Okay, so I was reading some of your posts on my last blog, and I really wish I could respond to a lot of them individually, but I can't. Let me say I love your comments both good and bad.
Well let's see. Where do I begin? Let me start with Lawrence. I am so glad that a lot of people have positive things to say about me working with him. I think he has so much potential, and I can't wait to see where he can go! Now in the studio with Lawrence you guys got a chance to see when Lawrence told me Kim also told him she didn't like the song. That's what I meant last week when I said I was mad about Kim playing the song and dogging out the record before I even finished with it. Now I saw where some of you commented saying that I shouldn't have a problem with Kim not liking the song and so on... but I want you to know that I didn't have a problem with her not liking the song, but I didn't like that she was expressing her opinions to everyone before she even told me how she felt. AND just like I tell everyone I work with, "PLEASE DON'T PLAY THE SONG BEFORE ITS DONE!" That's like me playing people her recording before she went back and fixed it or we added our thing to it. She wouldn't like that, although the show played her first recording, but that wasn't my decision. Kim is not my artist. She's a friend I'm helping out. So its kind of irritating when you're making time to help someone, and they're telling folks things behind your back how they don't like what you're doing instead of just telling me from the jump and giving me time to fix it first. Now for the people that posted saying that I purposely was trying to get Kim back by making her sing this song that I know that she couldn't sing ... YOU'RE WRONG! Irregardless of our business disagreements, I would never try to make Kim look bad. I like to try things in the studio that may not sound right when I first play around with the idea, but I keep playing around until it's right. Normally you guys wouldn't hear the songs until they're finished. So in this situation, you're hearing things in the creative process. I promise you guys are going to be surprised when it's all said and done. And if you're not, oh well, I can't win them all.
Kandi, you have a good head on your shoulders! Good common sense and down to earth. Riley is adorable. I really enjoy watching you on the show.
Kandi, you don't need to apologize for anything! This whole "Kim singing" bit has been driving me crazy. I'm a singer, I know many, many singers who have studied music and their instrument for YEARS and take it very seriously. Some of them will never get the chance Kim is getting, and taking advantage of, dare I say. She has no idea how the voice works, what it can do, and what you are doing in order to even get her on pitch. She turns her nose up at voice lessons, with a vocal coach that so many singers would kill to work with! If anything, you're being too nice to her. She needs a big ole reality check.
You are an artist and a hard worker and she has no clue. You are absolutely justified in the way you've been feeling.
You are by far the most real out of the girls. I have to say the show is better this season than last...the fighting was stupid. Rock on GF..love what you do , do what you love... ps...I couldn't carry a note if it was strapped on my back , so hats off to those who can!
Personally, I didn't think your purpose was to choose a song to make Kim look bad. I thought your choice was a poor choice given Kim's lack of vocal range. My opnion on that stands firm. Be that as it may, I continue to believe that you are one of the few who truly seems to have Kim's best interest at heart. Continue to live well and prosper. Much love to you.
Hello Kandi, first and foremost let me say that I am a big fan you are about the only classy one on here. Now to the basics first of all, I was disappointed in the fact that yall only $20 regardless of what anyone said, you should have did your own thing. 2nd of all, I dont believe that you are trying to make Kim look bad, but I do believe that you need to speak up. Kim is waltzing around here ordering you around like she makes you millions of $$$, put her in here place and keep it moving.
Kandi, I agree with you 100 percent you should have followed you gut instinct on your donation to Sheree fundraiser if the others wanted to give $20 that's fine if you wanted to give $1500 you should have they were making their decision and you should have made yours. I liked the song you are putting together for Lawrence he has a nice voice Kim is another subject she can't sing and you should stop making here sound good and not getting paid for it.
I love you and admire that you have worked extremely hard to get where you are. That differentiates you from the rest of the pack, as most of them married into their status.
I just have such a problem with you helping Kim. She is ungrateful to say the least and has absolutely zero talent. If she is not your signed artist, then why don't you let her go to whomever she is signed with and let them deal with her attitude!?
Hi Beautiful Lady. You are the reason I even watch this show. Please do not let any of that ridiculous drama change who you are. With your amazing smile, it just makes your music even sweeter. Your most important job is being a Mother to Riley. Your sweet disposition shines through your daughter. Would love to see you write a song for all of us Moms and the infinite love we have for our children. When they are little they hold our hands. When their grown up, they hold our hearts. Stay true to yourself and keep sharing that smile with us. You are a blessing.
Kandi, you just keep smiling along and things will work out for themselves. You have a good heart and you are my favorite. You are a multi talented woman who knows what she wants. I agree, Ne Ne was being very cheap, after all it was for charity. Remember to keep smiling.
So, how much did you send to the charity nw that you've aknowledged that you've made a mistake? I'm curious.... And I adore you....but answer the question, please.
Kandi, You are such an AWESOME friend. I really like Kim too, but if she's going to work with you she needs to honor your wishes and NOT play the song for anyone until it's finished. I think that's pretty fair of you to ask given that you are taking so much time to do HER a favor. I am a singer myself, and if the producer asked me to keep the track to myself that's just what I would do. There has to be a respect level there, and she needs to show more respect and APPRECIATION to you. Now I think Kim is very funny and I enjoy her on the show (this season), but she isn't very professional, and this isn't a PASSION of her's so she isn't taking it serious enough. I think you working with Lawrence is an AMAZING thing, I believe your work will really pay off by working with him especially with his target audience. Keep doing what you're doing and I will be supporting you all the way with your career. You're and amazing friend, and these days good friends are very hard to find. I just hope Kim knows that and will not tarnish a blessing like you. =)
I have a daughter with an awesome trained voice. Let me know when you realize that Kim is not a singer.
Kandi, you are so sweet. I think Kim is a user, there is no way in the world I would let an attorney tell me legally what I have the duty to do when me and my "friend" had another arrangement, you are better than me. As far as Kim singing, she can not sing, so whatever you do for her she and her fans should appreciate, I can not beleive that anyone would have the nerve to say that you made the song hard for kim because you were mad at her, well if Kim could sing there would be no such thing as "making a song hard for her" some people think that people are supposed to be constant enablers for people, girl don't let nobody tell you that you are obligated to enable Kim by spending all of your money to make her sound good on an "easy" track, if that was the case give the "easy" track to someone that is paying you, I mean "respects" you enough to pay you for your services.
Yes, Kandi keep it real. You should have gone with your gut instinct regardless of the others. They should have just donated what they want, and you yours. It's over and done now, but if it comes to light with Sharee, explain yourself.
Keep up the good work, and Lawrence has a beautiful voice and he is so funny. Your music crew faces killed me when Kim started to sing....I almost fell out of my chair from laughter. If you can keep Kim in check with process in vocal lessons maybe (maybe) it will help. LOL! But keep her in check...she wants someone to do the leg work, while she enjoy the affects.
Kandi, you and Cynthia seem to be the only truly talented people on the show...how do you stand the others?
Kandi, I absolutely think you are trying to help Kim, she's just not appreciating you!! She's SO lucky to have you in her corner and she doesn't even know it!! I would be so lucky to have a friend like you, not for the music - just for the friendship! You are an amazing woman who deserves the best in life! I wish you all the best in your career and in your life! Much love!! Please post Bravo - I feel like you repeat many comments twice and I don't see mine too often:)
Hey Ms. Khandi, I just wanted to say dont let Kim or anybody else still yo joy and tell that samething to lawrence also, were would we be without the haters. Haters make the world go round. Keep yo head up and Hell yes i will be one of billions to support your cd "come on wit it". I LOVE YOU KHANDI
I love your attitude and i feel u add whats really missing on this show which is THE REAL. Your spirit always shines through and i love your song Leave you
Kandi: you are the only normal "housewife" on this show. And you're right about the donations. NeNe gets a nose job and then donates a whopping $20. Also, I think you've done enough charity work - cut Kim lose.
Kim really needs to quit. Im so sorry that your time is being wasted by her. Anyhoot, when are you coming to STL...there are a lot of talented artists here particularly gospel artists and musicians...hit us up if you're looking to explore other genres. I think that NeNe was so cheap to donate 20 bucks, I agree you should have gone with your first mind.
Peace and blessing Val
Much ado about making or not making a donation. Now that you are not under pressure to make anyone look 'whack' you could still send the charity a donation.
Kandi, You do not owe an explaination for your actions, Kim is a friend and just as you said not your signed artist. Whatever, whenever is up to you.
I feel that Kim is trying to take advantage of you. If she is not paying you for the song you is writing for her then what gives her the right to complain or critizes. I was always taught beggers can't be choosers. You'r my favorite on the show, you seem like the only one thats keeping it real all the time.
Kandi, Once again don't let anybody steal your shine!!! We really like you and understand that you are sincerely trying to help Kim, and obviously she does not appreciate it. I don't understand why you are friends with the Rickey Smiley morning show, because playing or not they alway are saying negative things about you. This week they were making fun of the way you were eating at Sheree's charity event. I watched that episode and did not see what the problem was... I like your style Kandi so don't worry about what others may think.. FYI leave Kim alone as for as music is concerned.. She is not interested in being a musician, only a DIVA!!!!
Whether or not you sabotaged, Kim, I still think you are a better person than most. You could have sued her for the "Tardy for the Party" situation, but you chose to be a bigger person. I also like the fact that you are developing Lawrence as an artist. He has real talent in the form a very nice voice! I also like that he's not afraid to be himself. Snaps for the kid! PS You and Cynthia are my faves this season! They should bring back Lisa and then the show would have a fierce triumvirate of positive, go-getter, professional women!
I think it was cheap of the others to only give $20 each but you were free to give whatever you wanted to give Kandi - and I think you should have. Apparently, these women need a lesson in charity and you passed up a great "teaching moment". If any of them has a problem with Sheree - and I can certainly understand if they do - than they shouldn't have been at the fundraiser scarfing down the food in the first place. Watching NeNe stuff her big mouth is not my idea of a good time.
Kandi, You have the voice of an angel and the personality to match.I'm sorry but Kim cant keep a tune if her life depended on it. Kim should stick to the wig business. Im sorry, I'm just keeping it real, Kim is your friend, youre being far to gracious feeding Kims ego. If youre really a friend, KEEP IT REAL! Stop letting her make a fool of herself on national TV. A howling dog sounds better than Kim.
Kandi I am glad you cleared that fundraiser situation up. Because I was just puzzled why you'll couldn't give more than $20.00. I know it wasn't you because you have a big heart. God Bless.
P.S. Sheree needs charity please send her a check, so she can get her car back and pay her lawyer fees.
Glad to see you took some responsibility for the fundraiser let down. That really shows a great sense of awareness and character for you to reflect and admit your short comings. I also agree that anyone prejudging you for your creative work with Kim need to fall back. You’re the expert and you will do what’s best for not only Kim but also for your good name that is on the line. Good luck with all your future endeavors.
Thank you for being so candid and generous with your time and ideas. You are very refreshing, I wish you much luck on your tour. If you come to dusty AZ, I will check you out girl.
Thank you for being so candid and generous with your time and ideas. Good luck with your tour. You are refreshing and if you ever come to the dry dusty desert of AZ, I will check you out.
Good for you for trying to give more to the charity. We all saw with our own eyes that you wanted to. Thanks for always keeping it real ;)
I just dont understand your relationship with Kim. She might be cool and all but obviously she is using you and she continues to say you got paid for Tardy for the Party. And why is she getting NeNe's input? NeNe didnt even like TFTP at first until it started to blow up. I hope you get paid for this. We already know she can't sing, but people love her so of course she will make money.
Love you, Kandi, but wish you wouldn't waste your valuable time on Kim. She's ridiculously selfish, lazy and completely undeserving of your or anyone's attention. "Tardy for the Party" was lighting in a bottle--a once-in-a-lifetime fluke in its' success. That's completely thanks to you and your audio engineers. Why can't you be more blunt w/Kim? Please? For us??? Listening to her caterwauling is an insult to not only our ears, but to the millions of talented people whose talent & hard work goes unacknowledged. It sends a terrible message when we see someone like Kim completely getting over on the rules of society. She's not a quality person like you, and to see someone like her not have to do a lick of work for all of her lovely possessions or her career is just awful. Stop the madness!
Kim is lucky you even helped her with the first track! Clearly she cannot sing and you showed your talent by making something out of nothing for her in the first place. Now it's her turn to show her talent(which she obviously lacks) and you have every right to expect more from her. I love how you made that song out of her range and I especially love the fear on her face when she realized it. Good on you! You are my favorite RHOA!
i just wanted to say outside of the x-scape group which i totally loved..i love you the most on rhoa because of your realness and attitude..out of everyone if i could kick it with anyone it would be you or cynthia...and your faces you make are hilarious sometimes.ie the reunion show...on another note i think you should take a look at my boyfriend on youtube..he has a website...www.konnectman.com..he also has videos on youtube under W.E.rk..ent or phansmusik..i know your starting a label so just a thought.
I think you are a "people pleaser" which in itself isn't a bad thing, however, when you do things like put someone (Kim) in a recording studio that has no business being there and also, carrying her throughout her "live performance" at the White Party, it doesn't make any sense. Kim can't sing. Every one knows it. She just makes herself look more ridiculous than her fake eyelashes. Grow a backbone Kandi and quit trying to please every one.
Wats up Kandi... first let me say that i love your passion for music it reminds me of my own.... And that you are right to send kim to voice leasons and make her get serious about her craft... Anyway whenever you are looking to working on something with a real male vocalist you should give me a call or let me email you something... Get at me...lol.... firstname.lastname@example.org
KANDI UR THE BEST HOUSEWIFE I THINK JUS KEEP UR KOOL AN DNT LET THEM MAD WOMEN DRAG U INTO THEY LEAGUE.. PERSONALLY I AM A SINGLE MOTHER OF TWO WITHOUT ANY REAL RICHES BUT I WOULD AV DONATED NORE THAN TWENTY BUCKS, LOL.. U AN CYNTHIA SEEM TO BE THE MOST NORMAL (AS IN SANE MINDED) THE REST R GONE WIT THE WIND..
Kandi, If you're really trying to help Kim you should be honest and tell her that she does not have talent. Kim cannot sing and I don't care how many vocal coaches she sees that will not change the underlying problem.
Also, you need to stop being passive agressive and you need to let go of your anger surrounding the record you produced for her and made it a hit. You chose to act in the capacity of a friend instead of making it a business arrangement. Once you did that, that was the bed you made, not her. Let go and stop being angry because you're only causing pain and resent to yourself for a decision you made.
I think you are about the only truly likable lady on the program.
I can't believe that Nene thought $20 was appropriate donation for a dinner and show. HOW CHEAP! It totally shows money doesn't buy class.
Kim is just doing the "Kim thing" to you that she did to Nene last year. She talks to everyone else about things without talking to the person involved. She is all about Kim and she's using you just like she does everyone else. She is beyond ungrateful - she cannot sing and we all know it. Watch you back with her. She doesn't know the meaning of the word friendship. And too, you should charge her for the song and production of same. She has lots of money to spend for everything else so she should absolutely pay you.
Kandi you are the realist one on the show. Dont ever change. You come from a good up bringing and it radiates thru you. Kim can't sing and singing lessons will be a waste of money time and breath. You cant save them all. Always follow your heart when it comes to giving. God has blessed you so that you may be a blessing to others. I have loved you since the beginning of your career. You totally ROCK!
Kandi, you seem like a genuinely nice person and I wish you the best... Don't feel bad about Kim.. Kim cannot sing and even if you "fix" the song for her, she still can't sing and so I would not call her a "singer." With what you can do now, you can make ANYONE the kind of supposed "singer" Kim is... As far as the $20, you could probably still make a donation... Peace
Kandi, You are my favorite housewife. even if u arent married yet.lol You are the realest one. I think that you are a great artist but that song is just not right for Kim no matter what you do to it. She cant sing and that song has too much range. She needs the most commercial pop rock beat you can create. I think you should charge Kim for your services so then you wont take her comments personally. You already charged all that money form Tardy for the party to da game. Business is Business. dont mix that with the friendship.I love what youre doing with Lawrence. and as far as the donation. you knew the right thing cause you said it. Just follow your ur first mind. Nene was tryna be cheap...Be Blessed.