Phaedra Parks

Phaedra wishes everyone a Happy New Year and a new outlook.

on Jan 10, 20110

Hello everyone! Welcome back to a new year and new episodes. Finally, the reruns are over! It is 2011, and hopefully you have a new outlook! I am always fascinated by the optimism a new year brings: hope for change, excitement for life, and the possibility of true self-actualization.  

2011 is significant because the number 11 is the master number which represents rare and exceptional energy, much like 'The Real Housewives of Atlanta' (which is essential for great television!). The central theme of this week's episode is stepping out of your comfort zone. While stepping out of your comfort zone is never fun, it is imperative for growth. During this episode, I venture out of my comfort zone by inviting Kim to my son's Sip and See at my home, following our confrontation. Kim ventures out of her comfort zone when she leaves her children for the first time to join Kandi for a bus tour. Kandi ventures out of her comfort zone when she elects to have Kim, a novice artist as her opening act for her tour. NeNe also finds herself in an uncomfortable situation when she attempts to interview Jermaine Dupri. Lastly, Cynthia and Peter participate in  premarital counseling and face some challenging issues regarding their relationship and pending nuptials. 

While all of these scenarios are vastly different, everyone wants the same outcome of success and happiness. We all know life is not always easy. Everyone will at some point experience joy, pain, happiness, and sadness.  But, unfortunately, facing those hard tasks and uncomfortable situations head on is sometimes a necessity. Often, when we look into the eye of the storm, God gives us the wisdom and courage we need to walk through it with grace. When I face difficult situations, I am always comforted when I remember the beautiful rainbows that follow horrific storms. My Mom always says, "Trouble doesn't last always, this storm too shall pass!" With this new year, know that you and I have an opportunity to overcome all difficult situations so that we can be rejuvenated, redeemed, and renewed! 

Happy 2011! Happy new you!

218 comments
Vthomas
Vthomas

I can say I was not the biggest fan of you at first but I came to really like you and see you for the mature, classy woman you are. You have a very humble spirit and I love the God fearing woman you are. Stay Blessed!

nikki M
nikki M

HEY PHAEDRA U ARE MY FAVORITE HOUSEWIFE, I WAS ALL ABOUT NENE BUT U GOT IT GIRL. YOUR SOUTHERN WAYS ARE JUST ADORABLE, YOU KEEP BEING WHO YOU ARE. I HOPE TO SEE YOU ON SEASON 4. AT FIRDT I THOUGHT U DIDNT FIT IN WITH THE LADIES, BUT U REALLY ROCK IT.

Prettylady Lynn
Prettylady Lynn

Phaedra doesn't have to respond to you because I will do it for her. I'm unsure if you took the time to read over your ignorant comment. But, you have a lot of nerve to call someone ignorant when you can't even write a paragragh. Learn how to use a comma, and also captialize at the beginning of a sentence. Oh yeah, Phaedra is a lawyer. So, who's ignorant. You can really swim back across those waters MARIA CHAVEZ.

Sugar Butterfly
Sugar Butterfly

"Black Girls Rock" is the name of a televised progam that focused on the clebration of the brilliance of Black women. And for the record, Black girls do rock!

sam (Samantha)
sam (Samantha)

I must say as a 67 year old white Southern woman that Kim referring to all of you on her latest blog as "gorillas" really offended me! Maybe it's just me???

Sylvia Whittington
Sylvia Whittington

Her Tshirt was NOT racist it was from the television program that aired on BET "Black Girls Rock" which was a tribute to some of our most inspirational, positive and trailblazing young and seasoned actors and community activists who are doing positive work nationally and globally. Get a clue and more importantly GET a BIBLE!!! you need prayer

LBM
LBM

Yes, 40 years ago racists employed blacks to do these types of jobs. However, there was much more room to be outwardly racist back then. There are people who still, to this day, believe that people of color should be employed, but only in the service oriented jobs that you mention. Because we live in such a politically correct society in which racism is frowned upon, racist people have to resort to implicit expressions of their hate for people of color. It's called institutional racism. There are people who express their racism by passing over qualified people of color for jobs and promotions, refusing to to business with people of color, refusing to give perfectly capable and deserving students of color high grades, etc. This form of racism is so subtle and overt, as Ms. Phaedra said, that it is difficult to combat, even with the Civil Rights Act of 1964, which prohibits this type of behavior. There are hundreds of lawsuits filed for discrimination in the workplace, but few if any are successful because they are hard to prove. Racists people know this. That's why this type of racism thrives. Unfortunately, racism is alive and well, and it manifests itself through sneaky tactics as opposed to the openly practiced behaviors of the past.

Lil Ms
Lil Ms

Phaedra, at first I had to get used to you on the show, however, you have turned out to be one of my favorite housewives!!! You are too too funny. You "keeps it real" and never sugar coat and I love and respect that about you. You are definitely classy and have your life in order which is why you are so blessed with a beautiful family. You are an inspiration to working moms everywhere including myself! I hope to see you next season!!!

Lori W
Lori W

Cynthia's t-shirt in Miami was racist. "Black Girls Rock". That was wrong. I was offended. This country will never come together with that still going on in this country. Very sad and very wrong. Bothered me. It was wrong. Cynthia's t-shirt was racist.

Tennessee woman
Tennessee woman

I'm loving Phaedra. She started out like she was going to be a horrible mother, so I prejudged her. She looks like she's doing a great job! She doesn't seem to undermine her husband like I initally thought too. She seems to be the coolest one. She has her stuff together and doesn't pretend like it's all good. I on team Phaedra.

daughtry
daughtry

What do you mean a racist would not employ you. During the civil rights times all service people such as Sweetie, a person who did services for you, housekeepers, streetsweepers, busboys, train service people were given to blacks who were employed by racists who thought that they were the only ones that should be in those types of jobs.

Ms. Faye
Ms. Faye

I didn't like you at first either. But I think you are the best one on the show. You are interesting, you speak your mind and you actually have a career (before the show). You and Kandi are my favorites. Keep up the good work. I'm an Atlanta peach myself.

DIGNIFIEDaddict;)
DIGNIFIEDaddict;)

Love you Phaedra!! Keep it all coming...you are fantastic! COME BACK NEXT SEASON!! ummmmmm-ummmmmm-ummmmm!!!!!

Tragically_hip
Tragically_hip

Phaedra, I think that you are a class act. I love your dry sense of humour. I love that you know when to stay out of the fray when the other cats are screaming at each other and acting like 6th graders. I love how you are an attorney and show that you can have brains and be beautiful. I love that you love your husband and don't try to defend him. You hold yourself above the others. You are a class act. And God knows, this group needs some class.

Angelanna
Angelanna

Phaedra, OMG, your holy oil comment was hysterical. I agree, that whole place would have to be anointed before I stepped foot in there. The whole thing was just plain creepy.

And how is precious prince Aiden? Your family rocks.

SEM
SEM

YOU ARE TOP OF THE LINE..!

lin breland
lin breland

Phaedra, Get you a body guard as a running buddy for the show. It's just a matter of time before Nene attacks you, and snaping her fingers in your face. Now I feel you can defend yourself, but be a lady, and get someone Nene's size in your corner.

carrington 1
carrington 1

hello Phaedra just wanted to let you know that you make the show with your class and style i was in starbucks yesterday and this guy name john came up to me and said that i reminded him of you so my friend you have a twin in columbus ohio thats amazing we rock my sister we have to meet one day just to see how we both are blessed email if you get a chance and i will fill you in on my new line thats coming out this year remember stay the way you are and never change thats what make us different talk to you soon linda

carrington 1
carrington 1

hello Phaedra just wanted to say you make the show i went in to starbucks yesterday and a guy name john came up to me and said that i reminded him of you so girl friend thats cool we rock you have a twin in columbus ohio we have to meet one day so we both are blessed stay the way you are and never change have a wonderful week my sister linda

SDT
SDT

Honestly, it took a while for me to start feelin you, but at this point I think you're pretty cool, and your son is absolutely adorable!!!

vanessa0997
vanessa0997

Maria, I would like to explain somethings to you about slavery, Blacks still suffer from the fall out of slavery. Forget for the moment the inhumane treatment of a race based on their color and looks. White ancestors were made rich offof the backs of Blacks. Ofcourse Whites can say get over it. But I would guess that when Blacks are constently hit inthe face with the financial success passed on to todays Whites from their ancestors Blacks can only be reminded of the stolen labor of THEIR ancestors. Just as abuse is trickled down from one family down toanother for sometimes centuries, you can't understand that the abuse that was visited on a race can't be? There is one thing that is interesting tho, every where whites went they brought abuse pain and criminal acts against humanity (INDIANS, MEXICANS, CUBAN or any race that doesn't look like them) I hope my blog was more respectful than yours but then it would have to be as yours was quite ignorant.

House and Garden
House and Garden

I really like you Phaedra!...Southern belle and all. And I think you have made a mighty fine addition to this cast. Never mind about talking lawyer-talk-circles around everyone about the due date of your baby, you are one classy lady in the A-T-L!

Viewer1984
Viewer1984

Hi Phaedra,

I will admit that at the beginning of the season you were rubbing me the wrong way but after seeing you on wwhl you seemed really cool, I really think you are starting to grow on me. Really like how you handle yourself with some of these ghetto ladies (NENE & DIANA)

Debbie Alexander
Debbie Alexander

I just love you on the show..You keep it real...southern style!

Debbie Alexander
Debbie Alexander

Gurl..I just luv you on the show! You are funny and keep it real!

SexyDiva1
SexyDiva1

Get off your high horse and leave Phaedra alone. God wants you to be who you are and not some phony who pretends they don't do any wrong. God loves us as we are, it is how we treat others in this world that matters. You sound very judgemental and phony. You really want everyone who reads this to believe that you only talk to people about "christian things", and what would those christian things be? The way that Phaedra speaks isn't how she will be judged on judgement day, so save the rhetoric and pray for some inner peace. Keep doing you Phaedra.

Patty P
Patty P

Why are you being a hater!! SO she is an LPN (Lic. Practical NURSE) and you a "Registered NURSE" Correct me if I'm wrong don't both titles have the word NURSE in them!!!!!

Tamika Carter
Tamika Carter

Phaedra I think that you're funny. Although some of the things you say makes me say Hmmm, I like you. Best of luck with you and your family.

DarkKhild
DarkKhild

Phaedra, You,NeNe and Kandi are my girls because you speak what's on your mind and the minds of others (they just to afraid to be as bold). But yes honey you back down to no one I love it.....and who says a Lawyer can't be a fun down to earth person...people are so hypercritical...keep doing you...It works!!!

RiAnn
RiAnn

Phedra,

I said it before and I'll say it again you are great for the show. Take my advise stay neutral, don't get close with any of them,"DO YOU" or you'll just become a bad seed. Kandi is no sweetheart, but she loves to play the role.

Sneakepete
Sneakepete

Phaedra, At first I wasn't sure I was going to like you but I fell in love with you when you commented on your "discussion" with Kim at the spa and said Kim didn't continue the conversation with you because she knew you were a crazy black woman. I love all your proverbs! Keep them coming!

Michelle in LA
Michelle in LA

Phaedra..the more I watch the more I LOVE you. You are seriously chill. I think we're seeing the real you now that you've had the baby and the hormones are back to normal!

You and your family are so sweet and adorable! You have a lot of critics, but when you read what they say...it's about some BS and they are really fools.

Love to love ya.

:)

Okiiemiie
Okiiemiie

Phaedra, I hope you're a great lawyer, because you say some ignorant things on the show. You're constantly talking about strippers and inviting strippers to an event (Southern Belle?!), and then you're a guest in someone's home and start talking about 'Holy Water?' That is hypocritical. Who is on a reality show talking about their privacy? Make up your mind. Pick a side. If you don't want people to judge your husband, perhaps you can tone down your judgement of others.

Bravo owns my life
Bravo owns my life

Hi Phaedra, this will be the 1000th time you've heard this but I was not a huge fan at the start of the season. You were condescending and put the other ladies down whenever you wanted to look good. Even while I wasn't feeling you, I KNEW that I'd come around start liking you maybe in the next season. Well, consider your appearance at Watch What Happens Live your next season! You and Apollo were so down to earth and looked great together.

It was refreshing to see you having a good time without any of the airs you put on during the show. It's great that you seem to have hit your stride during your debut season. Hopefully you can bring more of your natural self to the show next season. You're funny as hell when you want to be. Cheers!

Chrissy36
Chrissy36

Phaedra,

I like the "Martha Stewart" thing. You should share some of your recipes sometime girl!

Derrian
Derrian

I have got to say, at first, I didn't like, well should I say, didn't understand Mrs. Phaedra. But now as I look at and listen to her comments that she makes when she is interviewing, I see her as a stronge, intelligent, God fearing woman. And that I love. RHATL is my guilty pleasure and seeing her put her Gods view on things is a blessing.

To to Mrs. Phaedra I say congratulations on the marriage, baby, carrier, and my more goodness come. To God be all the glory.

marcias
marcias

I wasn't sure about you at the beginning of the seaon but you have grown on me. After last night you are one of my favorites. You have a great sense of humor which is much more fun to watch than Nene. She has definitely changed since season 1. In this world we need more laughter not anger. Thanks for providing some comic relief.

sl-ct
sl-ct

Phaedra-at first i was not sure about you. After the last few episodes (especially miami) i see you in a different way. You are (i think) the funniest and the most leve-headed. I hope you come back for next season!

JoanD
JoanD

Phaedra, you seem to have a serious issue with Cynthia being a model. First you encouraged her daughter to be a lawyer and NOT a model. Then you made a comment that you were the only one with a real job. And now the comment about the pretzel dipped in cottage cheese; which was extremely petty. Are you jealous? It would be nice to see the RHOA support one another instead of taking cheap shots at each other ALL the time.

NADAJA LEWIS
NADAJA LEWIS

UR MY FAVORITE!! I WISH U AND UR FAMILY A BLESSED LIFE

NADAJA LEWIS
NADAJA LEWIS

phaedra ur my favorite houswives out of all of them!!. U are one of the people i think is real not fake .All im saying is ur my favorite! nd keep doing what ur doing :D

viewer2309
viewer2309

To viewer 61, please stop!!!!! Please stop with your I'm a christian and we don't talk like that bullshyt, Please you are not being a christian when you are bashing a person, so please you are nothing but evil you are not a christian, if you were then you don't need to talk to someone like shyt like you do as if you are the holy scriptures to be followed, please mind your own business, if you don't like it then don't watch the program, stop you idiot christian woman who talks so much nonsense with stupidness coming out of your mouth, you sound so stupid ignorant evil devil from the ground you are evil when you talk about people you stupid idiot.

Viewer73
Viewer73

Viewer 61,

God said to serve Him in spirit and truth. God also said not to just be a hearer of His word, but also a doer. If you were so pure, what are you doing watching this show...ha,ha,ha.

neze
neze

phaedra,i really like you.you re talented in ur own way.you hv my support nd love..keep it up.dont mind haters

JLopez
JLopez

Hello Lady P,

I enjoy watching you on the show. Although you are a lot more sophisticated than some of your cast mates, some of your comments can be offensive. Example: your comment about Cynthia looking like a pretzel dipped in cottage cheese. OUCH!! --- not so nice "Little Mrs. Southern Bell". That was cold! Don't let those mean girls change you. Best of luck... Love you and your family.

ebonypride
ebonypride

Hey Girl: I like you girl. You and Cynthia are the most real on the show. When I baby mess was going down, I thought that was stupid. You should not have expected that they would understand where you were coming from. Pride, and respect seem to be lacking with some members of your cast. A lot of us seem to think that just because we are "grown" we can do, and we do what we want in our personal lives with no regard for our parents and loved ones. Note to others: You knew before you left momma's house what she would except and what she would not, momma is the one who did not know about you.

really love you
really love you

You are really cool!!! And have a great head on your shoulders. I love the way you can size up a situation - you knew Nene was acting (and is?) a fool. Your wisdom from your upbringing is just that - wisdom. You make me smile; thank you!

Maria Chavez
Maria Chavez

ya i do think that you are a little racist Cynthia. im also tired of your racial slurrs towards white people. get over it. black people are constantly talking about "oh feel sorry for me cuz i'm black and we were slaves",etc....well first of all you,nor your parents probably not even grandparents were slaves. that was what like a few hundred years ago?so its like "ok who brought you to America?" the whites did, yes your far ancestors suffered but its not the white people of today's fault because they didn't do it, it was their ancestors that did it.so your ancestors suffered so that you could enjoy the freedoms that you have today.Thanks to Lincoln, a white man,you re free today. and also thanks to white people of the past, you are in America and are no longer stuck in Africa where so many poor people die everyday from diseases like AIDS(which originated in Africa) and other deadly diseases. so i think you need to thank the white people for bringing your ignorant behind over here to America.GET OVER IT!