Phaedra, you said a mouthful and I loved every bit of it! We are such a talented and beautiful race and it's a shame that many of us don't know our own worth. Keep up the good work. You are a beautiful sista and I only wish to be as successful and poised as you one day.

u go girl!!!!

Good for you in seeing beyond someone's past, but I still find something very superficial about you. I'm gonna roll with you a little longer and see what's up.

I think people should stop being so judgemental when neither of these women have room to judge anyone. So what if Phaedra's hubbie did a lil time? Frankly its none of ya'll's damn business. I think those who feel the need to worry about the wrong things need to take a double look at their own lil situations going on.

Although i think you're a great writer, can you provide some commentary on the show in its entirety

I totally agree with the crabs in a barrel comment. Glad you used this platform to speak on the injustice of our archaic & biased drung laws.

I'm really impressed by your love & commitment to your husband. No one is perfect & glad you gave him a chance to prove himself as a man & husband. :-)

Everyone deserves a second chance.

Sometimes-ironically-it is prison that helps someone get on the right path. Think Malcolm X!!!

lol, I was thinking the same.

Thank you Phaedra. Thank you for being at least one woman on this show that displays class and sincerity and thank you for using this blog as a forum to address an issue that many Americans overlook on a daily basis. The level of recidivism in this country is shameful; not to mention the fact that America incarcerates the greatest percentage of population in the "civilized" world and holds the distinction of having the 4th highest execution rate behind China, Iran and Saudi Arabia, countries that certainly do not measure up to the level of "democracy" that we so proudly tout. The level of "invisible punishment" that released prisoners face post-release has created a culture of recidivism and stereotyping that gives us the type of statistics you quoted in your post. This is one of the primary reasons I'm applying to law schools this fall. We need to take the responsibility on ourselves to make this world a better place and reversing the trend of recidivism and creating a culture of rehabilitation can only happen if we as a people commit to it. I'm looking forward to getting to know you throughout this season.

Phaedra, I realize that you are a very talented lawyer and a southern woman,but please cut the "charades" we are not in the Gone with the Wind era baby! A "lady" does not have to put someone else down to make herself look good!

I swear. You see an african american woman doing good you put her down. Honey Fug these stupid folks that are so negative. Just like my momma say people gone talk anyway so let them. Love Ya!

What business is it of anyones about your husband's past? You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. I hope all goes well with the birth of your son. But, the hefers at the next table, really?

I love everything you said in your blog. Redemption is key and certainly forgiveness is the key to a true Christian life. So many people make mistakes, white, black or purple. It should be more about the reform needed and the chance for rehabilitation needed in our prison system. It is clear to me sadly that the black/white issue is not going away because we as a nation will not let it! It is there to be used as an excuse and I have always said there is white trash and black trash plain and simple so when will it end? If you are a true Christian woman you must believe that God created all people and maybe if you are not you should add to your cause the elimination of racism.

Many of my close friends have criminal records and I admit I kind of look down on them because I was a shelter child with two working parents. I got into a stupid situation with my unpaid tickets, suspensed lisense and a warrant for my arrest because, I didn't pay my tickets off and I got stop and taken to jail. I never again look down on my friends for having a criminal record and even through them money from time to time and they pay me back. Phaedra, you sound like a down to earth sister and Apollo is a fine looking man. Those other chick are just jealous you found Apollo first. God bless you and the baby and Apollo.

i agree a prison record should not label u for the rest of your life. You should really get to know a person before labeling them, some people with a record have a better character than those with out a record.

Phaedra, I was unsure of you because I am a fan of the original cast. But because of this blog you have gained my respect. I completely agree with the "crabs-in-a-barrel syndrone." I think the other cast members were a bit immature at restaurant. Good for you for having class when you and your family are being attacked. I applaud you! A lot of us tune in for the drama, but sometimes it's too much.

I have heard a lot negative things about you but on this show I believe that you are a breathe of fresh air!! You're an educated black woman which is under-represented on shows like this. Many black ppl are showcased because of a rap career or singing or being able to upsale a ghetto persona. I like you, and the way that you defend your family. Ordinarily I would say that you don't have to defend yourself against naysayers but, you're on a show where ever move you make and ever word you speak will be criticized. Your ability to move through this and still remain the same person will most definitely determine your character. I wish you all the luck lady and keep being positive!! I am now a true fan, smoochies!!

Phaedra if this show is real--big mistake to allow your mom to move in! The minute you became passive and did not tell your mom that you would have to talk that over with your husband first. You lost him. He will not upset you and tell you that--but he will begin to change and wander away from home; one way or another. Let your mom come over and leave a few days a week; or leave the baby with her; or get the nanny as you initially planned. Re-think this whole thing really!

Hi Phaedra, I read your blog and I have to say don't defend your husband or his past for anyone. It is what it is. We have all made choices and have had to deal with the consequences, and if you've learned from the mistakes and moved on, that's key. You dont owe the viewers and certainly not your castmates any explanation. How many of them REALLY have husbands....as of now, just 2 others. The rest want what you have. A good looking man that loves them. They are all posing (living in rented homes, with no talent or real ability to get wealth, except for Kandi, Cynthia and, well Nene I love (as ghetto as she is) but her mouth and attitudes is gettin the money for her through her books & tv deals. All I mean to say is please stick to blogging about the show...what you think about what happened in the scenes, etc. and be your authentic self. To hell with who has something to say about your hubby. They're just jealous!! Don't defend his past, it's over and life goes on. You are both doing well, are happy so don't keep looking back.

Phaedra, You do not owe anyone an explaination, he is with you not them. Oh did I mention he is fine.

Phaedra, I too am from the south & I definitely agree that southern women have a charm about them, but I think you're over doing it. It just seems we're not seeing the real YOU. Maybe as the season goes on I'll get that "connection." I just have a hard time following you. You seem to be putting on a show for the show, but hopefully I'm wrong. Best of luck with you & your new family.

Gossip is ugly.......and one's past should never dictate thier future...You and your husband don't owe anyone an explanation...I do how ever give you credit for defending the clearly guilty must be hard to sleep at night

I really wouldn't use Micheal Vick as an example...

These people are on a reality show...they are opening themselves up to comment from people. Sheesh. It's like no one has an understanding of what will happen before signing on to do the show. When you put your life on NATIONAL TV, you open yourself up to commentary from others. It's a very simple concept.

You truly deserve your husband. Best of luck to you and your child.

Why do you only defend black men? Am I reading this wrong?

This show is more about comedy than substance....anyone with any sense should be able to "see" that not many of us, black, white or purple people act like this or live our daily lives the way these "ladies of the south" protray theirs to be. This is "reality" not real....we don't live like the days of yesteryears, big hats, big splash, big lives...we have to work and take care of homes...it's all for show, people. At the end of the day, these "ladies" can bring a little comedic relief and some laughter, but that's about all. Show me some black folks that are able to live this kind of life on a day to day basis, and I might become a believer...in the real world and these daysl, it's hard for any on of us to buy food, gas and pay a mortgage, let alone, big hats, expensive shoes and all of the stuff the are having. I do think they are very entertaining especially, NeNe. If one is serious about a cause and representing those in trouble...why say, "you got the money to pay me". Really!! And here goes another one that will not get posted.

Michael Vick should have suffered the same torture he subjected those dogs to. Perhaps then he could understand the cruelty and the crime in what he perpetrated. Why on earth are you bringing his name up?

i completely agree, sis! well said!

Are you seriously comparing Malcolm X and Michael Vick....come on!!!! Michael Vick could NEVER undo the things he has done. He killed animals for FUN...sick, sick, sick. Please stop and think about the things you say...I understand defending your spouse, but please put more thought into it next time.

MICHAEL VICK??? Really...Is this just because he is black? Also quite confused by your comments regarding black males and crime. Is it unfortunnate that they have commited these crimes, or that they have been caught?

Phaedra,

Your husband seems to be a very nice person. In fact my friends and I feel that you are the one on top of him all the time. This show may elevate your career but it will be so hard for him. I hope you understand that and give him more credit for that. If this gossip is hard for you, it will be 10 fold harder for him, especially if it starts to effect you, then he might feel so bad that he could eliminate himself from the show or your life. So it will be wiser if you don't mention other people's gossip to him. I really felt bad when you brought the gossip up when you were at the table and the look in his face showed being tired of the gossips. Don't put your pressure on him. Remember you brought him to this show, so you need to be more supportive. I agree with you 100% that we need to support others regardless of their past. And for your information it is not just a black thought. I'm white, I believe in god, married, and highly educated. I hope you can stand strong through out the season and the show. Good luck to you.

I dont think its that she's defending black men per se, the subject was about her husband so she expounded. I feel in some cases it is necessary to defend black men because the picture of them is painted so grim and that does not respresent ALL black men.

Phaedra,

I am southern born and reside in NC. You ladies have an opportunity to present well yet don't for ratings sake and $$$. I hope you will purpose in your heart to carry yourself as the southern lady, business women and Christian you are claiming to be. Daily living is drama. No need to turn it up.

Tell those others I am tired of watching BAMAs gone wild in designer clothes. Bravo needs to bring Lisa Wu-Hartwell and Ed back. Its good to see healthy black love and economic savy. Your family and the Hartwells would be great to watch.

Phaedra,

I am southern born and reside in NC. You ladies have an opportunity to present well yet don't for ratings sake and $$$. I hope you will purpose in your heart to carry yourself as the southern lady, business women and Christian you are claiming to be. Daily living is drama. No need to turn it up.

Tell those others I am tired of watching BAMAs gone wild in designer clothes. Bravo needs to bring Lisa Wu-Hartwell and Ed back. Its good to see healthy black love and economic savy. Your family and the Hartwells would be great to watch.

Okay, am i just reading her blog wrong or did she get up on a soap box and preach? I want to know what you thought about kandi singing and crazy NENE and all that! Who cares that your husband was in jail? Everyone has had a member of their family in jail, on drugs or whatever skeltons lurk out there! I want fun and drama with you crazy people because my life looks great compared to ya'lls! Love you all!

I like your stlye and the unconditional love you are excited to show towards your husband. You nor he should be ashamed of your lives. LOVES IT!!!!

I have to agree here. Your blog made me feel like I'm a juror and you gave your closing statement!

Be real and just say, he did wrong, he got caught, he did his debt to society now move on.

Mrs. Phaedra welcome to the show. I like you already. I can't wait to see you holding that baby BOY! Name him Parker!

I like Scotti Nicholas for a baby boy name. You are a professional and I love the belle in you. Smooches.

I am already tired of you defending your marriage. Why do you feel it is necessary to defend a personal decision. My ex is an officer of the court and a jerk, but I married him and when it was over I divorced him. Better enjoy the marriage, one of your critics will gladly pick him up after you send him packing.

When you quote Malcom X, that is sure a turn off for me. And I will no longer be watching this show.

This guy has you now for life ..since you having his puppy…baby girl I don’t want to be in your shoes the next 10 years….

Just sad…..

This guy has you now for life ..since you having his puppy…baby girl I don’t want to be in your shoes the next 10 years….

Just sad…..

I like you

really really? you seem to be on a high horse in the show and when it comes down to it you are not any better than anyone else. southern belle? really really? i think southern belles are insulted now.

I will never forget a comment Whitney Houston said in one of her interviews regarding her now x- husband Bobby Brown.."Love is where you find it"..It says alot that a women of your caliber, who obviously could have had her pickings of some of the finest, richest, and successful black men.Choose Apollo Nida..You are a "godly" woman that walks in love and not in judgement.I agree with everything you said. It is unfortunate that alot of people are looking down on him and your decission to marry him. Because you opened yourself up to give a recieve love. God will bless you tremendiously..I feel sorry for the judgemental people out there that will miss out on the opportunity of true love. Because they can't get past a person past mistakes, status or finances..They will probably die bitter old unhappy people..God will honor you sis..

Ok! We get it Michael Vick did wrong.......the Lord said vengence in mine! Why is it that we are walking around judging others we need to focus on self.....There are murderers of people who are not getting the flack he got and is continuing to get......what does that say about us and our priorities as a society. Animal vs. human beings???????????????

Go head! I admire your defense counselor, many people said you shouldnt have to defend your husband but your are in fact a lawyer!! So........Your are very insightful, i respect that...it was very refreshing to read both of your blogs; they seem to be written by a women with standards and integrity. Keep it up!

OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!