Cynthia Bailey

Cynthia Bailey recounts her eventful one-year anniversary party.

on Mar 19, 20120

Yes, Peter and I have been married for over a year now. I know most couples don't usually celebrate one year of marriage with a black tie party, but under the circumstances I thought it was a very sweet gesture on Peter's part. This past year has been filled with our share of ups and downs, and I really thought it would  be nice to celebrate our one year anniversary with friends and family. Um, well you can't blame us for trying. In life, some things don't always work out the way you plan them.

The party was wonderful, and everyone seemed to have a good time. Except Sheree of course. For some reason no matter what we do, Sheree never has a good time at our events. I'm not really sure why she even bothers to come. Oh, maybe since she had already decided that she was going to have a horrible time, it would at least be a great opportunity to bring Lawrence to confront Marlo about the whole F-word issue. From the look on her face, she clearly enjoyed every single minute of it. I guess it wasn't a waste of her gas after all. What kind of person comes to a party just to be negative about everything? I would rather she stayed  home, than show up late and be mean. The invite was a courtesy -- her presence was not mandatory.  

272 comments
Robin08
Robin08

Hi Cynthia,

 

IMO you, your mom and your sister are a real asset to the show.  The three of you provide an example of respect for yourselves and for others.  You add a natural air of style and class to RHOA as opposed to the more ostentatious persona of some of the other cast members.

 

That said, what really drove me to this blog is the animus your husband feels toward your sister.  Needless to say you are a grown woman capable of making your own choices.  In this instance however your choice affects not only you but also the rest of your family.

 

I understand the skepticism your mom and your sister feel about Peter.  After watching him on the show he strikes me as insecure in your relationship and often times presenting an ugly macho man front to mask that insecurity IMO.  It seems as though Peter has a problem reflected in behavior that is at times uncouth, immature and totally inappropriate (particularly for a grown man).  Starting a fight with Apollo at Kim's baby shower, a no show for the opening of the Bailey Agency, making gratuitous disparaging remarks about Sheree and Phaedra during an interview, publicly embarrassing your sister at the anniversary party and that crass no class whistling to announce your entrance at the party -- all unacceptable.  Glossing over bad behavior or excusing it because he was in a "mood" is a bad sign and a red flag in your relationship.

 

When there is a history of love, trust and support from your immediate family don't ever allow boyfriends, husbands, affiliations of any kind to damage that family relationship.  It's a red flag when your boyfriend, husband or whomever is willing or desirous of damaging that relationship.  The husband who really loves you would respond to such a rift by recognizing that your sister loves you, you love your sister, that relationship is important to you so you all need to do whatever is necessary to work it.  They don't respond by trying to dig the hole deeper or make the rift wider.

 

I'm going to close by offering you this.

1.  Don't let a prideful desire to prove your mother and your sister wrong allow you to tolerate or make excuses for unacceptable behavior.

2.  Look at Peter's motivations.  IMO he seems insecure and more driven by proving to others that he can get a beautiful, gorgeous super model wife than by love.  I know that's saying a lot for someone who doesn't actually know either of you, but his behavior on the show is telling.  Not being there for the Bailey Agency event was not the conduct of a loving, supportive spouse.  Publicly embarrassing your sister was not the conduct of a loving, supportive spouse.  You are like a trophy prize Peter can carry around to make himself feel like a big man.  Mallory is affecting his ability to feel like that big man.  I believe he wants to drive a wedge between you and Mallory because he wants to show her that he is in control and she has no influence in your life.  Your feelings are irrelevant to him concerning Mallory.

3.  It's up to you to build the bridge between Mallory and Peter.  Peter has already demonstrated that he's incapable of being the bigger person -- incapable of being the mature adult -- unconcerned by the rift's affect on you.  Mallory loves you enough to find a way to get along with your husband if he's willing.  I don't think he's willing without some prodding from you. 

Lena Taylor
Lena Taylor

Hi Cynthia,

I think you are so beautiful and I always love every style you have. What type/brand of hair did you have on last night on the reunion show?

s_shelagh
s_shelagh

NeNe Want to be... grow some balls... or borrow hers. You make a fool of yourself...

Kymberlie
Kymberlie

I agree with the fact that Cynthia is NeNe's puppet and has gotten meaner. Her and NeNe need to go. With all of the terrible issues about bullies in the schools today, I think Bravo should not allow bullies and their followers on the show.

Kathie W
Kathie W

Cynthia and Phaedra are probably the two classiest ATL Housewives. However stop chasing behind NeNe. Her head is so big now it's amazing that she can even stand up straight. She has you around because it makes her feel more superior. Also Peter is your husband and it's important to honor him and stand by his side but his treatment of your sister is absolutely unacceptable. She loves you and is protective of you. Maybe you should have kept your business to yourself if you didn't want her in it. I saw you crying last season, questioning if you should marry Peter; heck I don't care for Peter either just based on things you did and said on the show-I can imagine how your sister feels.

icey
icey

After watching the season of the show of ATL WIFVIES. Cynthia is a fake !!!! Understand no one is perfect, it has to be something being said for your sister to feel that way about what is going on. When Nene is around you can't here a pen drop from her, but what ever NeNe say she agree. But she counld not say two words when she left her at the party but that is your friend WOW!!!!! For you to set their an fault your sister for your husband action at the party. You act like you do not have a voice with out Nene. Wow that is all I can say!!! what some women will do for a man.

kentucky girl
kentucky girl

Cynthia, Do you really think NeNe is sane and someone you want to be friends with or does she have something on you or Peter? She is such a hater and double talks about everything that comes out of her big loud mouth! I think you should hold yourself to a higher standard then to hang out with a foul mouth closed minded person. When she moves to CA and becomes a big star LOL she will leave you in her dust.......

Chic Vania
Chic Vania

I am proud you stood up to your sister. While Peter may say things (now after a year of her talking shit about him) she is too emotionally invested your relationship. I cant figure out what is missing from hers that she digs into you and Peters relationship so much. Not to seem disrespectful but I can definitely understand someone over stepping boundaries. I think if you guys sit down and serioiusly talk it out Peter and Mal would probably end up being cool.

FMcC
FMcC

You should add a service to your fashion school of providing models for special events like tradeshows, product launchings, etc. You could joint the ACVB and get a list of the tradeshows coming to town or go on their websites to see what special events scheduled for their attendees. Add models who speak various languages, they could work as interpretors. You would be offering a learning environment plus adding job opportunities for them.

askum95
askum95

Cynthia, in my opinion is a very shallow person. 1.Allows her loser of a husband to disrespect her sister. Her sister has her back and all Cynthia has is the proverbial knife in her sisters back. He even admits that he can show a person how to fail at business 99 times out of a hundred. If thats not a huge red flag! 2. Africa, Sheree nicely asked Cynthia to go to the party, she runs upstairs and lies through her teeth to the talls, then when Marlo hammers Sheree the spineless trouble maker stands back saying nothing. 3. Making the comment about Kim and babies, she wasn't there to defend herself, it was a cheap shot. 4. NeNe makes the comment about the shorts having to check in with Kim (the boss), Cynthia can't pee without NeNe giving her permission to do so. 5. Get a back bone and show us that you have an opinion (not NeNe's but yours), and take that darn knife out of your sisters back. Own up to the fact that you are shallow, then stand on your own two feet hopefully with some dignity.6.Cynthia mentioned models have brains, she didn't mentioned that like her, she has to borrow NeNe's..but then again if she had a brain she would see that her husband is slowly draining her bank account. 7. Oh yeah, her husband plans this lavish "anniversary" party because the bar is doing so well, then he entraps Cynthia with putting up money for it, that she told her husband that it was his party and he needed to pay for it. He could have scaled back a little and stayed on budget but noooo. What does Cynthia do? Lies to her sister, not even blinking an eye. Did I mention shallow?

Cini
Cini

I am always shocked when outsiders have such as strong opinion about someone elses marriage. Clearly these people were raised very differently than I was raised with the don't stick your mouth in married persons business mentality. How in the heck do any of these people know what is up with Cynthia and Peter's relationship? Reality shows only show a snippet of these people's lives and usually only the most dramatic parts. Only a fool would watch these shows and actually think they know enough about these people's lives to give such harsh comments

MissMariss
MissMariss

Cynthia, family (and I mean your own blood) should always comes first no matter what. Your husband was and always is extremely disrespectful to your sister, both privately with you and publicly as he was at the party. You seem to completely ignore this. I believe it is your attempt at holding together a marriage with a man who is, to be completely frank, a loser. In the end, I believe that you will allow yourself to see that you are much better than him, and maybe start to realize that your sister really did just have your back the entire time.

Missycher
Missycher

Cynthia you are indeed a classy woman,and i love watching you on the show,don`t ever let the haters (fools) get to you,you and Nene have a good friendship and i hope u both keep it up,some of the things i wanted to write about have already been written by others,the only thing i will say tho is that i don`t feel you needed to apologise to kim for anything,tho it was classy of you to do so,all the way from Sweden,i wish you and Peter happiness,keep being you :)

GailGB
GailGB

I love u and Peters relationship now that ur sister is out of the pic. I still think u look better on the smalls side. U r more classier and smarter than the talls. Calling each other bitches...really?

viewer
viewer

I like you and your little girl is so cute and well mannered. I know you would rather keep her out of the spotlight, but I love watching her with Leon and with Peter. I love your friendship with Nene. She is your friend, but I guess it's hard for some women to respect loyalty and friendships between women because so many women suck at it. The women saying you are different when you're around Nene and calling you a booty licker is a form of bullying. They thought they would isolate Nene but you remained her friend and they can't stand it. Peter is your husband and priority over your sister. It's hard for some women to grasp that because they put girlfriends and family before their husbands. You're doing it the way it's supposed to be done Cynthia and I like seeing what a good wife and good friend look like.

MadgePadge
MadgePadge

If I were you, I'd start booking some modeling jobs in NYC. Be sure to stash the money in an off shore account, because you man is going to deplete your bank account so fast that your head will spin. Your sister has been right about Peter from the very beginning. After several unprofitable businesses, there comes a time when a man has to get a "real" job just like the rest of us folks. Peter's time has come...

CoolC
CoolC

I have come to not respect Cynthia. Last season she was ALWAYS crying...and the majority of the time crying over that no good man of hers. This season, she has suddenly grown muscles - in various places - and now her "man" is the best thing since sliced bread. Now the icing on the cake for me was the South Africa trip when she walked back into the bedroom and told NeNe and Marlow what had been said. Trifling, messy and totally trashy. What is trying to do...create a story line so that she possibly receives a bigger pay-check and gets to stay on the show???? I thought the Bailey Agency classes are full and her man's Bar One were successful?!???!!!! She is willing to sell her soul for buck. What gives??? I don't care for jelly-bellied people like her...they are fakes!!!! And by the by - she is NeNe's puppy.

Fabea
Fabea

Cynthia, It seems that your getting a lot of heat mail, but I am a FAN. You have the most class of all the housewives. Yes it was neccessary to apologize to Kim. GOD watches everything we do and just because your a celebrity it doesn't matter. You said what needed to be delt with and you did it in a dignify way. It seems these people just don't understand humility and it seems they are younger than you and are clueless on how to treat people, the way you want to be treated.! Peter is a little rough around the edges, but he's seems to be very supportive of you. Keep your relationship with Peter between you two. He'll get better in time.!#1FAN

FMcC
FMcC

Peter was more concerned about meeting the expectations of the people you "roll with" than giving the party for you. Watch your money, he is going to spend money chasing his dreams and leave you broke. Listen to your family, they are trying to tell you something. I wouldn't trust Nene with Peter.

anniega
anniega

you're husband's good lucking but a shady hustler. you're kind of stupid, which you highlight everytime you start waxing poet about how a model has to be smart in order to figure out "how to eat." wtf. you two deserve each other.

Zina K
Zina K

Kelly W:

You said a mouthful friend. My only add would be that if Cynthia thinks that Nene is a great friend, she hasn't had many good friends and that is sad.

Mary87
Mary87

Don't listen to all the haters. Love you and Peter. Best of Luck.

You should not have aplogized to Kim. You said nothing wrong.

She would have complained about everything in Africa. She is spoiled !!!!!.

kelly w
kelly w

I have very little respect for Cynthia and the way she portrays herself. It was nice that you and Peter celebrated your first year of marriage with a party but I feel that Peter was out of line with the way he whistled for the toast and then stated in front of the entire party that everyone should come join the toast except your sister. Then you said Mal was out of line...unbelievable. Granted Peter is your husband but Mal is your sister. PETER HAS NO CLASS AT ALL. Throughout the season it seems he had a problem at every social gathering. How do you start an argument at a baby shower, then try to start another one at another party. I guess it is true when they say love is blind cause she sees no wrong when it comes to Peter. As far as her relationship with the girls she doesn't know if she is coming or going. She changes sides constantly. Here is a suggestion...GROW A BACK BONE AND BE REAL FOR ONCE.

unreal 1 of 2
unreal 1 of 2

Thanks, Cynthia for being a stereotypical "model". Ugly to the core on the inside...mean to your family...lying, on camera...nobody cares what you think because you don't have a thought that is your own. Classless.

cgperry
cgperry

Cynthia, I really admire you as a mom, wife, and strong black woman. I envy your relationship with Mal because I dont have a sister. I think Mal has taken her feelings about Peter to an inappropriate place. However, at the anniversary party, I think Peter intentionally pushed Mal's button with that toast. That should have pissed you off. It doesnt matter if they dont get along. Mal, is your sister. His toast was out of line and it offended me. I have to side with Mal on this one. Mal is always gonna be your sister. Peter may or may not be your husband forever. I think that Peter should always maintain a certain level of respect for Mal because that is your sister. Im just saying...

yw222111
yw222111

When it comes to cynthia you never know which face is talking she so 2 faced with everyone but you can't help but feel a little sorry for her because and I am in no way a fan of hers as intelligent as she is peter pulling the wool over your eyes she can do much better than him.

Judah Ben Hur
Judah Ben Hur

It sad to say, but Cynthia is truly blind when it comes to Peter.. Peter does throw lited, matches from behind the door, at Malorie.. and then puts on this innocent face, Oh' like what happen...he's a snake in the grass...Cynthia's Mother, and her sister...sees that conniving spirit Peter posses... one day Cynthia will eventually open her big Azz eyes... by Judah

slouden
slouden

again, what . . . $12k for this party? peter's got 5 kids? how many mamas? also, since he's always broke, is he current on child support? are you his first marriage? second? sixth? anybody able to answer these questions? is cynthis paying the child support? she is disgusting -- hair and make-up and entering like she's diana ross in concert.

slouden
slouden

wow, you have a party you can't afford, humiliate your sister in favor of papa smurf (phaedra, you grow on me!) and then hire hair, make-up and walk down loike you are queen of god knows what. you owe your sister an apology and i hope you wake up and see that peter throwing a party for the "kind of people you roll with," (i'm going to upchuck) is absolutely fake. your mother and malory are not wrong. you need to wake up. you are just about to let peter break you for life. i'm curious -- where are peter's five kids? how many mamas are involved in the making of these five kids, how much child support does he pay (since he's always broke) . . . cynthia, life's lessons are slapping you in the face -- on both sides. get a clue.

f.allen
f.allen

YOUR HUSBAND IS JUST THAT YOURS. HE SEEMS VERY RUDE A OPINIONATED. HE HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOUR FAMILY ARE YOU. HE NEEDS TO GET A REAL JOB. WHY WOULD YOU WANT AND OLD MAN WHO HAS NOTHING TO OFFER IT WOULD BE DIFFERENT IF HE HAD GOOD LOOKS ARE A NICE PERSONALITY. HE HAS NOTHING BUT A STSNK ATTITUDE.

deborah
deborah

cynthia, you will have your sister and mom in your corner forever no matter what. Peter may not last very long. You need to make up with your sister no matter who was right or wrong. Look at the history between the two of you. You don't see it but Peter is selfish and self centered. Just don't do what he wants all the time and your little house will come tumbling down. And I promise sis and mom will be there to whole you up. Peter will suck you dry and then walk. Your mom was so hurt on your wedding day it was not a very happy wedding day and you know it. Then he tried pulling off the fact that you guys made a year. Opps my bad he needed you again even though it was suppose to be a surprise. Well surprise $10,000 right. He needed that from you. And then insulted your sister in front of everyone. Mend your relationship with your sister ASAP. Speak for yourself and not through NENE. I bet Nene did not offer to help you pay those bills when you got in trouble. Think back Nene wanted you to call off the wedding also, are you mad at her.

HoustonBorn
HoustonBorn

Cynthia stand up to Nene, because one day your will be the next to exit, if she gets upset with you. Be strong with her and stand your ground.

Live and Let Live
Live and Let Live

You are not in high school anymore! Stop repeating what one housewife said about another. You should spend your time working on yourself. Peter does not respect you! If he did, he would never have disrespected your sister the way he did at your party. He treats you and your family the way he does because you allow it! He is a user and you are an enabler! I know there is a strong woman in there somewhere --- let her out!!!!!

FMcC
FMcC

All of the ladies talk about each other. Even Kandi, but she doesn't do it maliciously.

Viewer
Viewer

AGrownWoman!...Kim called Sheree to tell her thay she's meeting with Cynthia, so what. Cynthia calling Nene doesn't mean that Cynthia doesn't have her own mind. That's what friends do. I don't see what Kim and viewers like you who are saying that Cynthia is one way around Nene. Cynthia should have handled the situation like Nene suggested and not kiss Kim's ass.

joejoe_no1
joejoe_no1

I just love you. I believe you don't remember what was said w Kim but it was classy to apologize. Not because you're sorry, but because it was not worth itnand you really didn't care. And I don't think you want to call her out of herself. Also, you and Peter are great. You check him when you need to. And how can you borrow money for a party that is both of yours. I didn't get that. And a one year anniversary party is cool. I love it that you invited others to celebrate w you. You can have dinner and alone time AND you can have a party. And, yes, Sheree knows shes not going to like anparty before she gets there. She bated Bar One, but she's been back. She bated the grand opening of the agency. She bated your party. Because the exercise queen has bad knees. She's miserable and she wants everybody to know it.

C.scott
C.scott

Cynthia, you definitely are not like the other women. You know that you are being filmed and know that Kim will see you talking that stuff to Nene, before you met her. You are a two faced individual! If you can't take the heat get out the kitchen!!!!! Also, I feel your sister is right on the money about everything she says. I definitely see why she does the things that she does and at the end of the day it is because she loves you. If i can see it, how come you can't? SMH, you need to re-evaluate your situation.. I use to think you were sweet and stayed out of the drama, but this season you showed the ugly side of Cynthia. VERY DISAPPOINTMENT.......

53beautiful
53beautiful

Cynthia, remain the person that you r it is amazing that people tlhat are not married to understand marriage. When u are married u are one flesh. U are your own person but money and assests are shared. Many marriages do not work because they donot understand the concept one flesh. Leave sisters mother and friends. Husbands comes first. Don't let people tell you about marriage when theirs is mess up .

AGrownWoman!
AGrownWoman!

Who cares if you apologized to Kim or not. The issue is, you called Nene before your lunch with Kim talking all kinds of stuff. But in front of Kim, you backed down. This is why people believe you dont have your owm mind. More than once, you've behaved one way around Nene and another way around the other girls. So are you going to wear an "S" on your chest at the reunion because Nene will be by your side? Just so you know, I'll be rolling my eyes and twisting my mouth to one side when I see you trying to confront anyone at the reunion because I'll know you're not being real. If your castmates and most of the viewers see it, then we're all seeing something that obviously you've turned a blind eye to. That seems to be a reoccurring theme when it comes to you. Take Care.

sedonafree
sedonafree

Cynthia, I felt for Mal when Peter insulted her before the gathering and the whole United States. She had a bewildered and hurt look in her eyes; I would have felt the same. Peter is a man and he shouldn't bully women; verbally or financially. I think your sister knows how kind hearted you can be and she understands your looking on the positive side and moving on, but she is letting you know some things could be better. That said, at some point she does have to back off a bit and let you live your life. Peter is lucky to have someone of your caliber, and I think he has a little bit of an inferiority complex, so if he puts down others, he feels better about himself. As other viewers have said, be careful, and that advice about "putting away the purse and see what happens" was pretty good! Your mom is more quiet but she takes it all in. You have a nice family.

It must be hard to be filmed all the time and scrutinized. But it goes to show you that one remark can be taken way out of context, as in the Africa/Kim comment. I think you women on the trip were so bonded at being in Africa, your homeland, etc, that maybe blonde Kim just seemed unlikely for that simple reason. Who knows. I think you and Kim can get past this, as you have tried. One thing about Kim, she can carry on a difficult confrontation conversation calmly, without disintigrating into screaming like NeNe or Marlo.

bigfanofyours
bigfanofyours

Is that you on the cover of the catalog I received in the mail today? Pretty pretty lady!!! If it isn't, you have a twin.

FMcC
FMcC

The black baby saga just won't go away. Will someone please bring Kim a black baby to hold. It's funny at this point that it's still being brought up. To Cynthia's point, everyone of them has said something low and dirty about each other. Kim, get over it. We see you and know who you are.

lololo
lololo

Cynthia, I think you just wanted to apologize to Kim just to shut her up about the black baby thing. You didn't even say black baby you said african baby and then you said well, make I can see her I don't know. People forgot that part. But Kim when she said that kroy is not a fan of Peter I am not of fan of him too, but I am really not a fan of Kim. I don't know what kroy see in her.

lol21
lol21

Cynthia it showed last night you missed and needed your sister Mel. i saw the look of fright on your face. you never know how much need a person until they're gone. You tried to hide it but couldn't. She helped you put together your agency and you betrayed her. Peter did not want to help you and he said it was beause he did not want anyone to think he is involved with your agency. Last night, when it came to the money he offerred all types of advice and he wouldn't shut up. i noticed your mother is not around anymore. Wow, your whole family is in turmoil after one year of marriage. You mananged to alienate everyone including your friend the wedding planner. i noticed he is very distant especially during that phone call. NeNe is distant from you especially after Peter verbally attaked your sister Mel. She defended her and you didn't and you did not reprimand Peter for attacking her verbally. Oneday, you will call on Mel and she want be there. Now your children are seeing each other due to the rif between you and your sister. Repair before it's to late. She will probably remain in france permanently.

bee gee
bee gee

Why didn't you just tell Kim what you said, tell her yes I said it and you wouldn't have gone to the orphange just like you thought my marriage wouldn't last a year. I would have told her to have a good day, give her the peace sign and leave. All of you act like you're scared of Kim except Nene and Marlo.

mskitty
mskitty

Cynthia,

Honey, 'the talls' have turned you into something you certainly were not at the beginning of the season. Nene I like, most the of the time... but that Marlo is just not a good person. You're coming off kinda weak, but I don't think that's who you really are. ( and on a rewind note) Did I miss something.... why did your sister apologize for the incident at your party? Did your husband not insult HER? I'm just not happy with you this season Cynthia, you're different.

Lively1
Lively1

Sorry, Peter should shut his mouth when it comes to her sister period! Cynthia needs to handle her own family with loving words...her sister loves and cares for her and can see the mess shes in with Peter or will be in given time. Not a big fan of you this season sorry.

waverunner
waverunner

Cynthia,

It's a shame you have sided with "the talls". NeNe just only like people around her to fawn all over her and treat her like she's something special. You can't really have a true friendship with people like that. I think you and the smalls have ALOT more in common. NeNe just wants you on her side because of all the people you know. She is a user and I think it's sad you don't see it.

Not a fan
Not a fan

Geez, enought already. Kim is just beating this horse to death. I don't think Cynthia meant that as a racial comment. I think it was based more on how lazy, narcissitic, greedy, opportunistic and self-absorbed Kim is perceived by Cynthia. Kim has made many a nasty comment about any of the girls and what Cynthis expressed was her opinion, which she is entitled to have. Has anyone witnessed Kim doing anything for anyone other than herself?