Happy belated Thanksgiving! Huge thank you to my mother for driving four hours from Alabama to Atlanta to help me prepare dinner. We had turkey and dressing, macaroni and cheese, potato salad, collard greens, sweet potato salad, deviled eggs, ham, and cornbread. Oh how could I forget! We also had chitterlings. You can take the girl out of the country, but you can't take the country out of the girl! For dessert we had sweet potato pie, apple pie, and red velvet cupcakes. Everything was delicious, and it was nice to spend time with the family. Everyone was there except my sister Mal, who lives in France with her husband. We mostly ate, watched TV, and played board games. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, and I have so much to be thankful for. I am most thankful for my health, my friends and family, and for life itself. Every morning when I wake up, I thank God for life. I appreciate my blessings and take nothing for granted.
Kim: I did NOT receive a wedding gift from Kim. If I got a gift, I would say that I did. I received gifts from Kandi, Phaedra, and NeNe. Why would I lie? To be honest, I never really cared that she didn't bring a gift, her presence at the wedding was presents enough. The only thing that hurt me was how she insulted me by bringing her own wine and saying that Peter and I wouldn't make it a year. I never got an apology for that. Well anyway, I apologize for Peter and Apollo bumping heads at her shower. Again, it was not the time or the place. Again, we did not instigate it in the first place. Again, I am happy for Kim and wish her well. I really have no issue with Kim. Now, can we move on about who brought who a present already?
I agree!!! Sister needs to stay the Hell out!!!! Until you have been married over 50 years, you cant tell me jack!!!!!!
It is always funny when people (Mal) say "I just want for you to be happy", but doesn't she realize she is the one who is causing you to be "unhappy"? She should apologize to Peter for what happened at the wedding. I myself am still on the fence in regards to Peter, but it is your life and marriage.
Quit talking to you sister about your marriage if you don't want her involved!! You are continually bringing her into your many problems with Peter (including the day of your wedding), then you act all surprised when they try to protect you! In my opinion, the trouble you are having with your family and Peter is all on you. Own it, apologize to your family for involving them and move on--you can't have it both ways and you are not being fair to Peter, your mother or your sister.
Cynthia please don't cut him a check, i guess it is true what they say, that love is blind cause thats the only reason why you can't see that he is using you....
You are some grown women fighting about whether or not you gave or received a gift. Does this not seem ridiculous to either of you?
I love Cynthia and I think she is a classy lady. she is not one to bring drama or gossip about people. Everybody don't have to be loud, ghetto, flashy and ignorant and none of those fit Cynthia. Alot of folk say that she is NeNe puppet but I don't see that, the rest of the ladies are always talking about her and Ne don't do that. When Cynthia comes around you see her cast members hating on her. We were all made different and I am glad that she is a classy woman. Alot of you all don't know nothing about that because all of the other women are about alot of drama. There are females that don't deal with drama and Cynthia is one of them. I love her personality and her style!!
You need to pay attention to Mal where Peter is concerned. She's your sister and she loves you. It's clear that Peter has no interest in being close with your family. I don't blame Mal for being upset. She's just trying to look out for you.
I really like you, however, how in the world can you say that your husband did not instigate the fight??? He pushed and pushed and pushed, it was his fault!
If you were over Kim than you would not dedicate any of your blog to her. We all know that she is tacky to the ninth degree and it is always about me me me! I wouldn't trust NeNe as far as I could throw her. But, you find something likable in her so good for you. Your sister is concerned for you. You had concerns about marrying Peter, your mother had concerns, and a lot of people had doubts. So, maybe you should rewatch last season to see why people did not expect it to last. You are so full of venom this year...your husband is rubbing off on you.
Interesting. Didn't you throw it in your sister's face that her and her husband have problems? I know, you're going to say she started it with my husband. But you can't have it both ways.
BRAVO, PLEASE POST!
You're great Cynthia. Thank you for posting your blog on time, every time. It's very professional, business-like and classy, classy, classy. To the other housewives who do not post: what if we, the viewers, forgot to watch the show or were too busy to watch it? Get it?
Cynthia....I really like you BUT...YES...Peter did start the fight w Apollo!!! Watch the replay - he is a BAD DUDE! I feel sorry for you bc I know u love him....good luck!
Cynthia, Two comments: If you want Mal to not butt in on decisions about things between you and Peter, YOU need to stop talking about it to her. You may think since you are both so close, you are entitled, but she is left feeling the need to intervene. You now know this so you should stop putting her in that situation and redefine your relationship.
Plus, not matter what about Kim at your wedding, you need to take responsibility for how Peter (and your lack thereof) behaved at her shower. Like I tell me 10-year-old son, it doesn't matter if his sister starts something, he needs to learn how to control his response. Your husband could do the same and you should stop enabling his behavior.
I do wish the best for you, you seem sweet. Just a little simplistic about how people connect with eachother. Good luck.
Cynthia, Life is too short. You and Mal need to sit down and have an understanding about your marriage with Peter for the last time. Also, I think your mother should apologize to Peter, too. Sincerely, Georgia Peach
It's really sad that ur justification for not bringing a gift is because she did not being you one...really?! How old r u? That Pee-Wee Herman(I know u r but what I am I) mentality is so juvenile...
It's interesting that u would leave ur sister & Peter to talk, when u knew that he was going to get loud. What ur mom & sister did was not cool but have u re watched those episodes? All u did was cry...
It was YOU & constantly asked HOW AM I GOING TO GET PAID BACK NOW... u said those words & then u have the nerve to get defensive when someone mentions how much u nickel & dime ur relationship...
Last but certainly not least...I wouldn't be too quick to point out someone else's misfortunes the way that u did w/ Sheree in ur prev blog because ur husband couldn't afford to keep his restaurant either...so u don't have any room to talk...
We know Kim did not bring you a present girl. Kim tells tons of lies and you ladies rarely call her out on them, but trust the viewer hears them. 1st season, she has cancer and then she does not have cancer (she told this lie within 5 minutes of each other on the reunion show). She has been a dancer her entire life. She can't even remember dance moves on tour. Big Pappa never cheated on her (not even with his wife,lol). Kim brings nothing to the show and I dont know why you ladies keep letting of her disrespect and lies continue.
I'm just wondering if your mother and sister took the cash out from Kim's card since they seem to want to hide everything else from you! hmmmm!
Wow! Cynthia, I hope that everything works for you, but remember Mal is your sister and she is only doing what she thinks is best for you!
Great blog! You don't need to keep explaining about Kim and the presents or lack thereof. You are a geniune individual and I like you. Keep being you.
Cynthia, I am behind you and support you in your life. Stick with NeNe. She is a good friend to have. Good luck in all that you do.
You should have brought a gift...end of story. You don't treat people how they treated you....you treat them how you want to be treated. You are a disappointment this year. I was wanting the best for you but you reap what you sow.
Cynthia, not only did Kim bring you a card full of money on your wedding day. BTW you can see them walk in with it in the footage if you don't believe it, but she also provided the house in Miami for your pre-getaway shower before the wedding. Or did you forget because Nene was trying to ruin it the whole time. You seem really ungrateful!
cynthia you were the one crying about whether ur doing the right thing when marrying P. You cant do all that and not expect your family to question it as well..
Cynthia, You must take responsibility for your family's feelings regarding Peter. Your trip to miami with the girls was upsetting you cried the whole time worried about whether you were making the correct decision to marry Peter. The morning of the wedding you were again showing the same doubts. I feel your family was justified in how they felt, you never showed happiness only worry. Peter comes off badly in almost every situation he is placed in. He is grown enough to know and understand that you always marry the whole family. He may be gone soon but your Mother and sister will always be there for you, they cannot be divorced. I find him to be very much a bully not only on what we see on the show, but how he conducts himself outside of the show. I am referring to the "Uptown" article, a gentleman would not resort to the name calling of the other ladies, he would rise above it. He says he doesn't care about Bravo and the show, then he should remove himself from the filming. He is an angry man and is showing himself to be an ill tempered little boy. Good luck Cynthia I believe you will need it! Countess of Youngstown, Ohio
You seem to have gotten alittle too big for your britches. Call your sister, don't pull a Kyle of RHBH and include the entire world. Your husband acts like a thud. Good luck with that NeNe thing, hope it works out for you.
Cynthia, Your sister worries about you and with good reason. Here is hothead Peter going off into another business venture and as we can see already having $$$ problems to the tune of $40,000. Does this NOT raise red flags for you. He couldn't handle Downtown and now not even open yet and issues starting. I think you should name the bar Moneypit because honey that is what you are going to be doing with YOUR $$$$. Your sister is not in love with rose tinted glasses....she has her head on right and is looking out for your best interests. But you and your great judgment are just going to have to find out for yourself.....THE HARD WAY.
At any point do you plan to take responsibility for spending months expressing doubts about your impending nuptuals? The reason your family was concerned is because YOU gave them reason to be. I don't think you and Peter have to worry about it anymore. I'm sure your family has learned their lesson.
Cynthia you are too sweet and too linient with Peter!!! Apollo had every right to be mad at Peter for his comment's toward his wife. In fact all the housewives do. Also, although Peter was hurt by your monther and sister Mal about the wedding, he needs to drop it and move on! He didn't find out about until later on, so it did not ruin his day. Mal might have been too intrusive, but it was coming from a good place.
Overall I feel that you let Peter get away with murder, like Teresa Guidice let's her busband Joe. He should be accountable for his comments and actions!!!
It blows my mind you don’t think Peter instigated the argument between himself and Apollo – he set-off the dispute the second he went on record publically blasting them. There is HUGE difference between what was clearly a poor choice of words and little too much candor, “Lord, bring me a clean man” and what Peter said in that article (which was just mean spirited).
Peter should have spoken up in the limo instead of an entire season later.
Apollo was defending his wife, Peter was defending no one.
Fair enough blog. I get that everyone has unique marriages, but I don't think Mal meant to interfere for petty reasons. She was very concerned. She would be a cr*ppy sister if she was not concerned. Perhaps the audience is missing the charm of Peter, but if she saw you consistently miserable then it is her duty to bring it to attention. How can you not appreciate that? Peter is a hot head. If he cares about you, he would try and understand Mallory's concerns and question if she has justification. He might learn something.
Cythina, you seem like such a grounded, well-balanced person. I do think you should be more careful with Nene and your husband. They both have bad tempers and seem to need you to keep them balanced. They are adults and you have the right to have well balanced friends like your daughter's father and Mal, who care more about your well being than their own.
I wish you luck and joy.
Cynthia, You stated in your blog that you could have married anyone, you and Leon couldn't even get along when you were with him. It is just as easy to marry a man that you love that has money instead of settling with a poor man .
The best way for Mal to stay out of your business is if you DO NOT involve her. Some things are better left unsaid and what goes on in your household with your husband should stay there.. Unless its abuse!!
Cynthia, I understand that you and your sister are very close. However, if you want her to stay out of your business, you have to stop telling her everything!
Don't tell your sister every little detail of your life if you don't want her comments about it. It is none of her or anyone else's business what you and your husband do with your money.
I think you are a beautiful woman inside and out. I think your sister is as well. You asked her and your husband to talk......they did what you asked them to do but it didn't work out. Now you tell her to stay of your marriage. I can't help but wonder had you Not asked them to chat if things would be better.....I believe it would. Instead of their feelings getting cloudy over time and forgetting the intensity of their dislike for one another...... they instead were made extremely clear once more what they don't like. I think you meant well but you can not blame your sister 100%.....I do believe this is a 50/50 situation.
Your husband makes you look bad, or at least much worse than you do on your own. He's sneaky, and you'll never know everything there is to know with him. If that's ok with you, then you've picked the right guy.
Your sister comes across as wanting to have control over you. I have not only been one to try to control someone I love dearly, but I've also had someone try to control me. They dress it up as "because I love you" and they feel that they are doing right by us but their efforts are misguided. True love - the kind it talks about in the Bible - is not selfish, manipulating, nor controling. In my opinion your sister did the right thing when she asked you if you were sure that you really wanted to get married. That was love. Beyond that, she's damaging and hostile. As far as the show thus far, she has yet to apologize to Peter. If she truly "love"s you the way she claims to then she would understand how beneficial an apology from her to Peter would be for your marrital joy and happiness. Her actions speak differently. She clearly thinks you shouldn't have married Peter. Now it makes that initial conversation she had with you look as though she wanted the hear the answer she wanted to hear which would've been, "No, you're right my dear sister, as you always are, I do not want to marry Peter and I'll call the whole thing off right now." Now she's trying to grab whatever control she has....getting in your financial business...judging every single thing you and Peter determine is best for you two. She's even trying to control Peter at this point by NOT apologizing to him. You wanted to get married. How DARE another person try and stop you from obtaining your heart's desire? That's NOT love. Your sister should get some counseling and get to the bottom of the reason why she would treat you so bad. Like I said, I'm sure in her mind she's justified her actions by saying, "Well it's only because I love you." Hopefully her eyes will be opened and she'll see that's not love at all.
Word of advice.. Respect your sisters sincere feelings for you and don't be bringing your marriage or relationship issues to her. Don't be bringing her your business and expect her not to react. What were you expecting? Shut and put up with Peter if you will but don't be laying it in your sisters lap. What do you expect her to do with your crap after you've dumped it on her... Just worry and lament over it for you. No that's not right. She's damned if she does and damned if she dousn't. Yep YOUR situation is a no win for your sister. Leave her alone. You got a problem with your man then take it to your man not everyone else. She deserves the apology from YOU. And from Peter too. For letting your drama leak out all over the family and then having the nerve to blame then. Uh Uh you say your 44 so grow up already. Be careful your about to be more trouble than your worth and you will definitely regret the distance you have created between yourself and those who really love you. I mean think about it as it is now you and Peter have set it up so that if your relationship doesn't work out you can just blame it on the family instead of the fact that Peter is a self centered jerk and your are a self centered, immature and irresponsible...wait a minute you two really do have a lot in common.
Glad you and NeNe are so close. She needs a good fiend like you. I also know how it is for everyone to question your marriage. Just keep doing your thing and prove them wrong.
Cynthia....You are doing great with making a stand about your sister but she was not the only one who wanted to hide the marriage certificate. Your mom was there too and nothing has been said to her about it, on the show anyway.
Cynthia you can't just keep looking at life through Ne Ne and Peter's eyes. First- Kim threw you a lavish bridal shower in which the whole cast attended. Second-You are older and should set an example you stood by and watched Ne Ne be disrespectful and down right vicious to Kim in Miami and it wasn't even her event. Third- You never ever ever go to a baby shower later and empty handed and then allow your uncouth and insignificant husband get out of pocket at Kim's event. What do you have against her? And why did you not try to intervene? It was embarassing that the disruption was at the black folk's table. For shame!
Cynthia, you can't put out those vibes and then expect the people that have had your back since you were born to not respond. In the episode last night, it was clear that Peter would run to your sister and complain about you, as I'm sure you did about him. As someone who was in the middle, honestly, I think her decision came from a place of love.
wow...your angry husband started the fight in the first place, how do you stand by a man who is so obviously wrong. It seems that you surround yourself with super opinionated and angry people (i.e. peter and nene). Is this a pattern of yours...are you always the doormat, you are so beautiful I'm sure you could have found a nice guy who treated you with respect. It seems your sister has picked up on it by things she sees.