Cynthia wants her sister to stay out of her marriage.
Posted by Cynthia Baileyon Nov 28, 20110
Happy belated Thanksgiving! Huge thank you to my mother for driving four hours from Alabama to Atlanta to help me prepare dinner. We had turkey and dressing, macaroni and cheese, potato salad, collard greens, sweet potato salad, deviled eggs, ham, and cornbread. Oh how could I forget! We also had chitterlings. You can take the girl out of the country, but you can't take the country out of the girl! For dessert we had sweet potato pie, apple pie, and red velvet cupcakes. Everything was delicious, and it was nice to spend time with the family. Everyone was there except my sister Mal, who lives in France with her husband. We mostly ate, watched TV, and played board games. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, and I have so much to be thankful for. I am most thankful for my health, my friends and family, and for life itself. Every morning when I wake up, I thank God for life. I appreciate my blessings and take nothing for granted.
Kim: I did NOT receive a wedding gift from Kim. If I got a gift, I would say that I did. I received gifts from Kandi, Phaedra, and NeNe. Why would I lie? To be honest, I never really cared that she didn't bring a gift, her presence at the wedding was presents enough. The only thing that hurt me was how she insulted me by bringing her own wine and saying that Peter and I wouldn't make it a year. I never got an apology for that. Well anyway, I apologize for Peter and Apollo bumping heads at her shower. Again, it was not the time or the place. Again, we did not instigate it in the first place. Again, I am happy for Kim and wish her well. I really have no issue with Kim. Now, can we move on about who brought who a present already?
That is your man. You know him better than anybody especially people wat hint ten minutes a week out of your life. Keep your sister mother brother out of the intimate financial details of your marriage. It can only be worked out between you and your husband. That's what God says. I suggest you tell the HATERS TO GET A MAN OF THEIR OWN.
Cynthia...BLOOD is thicker than water and you never throw your family away for a man. You will need Mel again and what will you do when she is not there. You have truly shown the world that YOUR family is nothing to you and I hope you don't find yourself all alone one day!!!!!!!! No man is worth losing your family.
CYNTHIA,YES YOU SISTER AND YOU MOM WERE WRONG TO HIDE THE LICENSE.BUT WHY ARE YOU TELLIN THEM ALL YOU BUSINESS LIKE THAT.THEY SHOULD NOT KNOW WHEN YOU HELP PETER WITH MONEY.ITS YOUR BUSINESS IF YOU WANT TO HELP PETER.PETER KNOW CYNTHIAS HEART AND HE KNOW HE CAN FALL AND THAT CYNTHIA WILL BE THERE TO PICK HIM UP.PETER DON'T CARE HOW MUCH HE LOSE MONEY CAUSE ITS NOT HIS MONEY.ITS CYNTHIA MONEY.ITS WRONG AND WANT LAST AT ALL.PETER IS NOTHING WITH OUT CYNTHIA.BUT SHE WILL BE NOTHING WITH HIM.
It was wrong of your sister and mother to do that. Even if they felt they have your best interest at heart, you are an adult and this is the man you chose to marry. It is non of their business what goes on between you and your husband, as long as he is not abusing you they need to stay out. Just like you are not in your sister's marriage, knowing that they are having issues, she needs to focus on her marriage and not yours.
Hi Cynthia, the scene with you and Mal arguing in front of your mother was painful to watch don't let Peter *coughs* Papa Smurf's attitude rub off of him and pass it on to you. I hope you apologized to Mal after the comment you made about her marriage not cool at all, you never know you might need her one day. still a fan though.
How can you blame your Mom and Sister for being in your 'business ' when you AND PETER have both Invited them into your 'business ' countless times, and though Peter has stopped since the Wedding YOU Cynthia have not stopped!! You can't Talk the Talk unless you first Walk the Walk!!
Man dyva123 hit the nail on the head! So true about the covenant of marriage. But I also understand why Mal was in your biz, however wrong it may be. Cynthia, last season you confided alot in your sis about being unhappy and not sure about marrying Peter. Your sister even asked if it felt right and you said"it doesn't feel right" I mean come on! AnI jusy family member would feel skeptical too! I was always told when you get married it should be to your best and no doubts before you say "I do", and unfortunately, you portrayed yourself as not being happy with Peter.
Cynthia, I'm Jamaican. My mom passed and my dad remarried. The second marriage didn't last. Reason? Wife #2 made their private matters - money, every argument and everything inbetween, very public. Yes, she talked about intimate details, whereas with my mom, the motto was "if you're hungry and there's no food at home, no one outside needs to know."
Keep you & Peter's business to yourself. Stop putting your man on blast on national tv about borrowing money from you. When you marry, your finances marry. Learn his culture and learn to zip it.
STOP TELLING YOUR BUSINESS THAT'S THE WAY YOU KEEP YOUR FAMILY OUT OF YOUR MARRIAGE! YOU ACTUALLY PUT THEM THERE EVERY TIME YOU TELL THEM PRIVATE THINGS CONCERNING PETER AND YOURSELF. Ephesians 5:31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." THIS MEANS YOU TOO CYN (SORRY) LOVE YOU BUT YOU NEED TO KEEP YOUR FAMILY OUT AND KEEP NENE FAR FAR FAR AWAY! I'M SURE THAT RELATIONSHIP DRAINS YOU IT'S WAY TOO MUCH TO KEEP A FRIENDSHIP WITH A COMPENSATORY NARCISSIST!
Cynthia, Nene is sleeping with your husband (plain and simple) and if you can't see that from this last episode, then you don't want to. Also, being married to a hustler, you are subject to financial abuse, but from watching past shows, I would go as far to say that he has smacked you once or twice. Your sister is not the problem. Peter is the problem. Your mind is gone. Whitney and Bobby, that is all I got to say! He is going to bring you down!
I think your sister has some valid concerns. Peter has your back now cause you keep writing him big checks. How many times are you going to let him fail at the same business. WAKE UP CYNTHIA! Have you read the reviews about the bar?
After hearing Peter talking last night, ""I'm gangsta" in response to how he got money for his club (which will surely fail given the location!) last night I was really repulsed. Seems very low class. I think the belief that Peter will drain your finances is why your sister is always crying. But you are a big girl who will have to learn the hard way so she should let you live your life as you see fit.
Cynthia, I feel for you. Trying to keep our family and husband together. But someone will just have to suck it up and it will probably be Peter. I would suggest that Peter call Mal and your mom, setup a luncheon or something w/just them, so they can start to get on better terms. They don't have to talk about what happened at the wedding, just have fun conversation, allowing your mom and sister to get to know him again and appreciate who he is. Give it time, I hope your sister will relax and both of you will be close again.
I'm so glad Peter didn't take anymore money from you. I understand that when you get married, you both share everything. But since you're trying to build your own business, I didn't think it would be fair for him to ask you again to help him out financially. Hopefully, he'll be at a point where he can help you out.
Will you still love him after he's spent all of your money? Wake up, Cynthia. Peter needs to get a job. He's obviously not very skilled at running a business.
And a "perfect" wedding day? How can Peter say that when he dumped the financial burden on you and your mother? When he couldn't comeup with the rings you shoul have put this wedding on indefinate hold.
Nothing brings more stress to a marriage than money problems. Looks like you're headed for a whole lot of stress.
We (family members) don't have the luxury of make-up sex, make-up conversations, etc. We react based off of the information you feed us. After the hurt has passed between you and your spouse, we (family members) are left with the remnants of the information you've supplied us. In order for us (family members) to stop offering commentaries on your relationship you have to stop feeding us. It doesn't get any more simple than that.
I think you are a classy lady! Your marriage is YOUR business! I love how you addressed the Kim thing and moved on without being tacky or distastful! Stay true to who you are! I love the relationship that you and Ne Ne have. I pray that the Lord continues to bless you and your family!
Cynthia, even though I understand Mel looking out for your best interest. Thats whats expected from I loved ones. If she is really concerned about your happiness she would back off, not put you on front street and give the world something to talk about. As a sister after you have expressed your concerns it may be time to back off and pray for Cynthia and Peter. Cynthia you said it best you all have to learn to respect each others choices. Cynthia you and your husband are a team, it is biblically sound that your are his help meet. You can't decide in which areas you choose to help. He is your husband, not your boo. Everyone is dumping on Peter, but at the end of the day. When he finally achieve success you will benefit from the fruit of his labor. Most life decisions can be a gamble. Honestly do you think that Phaedra have not finance some things for Apollo. Its okay for men to invest in wives, but not for women to invest in husbands? I'm just saying! Men having been investing in women since the beginning of time. Women you wanted to be treated equal. If you want Mel to stay out of business, don't share so much of your business.
What I really admire about Cynthia is that she doesn't seem to have a mind of her own, but she does and she sticks to her guns even if no one else stands with her. I am sick and tired of Phaedra and Sheree making rude comments about Cynthia being under Nene's ass. Phaedra is as fake as Nene said she is and Sheree is not cute at all. Cynthia is the only ginuine housewive and I like how soft yet strong person she is. She is honest and the only one who always tries to keep the peace. I just hope you give Mel more understanding when it comes to her feelings. You did say something I agree with and that was to be respectful of each other choices. I know you know that Mel has your best interest at heart. I don't want to see you and Mel argue over your decisions when it comes to your husband.
Cynthia, stand by your man. I don't understand how your sister, Mal, gets so into our marriage. She is married. To take a quote from my nephew, "Worry about yourself." Mal and mom need to take 10 steps back and let you and Peter alone.
Cynthia Peter should be happy for you that you have a sister and mother who want your happiness at any cost, even if that means having to upset you! If he was a bigger man, if his love for you was pure and not controlling he'd be thrilled you have so many people in your life that love you. He's had an issue with ANYONE who loves you from your family to NeNe. He likes to bash people and I've yet to see him be affectionate or complimentary towards you or anyone else. You are a ray of sunshine that is being covered by his negativity.
Cynthia, I understand that you and your sister/family are close, so am I with my (only) sister and my family is close. BUT, my sister does not try to run my marriage or business. If she is concerned about something she will ask, give her comment and then let it go. It is up to me to handle my husband and marriage. SHE IS NOT MARRIED TO HIM !!! Your sister and mom need to keep the "H_ _ L" out of your marriage and let you handle Peter. If you and Peter were to wind up on the streets (and I know you wouldn't), she needs to let you two deal with it !
Cynthia...Cynthia...Cynthia! If there is only one rule you learn about being married--it's this; NEVER discuss business that is between you and your husband with others. Family will always have concerns with that they know about what is happening within your marriage. "ALWAYS KEEP BUSINESS THAT IS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND; BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND ONLY." If you don't, you might as well be prepared for a rough road ahead with your husband. And above all...learn how to keep the peace between you, your husband and family members.
Cynthia I think that you are a really nice person but you share too much of your business with your family and friends. A marriage between husband and wife is sacred and there are things that needs to stay between you and your husband. You already know that your family has issues with him so obviously they are NOT the ones you should talk to about your issues with Peter because they will never understand. My grandmother said it best "your family does not need to know everything between you and your husband because when you will forgive each other your family will never forgive or forget."
Hi! I very seldomly post on blogs, but I wanted to comment about your relationship with your hubby vs. your relationship with your sister. Marriage is a covenant between you, God, and your husband. You are breaking so many rules as far as guarding the sacredness of your marriage.....Your very, personal, private, and sacred business is being played out on national T.V., stop having extra-marital affairs with your family...namely Mal. Big rule...Don't entertain your girlfriends in your home while your hubby is home. ...And when you are married, you trade the I's, and my's for the We's and us's when you get married. Cynthia you have a very jealous sister and you need to check her. You need no validation from anyone, but God on how you choose to support and be the help mate that God intended for women to be to their spouses. God bless you and your marriage and you are in my prayers.
Cynthia...Cynthia...Cynthia...don't you smell the coffee burning on the stove?! Remember this; family will always be concerned when they do not agree with what they see and know. So, if you only learn one thing about being married; it is this; "KEEP ALL, AND ANY BUSINESS THAT GOES ON BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND!". Others DO NOT need to know what you do with your money. Learn to keep the peace.
Everybody STOP already with the NeNe liking Cynthia’s man. It was absolutely clear to me how that all went down. Last season, when they met, we watched how Nene was a little rude to him. Don’t you all remember when they were at a party last season and having one of their inevitable, sex talks? Peter said something that made Nene mad and she made it OBVIOUS that she was mad and even wrote in her blog that week “So Cynthia's man Peter had the nerve to insinuate I was having marital problems because I wasn't open to certain things in the bedroom. How rude and disrespectful was he? One of the things that irritates me about people is ignorance!” Well Nene really let it be known she was mad and she very graciously began back peddling with GOING over the top with him, letting him know she liked him because she didn’t want the negativity to hang and she nipped it in the bud! It was instantly after that afternoon fallout. I found it endearing. Peter reciprocated by letting her off the hook with it and the mutual “verbally liking each other thing” started. And it has remained as their “thing.” Listen, if you really like someone THAT way, especially if they are another woman’s husband, you don’t announce it. It’s all fun. Yeesh
everyone keeps saying cynthia needs to stop telling mal her business. am i the only one who heard peter tell mal when he and cynthia got into arguments he called her. WOW cynthia do u know that or do u have to watch the episode to find out. mal u were wrong. u should have stopped him in his tracks and told him he cannot talk about your sister to you. u all are phoney
Kim may not have given you a gift but at least she didn't create a huge scene..You have yet to apologize to her like Phaedra did. Maybe Kim deserves a present considering your presence and Peter's presence was not a present.
By the way Peter was way out of line. I'm surprised Apollo didn't knock him out.
And did you seriously just tell your sister she has to help out with your modelling business but she can't say anything about your marriage?
It's almost like Peter just needs some anger management he yelled at your sister, Phaedra, and Apollo. Maybe he's learning a bit too much from Nene?
i think your sister has issues of her own that she needs to deal with before she tries to be a psychiatrist to anyone elses relationship. i think she is a very jealous person and needs to mind her own bidness, and really i think she needs to butt out and remain a sister and not an enemy with your husband and keep confusion at a minimum!
Watch Nene... she is very much attracted to Peter and it may just be mutual.
I predict that Nene will invest in Peter's next flop/ bar.
Your sister loves you and is not afraid to go down for you. Peter only wants to take that support from you so he can finish wasting your money. Peter is a pimp...just ask Phaedra...smh!
Last, the chemistry between you and Mr. Leon can.t be denied.
I think a spin off show about you and Leon raising your child in two separate homes would be huge.
Nene first season on Housewives she was down to earth and real there was nothing phoney about Nene....she was well liked and funny...Nene 2 season on housewives...she was still some what real and liked but not phoney...and she changed not for the better...I am happy for her financial success...but..she is now a failure because she has lost the person she was...growth is great in the right hands
You Cynthia, your first season on Housewives you lacked confidence, you appeared phoney, you married a man of questionable means, and true, your sister and mother should have stayed out of your affairs...
You followed NeNe like a puppy, It appear you and your husband are trying to gain popularity on the program by being the bad guys and always in the middle of some conflict, once you destroy your image thats it....remember one simple fact about NeNe start on the Housewives series, during her first year everyone truly liked NeNe because she was not a phoney, she was real...your first season you came a cross as a phoney ( your husband too) and now you are labled as having no backbone...NeNe has always had backbone...
I did not like the way your husband spoke to your sister, and I could tell you only spoke to your sister rudely because a camera was present..too bad..your image has been damaged...
Cynthia, as a married woman...please watch NeNe with your husband. Any woman who has such a lack of boundaries in conversation with your husband should be kept at arms length. She should never discuss her sex life with hin, and should never flirt with him. Totally inappropriate. Again....please guard your marriage and watch NeNe.
Cynthia, a word to the wise. Stop telling your sister you and Peters business. You told her about the 40K, but then again, you want her out of your marriage. How can that be, if you keep constantly telling her your business? Mal, needs to be concerned about her own marriage. I understand the sister bond thing. But Cynthia, if you want your marriage to survive, keep your mouth shut.
I like Peter, the thing with Peter is he's a very strong willed man. He's not going to let anyone punk him (thats what Apollo thought). He's going to stand up for his. So Cynthia, get it together.
Peter saw your sister attempt to hide your marriage certificate and she heard all of the other things she said. They will be alright, but he is being portrayed terribly. He is on the defensive and has already said that he does not love being on the camara. I like the both of you. Neither of you are suckers. He doesn't control you, and neither you him. People need to turn the mirror around. Stay strong. It will work out with your sister and Peter. Time heals it all. And as for the article, Peter had the right to say everything he said. Phaedra lies too much. She said, she didn't know that he had kids or she wouldn't have said what she said. He told her in the limo before she kept shooting off the mouth. She dished it on tv where millions saw it. I say, buckle up and take it and shut up. Love ya.
One more thing: You said how embarrassed you were by Peter's behavior at Kim's baby shower. Why couldn't you speak up and say something to him? Phaedra was busy pulling on Apollo (to no avail), but you were standing behing Peter like one of his many children. Then you two were seen leaving walking hand in hand and you appeared as though you still hadn't confronted on his poor behavior?? You come across as being afraid of Peter and that scares me.
Out of all the Bravo shows, I love Atlantat the most! With that being said, I do have a few comments for you, Cynthia:
1. Your loyalty should be with your spouse before your family members, however you shouldn't involve your family in your marital problems.
2. Peter explained that your wedding day should have been perfect. Did he make it perfect by NOT purchasing the wedding bands? Or perhaps he made it perfect by not being able to come up with $3,000 for the bar and your mother was forced to (having your mother pay your bills at your age is ridiculous)...IJS.
3. Your husband is clearly irresponsible when it comes to money and continuing to give him more money is only enabling him...he's too old to be so needy.
4. I can understand you wanting Mal and Peter to work things out, but you should have stayed for the conversation. The reason is because Peter is far too disrespectful when you're not around and the way he spoke to your sister was embarrassing.
5. Your comment about your sister's marriage was uncalled for. At least her husband is employed and does not come to her to write checks after he's mismanaged money.
6. Without GOD in your marriage, you and Peter are headed for failure.
7. Finally, outside of parting the Red Sea, God gave you many signs prior to marrying Peter...you chose to ignore them and are not stuck with the consequences.
Cynthia, I truly like you and Peter. I know your relationship isn't perfect but who's is? Peter is a strong willed man, you can tell, and a little rough but as long as you like it THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS. People need to stop being so judgmental of your relationship because no on know's the true dynamics of it. You also need to seriously check your sister, I understand her concern but she is taking it TOO FAR. Peter is your husband and as long as you are happy with him and love him you are supposed to stick by him, I don't understand why your sister and everyone else in this world doesn't get that. I wish you and Peter all the best in your endeavors and I respect you for continually sticking by your man.