppet I hope she buys herself a brain with that check she gets from Kim A.KA. Lady GAGA....LOL
Ay, ay, ay...Have never really been one to read blogs and have certainly never commented..But, I just had to after this episode! I must say, NeNe is batsh-t CRAZY! My goodness. Clearly, Kim is a bit over the top...and I commend you for sticking it out in that bus! But, I honestly think she means well and seems like a sweet person...somewhere in there. Haha. But I agree with the a previous comment. How is NeNe so popular?? She is just mean and nasty. I speak my mind and don't bullsh-t, but I don't have to scream and fly off at people. Anyway, again...kudos to you for stayin low key and true to yourself.
Kandi - thank you for blogging!!! I think that your new album has some great songs on it. I hope that it does well. Regarding the Kim and Ne Ne thing, I really wish that you would have told both of them that if they didn't stop, you were going to put put both of their #$@!@# off of YOUR bus. Especially since you now are revealing that the argument was going on and on for an extended period of time. I could go on and on about Ne Ne. You are to nice to say it. Plain and simple she is an ignorant, loud, obnoxious and rude pig of a woman. She just appears to get worse and worse. I saw her on WWHL and she was obnoxious and rude on there also. Not that I wish bad luck on anybody, but she needs something to happen to give her a reality check. Keep doing you Kandi ~ Thanks again for blogging!!! Looking forward to the reunion show.
Kandy , you are the most sane person on this show. Kim is loud and classless. Cynthia is a nutjob! Phaedra is a fake. Sherree is almost normal, although I beleive she has a speech impediment. NeNe, well just let me say I have never seen such a ignorant, classless, female ape on t.v. The fact that she has any fans at all is amazing. Keep being you!
It seems like all three seasons Kim came off as an Idiot and you could really see it during this season especially this latest episode. She just looks and sounds so retarded its not even funny
Kandi you are my favorite cast member of the show but unfortunately I fear for your future as a cast memeber. It's obvious Bravo doesn't like the characters that are classy and drama free. First Deshawn, then Lisa, it's only a matter of time before they get rid of you. Bravo treasures trash, not class and as you have proven over and over again you epitomize class. Keep it classy and good luck.
You are doing an OUTSTANDING JOB raising your daughter. Being a single mom is one of the hardest jobs and adding a successful career isn't easy. I love to see the relationship with your mom and aunts. As for the show, you have the patience of Job to work with Kim. The happenings on the bus tour were so unnecessary. Don Juan was a little rude to Kim and the situation between Nene ....WOW. I think if she wasn't frustrated with her own personal life then she could have delivered the same message to Kim in a much better way. I don't see what the problem was to include Don Juan and Sweetie in the weekend gettaway trip. Afterall Kim was making the arrangements with her friend and wasn't it Kim's idea for the trip for Cynthia in the first place??? Just keep doin you girl, 'cause you're doin it so well.
You are a wonderful Mom. I loved the conversation between you and Riley on the tour bus. Your show as great, you can blow. Please travel by yourself next time and leave the drama behind. You have more patience than Job. I would have driven Kim and Sweetie to the nearest Hertz or Enterprise and they could have smoked all the way to Florida. Nene should have traveled with the other ladies or alone. I think she was frustrated with her own personal situation and Kim became a scapegoat. That's not to say that Kim should be hollering for Sweetie every 5 minutes or talking to her like she does. She seems to be a little clueless about anything other than making her paper. That she's got down to a science. But I wish you much success with your new album.
Kim is Kim. In the big scheme of things, she's just having fun. But Nene is pretty scary. The way she jumps up and puts her face an inch away from someone and screams is downright abusive. I doubt she's still an intern or anything else at 11alive after they got an eye full of her personality change.
andi you are the most sane and drama-free person on the show. I know it's been said a zillion times, but when it comes to the music bizness, you and Kim are definitely on different planets. Kim is basically doing karaoke! That's why she can drink and smoke right up to show time...because on some parts of the performance she forgets to sing. Why you choose to continue this relationship is beyond me and many others. God will surely bless for this one. Once Kim "talking over techno beats tunes" has worn itself out, her "Carea" will be history. NOW...NeNe is starting to get on my nerves! Why is she becoming such a bitter person. She can never shut up and she tries to own every slither of the air in every situation. She clearly needs anger management and this episode proves she is clearly out of control. But I wish Kim would please stop playing the victim all the time. She clearly invited NeNe on the bus to "show off"! Just another chapter in their twisted friendship. Her stupid facial expressions look almost as ridiculous as her 24-hour, 15-pound wig.
God Bless you and your career!
Thanks for the blog....and for being such a great friend to Kim.
But, most of all THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU.........
Welcome back, Kandi!
I gotta admit, at first I thought the wigged monkey comment came outta left field, but this past weekend I caught up on last season and saw when NeNe said it first, I literally cracked up when I realized that you were referring to what she said. LOL, I'm sure Kim saw the humor in it, even if she didn't appreciate it ;)
I don't understand why anyone would think that you've been disrespectful to Kim? As far as i can, tell you've afforded her an opportunity her talent would never could. By smoking and getting loud with her assistant, she's not acting professional and is disrespecting you. I can understand how you'd be upset, considering that you are a bona fide performer and take your career seriously. I think you learned your lesson, with the proceeds from "Tardy for the Party." but watch out for Kim and don't let her take you for a ride, as she is wont to do with people that take a chance with her.
Like everyone's been saying, you're one of the realest women in all of the Housewives franchise. I think it's because you've worked hard for your success and have a sense of self worth a majority of your cast mates are lacking. Keep doing what you're doing and don't apologize for who you are, we love you.
Kandi, I find your backtracking amazing! You had a big problem w/Kim before NeNe got there. You seem to try to blame NeNe for the whole fight when Kim started it! I agree with NeNe that a girls weekend should not include the hired help. The fact the NeNe was not getting paid does not mean she was an intern, she was doing the interviews for exposure so that she may get experience that could lead to something bigger. I'm sure her goal is not to work at a local news station! You really love to throw NeNe under the bus, meanwhile Kim is stomping all over you and taking advantage of you help!! You are worse than Sweetie, at least she is getting paid to be walked all over by Kim!!