I have received numerous comments about the remarks that I made on the episode that aired on Monday, October 18, 2010. I feel the need to respond to those comments, because I believe my remarks were generally misunderstood and are being used to portray me as someone I am not. I am not a racist. My heart has always been open to people of all races, ethnicities, and walks of life. If that were not the case, I would not have fallen in love with and married a man who is biracial and was raised by a white woman. The reality is that we live in a society where matters of race are not discussed honestly or openly for fear of being labeled a racist. And that really needs to change if we're going to move forward in any meaningful way as a melting pot of ideas, viewpoints, and experiences. While I do regret any discomfort or offense that my comments may have caused, I believe it is important that we use opportunities like this to create forums for dialogue and growth, not for personal attacks.
STOP IT! the women had enough. she said something she thought was true like some white ppl think we only eat chix and watermelon get over it. black and whites are raise different. i dont think she had many white friends in the south.
To be honest, I think Phaedra is full of it.... I'm sorry but any CLASSY woman doesn't ACT like she's better than anybody! She acts more "ghetto" (and only saying that as a stereotype) than a "southern belle". A TRUE southern belle has manners and morals and doesn't go around saying things like she has about Kim(her comments about the nursing and cheetah club thing). She's embarassing herself more than making good PR. Sure everybody likes to watch a little drama, but really? She's really making worse for herself. If she's going to portray herself as a southern belle, then she needs to act like one! I hate seeing what money does to most people. NO ONE PERSON IS ANY BETTER THAN THE NEXT and I honestly think that ALL of the housewives shows are perfect examples of that. I LOVE these shows.. and don't miss watching one. I love seeing how they act on here. I think Nene is the most "REAL" one. She states her opinions, and she doesn't care where she is or how she says it. She actually acts like she can still live if this show were canceled tomorrow. Maybe Phaedra needs to go to some kind of manners and morals school, cause she is totally off on what it is to be a southern belle...
You go Girl! There is nothing wrong with you trying to have to morals and something about yourself. Regardless, if you were preganant or not. Now Candi and Kim are not trying to set an example for their daughters. Allowing a 12 year old to make out and thinking it is cute. As for Candi she has the morals or a snake giving her mother a dildo! Girl I would be so embrasssed to even talk about sexual activities with my mother around just out of respect. Candi thinks it is okay to have a baby out of wedlock? Girl come on. So, even if you were preganant before marriage you did the right thing by marrying prior to the baby's birth so it would not be illigetmate. Keep on trying to do what is pleasing in Gods eye site. At least you are trying. Stay away and dont get caught up with those uneducated whores. They are a piss poor example for a house wife.
I don't think they misrepresent Atlanta...I think ya'll think that the Atl society is something it's not...they are real women acting like real ppl...that is want viewers want realness...They represent ATL very well...
it's a ten month period...!..I really think that ppl should ligthen up it's only a show and she is entitled to her own opinion...She is not the frist and will not be the last...whites talk about blacks..black talk about white...everybody talks about everybody...I think that she is rite...America is still racist..ppl are just scared to honesty talk about it...just because she made a comment does not made her ignorant...it makes her honest...ppl are always saying speak your mind...she did..ans she get bashed on because of it...this country with build on the backs and blood of black slaves...whites have talked and said whatever they wanted too to blacks...treated them how they wanted..now that we're in the 21st century..ppl want us to bite our tongue and respect the unspoken...when the whites never did..not trying to made this a black white thing...but in actually that is what it is...im not a racist but..I do feel that there is a difference in both cultures...just like everybody else...she voiced a difference that she thought was true..SO WHAT!!!!!...that's life!!!
Phaedra is STRAIGHT UP RACIST.. I love the show, and have watched it every season. She doesnt deserve, and obviously does not have the class that the other ladies display. And for someone who is so "educated", she sure does make IGNORANT remarks.. hopefully the wanna be southern Belle wont make it for the next season!
Were YOU raised in a white household?? Give me a break! And white people eat canned food?? wtf is she talking about?? And if Apollo is just as much WHITE as he is black, then he needs to stand up for himself, and other "white" people. She shouldnt disrespect her mother in law lijke that
I think Phaedra attempts to entertain and says the things she does as part of her "act". I certainly hope it is an act!
I really don't think that you really care about the things you say on the show. I also don't think that you don't know what you are talking about from the way you say things on the show. You act like all black people grow up spoon fed and white people didn't so he wouldn't know anything. You better hope that Apollo doesn't see these episodes of RHOA and want to divorce you.
ChristineA, I believe that the concensus was that her comments were indeed VERY offensive. However, that last bit of your post was equally as idiotic and inappropriate. I understand you were attempting to make a point, but remember hun, since you claim to be an Italian - you are a minority as well as Phaedra in the eyes of some...inferior even, so be careful next time regarding your phrase of choice. Quite honestly, that statement made you look more ignorant than she did at the time. You never know who you are offending with your stupidity, that is why we are discussing Phaedra and her comment.
Phaedra...#1REAL ppl who have class and manners dont go bragging about it, therefore you have NONE! #2 you must have a mutant baby in you bc every living being has a 9 month period that they are in the womb...do u really expect america to believe what you are saying?! #3 that whole thing about "white ppl and canned food/processed meat" i am Italian or what you wld consider "white" i just have to let you know that i was a teenager before i even knew food came in a can! EVERYTHING my mother made came from the garden...now if i said "ty for your ancestors for working the fields and allowing me to eat canned food i wld b wrong right?!" i am BY far a racists....but i just had to let you know how your IGNORANT comment made others feel!!!!!!!.....if you look up ignorant in the dictionary you wld find your pic
kIM already did that ,then her daughter came back on this episode and said she like eating chicken too funny !
I really do not know what her upbringing was like, but she did say that she was raised in the same town as Nene.
@ everyone who says that she is a racist, yes her comment was offensive, but I honestly do not think she is a racist - just a moron. Because if you all remember, she was also saying that he had a very different and proper way of rearing children, because he was raised in a white home. However, I do not see anyone screaming about she is racist against black people because she suggested black people may not properly raise their kids, or do so in a ghetto fashion or even implied that black people are somewhat abusive to their kids. Seems to me that at that point, she was tooting Apollo's horn a bit. So, give me a break, the woman is clearly just an idiot who steps in it ALL the time. Look at her comment about having a "clean" man...need I say more?
I think Phaedra meant what she said. I believe her to be full of crap and I wish she were not on this show. I am from Atlanta. I live in Brookhaven which is an affluent community and I have never even heard of this woman, or most of them before this show. As far as Atlanta society? None of these women are part of Atlanta society. I also think most of the women on this show misrepresent Atlanta and behave, at times, in a "ghetto-like" fashion. It is very disappointing and makes our city look ridiculous. I think I am done with this show.
Yes, Phaedra, you are a real "class act," but not the class you assume yourself to be! Thank you for the laughs!
I usally do not pay attention to her segments. But her comments of how her hubby was raised in white home and they eat canned meat and blah blah blah. I am a white woman and I cook in my home from home made lasagna to bread and FRESH meat and veg's. I love to cook new and down to earth foods to one that are elaborate. So I was affended by her comment and I do believe she is a rascist but much of what she says. that and ego is the size of texas and needs to get over herself and get real. She has a great man that pd his debt to society and stop treating him like he is a lap dog. Im just appaled at what she says. But yet I love the show and will continue to watch
If this were a white woman making this statement it would never be tolerated. What is "your" version of racism? Completely unforgivable.
Phaedra, I love you on Tiny and Toya. You are so down to earth and such a sweet person. What did you do with Toya? Where you her attorney or just a friend. I enjoy watching you on that show
The statements Phaedra said were not at all racist. it is true, black and white households were very different some years back. Everything she said was totally true. I'm not a racist for sure.
I Have read the comments. and I say again why is this classless phaedra on the air. I skip her segments!!!!!!
First and forth most, its obvious that she's using the language that she does in a colloquial and conversational way. Who are you to tell someone how to speak? You don't type too professionally yourself, and as we have all seen she can change her diction up when the time calls for it. Since we're getting on how people express themselves, or in your case, try to express themselves, let me help you correct that first sentence: "Phaedra(not Phaedre you moron, her name is right there, there's no reason to even get that part wrong), I too live in the South"..your over punctuality and inability to spell words that are in hindsight of you leads me to believe that you're not a good representation of Southern Bells either. #thatisall! Language is racially and culturally ambiguous and varies from person to person, you have a lot of balls telling someone to keep their mouth shut for how they talk. Now I'm black, and I took offense to that!
Complete ignorance. I can only imagine that you are uneducated, intolerable, and someone who always has an opinion. Please, sista, pray that God shows you your flaws so that you will be able to overcome making or agreeing with ignorant comments like the ones that were made by Phaedra, and understand they do NOT make us proud. Or have you forgotten the struggle or parents and grandparents went through to take us beyond racism, to ensure we had equality?
She is always crossing the line, all the while claiming to be such a southern belle. It does matter whether you are from the south or not. It doesn't mean you have class, which is certainly the case for her. Anyone with class will always consider the feelings of others before making usch rude comments. She has made inappropiate coments through out the show, whichs lead me to believe she is very fake. But I do believe that it wont be long before some tells her off, if not worse. Dwight just clings to anyone with money or a lot of air time. And by the way, why does he alway dress like a pallbearer?
Phaedre, i, too, live inthe South, not far from Atlanta. It is embarrassing how you keep claiming to be a Southern belle. No real Southern belle would ever act like you, boast like you or use poor grammar like you. It is like fingernails on a blackboard every time i hear you speak. i don't know how in the world you got all those degrees without learning to speak the English language properly. The best thing you can do to represent Southern women is to keep your mouth shut. You are an embarrassment!
I agree!!!! I was raised with a white mother and black father and my parents were very open with raising us!!!
I've been meaning to blog about Phaedra's comments, but I see the Bravo Blog community has already let her have it! Good job fellow Bravo Bloggers! Unacceptable behavior Phaedra. I hope you redeem yourself - you certainly are entertaining. My advice - drop Dwight, and spend more time with your hunk of a husband!
Phaedra, I think your new comment did more harm than good. You have really stepped in it girlfriend!
As for Fake-dra on episode 3 as an African-American woman I was truly offended by those comments. You saying that white households only eat canned foods is a bunch of crap, for real. I'll say people who eat canned food maybe because that's all that can afford, that's any race in general. How did you think Apollo and his mother feel about that or when that little boy sees this what will he think??? As a southern woman I came across some white people who can throw down in the kitchen, so that for me was indeed a downright racist statement. From what I seen you are very condescending and so uppity like you poop out rose petals. So on that note, Phaedra please keep your nose down because when you shower believe you'll drown honey!!!!!
"lisa g., the white woman in the south" needs to consider changing what it's like in the south instead of shrugging and letting it go on. wrong is wrong
sincerely, teresa, the white woman in san francisco.
I actually agree, and I'm black. Yes, Black people and especially women, do have to work hard and yes its greta reaping the rewards. But the comments made refering to white households seem derogatory and I would hate to be classified as a fried chicken eating porch monkey because there are black people living up to the stereotypes.
I agree with you 100%!!! phaedra you cross the line frecuently and you need to respect others is not just your opinion that just matter!!!
As a white woman raised in a white family in the South, I take great offense to your statements. I find your arguments to save face offensive also. Your statements that white households don't appreciate/experience fine cuisine and that we do not appropriately discipline our children are uneducated and ignorant. I think it's equally offensive that you argue it's so important to be open and honest to end racism. I hope you weren't being open and honest, because if you were, then you ARE racist and you are promoting reverse racism. If a white woman said the same things about her black husband, the tabloids would crucify her.
As a public figure, you should think before you speak. And realize that, willing or not, you are acting as spokesperson for your race as the only predominantly black real housewives. And realize you are offending the other half of your audience as well. An "educated woman" should know better.
If you say racist comments like that on camera, I can only imagine what nasty things you say behind closed doors. Thats not to say that you should tip-toe around the subject of race but have some class. As far as Im concerned you give Atlanta Housewives a bad name.
@ Ms. Faye - I agree with you 100%. I too am an educated woman and I have come across many people like Phaedra of all races. I think that when people often speak before thinking they come as across less educated more ignorant. I don't care how many degrees a person has making certain staments about another person (particularly your spouse) is "low-class". When people are often downing others, it's usually because they are trying to deflect from their own shortcomings. Furthermore, when you really have it "going on" you don't have to announce it at every setting because people can see it. Need I say more?
It's not just that the statements were offensive, they were ignorant and small minded. Any race hearing another race make statements like that would be angry. Expecially coming from someone who is supposedly educated. I've never heard of the statement that certain people eat canned meat. Obviously she is only speaking for what she was exposed to in Athens, GA. I grew up in Southern CA and I didn't see those differences in white households and black households. Phaedra, please review your words before they come through your mouth.
You are a prime example for why people still continue on with racism. Everyone is brought up differently,and no I don't have all the fancy degrees that you have,but when I get my degree and make it to where I wanna be,I will never look down on someone,let alone any race just because of what I have and can do just because they can't. I'm a mixed individual raised very well by my mixed great grandmother, not as fortunate as you but I am proud of who I am and have become,and who I will become after achieving my goals. Never once was I fed the finer foods that you seem to love,and by the looks of it I am glad I wasn't. Mines were appealing,healthy,and knew exactly what was on my plate.