Phaedra Parks

Phaedra addresses all the race issues that have played out on the show.

on Jan 27, 20110

Hello! I hope everyone's January has been productive and indicative of their New Year's Resolutions wish list.  While Sunday's episode edited our four day excursion into a 45 minute fiasco, it did not fully encompass how tense and uncomfortable this girls' getaway truly was.  The trip was planned in Cynthia's honor but as the old adage says, "Things don't always work out as planned." 

After watching the episode, several possible topics came to mind; the importance of financial planning as it relates to Cynthia and her wedding woes, house guest etiquette and NeNe's lack thereof, Kim and Sweetie's relationship or better yet, NeNe's slave barrage targeted at Sweetie.  In the shadow of Martin Luther King's birthday and in the wake of black history month, I decided race relations was the most poignant issue since last two episodes have flirted with this very sensitive topic. Is Kim a racist? Is Sweetie a modern day slave? Is NeNe being a bully as usual, or is she really concerned about Sweetie's well being? 

While everyone will have their opinion, as they are rightfully entitled to; personally, I do not think Kim is a racist, nor do I think Sweetie is a modern day slave. However, I do believe that NeNe is a bully and couldn't care less about Sweetie's well being. In this era of political correctness we often skirt around the hard topics, because we are afraid of offending others and do not want to be accused of being a racist. But avoiding sensitive issues does not change our country's history, which is fraught with the mistreatment of people of color. Admittedly, race relations have improved drastically over the past 40 years, but improvement does not heal the wounds caused by the aggregation of disparate treatment. As a person of color, I understand the ramifications of being denied rights, excluded and rejected. A modern day racist doesn't dress in white sheets or burn crosses, they are much more subtle and covert. Unlike Kim, a racist would not employ you or treat you like a family member, as she has with Sweetie. I had the opportunity to have several long conversations with Sweetie and Kim in Miami, and during those chats I realized that Kim and Sweetie have a sibling like relationship that spans well over a decade. My heart went out to Sweetie because as a woman of color, I know comments that evoke historical hatred can make you doubt what you know in your heart is true.  

Here's a thought, instead of taking the easy road under the guise of being politically correct and making hasty judgments about matters as serious as racism, we should face the issue and attempt to have transparent dialogue in the direction of resolve. Every culture is different and it's easy to adopt perspectives depicted via various mediums. Opinions do not constitute racism, nor does the way you treat a friend make you a racist. Racism says a whole group of people are inferior because of their skin color and they should not be treated equally. Being politically correct does not change the existence of poor race relations; it just gives us an acceptable mask to hide behind rather than address any real issues. In the words of Pierre Berton, "Racism is a refuge for the ignorant. It seeks to divide and to destroy. It is the enemy of freedom, and deserves to be met head-on and stamped out."

592 comments
JBJ
JBJ

I love Sister Phaedra and keep up the professionalism and softness of a lady -- a few folks can take a lesson from you! You are my favorite housewife.

Rebecca Adler
Rebecca Adler

Phaedra, you are truly fabulous! I can't tell you how refreshing it is to see an unbelievably intelligent, vibrant and successful woman in a sea of women who could NEVER reach you! You have a beautiful husband and son and I wish all of you the very best! You are an inspiration to me!!!

gwenj
gwenj

OMG Phaedra please shake off the haters and keep doing you. Some of these folks kill me. Oh you say you're a Christian but...You say your classy but...The only Perfect christian was Christ and he died to save us from or sins and inquities. This is why people have a problem with Christians now because they do what the bible says they should not "Throw stones". People are people we are human if God didn't know we were going to mess up. There was only one Perfect christian, Christ and he bore the cross because we are human and we are subject to sin and iniquity he came to save us from it. God knows we WILL err and that's why there is repentance GRACE and MERCY..So, you fake stone throwing christians please get over yourselves.

A lot of people make mistakes but when you do it you correct them well, with an apology and a gift. And, you are hilarious when you do it. Not everyone is going to like you and they don't have to but they have to admit that RHOA has been funnier since you joined the show. I do have one question about the RiDickulous "situation" Did anyone else notice how Peter's eyes danced with the flicker of a young interested man when he looked at that python...or was it just me? I mean while NeNe and Cynthia (who is I think is so sweet) were looking disgusted Peter looked as happy as a Kim in a wig store.

EW
EW

Phaendra...You are "Classy Lady" of course educated. I love the way you talk...Please don't worry about Nenee..no class whatsoever.

Lady F
Lady F

This is in response to "Viewer36". No it was not appropriate for Phaedra to bring up the "drama" BUT Peter did go out of his way to talk crap about everyone of them and then try to be fake and converse like nothing every happened. I would have put his behind on blast too. If I knew for a fact that someone had so many negative things to say about me especially in a magazine interview I would have shut them down too. I commend Apollo for standing up for his wife because I know mine would have done the same for me. He might can talk to Cynthia side-ways but Apollo was not going to let him do that to Phaedra.

Viewer36
Viewer36

Someone once told me that if you are so great you wouldn't have to sing your own praises, other will do it for you! And give the southern bell thing a rest.......... seriously! You are trying too hard!!!!!!!!!

Viewer36
Viewer36

First of all, that was NOT the place for Phaedra to bring up the drama! Second of all, don't go starting crap with the man then turn around and say if he has a problem with you he needs to take it up with your husband...............idiot!!!!!!!

snjc
snjc

Phaedra you didnt even tell the truth about your due date. You have no right to speak on the opinion of others. Sweep around your door first!

KTinMN
KTinMN

I love you girl! Your the funniest! I laughed out loud. The vocal vibrator impression of Kim was the funniest thing ever. Love Atlanta the most. I do have to say that Kroy may give your man a run for his money he seems very genuine and sexy.

Gretchen Broom
Gretchen Broom

Phaedra classy and sophisticated, NOT! Phaedra lacks self control and she keeps putting her foot in her mouth. Phaedra might be good at rote memory, but she is very classless and unprofessional. That is why she ended up with the type of man that she has because she could never fit in with a man of real substance. Phaedra tried to set herself a part from the other women, when in reality she is no better than anyone else. Phaedra you try to pretend that you are an upstanding citizen and a christian, but your actions don't attest to that at all.

Gretchen Broom
Gretchen Broom

Phaedra you are a total embarrassment to professional women. The way you talk; you are so condescending and a total enigma. You might have a lot of degrees but you lack any common sense. You came to the show hating on NeNe because of what Dwight said about her. You did not come to the show with class just deception. You lied about when your baby was due, your husband is a convict, you continuously seek to deceive.

Evelyn Banks
Evelyn Banks

I told you, just be yourself. You're a very beautiful and talented woman.

Mrs. M Phelps
Mrs. M Phelps

On your blog (Colored Blind): As a white American Italian I am very impressed by your words about racism.

sweetkandi12
sweetkandi12

hey phaedra me and my mom r a fan. i wish i could see u one day luv u and aden is so handsome

CharNae
CharNae

GREETINGS....

Phaedra I am looking forward to seeing the baby and how he's grown soon. I hope that all is going well regarding your return to the office. Being an attorney with various clients and issues to address can be a tedious job, however, I noticed that you are so looking forward to the daily activities. I pray that you receive additional strength to accomplish whatever task that are awaiting you.

jebo
jebo

First: She was the one that appeared to have an issue with Nene. She even indicated that she only had a problem with NeNe and not the other ladies on the show. It appeared to me that Phaedra was the person that displayed jealousy. It appears that with all of her alleged Southern Charm and Breeding she was not able to land that offers outside the Alanta housewives as NENE does. Donald Trump has spoken ...dueces!

puff n stuff
puff n stuff

PHAEDRA, IT ALSO DISTURBES ME THAT YOUR WALK DOES NOT MATCH YOUR TALK. YOU CAN'T STRADDLE THE FENCE. YOU SHOULD KNOW EITHER HOT OR COLD, GOD HATES LUKEWARM.

Stephanie M
Stephanie M

No you don't look silly,you are cool as hell. Wish you and your family the Best and Momma too.

Julissa
Julissa

I like how you act and talk for real! I am catholic so in the name of jesus I say amen to that! I couldn't quite understand that nene didn't seem to recognize from high school. And then you said that your brother and her went to the same school. She must have being on cloud 9 or something lol! You and Apollo and your baby are a cute family . I watched the reunion show I didnt miss it at all! And what kim is doing to sweetie is big no no! I wouldnt do that if i had an assistant or a maid not even to my babysitter at all. much luck and sucess to you! God Bless!

CharNae
CharNae

Phaedra,

I see your strength, and know that you will do beautifully this coming season on ATLANTA HOUSEWIVES! I am looking forward to seeing everyone blossoming, and talking up a storm with such feminine style and wearing fashions casual and extraordinaire on the set. Have fun and remember, keep your light shining brightly!

Mrs. Jackson
Mrs. Jackson

I love it. Phaedra you handled yourself well when you were confronted by Nene. My hat goes off to you! Digninity and class.

bobbe
bobbe

I agree with the viewers you only went after NeNe at the reunion. Kim said horrible things about your baby and your husband the remarks about your unborn child was really hitting below the belt. Sheree had her petty remarks too. But you went after NeNe

mississippimomma
mississippimomma

Phaedra,

It has been wonderful to see you profess Christianity on the show. HOwever, your words and your actions don't seem to mesh. On one hand, you say that you have been "saved, baptized, sanctified with the HOly Ghost", raised in the church. ON the other hand, you say you "do delight in the pleasures of strippers/stripping." (These are not exact quotes, but pretty close and you could easily find them in the shows.)

How does "delighting in the pleasures of stripping" not break the seventh commandment? A Christian would not have hired male strippers for a friend's bacholorette party -- you know that.

Thank you.

PS: By putting down "canned food" that white people eat, you have just dissed your in-laws.

Viewer6612
Viewer6612

You were so great on the Wendy Williams Show!!!! So much so that she gave you that beautiful hat, which you looked great wearing. Please, keep being the person you are, do not focus on the haters, because you are a true light on the show. Team Phaedra, that was a "classsic" line! Looking forward to seeing and hearing from you in the near future. God Bless you and your Family.

B-Fierce!
B-Fierce!

I must admit that you were not one of my favorite housewives, but in the end I've grown to like you more and more. You're book smart, but not too life smart, sometimes you're very well spoken and other times, it's right out of the ghetto. But all in all, I think you're a very attractive, intelligent black woman and I have a lot of respect for you. Oh, and I loved the dress you wore on the reunion show!!!

hulali
hulali

Phaedra you are absolutely adorable!!! I love your intelect and goofy sense of humor and above all I respect the way you manage to keep your cool when faced with raging craziness. Your Southern charm is refreshing and you and your mother are definately two peas in a pod. Ummm Hummm!

Please continue to stay in the public forum. You are an amazing role model for all young women!

Akeya
Akeya

NeNe is a liar.. Kim is a fool . Write NeNe and Kim becuse both of them are two of a kind.. Sweetie no slave dont get paid fool do thats what u r letting Kim address u any way she please and u do it she darn sure not payin u a millon so respect ur self ...

Japan Viewer
Japan Viewer

Girl you had the last laugh!!! Love ya!!

Lilia of California
Lilia of California

Phaedra, You and Cynthia are my new favorite housewives. You are a genuine person and really sweet. I am really excited that you are going into the funeral business. God will use you. I would come to you if I had a death in the family. You are a wonderful caring person. Love you. God bless you.

Willie L
Willie L

Phaedra does have her own place in the show. It's a successful, classy sophisticated woman, unlike some of the others. She's actually giving NeNe a break, addressing some legitimate concerns with her in a proper manner. Unlike that Amazon NeNe who knows nothing but screaming and threats of violence. No doubt Phaedra has got some curious rituals but in the end she is a true lady. And frankly as most people realize NeNe is jealous of her, her class, success, beauty and her superfine husband.

PiperProsperous
PiperProsperous

We as a country have come so far, but, we have so much farther to go.

"SEXY EMT"
"SEXY EMT"

I agree, OMG! NeNe looked as if she had smelled S%#T when Phaedra showed her pics proving her background. In my opinion, Phaedra is the least fraudulent in what she is saying on TV. She knows more than any of them the importance of watching WHAT to say, HOW to say it, & WHEN to say it, due to her profession. She didn't get this far being a loud, ignorant, liar. Give this young, black, female role model her props!!!

serious sister
serious sister

Leave Nene alone and get your own place in the show. All the girls laugh and talk about you like nobody's buzness. Kandi, Sheree, Kim laughed in your face, but you have an issue with NeNe, you look silly!!!

I agree
I agree

I Agree,

I watched the entire season 3 times and I don't recall NeNe saying more than the other woman. Is there some lost footage?

dee dee
dee dee

Phaedra.... I just want to thank you for being so expressive and continuing to be a lady. I loved your comments in regard to your husband, pregnancy, and career. The show seems to gear toward drama and madness, and looks for anything that can be exploited as negativity. I appreciate you. It is no ones business what goes on in your marriage. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! People tend to be consumed with others lives because they want to deter from their problems. It's funny that I enjoy Nene and you, because you are quite opposite, but there is some bridge of commonality.

eve4ever
eve4ever

Phaedra, You are a breath of fresh air. I love the way you handle Nene with the I don't know you child. Who the hell is she kidding. I live in a town with more shools than you mentioned and I know people from all the different schools to this day. Oh because she is an Atlanta housewife she dont know anyone from her school any more. What would you gain from admitting that you know Nene and as you said she knew you well enough to call you when she needed a favor. Something is truly happening to Nene and it is not just the devorce. If Nene had real friends they would help her by researching a therapist for her.

MsKays
MsKays

I watched the show just to see you have the baby. It was so wonderful. I am prego now, and I am sooo freaked out- i'm having TWINS!!! God bless you and your fam

VieJuandawer
VieJuandawer

Love you Phaedra! classy, poised,cute. loved nene's expression when your equestrian photo was shown. she is so envious of you that it's amusing!

housewives fan
housewives fan

Hey Phaedra:

I have to absolutely agree with this statement because it seems that you formed an allaince and launched an attack against Nene along with the other fake housewives like SHEREE, Kim and sometimes Kandy. It almost as if you all want here off the show. Too much of a threat for all of you???? I admire your ease of conversation, calm and sophistication, however, please try to keep it real! With all here ghettoness, Nene tries to more than anyone!

redbird
redbird

Phaedra. I loved your baby shower. The ballet dancers brought a touch of class. But most of all I loved the eye jewelery and the roses in your hair was dramatic. Keep being you. It was not ghetto. Ghetto was Kandi's outfit on the Reunion show.

Viewer 55
Viewer 55

Hmmmmm I don't think anyone is Jealous on here they are all in the same postion on a reality show. And Your idolizing a confrimed liar. I hope Nee Nee's 15 mins isn't up because the show might get cancelled lol

Viewer 55
Viewer 55

Grown Women can not be bullied!!! Can you guys please get off that kick and stand up for yourselves if you feel as if she is a bit much! And please if you return next season start telling the truth....... With your lying self

dreid0228
dreid0228

All I can say is you're my favorite. Keep doing your thing! You looked great on the reunion show and hot!!! on the Andy show after. You don't owe anyone an explanation about your baby, your body and your man. God Bless!!

Get Real
Get Real

I still don't follow what you are saying....either Phaedra, Apollo and their son are all part white or they are all black. Take a look at Phaedra, in fact take a look at most African - Americans we are all part white. That is the reality of the matter.

katbunny
katbunny

Nope! I'm not buying it. I agree with NeNe, you are a FAKE! You need to stop trying to pick a fight with NeNe, most of us know that you're only trying to elevate your status.

Sorry, but NENE is the star-queen, not Fak-Phaedra!

Lady A
Lady A

I like you... but you still appear to be fake. I need you to keep NeNe in check! But your personal life is confusing, but that is good for the show. People don't need to be in your business! You are a beautiful woman!

why???????????????/
why???????????????/

Phadra, be for real, get your head out of your own butt and realize that this life does not owe you a thing.To me you seem so fake of all the housewives, other than Kim. It is good to see an African-American female being sucessful, but please come back to earth. Love that baby and hubby like they are the most important thing in your life because they are.

S.S.
S.S.

Bravo Bravo… Now Mrs. Phaedra could you please give us all a speech on why Sweetie flushed the toilet for Kim on Kim’s command. Oh yeah please include in your speech if your pretty little country self-will every flush the toilet for Kim. Phaedra you are not perfect, look who you married… a con, a pickpocket, oh my bad a thief.