Well I was so excited about The Kandi Factory airing that I didn’t really put too much thought into this weeks episode of RHOA. I’m sick of this whole black baby drama. In my blog last week I already stated my opinion and what I meant about my statements regarding Kim. This week it still hasn’t changed. I don’t think Kim would’ve gone, and I don’t see her at the orphanage. It has nothing to do with the children being black, I just don’t see her there. It doesn’t matter if the orphanage was in Africa or Asia, I just don’t see it and I really don’t see what the big deal was about what I said.
I don’t know why Sheree made it into this race issue. Sitting there going back and forth with them at the lunch was frustrating and pointless to me. Sheree was sticking with her story about the black baby comment, and she already had Kim sucked into it. So after going back and forth so long, it was easier just to let it go. They didn’t get nor did they want to understand my point of view. Of course Kim is going to say she would’ve gone. No one wants to look bad or come off as insensitive. At the end of the day the whole thing was blown out of proportion, and I don’t think it was a big enough deal to cause a falling out with Kim and Sheree.
Kandi, Kim is WAY OVER-REACTING. She needs to lsiten to her heart, Sheree is out to cover herself. Kim is on the inner circle of the NFL, Sheree sees an opening for heself to find a man thru Kim. Obvisouly, Sheree is out of money......(why is her house on hold?) Kim has what she wants and Sheree feels that because she somwhat introduced Kroy and Kim, that Kim owes her. I really hope that your friendship with Kim can overcome this, YOU have Kims back, Sheree has only herself in view.
My husband and I always watch the show and have always thought you have consistently been the mature, stable, down-to-earth one of the group. We all make mistakes and I think you made a mistake.
I started a nursing program but was not able to finish because I got pregnant. The type of person who chooses to go into nursing is not the type of person who would not go to an orphanage. I hate to admit it but I had second thoughts about going into nursing even before I got pregnant. One has to clean all types of things that most would feel squeamish about. They have to work with all types of people...they have to have a very giving heart.
Kim is by not far my favorite housewife but I do think she would have gone to the orphanage and to Africa. If there was a reason not to go, it would have been due to Nene being there.
I think you should own your mistake, apologize sincerely and move on.
Thanks for blogging Kandi and I absolutely LOVE your consistency!!! You've kept it 100 hundred from the jump! Sheree is and Kim are flip floppers even though I like Kim she should have came to yuo from the beginning and got your side apart from Sheree. I think Sheree just wantsto stir up drama to keep herself relevant on the show and also to win Kim over (why? I have no idea). I'm glad that wecan continue to watch this show and see the REAL you every single episode!! If I were you I wouln't allow then to bring me down to their level.. You said it best "Rise Above" the bs abd the drama! Love You! Follow me on twitter @le_ann101
oh Kandi, they did you so wrong. I am a young white female and I truly understood what you were trying to say. Of course Kim is not prejudice, not gonna go there in a certain topic but it would show if she was. Sheree has yet to start a blog and that shows right there that she doesn't want to try to hash it out with the fans, because she definitly was in the wrong...I used to like watching her but this season she has gotten under my skin. I watched the kandi factory and was totally suprised on who you selected for the video, not my cup of tea but that's why u do what u do and i do my thing....u have a great gift, keep it going and stay strong. prayers and love to you and yours....
Sheree was enjoying you and Kim's argument, neither are your friends just saying. I was wondering why Kim brought up Riley spending the night at your house that had nothing to do with anything.
KANDI- You're the nicest woman on the show! I can't believe the nonsense that Cynthia's comment caused. You've done SO MUCH for Kim; she ought to value and cherish your friendship. As far as Sheree goes, she was obviously just trying to cause drama, probably because she's so boring. I enjoyed Kandi Factory last night. Good luck!
I agree with you Kandi. At least you were honest and explained your side of it. You were not attacking her character, just saying what you thought. And Kim saying that was kind of like "look at all I have done for her". You've done stuff for her too (and have gotten screwed over by it)...but you don't talk about it anymore and don't re-hash it etc. I think Sheree thought she "had you" on this because you are always forthright about your opinions, so this one instance was made out to be more that it was because they always look back and you come across as nice and honest. Just be you. You did nothing wrong and are being made a scapegoat for no reason.
It was not a race issue and I think you now that. Its a friend issue and how little you think of them as a person and to tell it to people who don't like them. A true friend tells you when they think you are wrong. You are never to old to learn something you don't now everything. If you put people in different situations they will act different. Marlo went trying to buy kids perms. Showing how shallow she is but she went. Your opinion is just an opinion. Open your mind and don't be so simple. It's not whats on the outside but whats on the inside. Also, you did the tardy for the party as a friend then when you see it blow up you wanted some money. Instead of being happy for her. You raised a big stick how she did not pay you and you thought she was your friend. Next time you need to tell people you are not doing it because you are their friend but for the money.
I agree with Patticakes. Leave that high school mess for the birds. There was nothing wrong in what you said and watching the show thousands of viewers would agree with you that Kim would not have gone on that trip. Keep doing you Kandi. You don't need haters in you life like Sheree and if Kim wants to be a follower you don't need her either.
I agree they need to let this crap go because it is stupid. Everyone knows its the God honest gospel truth that Kim hates to be anywhere that isn't plush and tricked out - the bus tour you guys had is full proof of that. That's clearly what you meant and to me anyone who can't see that is just as ignorant as Sheree, and that includes Kim. This fake drama is really old and if this is Bravo's way of trying to make way for Kim leaving to have her own show under the notion that she is tired of what she has to endure on RHOA, that's some straight BS.
Kandi, the whole thing is TIRED now and beaten to DEATH! BUT, you AGREED with Cynthia's statement, and THAT is what the brouhaha is all about. You not seeing Kim in Africa OR the orphanage is an opinion and not derogatory if that's how you truly felt, but it all got lost in translation with the banter between you and Cynthia and you agreeing with the statement. It is over and it is done! If they NEVER understand, there is NOTHING you can do about it, so for your OWN peace of mind, LET IT GO!!!! Kim can go back and watch the tapes, and if she chooses not to, so be it. I said it once, but it bears repeating, Sheree was WRONG, PLUS she laughed at the comments. You now are aware what type of person she is, and you know what to do about it, I don't even need to give you advice on that. But I sincerely hope you learned a valuable lesson, and stop chit-chatting here, then chit-chatting there, because you have been on the messy tip. I hope you and Phaedra stay friends and I wish the best for you Kandi.
Kandi, don't sweat the small stuff. These women have such petty issues that they find fault with, just move on. You are better than that. I would stay friends with them, but only casually, that way you won't get sucked in to the drama they seem to thrive on. Stay true to yourself because you are a beautiful woman.
You know Cynthia is friends with Nene who is Kim and Sheree's enemy. Why would you even contribute to a negative conversation when you knew how it could be perceived. Why say anything? It looks real disloyal, weak, wack and messy to me!
Kandi, you should really keep you mouth SHUT! This season, I have been disgusted by your constant instigation of negative conversations and playing both sides. You have really shown that you like to keep drama -- you're big smile can't get you out of every situation. Maybe you should take a lesson for Phaedra and keep your mouth SHUT! Also, Kim and Sheree have proven to you over and over again, they are NOT your friends. Why do you feel so obliged to give them a pass when they really showed you where you are in their minds...which is (in case you didn't notice), when they need you (money, music beats, an ear to listen) they call you. Otherwise, it's like "crickets"...silence.
Indeed, move forward Kandi, let it go!!
I loved Kandi Factory and your visit on WWHL with Andy. Are there going to be more of those? It would be fun to see you away from the drama on RHWOA more. I hope the ratings were excellent.
On the Kim/Sheree thing. I understand that Kim wasn't there and is relying on Sheree's take on it. Once she see's the actual episode (which by now she should have) she will know the truth and either let it go or also be very angry with Sheree who laughed and didn't defend her when it was said. That seems to be her major beef, that you as a friend didn't defend the remarks made by Cynthia.
Just sayin'. Keep your head up and feel good about your future, it is bright indeed.
Myself and many others are pulling for you.
I really hadn't thought much about the comment made by Kim's landlord/ interior decorator but you're right. She had a lot of nerve speaking about your child in that way. I wonder how long it will take before she and Kim fall out. I'm sure something will happen soon regarding the deal with that rental home. She'll soon eat her words. They all do...Trust me.
Cant wait to hear more about your lovely new home you actually purchased! Congrats!
Let me just say I am african american and i have no desire to go to Africa. I have no desire to go on a sufari, although i would have loved to go to the orphange and helped the ways the ladies did. Sheree is super messy! and i have not figured out way.
Your new hairstyle, the "bob", looked fabulous on you! Keep it and get rid of the red, brown, "goldie-locks" hairstyles.
Kandi, What you said reflected an agreement with the racist comment by your other friend. You not only tolerated the inference of racism against your friend, but you agreed with it. I get that you might not see Kim at an orphanage, but who could envision any of you in South Africa with your designer heels and handbags! Own it and apologize.
I too thought that Kendra's comment was unnecessary since she didn't know what she was talking about. I also thought that Kim didn't need to bring up the specifics about when your daughter stayed at her house. You weren't calling Kim a racist and that's obvious. She by Sheree was simply trying to get some airtime by propping herself under Kim's butt and talking out of her you know what. It's also funny that everyone has ignored Kim's racially insensitive remark to Sweetie about her needing a tan, but I'm sure that will be swept under the rug.
Kandi, you are WAY too normal to understand Sheree or Kim. I don't blame you, I would be thoroughly disgusted that Kim brought Riley into that discussion. It was inappropriate and disrespectful to both you and Riley. I'm sorry that happened. Here's what I see...Sheree made a big deal out of nothing because she wants to have some relevance on the show. I don't think the hole in the ground (aka Chateau Sheree) would get her much air time. Kim has a very short memory and absolutely no loyalty. She never gave you the benefit of the doubt and that's sad. I've never even met you but would have known that Sheree's tale was not right. I enjoyed the Kandi Factory and hope that you, Riley and your mom are all enjoying a wonderful Spring :)
This blog is petty and just adds to the drama. Your words, “No one wants to look bad or come off insensitive,” is exactly how you appear not Kim. All you had to say to Kim was I never meant to hurt your feelings and I am sorry for the misunderstanding. That’s if it’s a misunderstanding. You are behaving as if the issue is that Kim has attained many of the things you’ve been wanting in your personal life and perhaps you don’t think she is worthy. Further, you asking Kim when is the last time she used her nursing degree and telling her that she’s changed sense that time in her life was so judgmental.
Own up to your mistake! You made a judgment and it was rude! You did agree with Cynthia ten fold but refuse to admit it! Is this because you don't want to come off as "bad?"... Unfortunately you do anyways this week.
Kandi I feel you when it comes to your child... I am so glad you step to those chicks the way a real boss lady should. Seriously, Sheree is not a good friend or associate and Kim is WHACK! for believing that hater... I've always been Team NeNe...why blonk she keeps it 100 all the time... Ms. Everybody knows is cool too and so is Cynthia.... lOVE Kandi Factory and I can't believe i cried over those cry babies...it was good though... Fly above...
you are the most wonderful person on this show and i think you are totally right! and dont ever let them use yours daughters name in vain
hope my comments get posted, if not that will be it for me.its in ur face now miss kandi, thank God sheree pulled this one on u, its about time u know who is real and who is not.Nene, Cynthia and maybe Pherdra are.Girl, forget about them two and do your thing.Mingle with the wise and smart species.
Kandi I don't understand why you want to go in on the landlord about what she said but you know why Kim made the reference to Riley staying at that time. I am so tired of people not calling a spade a spade. Kim always say I don't see color but you see she held that conversation on camera with a Black person and roped her in to say/mention about holding a black baby. You just want to be friends with Kim so bad that you can't see the forest for the trees. And I guess you want to keep Sheree for a friend as well. Sheree is a back stabbin two face person and out of all of the housewives, she doesn't have anything so she is just plain jealous and know it is your turn. Also if Kim didn't have enough sense to land that football player she wouldn't have anything either. And you should keep this for food for thought. You always want to bring up people and their faults in front of people example talking about Nene to Marlow with the other ladies and bringing her on your show but then when she turned on you, well you can give but not take it. Just watch the ladies. I see Phradra is trying to talk but not say anything to be put on blast so far
I would stay away from Sheree don't trust her. I believe is unhappy lonely and sneaky. Hate to see you Kim fall out over nothing But that's Kim she doesn't have much brain.
Unlike Sheree and Kim, your plate is full. Honestly, I'm not sure why Sheree is still on the show. Of all the "housewives" (and I use that term loosely), Sheree has less going on than everyone else (at least Kim has a new baby to use as her excuse). I think if Sheree was more focused on her empty lot (Chateau Sheree) she would have less time to keep up so much drama (isn't she like 40+?). Agreeing with Cynthia's statement does not mean that you inferred that Kim was racist. and I agree with you 300% - Kim would not have gone to Africa (whether NeNe was there or not) and she would not have been in an orphanage.
Kandi, You just didn't explain yourself well to Kim. And did you notice how Sheree was looking like the cat who ate the canary??? She LOVED causing you trouble. Kim has a poor memory----Sheree was AWFUL to her a few seasons back, she pulled her hair for crying out loud!!!! That being said, dont be too harsh on Kim because she's going by what she's heard, but I'd be darn mad at Sheree for causing all this drama. she loved it.
Kandi, I'm in your corner. It's unfortunate that and I don't know Sheree's upbringing, but she was wrong to throw you under the bus.To try to keep Kim as a friend? She obviously had other intentions to back stab you, wicked Sheree. On the show I can see how true, honest and straight forward you are. Girl you're with a group of women that haven't gotten out of the ghetto or high school. You have to interact with these women, but select 1 or 2 true friends because the chemistry isn't there. My take is when those see what you have, truely successful and honest they tend to envy. Do this show with your eyes wide open cause no one seems to have your back! Yes Cynthia confirmed, while in Africa what she said, but Sheree hmm wanted to create Drama. Watch you back and stay true to your values. Go Girl
Sheree was totally wrong and just admit it. It you really want to show show Sheree she is stupid and pity. After you affirmed and revised your opinion after Cynthia's statement she agreed with you kandi, that you all couldn't see Kim in Africa with the drama. Plus Kim said that in a previous episode saying she over fighting so she doesn't want to be around that. So she also she wanted to pick a fight with you I think because of the distance strain but your right and u feel at all times you usually are keen on being careful about what you say to stay out if drama with those drama driven girls can't handle
Honestly I felt like you should have said sorry you were offended and kept it moving. If you were actually friends with these women then they would know what's in your heart. Kim couldn't couldn't be that sensitive or that clueless so you should understand who you're dealing with and keeping it moving. As for Sheree tell her to kick rocks or at the very least keep her at arms lengths.
I personally feel like Sheree is creating lots of problems because she knows she was a BORING character. If she doesn't start trouble, i am sure she may have lost her spot on the show. Sheree is just trying to keep the only income she got going and she is trading in her friendships to do so. MY OPINION!
Kandi, I enjoyed The Kandi Factory showcase and look forward to many more. These folks would not have had the opportunity to work with you and your crew had they gone for the Idol and Voice madness.
Stay true to you, and try to keep your distance from the madness coming from you peers on the show. It's draining to watch grown women being manipulated by a camera lens. I've stopped watching the show live instead preferring to tapings so I can fastforward through the scenes that are silly and demeaning. Again, stay true to you, speak up when needed, but don't allow yourself to be drawn into some of the drama others crave.
You wouldn't hurt a fly intentionally. Kim should already know this about you! Sheree has taken quite a beating for that awful behavior-rightfully so!!! Loved your hairstyle-looked so pretty! You're a good person and you don't have to prove that to your fans who believe your character is solid and your kindness is abundant!
Kandi, this season I was starting to warm to Sheree. The child support issues and her living in that apartment touched a place in my heart. But girl, a leopard does not lose their spots. You have every right to be angry with Sheree. Kim, well she likes to believe what she is told, aka Big Poppa and the engagement. Sheree is still a young woman and appears to be very...hmm...frustrated. Without you this show would have moved in a totally different direction, so thanks for coming on board. Even though no one claims to be jealous of you, I am sure that green-eyed monster is running rampant on the Peachtree streets of Hotlanta. Love the new show :^)
I agree that your comments about Kim were not a big deal. However, I do think that Sheree bears watching. She seemed to be grinning and pleased with herself about starting all that mess at Kim's luncheon. I wish you continued success and always "fly above" the drama.
Kandi what you should have said was : Kim I said this that and the third…I stand by what I said and as far as what Sheree says and has said …it’s untrue ( there was NEVER a mention of any little black babies)….Wait until the Reunion Show….and I’m done! s/n: She (Kim) knows clearly that she is High- Maintenance and for some reason has amnesia, as she acted like an unadulterated jackass last year going to Miami……so to go to Africa…c’mon now…Seriously!!!
Sheree is boring and is trying to stay relevant and Kim wants to be mad because she likes drama . Nothing you or Cynthia said was a big deal nor was it said in a malicious way. When NeNe started getting bigger than them they flipped on her making EVERYTHING she did or said wrong and they knew her waaaaay longer than you. What did you expect?
i agree with you Kandi.... i dont see the big deal.. and because Kim is so prissy, i couldnt see Kim at a orphanage in Africa either .. she seems too shallow for all of that.. that's right girl.. keep to your guns .. screw them hoes
I don't think u said anything wrong. I personally can't picture Kim doing anything like that either. She barely wants to hold her own baby. Every episode she always calling someone else to take the baby. And Sheree is so fake, and she lied about the situation. Even Cynthia said for herself that she was the one who made the initial statement. So there was no reason for Sheree to go and tell Kim that you made the comment. You got too much going on in your life Kandi than to be associated with those type of women. Continue to pursue your dreams and don't engage in those childish arguments.
Watching the show I did not feel like Kandi was calling Kim a racist. I think Sheree was trying to get some drama started. If anything Sheree played on Kim's weakness and Kim needs to check her. Kandi keep taking the high road because that is what a real BOSS would do! You always are going to face adversity when you rising to the top.
I totally understand what Kandi meant when she stated that she can't see Kim in a orphanage. Hell let's keep it real here we can't see her in one either and Kim knows good and damn well that she would not be traveling all the way to Africa to hold babies. If so she would have done something like that already. With allof big poppas money that she has she has not concerned herself with any charity work in Atlanta with any little kids. Black or otherwise. That doesn't mean that she is a racist. She looks pretty self centered, so now that she is married to Kroy and is no longer a "Kept woman" she wants to have some class about her. Save that for somebody that want's to hear it Kimmy. Kandi keep doing your thang girl and drops the haters in your inner circle girl.