It's your first year of marriage and you are in couseling!? I still get butterflies after eight years, but not the kind you're getting from what we the viewers see. Why do you make so many excuses for a man who never seems to put you first, EVER! A marriage is a partnership, not a fight. A marriage should also make you change for the better, he told you to get off the train. Um, hello! Wake up!

You know that the love u felt is gone. Admit it and move on to doing U!

Congrats! To you and The Bailey Agency...sounds like a winner already!!!!!

Congrats to your agency, wish u all the best in 2012. About your marriage, u dnt have to convince the viewers about it - we all know all not gud & thats why your family is always concern. live life and enjoy.

Cynthia I dearly loved the story when you went to New York and you saw your very best friend and there was less of him this time ( good going to you--my friend also by way of TV..haha!!!). I really liked the talk he had with you and the way Peter treats you is not a good thing AND I do not like what I have been watching with you and Peter ( I THINK IT IS TIME....MY DEAR FRIEND AND I THINK YOUR SISTER THINKS THE SAME AS I DO. God's Blessings to you.

Cynthia, I truly love you on the show. You aren't about drama and petty stuff, or bragging about what you have. Therefore, it's been hard to see your relationship being reflected on t.v. I respect any couple to fight for their marriage and improving things. However, you don't have to change who you are, but in order for improvement you have to be open to change, and that can be the way you communicate, the way you show your love for your partner, etc. Just be open to the positive change that can occur in order to enhance your marriage. I pray you two will grow stronger and committed to your relationship! Good Luck!

Hello just wanted to say I am glad that you two are going to counseling (although you shouldn't be so soon, rem honeymoon times?) there is no way you should be counseled by a friend of your husbands! Come on now...that is really not going to work. Get someone that is totally unbiased, please. Your blogs sounds like you are trying to convince yourself that Peter is good to you..we already know and are just waiting for you to come around soon and very soon.

I am a big believer in the usefulness of counseling, and I think it may be a good idea for you to explore some individual counseling as well. Readers of your post can see that you are attempting to help us see Peter in a more positive light. Even if Bravo has edited out some amazingly nice/kind /supportive acts from Peter the behaviors that we as viewers have seen are very concerning. Your fans see you as a really sweet person and just think you deserve someone who appreciates you and supports you. While we don't know you we do know that your family is very, well extremely concerned for you as it relates to your marriage with Peter. They know you and love you and only want the best for you. This is not a criticism of Peter, but it does appear that the two of you may not be the best fit. Please consider some counseling for yourself ;-)

Cynthia, Thanks for bringing us up to speed. Marriage is a work in progress... You are still meshing yourselves together and working toward the greater good. Sometimes when you are working so much at not one but two new businesses (that need to be nurtured) it can put extra stress on top of all the other stress. I totally understand where you are coming from but, hang in there it will get better! By the way the beautiful pics you and Peter took at Bar One for one of the magazine's were fabulous!!!

I am a big believer in the usefulness of counseling, and I think it may be a good idea for you to explore some individual counseling as well. Readers of your post can see that you are attempting to help us see Peter in a more positive light. Even if Bravo has edited out some amazingly nice/kind /supportive acts from Peter the behaviors that we as viewers have seen are very concerning. Your fans see you as a really sweet person and just think you deserve someone who appreciates you and supports you. While we don't know you we do know that your family is very, well extremely concerned for you as it relates to your marriage with Peter. They know you and love you and only want the best for you. This is not a criticism of Peter, but it does appear that the two of you may not be the best fit. Please consider some counseling for yourself ;-)

Peter had to step out to do something at Bar One, then came right back? Girl, please. That's sounding a little, "I ran into the door" to me. Not saying that Peter abuses you of course, but it's a bogus excuse. You're telling us that on the night of your school's debut, which you planned for months he couldn't find anyone to cover for him at the bar? And if he left he couldn't have told you that? I wish you all the best of luck with this one honey, you're gonna need it.

Congratulations on your new business venture. Of course, we all felt badly for you at your opening when you announced Peter's name and he was MIA - we thank you for clearing it up. I have been married for 25 years. I am 52 yrs. old. Not that it matters, but I am an African American as well and not once in our 25 yrs did we need to seek marriage counseling. Yes, we are truly blessed considering the divorce rate. We are still as happy today as we were back 25 yrs. ago! I know it doesn't sound real, but I do believe that there are many many more happy marriages out there. We have one son together (12yrs.) and we are from similar religious backgrounds (Methodist/Baptist). Before we even thought about marrage, we made sure that our morals were similar before even moving in together. The key is getting to really know the person you are planning on being with for the rest of your life. It may take a little longer to find out everything and sometimes you never find out everything, but respecting each other plays an important role in making it work. Peter should have suger-coated you up with a 3-day spa because of how he mishandled that situation! But girl . . . . he haven't showed you much respect in just one year of being married. We didn't like the way he got pleasure out of knowing that your invitations were mailed a little late and then when you asked him to speak nicely to Mal on the phone, he say's "you and your sister f--ked up"! What was that all about? As if we didn't know, "jealously"! I'm not sure how long the counseling will work or if it will work, and I am routing for you, but not even one year of being married, the mere thought of seeking counseling is way way too soon! Sure, any marriage could benefit from counseling, but then again, I would think of those marriages that were already in-session, not newly formed marriages. Just saying . . . . . .If a man is jealous of his wife, he can't be trusted at all. If it doesn't get better soon, get off at the next stop.

i guess i must saw a different show sunday night cause that now what i saw, the man be littled you on national tv and then their you and the parking lot, really? im just confuse or maybe it just you. thier dumb and then thier just plain on stupid, and that was you. also if you go on a talk show and don't want to look stupid,don't ask for a do over really comeon on

He is going to drag you down..cut your losses and get a divorce before this really costs you money!

WHAT'S THE NAME OF YOUR AGENCY???? Do you think you could have mentioned it a few times more? Publicity is one thing, being full of yourself is another.

Cynthia, it's time to get real and stop making excuses for your ass of a husband. News flash, you're in counseling and you've only been married 1 year. That's a problem. I've been married for over 9 years, and we rarely argue, still have fun, and remain loving and passionate. When you marry the right person, it's not work.

U r the best Cynthia - such a beautiful, smart, caring woman....u just picked the wrong man to love - a mistake 90% of us make - at some part of r lives! Good luck - u deserve it!

Ok now that I am over being slaughtered by BAMA, I didn't see the show but read the blog. Keep your head up and keep up the fight.

Bailey Agency? I thought it was Bailey School of Fashion... Is it a modeling agency or a school for people to learn how to get in the world of fashion. I'm never really sure...

While I understand you're trying to minimize the problems between you and Peter, it takes on something totally different when you say things like "I don't like you or I don't love you anymore." THAT is indicative of a much larger breakdown other than a simple communication issue. You seem unhappy in this marriage, and I don't see you staying with this man for 20-30 more years. Get out now and look for someone who fundamentally makes you happy.

I was glad to see that your husband was opened to listening and learning. I have been married for 28 years and communication is important, but we must really listen to the other party that is truly the key to success LISTEN. You had every right to be upset when Peter left the party without telling you. Most of us understand if their spouse has to leave as long as they tell us. Him leaving without a word was just disrepectful to you. I also respect that you do not want to change the man you married, you just want to improve the man he is. We all have faults, we have to learn to accept the things we do not like about our spouse, highlight the things we love, and listen to them when we hurt them by being inconsiderate. I am not the biggest fan of Peter, I don't like the way he speaks about the other ladies, however I see the love he has for you. His eyes are the window to his soul and his heart, you can see the love when he looks at you. Please ask Peter to try to be more respectful of the women around you. I wish you both all the love and happiness in your marriage.

I love that you are always ready to admit that you are human and need help and do not have all the answers. I can respect that because NO relationship is easy and seeking help surely shows that you care enough about the individual to get it right to make it work. I am also glad you filled in the blanks because editing surely makes it look shady and those other heffas are quick to drag you down. I personally don't understand why some of them even bother come out "to support" when they are the first ones to try and cut you down (YES I MEAN SHEREE). Anyways Cynthia...keep doing you because you rock!

CYNTHIA, I ABSOLUTLY LOVE...LOVE!! YOUR BLOGS THEY ARE SO WELL WRITTEN AND SO INSPIRING!.THANK YOUFOR KEEPING US UP TO SPEED ON THE SHOW..YOU ARE A LADY WITH STYLE AND GRACE AND I LOVE THAT ABOUT YOU!...NOT TO MENTION CLASS AS WELL KEEP SHINING AND BEING BLESSED.....#GODSPEED

Contrary to what Wendy Williams says about you, I think you are a strong together African American woman who represents her people well. We do not need any more loud mouth, head shaking trash talking individual depicting us in the media. We need more of the Cynthia Baileys, B Smiths, and Diane Carrolls of the world,.

Cynthia, I know you and Peter can work things out. and sometimes he may do things out of order, but you have to realize he is still hurt from what your family did. I understand they care, but so do your husband, that's one of the reason's your married him. I think your sister is just wrong, for how she is treating him, talking about him behind his back to other ppl at the bailey agency. By the way is really wonderful. Don't let no one discourage you from your marriage, you've just getting started, Their will be problems on top of problems but you have to work at it. Unless you just wanted to spend that kind of money for a wedding for it too only last for a year... I think you all can make it. Sheree's is the most jealous person on the show. she comes in complaining why there is always one..... Be Blessed and i'm praying that your marriage strenghens.

I think you are the prettiest and classiest of all the housewives. Make that the only one with class! I don't think Peter is your soulmate.... sorry.

Cynthia, I agree that all couples should have theropy to help in marriage. Too many people get devorced before they ask for help. I think it is a good example for you two to set. I REALLY give Pete credit for going to talk to the minister. Most guys won't even go. I am fortunate that my husband was willing to go with me to improve our relationship and solve problems. We are going to be married 31 years this May. Trust me date night helps alot, too. Sometimes date night is watching a movie at home....most of the time it is out so we can talk and see how things are with each other. Best of luck with your new business!

Love, Ann

Hi Beautiful Cynthia, You are strong and smart. Life can be wonderful and fun. There are so many nice, fun, respectful men who would be kind to you. I know you don't want to hear this but Peter is mean. The people who love you the most in the world went to the extreme of trying to prevent the wedding to protect you and that makes me wonder why. What do they see? He doesn't speak to you like a man who loves his woman. Life is too short.

Cynthia, Fantastic blog! Positive & hopeful... You're beautiful inside and out! You're 100% correct- many folks benefit from counseling and kudos to you and your husband for taking those steps. You've both been very, very busy with your new business ventures and it's easy to let things slip in any relationship. Wishing your businesses the best of luck and stay positive! You're always very grounded and enjoyable to watch...a real lady!

What? No mention of your friend Nene? Anyway, I think she's given u up for Marlow. You'll know ur true friends if ur still hanging out with each other after the cameras stop rolling. Or if she calls u up wanting to hang out with u without Peter being present.

Happy to see that at least you BLOG.....

The others could care less about the fans...

Remember with out us ( the fans ) there would be no Real Housewives of Atlanta!!!!!!

Cynthia,

I'm glad to hear that your Holiday Season was good. Congratulations on The Bailey Agency!!! I pray that it will continue to be successful. Such an accomplisment to pull off!!! First, I would like to say keep God first in your marriage, even though your mother and your sister was looking out for you (in the minds), you have to live your life. I personally view Peter from the shows, as a strong man, that loves you even though it doesn't seems like it to viewers sometimes. This reality TV life, and even the being a socialite of HOTATLANTA, can be distracting, anf get in the way two people that are trying to obtain successful businesses. I know it is good to talk to others, and vent, but please keep these other women OUT of your relationship ( and the men that think they are women too)!!!!! I mean look at? Who's in a relationship besides you, Phaedra, and Kim. I am a firm believer in couseling sessions, but try sometime all with your man, as much as possible. Peter is longing for sometime alone with you, he even said it had been a long time since you both had been on a date night. I mean he hasn't been with you for isn't nine years for nothing!!!! So again, congratulations, and I pray for success in your marriage, business, and life!!!!

Alabama Breed!!!!

Cynthia, I give Peter credit for taking the step to get counseling with you on the state of your marriage and I commend you for trying to make your marriage work, but it is plain to see that Peter is just not marriage material, especially for someone of your caliber. Things may be O.K. for a while with the two of you, but eventually Peter will go back to his same old ways because as he told you; he was that way when he met you and he will always be the way that he is. A leopard doesn't change his spots and you can't teach a old dog new tricks. Unfortunately you are trying to fix something that was already broken. Peter is not capable of being the husband that you deserve to have. Peter might love you in his own way but he doesn't know how to show it because of his self centered attitude and his hardness. You are a beautiful person and I hope that you will be smart enough to know if your marriage is worth saving or if it was a mistake that was made and you need to move on. I wish you much success with your new business and I hope that you make the right decision with your personal life.

Cynthia why are you lying. Peter point blank said on the show to your face that he left the grand opening of your modeling/fashion (whatever) school/agency. He stated to you that he hates saying goodbyes. So why are you trying to cover up for him stating that he stepped out to take care of business at Bar One. Please be honest and if not with us at least with yourself. Peter is selfish and mean spirited. Everything that comes out of his mouth is negative especially if it calls him out on his behavior. He couldn't even tell you why he loved you in therapy..REALLY? Peter has not changed and he is never going to change. Stop enabling his poor behavior by making excuses and wake up. Is this really the kind of man that you want around your daughter? He is very disrepectful and sooner or later he is going to treat your daughter the same way that he treats you. :(

Cynthia... please please leave your husband.. Divorce him, you can do so much better with someone who doesn't act a donkey and has respect for you, your family, and friends.

So glad there was no bashing in your blog. Leave that for Sheree and Kim. Well beat of luck tooo you and Peter .

I'm confused about something. In you blog you mentioned that Peter had just "STEPPED OUT" for a bit at your Opening. Yet, on the show, Peter's absence was discussed with the pastor. So, either he stepped out for a bit or he left. I'm thinking if he stepped out for a bit it would not have been discussed with the pastor. Hope things are going as well as you profess on your blogs.

I'm trying to figure out who the "real" Cynthia is... the one on the show or the one who writes these blogs.

Cynthia I wish you much success in your business, The Bailey Agency. Love you on the show. I appreciate you taking time out to blog. You're probably the busiest of the "housewives" and you're the only one that blogs consistently.

Cynthia, you are so eloquent and your blog well written. Yes, Peter may be suffering from a little jealousy, because he's a typical "Jamaican male". They were raised to be the provider and head of household, so it will take sometime for him getting used to you being your own boss with a thriving business. He would have loved you working with him at his business than having your own. Kudos to you Cynthia, keep your chin up and plow your way through adversity. Hey, life is not always about rainbows and butterflies, but work hard and you will succeed.

Cynthia Thanks for taking time out to blog. Congratulations on the opening of your agency. I am somewhat worried and I hate to talk about negative things but the fact your husband said that you need to fall as he did. Because he failed 99 times don't mean you have to in order to get your dreams. Sometimes the people that love us can still be jealous and envious. I know your mother and sister wants the best and i am 100 percent. Be careful Cynthia as to who your true supporters are.

You deserve much better. He is disrespectful and rude to you and your family and your friends. I'm not sure what you saw in him that would make you fall in love with him, but none of us are seeing it out here. I understand that the show is edited and we may not see all, but come one. I would have never gotten down that isle for this joker. He seems like a shady man who's out to make a quick buck all the time.

YOU CAN DO BETTER!!

Cynthia, you are a very attractive and classy lady. I think peter love you, but he definitely has some issues to be resolved. Peter is still hurt behind what your family did far as the wedding certificate. But, that's neither here nor there. He just needs to communicate better and let his guard down a little. Best of luck with your counseling/marriage. You rock girlfriend!

I love you Cynthia. I watch just because I am waiting for you to realize that Peter is not in your corner...Listen to your mom and sister who love you. He intended fully to use your clout, connections, and money -- I believe this. Once things happened as they did on your wedding day, Peter knew those chances were over and people were on to him. Now he does not know how to stand up and admit he had other intentions -- he said it himself...'gangsta'...Please allow yourself to be loved fully be another (you have your pick) man who will adore you and thank God daily for you being in his life. I say these difficult words with so much respect and love for you. I am not the first to say that we see all through Peter. God bless you honey and always listen to your Momma.

Cynthia I absolutely love you and despite what people think of Peter, I like him. I don't think that the show highlights the great parts of your marriage. But I remember that one scene where Peter came into your agency to tell you about a photoshoot for you guys and you guys were modeling and you were teaching him. It was so cute! I loved that. It boggles my mind that people can so easily tell you to leave Peter, the man that you married and made a commitment too. Sure you and Peter have only been married a year, but you were together before the marriage. Of course you guys have issues. ALL COUPLES DO. People are acting all shocked and appalled that you guys needed marriage counseling already. I commend you guys for taking that step and fighting for your marriage. You don't need anyone else to believe in what you and Peter have, as long as you and Peter believe in it. Keep working on what you have. LOVE YA GIRL!!1

Marriage is difficult no matter who you are or who you are married to. Throw in some cameras and a network trying to bring drama, excitement and fun and it can make it look a lot different than what it is. A lot of men wouldn't even sign up for it. Not defending Peter because he does have his issues. It can't be easy married to the most beautiful of the wives and constantly dealing with people wondering how he got you, anyway. The arrogance is could be partly due to some self esteem issues (being short, broke and arrogant) that he has to work on. He comes across as disrepectful but I understand also that Peter is Jamaican and the culture is different. If you love him all anybody else has to do is trust your judgement and understand they edit everybody to benefit the show first. After 28 years of marriage I feel like if we could make it anybody can and I would be leary of anybody who suggesteed they knew better for me than I did. You are very grown and have managed your life for a lot of years, carry on. If you like it, I love it! Best to you and your beloved.

I think counseling and date nights are great. I have been married 13 years and have five kids. I know that sometimes a third party can help you see things more clearly. However, I wouldn't think you would get much in the way of therapy if you air it on national tv. No, you cannot change a person, but sometimes behavoirs need to be changed. It seems you are looking for someone who is very affectionate and expressive. I don't find Peter to be that type of person. But, then again, we only see bits and pieces. You made a comment about you couldn't understand why the other ladies gave the marrage a year...go back and watch the episodes and you will see why.

Marriage is difficult no matter who you are or who you are married to. Throw in some cameras and a network trying to bring drama, excitement and fun and it can make it look a lot different than what it is. A lot of men wouldn't even sign up for it. Not defending Peter because he does have his issues. It can't be easy married to the most beautiful of the wives and constantly dealing with people wondering how he got you, anyway. The arrogance is could be partly due to some self esteem issues (being short, broke and arrogant) that he has to work on. He comes across as disrepectful but I understand also that Peter is Jamaican and the culture is different. If you love him all anybody else has to do is trust your judgement and understand they edit everybody to benefit the show first. After 28 years of marriage I feel like if we could make it anybody can and I would be leary of anybody who suggesteed they knew better for me than I did. You are very grown and have managed your life for a lot of years, carry on. If you like it, I love it! Best to you and your beloved.

I agree that Nene will be changing on you soon, now that she is starting a friendship with Marlo. They do have more in common. Your personae is too classy for both them. I hope you stay in Atlanta and your busy grows.

Hello Cynthia,

A lot of the comments have said it best when they said you are a beautiful person both inside and out. I think you are independent and strong willed but you listen to your husband it just seems that he follows the rhythm of his own beat, what most say being a groan %$# man, those are the ones that have been through the most growing up and with the opposite sex. Sometimes God join us together and sometimes we join us together. This is why back in the day parents wanted you to bring the gentleman around, because they saw things you didn't see. I wish you and Peter the best in your marriage ....the heart always knows when it has had enough. Love you on the show, other than that I wouldn't watch it. ~Suzy~