Hello everyone! I hope your holiday season has been full of joy! Last week's episode was highly anticipated -- everyone loves to see a good catfight. However, I am not going to focus on the episode, because I live in the present and that fight is in the past. The one thing I will say is I am like most mothers, I am protective of my son and he is off limits. I have no hard feelings towards Kim. I actually think she is a very feisty woman with a whole lot of spunk, which often reminds me of myself. I wish her the best with her pregnancy and pray that she has a healthy and happy baby. Life is too short to be angry or petty.
My last blog was the week of Thanksgiving and now Christmas is just a few days away. Like most of you, I am in the full swing of the holidays: cooking, cleaning, shopping, decorating and trying to make everything perfect! It is amazing how time flies when you are having fun. It seems like just yesterday I was preparing to give birth to my son. Now six months later, he has five teeth and is attempting to crawl. I look at him in amazement everyday. I thank God for blessing me and my husband with such a wonderful baby. This will be his first Christmas. Even though he is too young to be aware of all the hoopla that comes with the holidays, this will be our year to develop a tradition with him. My thoughts are to donate some of his gifts to the Atlanta Children's Shelter so that children less fortunate than him will enjoy the true spirit of Christmas: giving and sharing. Many of us forget that Christmas is the celebration of the birth of Christ, who gave the ultimate gift to Christians: the possibility of eternal life. Helen Keller once said, "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart." May you and your loved ones experience heartfelt moments today and always. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!
Phaedra, I was unsure about you at the beginning, but have truly grown to love you. You crack me up every week. And seeing you on Watch What Happens Live made me like you even more. Many blessings to you and your family!
I love your son. He is gorgeous!! He looks like his father. I really like your blog. I hope you, your baby, husband and family has a great Christmas. Always give thanks to the Lord that you have all the things that you have.
"Feliz Navidad" from San Juan, Puerto Rico Yolanda Garcia-Berdecia
Phaedra, I am definitely a fan! I like the way you write your blogs without defaming other castmates. That, in itself, exhibits a high level of class. You are contributing to society, unlike most of your castmates. Keep doing what you're doing, so that people see that hard work and dedication to education still rules supreme! Take care of that beautiful family!
Boy, what a difference a day makes! Reading your blog and seeing you on WWHL, I'm wondering what happen to the stuck up, egotistical, southern bitchy diva! I have to say I did enjoy watching you & Apollo with Andy. Has motherhood softened you? It's nice to see the change but don't make it permanent! P.S., your son is gorgeous!!
Great post. Happy holiday to you & yours, as well. FYI: You mentioned this was the past, but still remember to look over your show (as you've already been called out for the Reunion Show). So bygones might not be bygones for everyone.
Have to say the comments in your blog are all about rising above "it" and there is a lot of "it" to rise above in the whole Housewife franchise. So I appreciate you taking the high road and hope your actions speak louder than your words. Happy Holidays!
I really like you Phaedra!!!! You are a great addition to the show and I hope you'll continue to next season!!!!! Your baby boy is the most beautiful baby. Our Office is constantly saying we've never seen such a pretty baby!!!! Wishing you and your family all God's Blessings for a Happy New Year!!!!
I love your Christmas gift idea. That's so sweet. Every time I want to dislike you, you go and do something nice.LOL. Your little guy is so adorable. Wishing you many Christmas Blessings.
I think you are a trip, but for some reason I like you and you are full of one liners that just crack me up. Have a Happy Holiday and your baby is soooo adorable!
What an amazing and beautiful blog!!! I cannot tell you how refreshing that was to read. You are truly right, this is the time for giving and for all of us to be grateful for the good that we have in our life. You are a much better woman to write such an eloquent blog, Christmas has truly touched you this year with the birth of your beautiful son!! God Bless you All & Merry Christmas!!!
Phaedra, A lot of people speak negatively about you, but I think you add spice to the show. You are very interesting, and my daughter is crazy about you. By the way, you have very beautiful hair. Yes, you come off as being stuck-up, but if you were boring, you would be sitting in the same position as Deshawn and Lisa. Most of the housewives state that you are completely different in real life, so we know this is entertainment, so keep doing you. Congratultions on your baby boy and who cares if your husband is an ex convict, I'm pretty sure many of your viewers and fellow housewives, have done things that they could have been arrested for,they just didn't get caught. KIM cannot talk about anybody's husband at all....
I appreciate you kind words on this blog. People have drifted away from the true meaning of Christmas!! Enjoy your holidays!
You are my favorite housewive. You are so classy. I'm a southern black woman and I've never said I was southern until you. So, now I say it all the time. I really like how you and Apollo are together. I saw you on Andy Cohen. You seemed uncomfortable but you handled it was such class. You and your husband look like a black barbie and ken doll. You guys are so aesthically, pretty together. And your son is just beautiful.
Please ignore the haters. I love your comments and realness. Your baby shower was so amazing, unique and done with such southern elegance. Anyway, have a happy holiday.
I was hoping for a Christmas miracle - actually focusing on the episode... I guess this will never happen in your blogs.
Phaedra...what is wrong with you? You act like you are better than everyone else. Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones. It is your fault everyone was talking about your baby. You straight up lied to everyone, then expect for no one to question you. You are right, it is no one's business, UNTIL YOU MAKE IT THEIR BUSINESS, which you did. Your stuck up attitude does not impress anyone sweetheart! Come back from the clouds and BE REAL so people can get to know the GENUINE SOUTHERN WOMAN people can respect. You make yourself look foolish on television.
Thats wonderful Phaedra that you would donate some fo his gifts to the needy... Good for you he's just five months and should already be proud of his mama..=)
Hey Phaedra- First off I want to say congrats to you and your husband on the birth of your baby boy. He is too cute, enjoy every lil moment becuz they do grow up fast. Now to my comment I just wanted to know now that you have watch the last few episodes do you see how fake Dwight is? He sat in your house and told you some fabricated stories and now look the truth comes out. He latched on to NeNe before you and you see what a "friend" he was to her. I just feel hes trying to latch on to you and catch whatever lil fame he can. Real friends dont keep negative bs going. I felt the timing he chose to tell you these lies was messed up. You would think with you having a baby there would be more to talk about then what other people who are not your real friends anyway are saying. It all just seems elementary to me. Well good luck with you and your family and god bless. Keep ur friends close and your enemies closer.
AMEN! Great blog Phaedra and you put it so eloquently. Again, AMEN!
I just can't stop congratulating you on your beautiful baby boy. Someone referred to him as 'King Adonis' and that says it all. What a handsome little king.
I adore you on the show and I love your perspective. Live in the present and life is too short to hold grudges. A lot of your commentors would do well to follow that advice, ie, quit beating a dead horse.
Wishing you and your family a Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year. I'm sure you'll be as blessed next year as you were this year.
Your baby is beautiful. May God continue to bless you and your family. And you're right, life is too short for all the pettiness and to be angry.
Hi Phaedra: I know the show was filmed months ago and although your over it and above it, I really wish you would have commented on the episode...some of us look forward to reading your thoughts on the show after you watch it for the first time.
Nonetheless, all of the ladies on show were opinionated about your pregnancy due date, and RIGHTFULLY SO! Kim just a little more than others. (maybe because of her "nursing degree"???? or maybe because she gets kicks off of having bad things to say about other people.) In retrospect, do you wish that you would have just told the truth, or are you sticking to your, "why do you care attitude?"
Baby Ayden is too cute...Congrats to you and your husband!!!!
I haven't really cared for you, thus far. However, I liked you on WWHL with Andy. I wish you were more like this on the actual show. You can still make good TV by being yourself. I feel like you exaggerate yourself way too much. Kandi has said you don't really act like the way you do on the show. Show us more of the real you!
Ayden is beautiful!! Congratulations Phaedra and Apollo. Phaedra, this is the first blog that I liked...you take the high road. Merry Christmas.
I didnt like you at first, but as time went on, I realize from hearing the other housewives, that you really arent who you betray yourself to be on the show. Which is a good thing. Now after watching Live with Andy and your last housewive episode, I was able to laugh with you. Thanks for blogging, and Happy Holidays to you and yours.
Phaedra , I must say you are very different from everyone else I really don't understand why you had to lie about your due date in the first place and two-yes it is your business but its a due date I mean eventually people are going to find out and you say Ne Ne is Ghetto? that side pony tail you had on from last sunday's show is Ghetto and don't let me get started on your make up .. and for you to start something with Kim was so unlady like Ms. Southern Bell all of them were talking about you .. HELL the world was talking about you , this show really shows just how intelligent you are you may be book smart but common since is something you lack..
Merry Christmas, and Happy Holiday's to everyone. Pheadra, I have really enjoyed you this season, you make me laugh and smile, you have a very beautiful family. Please ignore the posters who have nothing better goin on in their sad little worlds. we'll just have to send love their way and pray it help's.
I seen you on that Bravo show and I thought you were great!! I love the way you and Apollo interact. I love the show. And I know it's just TV so I don't take it personally. It's great entertainment.
Phaedra, I know you didn't ask, but I'm going to tell you anyway. STOP LYING ABOUT STUFF that no one really cares about UNTIL you lie about it. If privacy is such an issue for you, why put yourself on a TV show. No one would have cared about your due date, if you had not lied about. YOU created that mess, not Kim or anyone else. Stop saying it was no one's business when you are the one that drew them in with the lies.
Your quick responses are often very funny and it is clear that you are intelligent, but it always seems like you were performing the role of 'Southern Belle' to represent all the 'decent' people in Atlanta. Kick that role to the curb and just be yourself like you were on the after show. After seeing you on "Whatch What happens", my friends and I just shook our heads because you showed that you can be down to earth and cool. People really appreciated a person that is being themself, even if that self is flawed.
I dont mean any harm and i understand that phaedra is not abt drama so she says but these blogs are suppose to be a reflection of how you felt about the show and not this fake ish that she post every week come you do not even post every show I need you step up your game before you get kicked off jux like the others this is entertainment and right about now besides your altercation with kim when you come on the screen that"s my bathroom break.....your wayyy over the top sweetie I'm a southern bell and all that ish that you do is over the top and a true belle would not have to continue reminding everyone that she is southern because it drips from her drawl, and glows from her skin, and reaches people with her kindness of heart. do yourself and all the true women of the south a favor and stop embarassing us. Stop being fake with these "love and light post" and give a true reflection.
I love that you're so happy and playful. you bring a great energy to the show. I also admire that you go straight to the source to address any gossip about you and your family. It's refreshing. It's unfortunate that Kim and Nene are bitter women with lots of negative in their life and they feel like attacking you and Cynthia because you're new to the show and b/c you guys are established, make your own money and are successful - without the help from anyone (Kim uses everyone and Nene sells herself out like Kim!). I feel bad for them. They'll figure it out. Now that Nene is facing some difficult times with her husband, I was hoping that she'd become more humbled and relate to women better - rather than competing and attacking those who she thinks is better (yes she's a jealous person!) than her. So, although you don't live in the past and although you move on, I do think you should be very careful with those two women. Keep your distance, and in order to keep your family healthy - don't let them around them. They are negative energy and can give you the evil eye and wish you harm (personally, emotionally, etc).
Just wanted to warn you.
Other than my little rant there, I think you are great! I think you have a beautiful baby boy. I wish you and your husband continued success. You're beautiful, he's handsome and your little one is adorable. Good for you and congrats on your career, success and family. Wishing you more for many years!
honestly, this a very beautiful blog and i must say this truly showed your "southern belle-ness". Happy holidays to you and to your beautiful family and blessings for what you are doing for those children... merry christmas to all housewives
I think it took a lot of class to refrain from commenting about the past drama and I for one found your blog post very inspiring. Thanks for sharing such wonderful life lessons not only about how to handle oneself when faced with negativity, but about the spirit of the season as well. Happy holidays!
Um..thanks for the sweet words of wisdom. They were nice, really..but for once can you actually stay on topic and use the blogs for what they were made for? They were created for you to discuss the latest episode of RHOA, not practice your Hallmark card writing. Thanks.
Hi Phaedra....I think you got caught up in the show.....acted like someone else....didn't act like you normally would.....and are most likely a little embarrassed.....right? We, the viewers, have seen all of this happen to other housewives on all the shows....their first year, they don't know what to do, try to act a way they 'think' we might enjoy.....then, when they watch themselves later, they cringe! If you come back next year, you'll be well aware of what you did wrong this year and hopefully we'll all meet the real Phaedra.
Great blog. I've been a fan of you and your family since day one. I don't understand why people take your comments so seriously. Out of all of the housewives you make me laugh the most. Even though you lied about your due date, I still respect you the most b/c I don't feel like you say or do things to intentionally hurt anyone. NeNe, Sheree and Kim are all good for this. NeNe was out of line showing the friend contract, Kim was mean spirited when NeNe showed it to her & Sheree was instigating when she brought it up at the spa. I don't know why people don't see this. These three especially talk about everybody. At least if you have something to say, you say it to the source & I can respect that. Have a great holiday.
Are you for real? Phaedra's classy? Perhaps you need to look up the definition of "class." She's a guttersnipe, but she does make for entertaining TV.
That is why i like u. You keep it classy. Merry Christmas to u and your beautiful family!! Take care!!
Phaedra is one of the most down to earth people on the show. She has her own style and she stand up for something she like. I really like phaedra and I dont think shes Ghetto. Keep doing you Phaedra!!!!
Phaedra is one of the most down to earth people on the show. She has her own style and dont care what people say. She stand up for what she likes, and Idont think shes getto. KEEP DOING U ,PHAEDRA
Phaedra you make me laugh. You do realize that no one would be talking about your due date if you hadn't lied in the first place, right? You take a month off from writing a blog and this is all you provide?!?! I think it is a wonderful idea to donate the gifts. However, do you see how you are contradicting yourself? You already showed your materialistic side when discussing your love language and how for you it means Apollo giving you gifts. Guess your appreciation for Anne Frank's quote only applies when your gifts are not involved. And just so you know...7lbs 23oz is 8lbs 7oz.