Hi Cynthia,

IMO you, your mom and your sister are a real asset to the show.  The three of you provide an example of respect for yourselves and for others.  You add a natural air of style and class to RHOA as opposed to the more ostentatious persona of some of the other cast members.

That said, what really drove me to this blog is the animus your husband feels toward your sister.  Needless to say you are a grown woman capable of making your own choices.  In this instance however your choice affects not only you but also the rest of your family.

I understand the skepticism your mom and your sister feel about Peter.  After watching him on the show he strikes me as insecure in your relationship and often times presenting an ugly macho man front to mask that insecurity IMO.  It seems as though Peter has a problem reflected in behavior that is at times uncouth, immature and totally inappropriate (particularly for a grown man).  Starting a fight with Apollo at Kim's baby shower, a no show for the opening of the Bailey Agency, making gratuitous disparaging remarks about Sheree and Phaedra during an interview, publicly embarrassing your sister at the anniversary party and that crass no class whistling to announce your entrance at the party -- all unacceptable.  Glossing over bad behavior or excusing it because he was in a "mood" is a bad sign and a red flag in your relationship.

When there is a history of love, trust and support from your immediate family don't ever allow boyfriends, husbands, affiliations of any kind to damage that family relationship.  It's a red flag when your boyfriend, husband or whomever is willing or desirous of damaging that relationship.  The husband who really loves you would respond to such a rift by recognizing that your sister loves you, you love your sister, that relationship is important to you so you all need to do whatever is necessary to work it.  They don't respond by trying to dig the hole deeper or make the rift wider.

I'm going to close by offering you this.

1.  Don't let a prideful desire to prove your mother and your sister wrong allow you to tolerate or make excuses for unacceptable behavior.

2.  Look at Peter's motivations.  IMO he seems insecure and more driven by proving to others that he can get a beautiful, gorgeous super model wife than by love.  I know that's saying a lot for someone who doesn't actually know either of you, but his behavior on the show is telling.  Not being there for the Bailey Agency event was not the conduct of a loving, supportive spouse.  Publicly embarrassing your sister was not the conduct of a loving, supportive spouse.  You are like a trophy prize Peter can carry around to make himself feel like a big man.  Mallory is affecting his ability to feel like that big man.  I believe he wants to drive a wedge between you and Mallory because he wants to show her that he is in control and she has no influence in your life.  Your feelings are irrelevant to him concerning Mallory.

3.  It's up to you to build the bridge between Mallory and Peter.  Peter has already demonstrated that he's incapable of being the bigger person -- incapable of being the mature adult -- unconcerned by the rift's affect on you.  Mallory loves you enough to find a way to get along with your husband if he's willing.  I don't think he's willing without some prodding from you. 

Shame on you!!! I have seen sooo many friends do as you are doing. Peter is an ass!! Mal is your blood and while I understand how you feel...one thing I learned after several failed marriages, your family will always be there no matter what you say, or do to them.

Peter's public jabs at your sister at the party weren't funny or fun to watch - it was awkward and weird. He's acting like a petty little boy instead of looking Mal in her face, saying how he felt about what happened a year ago, and moving on. The relationship will always be strained because Petty Peter just won't get over it and forgive Mal. Mal will always resent your relationship for this fact and because it almost fell to pieces before the wedding (I'm sure you were in her ear and your mother's venting about your money and relationship problems but now that everything's "okay" you couldn't care less about their opinions or see that they're view of Peter was altered irreparably by YOUR venting).

What about Peter welcoming "friends, family and Mallory"? Do you not think that was very hurtful?

Sorry Cynthia, but you are wrong about Sheree - Marlo dropped the "f bomb" and Sheree just wanted her to own it, which of course, she didn't. As for your husband's behavior towards your sister - it was just wrong. I know siblings and in-laws fight but for what he said while he was going to make a toast was wrong. I had been a fan of yours, but after what your said about Kim and Sheree and your sister - it's all going downhill.

The passive-aggressive train of Cynthia continues on its course....

Cynthia, Once again, you have chosen to ignore the GIGANTIC elephant in the room at your party. That would AGAIN be your husband's atrocious behavior. How many more times will you excuse his behavior??? Over and over you put up with it. Your sister's behavior that night I think was actually not over the top at all! Your husband saying all those digs on the microphone for ALL to hear was hurtful!! No one should have to take that abuse .....and so publicly. But once again Cynthia chose to support Peter...because he does no wrong ...right?? You don't even own up to the hurtful things he was saying. Mallory , at least, does not stand up with a microphone for all at the parties to hear. You are deaf, dumb and dumber woman! I feel sorry for your sister and you...when this gigantic bubble you live in bursts....and burst it will. You, then will get what you deserve for behaving like an ostrich. MAL'S behavior bad.....REALLY???

Bravo please post!

Cynthia, great blog! You are absolutely right on everything you said. Ignore those who critique you and your marriage and the way you handle things. Wishing you and Peter many many happy, blissful years!

I really don't understand why you gave Mal such a hard time when you didn't get upset with Peter for making several snide comments about Mal. Peter wasn't so innocent in this situation. You can always divorce your husband but not your sister!

Cynthia, love you -- you are one of the most real of the "real" HWs! Totally shallow question: your earrings at the party were fabulous. Are they a custom job or available for purchase anywhere?

You women are truly clueless! I cannot believe I heard you say you were proud of Peter for throwing you a party on such a small budget. You spend 10 thousand dollars to celebrate being together one year. With the way you bleen money I think you will be bankrupt and divorced before year number two is complete.

Cynthia, Peter should not have said what he said when he thanked everyone for coming to the event. I agree Mal should not get in y'all's business too but what he did was cold hearted. and mean spirited. :"I thank family & friends and Mal"??? WTF???

Wake up or you will lose your sister forever. Peter bad mouthed her on the mic in front of all your guests and millions on tv. He knew exactly what he was doing. He knew she would react...and you would react...and she would get out of the picture. Thats exactly what he wanted to happen, and it did. Then he has the gall to act like the victim. Pretty shrewed guy. He said he doesn't talk about her or think about her but that spoke volumes. It was mean , rude and arrogant. A very similar situation happened in my family and now my family is broken forever. I never thought it would happen either. I even wondered if you were not in the room when he did that and didn't hear. Beacause I could not image you reacting that way to her the way you have. I would have been so hurt just as she was. I cannot image what it took to apologize to you...knowing that he set it up the way he did. Your sister is on your side!!

A lot of blaming Mal but when are you gonna hold peter responsible for his actions. THe little digs at the party were just rude and even though your sister might get her nose in what doesnt concern her , that night Peter drove her there. Hold him responsible too , even if he is your husband.

Cynthia get a grip already your sister has gone way too far shut this down asap your husband should not be the one talking to your sister you should and if she can't accept your husband, your mother too cut them off already!

Class-Act!!!

I wish Kithe was MY friend. I love that guy.

So for your anniversary you say you just want to do something simple and your sweet wonderful husband snaps at you to basically shut up and enjoy the party you don't really want or can't really afford because he's taking care of everything but by the way he'll need $1000 to finish doing it all. Oh and he'll be sure to throw a few snipes at your sister to keep the party classy. Wow, could you be any more in denial? How do you even stand him?

Cynthia, you are right that your sister should accept your marriage, however, Peter is a huge instigator. During his speech, he continually mentioned her name in a negative way. I hope you were angry about that as well! It was terrible the way he treated your sister.

Weird vibes off of you and Peter. It sounds like you are trying way too hard to convince yourself that your marriage is good, blah blah blah. Best part of your party was Nene. She is hilarious!

Cynthia, it seems pretty clear from the footage that Peter dissed Mal during his speech. Did you miss that? He made a comment welcoming everyone, family and friends "and Mal". That was rude. He started in on Mal in front of everyone and she was understandably upset. Then he steps back and plays the victim. I feel for your sister and if Peter was really the innocent bystander he claims he is, why did he make a rude comment regarding her in front of everyone. She didn't just flip out for no reason. You really need to work it out with your sister. She will always be there for you no matter what. Peter? Not so sure.

Cynthia I Love you and everything about you...but mal had a reason to get mad...Peter was rude to her the whole night and even the guest recognized it...yes he is your husband and there should be boundaries so just like you told mal she was wrong for causing a scene you should have pulled Peter to the side and told him to stop being disrespectful to Mal...It seems like your starting to throw her away and Peters enjoying it with all his nitpicking...Both of them are family and both of them need to respect eachother...BTW why does sheree go to parties when all she do is COMPLAIN and start mess, stop inviting her cuz shes a negative walking troll...Goodluck with everything!!!

Did Cynthia hear Peter diss her sister several times publicly at the anniversary party? He asked for everyone to come outside except MALLORY several times. Didn't Cynthia hear those mean comments he said that was caught on camera over and over and over? NeNe tried to defuse the situation several times but he kept continuing because he knew he could. I agree with Wendy Williams. Peter is mean. Everyone was whispering about the comments he made but Cynthia only saw and heard what she wanted to and when her sister started to cry, Cynthia totally blamed her sister for Peter’s bad behavior and said nothing to her husband about offending her sister???? Someone please explain the rationality of Cynthia’s brain to ignore Peter’s bad manners and snide comments???? Cynthia is really passive aggressive air head that wants to look cute but has some missing screws some where upstairs.

LOVE you !!!

Cynthia, I honestly felt when Peter kept making the toast and doing the "and Mal" comments, he was starting it. I was surprised that it went by you and you were all over your sister but maybe you should go back and watch the episode because I don't think he's Mr. Innocent in it either.

Its so sad to see the way you are treating your sister. You constantly talk over her and never let her get a word in edgewise. Your mother has the same concerns that Mal does, she just keeps to herself more. Holding an anniversary party that costs over $10,000 is extremely irresponsible, especially since YOU lost so much money in his restaurant last year and had an over the top wedding to pay for as well. It just seems like Peter is trying to make himself look good at your expsense (literally). Since you admittedly were struggling with being married the first year, wouldnt it make more sense to get away with your husband for a relaxing vacation rather than have him spend money he doesn't have, freak out about a limo, and publically insult your sister, all under the pretext of "making you happy". Your heart tells you who to love, but your mind should also be telling you that he is not a person to be trusted. Don't choose Peter over you Mother and sister, he's not worth it.

Cynthia, I adore you.... HOWEVER, I really hope it was the editing... but, in the last 2 episodes and in this blog. All I see is you blaming Mal for what happened at the party. Yes, she may have overreacted, BUT Peter was wrong and I don't see you holding him accountable for it. Mal was reacting to how he treated her at during his toast. And she had a right to be angry about it. Then you came down on her about her reacting to how she was treated. How did you expect her to react? I will readily admit, she has been a serious pain in the behind in the past and its obvious that she is not a fan of Peter. However, that particular night, she was not in the wrong. Peter was.... and then you blamed her for it. It would have gotten upset and left too. Just with a quieter exit! I hope everything works out for your entire family.

Why were you mad at Mal????? Peter started with her by saying to our friends and family and Malorie!! You said, maybe Mal was drunk. Wake up! I would be pissed too if my brother in law treated me like that. Stick up for your sister. Blood is thicker than water. Plus Peter is starting trouble.

Cynthia, being as cold and angry at your sister as you were shows that you have no boundaries on her side of the relationship either. What I saw in her upset was how much she loved and cared about you. That's why she was in your business concerning Peter. I didn't see that coming from you. You were quite cruel and I really felt for her. Peter really is a jerk. He has a huge ego problem and anger problems. You seem understanding of his anger problems but not your sister's. I say you get what you deserve, Peter. I hope Mal wiped her feet on the way out the door concerning her relationship with you.

It is sad to see Cynthia setting herself up for a rude awakening. Cynthia is alienating her family for a bad man with no class. He did an excellent job insulting her sister. I have a hunch this marriage won't last. I believe that marriage should NOT be Hard Work; it should be Fun Work.

Sheree goes to parties to criticize only; is too hot; too many cakes please give me a break. Sheree is so annoying.

Good for you Cynthia. Totally agree with your take on Sheree and Kim. Did you happen to notice she wasn't happy at Ayden's one year party either? The common denominator in that unhappiness is Sheree. I think you and perfect make a great couple and I'm glad you're setting up some boundaries. Love that you and NeNe are friends. Keep doing what you're doing cause you are a beautiful person.

It is sad to see Cynthia setting herself up for a rude awakening. Cynthia is alienating her family for a bad man with no class. He did an excellent job insulting her sister. I have a hunch this marriage won't last. I believe that marriage should NOT be Hard Work; it should be Fun Work.

Sheree goes to parties to criticize only; is too hot; too many cakes please give me a break. Sheree is so annoying.

I can't believe you would come on hear and blame everything on Sheree. The reason Sheree and Marlo even had the fight was because you and your big mouth ran (literally ran) back to tell her what she said. Am I the only person who noticed that you RAN out of the room to tell Marlo. After everyone made up.. what good did you think could have come out of telling Marlo what Sheree said? Even if you didn't think Marlo was going to "blow up' you know NeNe has an explosive temper. You WANTED to get a reaction. How immature was that? You're husband gets too involved with women issues. I wouldn't like that. That makes hims seem female and weak. You're husband is petty and immature. What grow man talks about women like that? You don't see nobody else husband doing that. What's wrong with him? He takes jabs at your sister, but you're mom is saying the same thing. How come he doesn't treat the mom like that? Because you'll dump him that's why. He knows he can cross that line. He can't loose his meal ticket. He ain't stupid. I don't see your marriage lasting b/c Peter is super controlling. He didn't even want you talking to Nene Last year. Hope he changes girl. Tell him to stay out of women's business.

It would be a cold day in hell when I let my husband treat my sister so rude in front of everybody (I have 6 by the way and we all feel the same). Your blog was more concerned with Sheree's actions then Peter's. Honestly take the blinders off, he is a money grubbing wanna be loser. So nice of him to throw a $10K party minus the $1000 he had to borrow from you (funny and disgusting actually), you both cry that you lost so much money in your old bar but then you flaunt spending let me say again $10K (minus the $1000 he borrowed from you HA HA STILL FUNNY) on a one year anniversary. Did you learn nothing in Africa, that money could have been used for so much better like maybe SAVING it for a rainy day because I see alot of them coming for you two.

You are so wrong in your approach with Mal! Peter was publically rude to her and you did nothing about it! Mal and your mom don't like him because he bullys you and wastes your hard earned money! We all heard you cry to them last year and now you want them to forget everything while he continues to do this to you! It broke my heart (and Mals too) to hear you tell her to get out of your life and go back to France! You will regret this later!

Cynthia: Are you reading the comments from the blogs? I am very upset with you, besides NeNe and Kandi, you were my favorite housewife, but going against your family, is a NO NO!! Blood is thicker than Peter!! What is going on with you, what is it about this husband of yours? I mean, you need to stop feeling sorry for this man and think you have to build his ego. I don’t know where the hell you were when Peter disrespected your sister in front of everyone!! LOL!! (You are funny as hell!!) I think not only should your sister have apologized to you, but Peter should have as well, because he started the whole thing. I am so glad your sister left, now you will see Peter for whom he is and at the end, also you are going to look stupid, and will regret it at the end!! The jokes on you BOO!!! LMAO!! This shit is funny as hell!!

Wow! Cynthia, I agree with Kah. You are trying to convince yourself your marriage is on point. Peter, is the classic abuser because he is trying separate Cynthia from her family.

Cynthia, go back and look at last weeks episode. Peter kept talking ish about YOUR sister at the party. He kept making comments on the mic about her, repeatedly. Initially, I thought you were a smart woman but now I am confused.

Are you really that blind or just that dumb??

I hope I never treat my sister the way you have treated yours. She seems to always be there for the little things, and those are what counts the most. It's almost sad to watch. If there is another season for you, I hope it comes with more self-awareness.

I would never allow my husband to talk about or to my sister the way you let him. It is obvious that you have no respect or care for your sister at all. She is concerned for your well being. He is a man that overspends and is controlling. What loving sister wouldnt be concerned with that. The heart wants what it wants..sure. But, sometimes the heart needs intelligent guidance and loved ones can offer a clearer viewpoint. No, she didnt have a place in the limo. But he insults her at every turn and you refuse to hold him accountable. His toast was a disgrace. You seem weak for allowing a man to control your finances, your relationships, etc. Grow a pair and behave like a good sister.

I have been married for 16 years and not once have "I" had an anniversary. "We" celebrate "our" anniversary together! We are in this marriage together. Additionally, since when is money his or her's? The money is our's jointly. Borrowing money from a spouse is ridiculuous! Is this a marriage or a business arrangement? I believe you married for love so Mallory needs to take that jet back to France to be with her husband. Bye-bye, sis!

Cynthia, I really enjoy you on the show but quite frankly, Peter is way too controlling and bossy for my taste. Sometimes it even borders on rude and disrespectful. His very public comments regarding your sister were truly unforgiveable. It was actually as if he intentionally set her up to be humiliated. But, as you said, it's your marriage.

Nice to know you have your sister's back. Oh, and while you're back there, how about removing your knife from it.

You are in denial. Your hubbie is mean and rude not only to you but your sister.

I lost my very precious sister to cancer. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think, wow I wish I could tell her that. What I think is so sad is that you damaged your sisters relationship with your husband by telling her all of your real concerns and then you got mad when she stuck up for you. You cannot lay it all down and expect the people who really love you to not unknow what you just said. Like I said I lost my precious sister, you can replace your husband but you cannot replace your sister and I fear you have done possible irreparable damage to that relationship by allowing the disrespectful attitude of your spouse toward your sister. You never acknowledged how his hurtful, petty remarks made publicly fueled what happened. Sad for Mal.

Cynthia, I think you are the classiest lady on the show. What I'm really shocked about is everyone telling you what to do in YOUR marriage. Let them tell it you should choose your sister over your husband. Mallory is still mad after more than a year that you married Peter and it's truly time for her to move on. While I didn't find Peter's jabs funny, Mallory's reaction was too much. She should've walked out or ignored him and address the issue in a more appropriate setting. Keep holding your head high and rise above the fray of foolery.

cynthia, you go! who said you didn't have a back bone? well said, i couldn't have said it better myself. your take on the other housewives are so on the mark, especially kim. she thinks she can say what ever she wants, and call names, when someone say something about her, she blows a fuse. kandi is two faced and sneaky. best wishes on your 1 yr anniversity and many more. your love for peter is all that matters.

gena dare, you can't blame cynthia for her comments on kim,sheree, they talk about cynthia like a dog and call her all kinds of names, she has every right to respond. who the he!! kim and sheree think they are. they are not even in cynthia's league. i've never even heard cynthia curse. as for her marriage, marraige is a holy union not to be taken lightly. i commend her for at least trying to make it work. the audience shouldn't be telling her what to do about her husband. i don't agree with the things peter do or say either, i'm glad i don't have to deal with a person like him. if things don't work out for them, her family will be there, but a long as he's not beating on her, family needs to back off.

Just watched the episode again and wondered as some others do, how about the microphone and your husband, "loving as he is" calling her out in front of everyone! Friends, Family... and Mal. So she is supposed to just smile and take that while everyone else hearing that looked very uncomfortable. I understand that he is your husband, and maybe off camera you talked to him about it, but in the blogs you have the ability to update what we have seen, and no where do you even mention it, you just say that Mal was wrong. It just seems that this is the place to set the record straight, and I do not see that happening, just throwing it ALL on your sister, and none onto Peter. That is too bad!

Passive aggressive much, Cynthia? My husband could never disrespect my sister in public like that. You are in denial with your marriage. Glad you enjoyed your one year anniversary because you probably wont make it to your second.

Passive aggressive much, Cynthia? My husband could never disrespect my sister in public like that. You are in denial with your marriage. Glad you enjoyed your one year anniversary because you probably wont make it to your second.