Cast Blog: #RHOA

Nobody's Perfect

Cynthia thinks all couples could benefit from counseling.

Before I jump into 2012, I want to officially wrap up 2011. I was extremely busy with The Bailey Agency over the Christmas holidays and did not get the opportunity to write my blog. I usually never miss out on the opportunity to stay connected with you guys and clean up after all the mess. So because I feel guilty about not blogging about The Bailey Agency episode, I will do a quick recap to close out last year. Also, I love closure, and crossing things off my list makes me feel productive. In any case, I will try to keep it short, and sweet. Let's go!

Merry Christmas! I hope all of you had a wonderful Christmas. Again, I was exceptionally busy with The Bailey Agency, so even though it was wonderful to be off for the holidays, I used most of my time to finish getting my school set up. I am also in the process of setting up The Bailey Agency's first big model search in Birmingham, Alabama. With so many applications pouring in from all over the world, I spent most of my days selecting potential students for my school. I am so blessed people have responded to my first big business venture with so much love and support. Having to review thousands of applications to attend The Bailey Agency is a great problem to have! However, my husband Peter did surprise me! Peter sent me away to an astonishing all inclusive spa for three days. I usually don't like surprises, but since I was beyond exhausted and in dire need of a massage, I made an exception. I spent three gorgeous days alone doing spa treatments, reading books, napping, and watching movies. It was incredible, and I felt reawakened! Thank you, Peter, for the gift of rejuvenation and peace! I love you for giving me exactly what I needed. As always, I am grateful.

Welcome to The Bailey Agency opening! The Bailey Agency opening got off to quite an emotional start, but it was a huge success! Lots of beautiful people, sushi, and cocktails! The room was filled with positivity. I want to thank all the girls for coming out to support me, as well as my family. It meant so much to me to have everyone there. It was the first time that Kim and NeNe were in the same space together since my wedding. With the exception of a small spat between Kandi and Marlo, everyone seemed to have a great time.

Then of course, there was my "Where is Peter Thomas?" moment. OK, let me bring some clarity to that situation, before I officially close out 2011. Peter Thomas was the one that spent most of his day setting up everything up for The Bailey Agency opening. He made sure that everything was beautiful and perfect. I was happy that he took the time to help me out, because managing Bar One is a full-time job. Between bouncing back and forth between The Bailey Agency and Bar One, he was exhausted. At one point he stepped out to check on something at Bar One and was MIA during my thank you speech. Of course, when he returned the speech was over and the rest is history. My only issue with Peter was that he should have communicated to me that he had to step out and would be right back. Communication is key! It eliminates the unnecessary drama and senseless confusion. I was so busy entertaining my guests that I honestly did not notice that he had left. Had I been informed, I would have waited for him to get back. Or I could have at least expressed to everyone that he had to step away for a moment. No drama, end of story. This was my big day, and Peter was very excited for me. He is my number one supporter. Moving on.

Happy New Year! I bid reflectively farewell to 2011, and warmly embrace 2012 with open arms! One of my New Year’s resolutions is to bless others because I am so blessed. I have more resolutions, but this one means the most to me. I thank God for allowing me to live to see a new year. I have so much to be thankful for, and I take nothing for granted. This includes life itself. God give me the strength and courage to be a better mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, and human being. I welcome life's challenges and will do my best to rise to the occasion every time. I declare 2012 to be a year for greatness, prosperity, and love for all! Let's make it the best one yet! Last but not least, date night! Spending time with your significant other is very important. However, taking the time to make it happen can be a struggle for any parent with a full time job. Peter and I both have been working hard on our new businesses, which has not left much time for date night. All you can do is try right? Peter signed us up for salsa lessons, and even though there didn't appear to be any dancing going on, we had a much needed conversation about communication. We all know that this is super important in any relationship, so I won't bore you with a Communications 101 course! The great outcome of date night for us was acknowledging that neither one of us had all the answers regarding our issues. We needed to bring in a third party. So we decided to seek counseling from Pastor Pollard. He was the pastor that married us, and we both welcomed his advice. After talking with the pastor, Peter and I both left the church with a sense of encouragement, enlightenment and support. I would recommend any married couple to consider marriage counseling. Any marriage can benefit from the spiritual support. People are not perfect, and most marriages are not perfect. I don't want to change, or expect Peter to change. We are who we are. I just want us to be better than we are. We love each other and this is a fight worth fighting for. 

Love you guys!

Cynthia 

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Claudia: I Felt Good About the Reunion

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on NeNe Leakes' breakdown and the reunion as a whole.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind when NeNe walked off?
Claudia Jordan: Well the reunion was quite an experience. When NeNe walked off, initially I wasn't sure what was going on to be honest. But I did notice she seemed to be trembling, so I knew she was definitely feeling something very real to her. I just didn't know what set her off at that point. So at first I was a little taken back. I had never seen her cry, but we are all human and everyone has their breaking point.

Bravotv.com: Do you think NeNe had a real breakthrough?
CJ: I honestly did think at that moment she really did. Her demeanor was different afterwards. And I even heard from her after the show. That to me was a good sign that perhaps we could all really move forward and start fresh. I know I'm always open to squash some beef, especially if it's nothing deep rooted and something surface. I don't see why not. But like I said on the show, we all have a story and things that we have had to deal with and overcome. I think we need to not think our problems are bigger than the next woman's and respect one another's struggles -- whether we think they are major or minor. One woman's problems are not more important than the rest. And I think if we can all learn to be sensitive to the next woman, then we are on our way. Hopefully that moment was the catalyst for change in NeNe and in others as well.

Bravotv.com: Do you feel like everyone ended the reunion in a better place?
CJ: I'd like to think so. I do think some will probably never be open for change and are just stuck in their own way, while others really took advantage of the opportunity to take something from it all. I'm not going to worry about those that do not wish to grow and move forward. I will just focus and give energy to likeminded individuals that want to get along, move forward, grow, learn, and progress. I know I felt good about the reunion. I know I didn't chime in a whole lot. And I think I had good reason. You don’t get to see everything, but I felt it was important to let the people who had real issues with each other hash it out with no outside opinions, just like I said in the Philippines. When people interject their opinions and thoughts when it’s not their issue, it just adds confusion to the situation. One of the cast members in particular is good for that. Always adding "well I think..." when it has absolutely nothing to do with her, and I feel those extra unnecessary comments can potentially add fuel to the fire and then there is no coming back. So if my silence was going to help the progress of the group moving forward, then I will take that "L."

Yes, it's "cute" to "read" and get in an epic one liner or rant, but sometimes you just need to shut the hell up and let folks deal with each other and let them do them. I have no problems with that. Plus my opinion on everyone’s situation doesn't need to always be heard -- I wish more of us felt the same way. I will say that this seemed to be a great starting point for folks to move forward and put their money where their mouths are when it comes to being a grown ass woman. I really hope everyone wants to. It'd be great to see how things could go if we spent less time fussing and more time co-existing peacefully. #ThatIsAll

 

As the season has come to an end for me, I just wanted to say wow! What a roller coaster ride it has been! I had no idea getting into this that any of it would happen. I thought I'd come on board, have a little fun, bring a little light-hearted fun, and make some new acquaintances. This show is huge and everywhere I go people come up to me and say such amazingly sweet things, and I am truly humbled when they tell me how they can relate to me and appreciate my realness. I was particularly touched when a teenage boy who was gay and biracial that had always felt like an outsider reached out to me talking about suicidal thoughts he had. We spoke and I was beyond moved when he told me that he could relate to some of the things I spoke about and that I somehow inspired and encouraged him to keep going. Those are the moments that make all the drama and fussing and fighting truly worth it. I want to continue to use this amazing platform for important issues. Again I thank Andy, Carlos, Joy, Lauren, Stephen, the entire cast and crew for this amazing opportunity. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

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