This past Sunday it seems I was the center of most of the drama. I don’t even know where to begin. Let me just start by saying that I’m a very opinionated person. I say how I feel regardless of whether you like it or not. The same thing I say when you’re not around is the same thing I’ll say when you’re standing right there, unlike some of the other people in our circle.
Let me start with my comments about Marlo. I think for the most part Marlo is a nice person, and yes, I think she’s fashionable, but I just don’t like being around people who constantly boast and brag about what they have. It comes off as shallow and materialistic. At a certain point people will only notice you for what they can see on the surface, if that’s all you seem to have to offer. When we were having a good time in Marlo’s room, that was the first time I felt like she was relaxed, having a good time, and just being herself. I wanted to be upfront about my previous judgments of her, just so that she would know where I was coming from and hopefully respect the fact that I was never fake with her. I hate when NeNe says that I’m mad just because I let it be known that I don’t like Marlo’s bragging. Now when I remind NeNe that she has made similar statements about Kim, she says it’s because Kim is materialistic and superficial but Marlo doesn’t seem that way. Huh?! Well anyway, I think Marlo has an incredible closet full of beautiful clothes and shoes, but the constant talk about them I can do without.
I proud of you AND lOVE HOW YOU AND YOUR MOTHER LOVE EACH OTHER and I like that you managing your funds. you see peope weak points and turn it against them, You crying to much. and did not like when you sided with Kim against NeNe I was so glad when Kim kick you in your a** over the songs money she did not pay you cause you had her thinking she a singer that get paid more for a song she did not write SHE NO SINGER HAHAHA
Kandi, I can't believe I am commenting or admitting that I watch RH. You are my favorite of all RHs. You seem so grounded and honest. Your relationship with your Mom and daughter seem so genuine. You take care of business responsibly, don't flaunt your money and respect others. You are the kind of person I would introduce to my friends and family. Your daughter and Mother are very lucky to have you "runnin in the deep". You get what you give so I am sure you have a stronger crew of girls that have your back. These women aren't worthy. Fort Worth, TEJAS
Kandi, I think you are the realest of the group! You say it like it is and you are not afraid of being honest to your supposed "friends".
You said it correctly regarding who said what. Kim wouldn't help a smelly orphanage not because she wouldn't care but bcuase of the germs. Hello. Sheree is still a snake in the grass, looking for prey.
Sheree is going to feel stupid at the reunion when y'all roll back the tape and see that you never said that. Even Cynthia's comment didn't use the term "Black babies."
Love you Kandi!
I got what you were saying about Kim and the trip, including the orphanage. I'm sure there are many RHW fans that took it just like you meant it, even without explaining. I remember Kim being a clean, freak germ-a-phobe from what I've seen of her over the years, she is easily grossed out and very girly girlish. So most of us fans know what you meant when you said that.
For goodness sake, Nenee acted like a big prissy baby on the safari and I would've expected much the same from Kim. Having recently had her baby, I could see her losing her mind seeing those children in need like that. It would've torn her up just like it did all of you.
Having watched this show from the beginning, the fans kind of get a lot more than you think. I honestly believe Sheree only heard what Cynthia was saying and assumed you agreed with "everything" that she said (and it all didn't come out so nicely the way she said it). Overall, I think the RHW fans got the point you were making, and plenty of us would agree with you, Kim is not a racist but she is definitely NOT cut out for getting all kinds of dirty either. Haha. Don't sweat it. I am sure once she saw what happened and how it was said, she may still appear to disagree but in her heart, she KNOWS, "KIM DOES NOT DO BUGS AND DIRT WELL" LOL
Hey Kandi, Always enjoy you so much...you always Always keep things real. I know you don't think Kim is a racist but all this talk has touched on a topic so many hate.
Why is it some 'Want' others to be a racist or perceived as a racist? It seems NeNe 'Wants' others to believe Kim is a racist and then we have Sheree who 'Wants' Kim to think you believe she (Kim) is a racist. AGH!!!!!!
Throwing the term or innuendo around that one 'might' be a racist is the same as implying one is a child abuser. Seriously! Both equally horrid and both should only be used when there are true facts and not just a want to destroy another by any means.
I am so so tired of the race card being used to attack anyone who is not a racist....Anyone. What a cruel and evil thing to accuse another. The term 'racist' is also being overused.....used so much, too much.....it now equals the lesson learned in the 'boy who cried wolf'. I fear that it's used too much against the innocent that some won't take it seriously when used against the truly guilty.
In my Opinion Kandi you are not wrong ! you simply said how you felt. That was very messy of Sheree to say something out of the blue to Kim like that! Yall are all too fabulous to be acting like that towards one another! think about it would yall want yalls kids to be acting that way ??!!
Donot worry kandi the truth will set u free I love your point !!!! Sheree so wrong. ;( not a good like
You are so REAL Kandi! Love that about you! I think you've cleared up anything and everything you can, and I even understand more of how you meant it. If people still have a problem then it's their problem, not yours!!!
I still do and will always
Keep it Real! Can't wait for "The Kandi Factory"!
i don't think kandi played both sides but i do think it was very messy of sheree to put kandi on blast.
I agree with you Kandi. I was so happy you all were getting along for the quick little second. It does getting annoying for someone to holler out labels every time you see them. Let people acknowledge how cute you are and if they ask about your clothes feel free to tell them who your wearing. You want to except people for who they are not for what there wearing. Marlo does appear to be cool minus the labels. Love the show!
Kandi, I don't believe you were playing both sides of the fence. I too, don't approve of people boasting about what they have. People that can afford to have top of the line fashions normally don't throw around names, who cares. NeNe is a bird that flocks with her kind. They don't have substance so they have to use what they got to feel important. Before NeNe became "rich" she was shopping at the local mall on the clearance rack, not to say that anything is wrong with that but first you have to know how to pronounce the names correctly, that only goes to show she was not used to having nice things. Cynthia on the other hand needs friends to stay on the show because she is dull. And no you are not a hater but keeping it real.
I also agree with you that Kim would not have gone to Africa and everyone in the circle knows that. It was wrong for Sheree to bring that subject up without you having the first say. However, I know the show needs good ratings and it is scripted for drama so I understand. So what is your new show about, girl you have your hands into everything.
Kandi, I love you but hate the hair. Short hair is more attractive on you along with Mama Joyce(same name as my mother). I like long hair but it's too much.
Love ya kandi! I know sheree is stirring the pot a little and it has to be frustrating having your words and intent twisted up. Either way - yup you're a bawse!
So glad to see you blogging........we miss that when you girls don't blog, it takes a good bit of the fun out of it. As to the comments about Kim.........I dunno, it seems like Sheree (who I generally like a lot) was wanting to make something out of nothing, and that makes me wonder about her. I would say that Kim isn't racist; she's made her life in Atlanta, and you really can't have that sort of mindset in Atlanta and stay there for long. A racist mentality and living in Atlanta don't go together, so that is that. As for you, Miss Kandi, I think you are looking so beautiful this season, I absolutely love your hair, it really looks good. And I think you are getting more comfortable with yourself and moving forward in your life. We can never go back and be who we were, we move on and take what we've experienced and make it a part of ourselves. You've had a very hard time and you are really doing a good job of handling yourself. God bless you, keep blogging and keep being true to yourself. Don't let any of these crazy girls put you in the corner, I know you won't.
Well I hope you see how messy Sheree is. She is not anybody friend I can't see how you and Pheadra don't see right through there but yall dislike Nene I don't get it.
Wow Kandi, that was harsh! And, you started the whole ball rolling bringing up Kim when she wasn't there to defend herself, you've done a 180.
I'm not Kim but I feel bad and sorry for her because of your comments!
Kandi, I am with you girlfriend all of that boasting is crazy, but you can tell when a person is use to having nice things compaired to someone who is not use to having, just look at Marlo. She must remember that she can loose it even faster, cause carma is real, so how ever many times she used men, or sold her body guest what it will come back and bite her in her butt. I can't believe how Sheree turned on you, but when they painted those white dots on your faces I really seen the demon in Marlo,Sheree, & Nene, so watch out it is a lot of jealousy between these three women, and Cynthia need to watch her back when it comes to Marlo & Nene as well, cause Marlo is not what she paints in person. Kim do not believe what Sheree said about Kandi cause it is not true, Cynthia said it and Kandi. Listen I have been watching this program since day one & I can tell it all. I think Kim, Kandi, Phadera, & Cynthia are the nicest ones on the show. I was glad when Phadera told Sheree that she would give her back her check, cause I seen it in Sheree's face that some mess was getting ready to go down. Kim I want to God Bless you and your new comer to the family I think you and Troy are good together. I see and hear wedding bells in the future. Nene, you need to take your husband back before something happens, because your partner has a lot more planned for you & you are seeing the hole picture. I love you all, hope to see you on my next visit to Atlanta.
Unfortunately that is not true
If you followed no one you would not be referring to yourself or anyone else in your group as "the smalls" that is a condescending phrase Ne Ne came up with.
I love the show and I have my favorits all the women on there are somtimey.but kandi is real and so.is pha
Kandi I luv u most because u have earned your own money you are not a person to flaunt money a labels to me as African American women we look stupid talking bout Chanel Gucci and labels you r the realist I don't think you were wrong at all
I totally got your Kim comments. She just left a party a few episodes back as soon as NeNe arrived. Why would she take a vacation with her?
You are absolutely right about Marlo. I love fashion too and have plenty of labels in my closet, but the constant need to talk about what you have is a sign of deep insecurity. It really goes to show that Marlo has nothing going on in her life. For her to compare that to you discussing your songs & music is ridculous- you are proud of something you've accomplished that didn't just involve going to Lenox to buy a Louis Vuitton bag! :)
Kandi I used to like you but lately you seem to be starting most of the drama. You may not notice but your comments are heard by millions of viewers you are not an innocent party. You all are grown and set a bad example of how grown folks act by constantly talking about one another. Let's get it together you are not innocent!!!1!
I'm glad you cleared things up in your blog...I now realize you did not mean to imply that Kim was a racist. I believe that Marlo is unbalanced and dangerous...you should have bigger problems with her other then her bragging. She is a horrible person.
I have had a hard time following the Real Housewives of Atlanta because the drama is just too over the top, but somehow, with a few exceptions, you seemed to be above it all and keep it real. You have been helpful and inviting to all the ladies.
I also like Sheree, but this last episode showed a side that I hadn't noticed before. Why would she call Kim and make that statement and then repeat it on Watch What Happens Live? Everyone who saw the show, saw what was said and heard the truth. You speaking your mind might have put Kim in a bit of a poor light to some people's way of thinking, but you were telling the truth as you saw it and you never said anything about having a problem holding any black babies. That was just too unreal to hear.
I know that Kim took the phone call badly and I hope that when she see's the actual footage that she understands who was the one causing the drama and who was the one just speaking their mind.
You are a strong and successful woman, don't let the haters get you down and keep on pressing forward. Does the last line make me think that you are now having your own show on BRAVO? The Kandi Factory? Couldn't happen to a better person.
Also I am a fan of your music, keep that going to. You rock!!
Jules in WA State
marlo probably grew up with very little so now that she has money she buy a lot of cloths And shoes.The woman knows how to dress.One would think that she is the model in the group.
Kandi you are right on, Marlo is materialistic and Nene is a fake friend she is so pretending. She is not her self at all this season.