Cast Blog: #RHOA

No Hate

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Claudia: I Am Not Asking for Sympathy

GIF Recap: Saltines, Anyone?

Kenya: Why Would Apollo Try to Hurt Phaedra?

No Hate

Kandi doesn't think she was playing both sides or being a hater.

OK, I had to go back and fast forward this episode to Kim’s birthday to see where I was allegedly “hating” and “playing both sides” as NeNe says. After re-watching it I have to ask, what the hell were y’all watching where you hear me hating on her or playing both sides?

First off I don’t say anything about either one of them behind their backs that I won’t say to them in person, and I’ve never said anything about either one of them that wasn’t true. You can automatically cut the playing both sides conversation short and kill all the comments about me carrying bones. I did not say anything negative about Cynthia or NeNe. When Kim asked me about the trip I said it was cool and to end any more conversations about the trip I made the joke, “The one thing that I can say to y’all is that she’s rich now.” That was the on-going joke ever since NeNe and Sheree had that argument, so it wasn’t a big deal. I even said something to NeNe about the “I’m rich” comment when I was with her in Miami, so it’s not like I didn’t make a joke of it in front of her.  I’ve never tried to make NeNe feel like I wasn’t cool with the other girls. So clearly she knew that I would continue to hang out with them when I got back. NeNe and I have never been that close. We don’t call each other and have girl talk. Did everyone forget that NeNe and I had a blow up on my first season?  She and I started out on the wrong foot. I almost didn’t want to go to Miami because I knew she and I aren’t that cool. I decided to go, because I needed a getaway and I figured it couldn’t be that bad. How is she playing victim right now?

Let’s address this hating comment. Some people say you are a hater just because they don’t like what you have to say. I always have conversations with my friends about being careful with your money. That is not hating. That is called looking out for people and passing on what I’ve learned. Being in the industry as long as I have has allowed me to see the mistakes of others who have made a lot of money but over extended themselves and not thought about the possibility that they may not continue to make that same money forever. I’ve seen people who were way more successful than me have their houses foreclosed and cars repossessed, because they acted as though the money would never stop. I have had conversations with Kim the same way I talked to NeNe about being more careful with finances.  Kim didn’t think I was hating. She may or may not take my advice, but she didn’t say I was hating on her.

Some people love to have friends who just stroke their egos and encourage them to buy the big houses and the most expensive cars, but when times get hard and you need help, they’re not going to pay for a damn thing. They’ll sit up and enjoy the ride with you, but when the money train stops, they’ll be on to the next. People need to stop using the term hater so loosely. For anyone to suggest I’m hating on NeNe would mean that she had something I could be jealous about or felt the need to hate on. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING that NeNe has that I want or can’t buy if I wanted to. I have my own lane and I stay in it. She doesn’t do what I do. What I do for a living is not even in her job description. We are not in competition. There’s no way you can even compare us. I saw a comment where NeNe stated she was the most successful out of all of us. She couldn’t have been referring to me. Please, let’s not make it a pissing contest of who’s more successful, because we definitely don’t want to start listing credits. I don’t even want to do you like that. That would be petty anyway. I love commending other women when they’re making big things happen.  So I’m not sure why she thinks I don’t want to see her doing well. I made comments about financial planning because I want her to continue to do well, even when she’s no longer on this show. As a matter of fact I want all the ladies in our circle to do well and that is the truth!

Much love,
Kandi

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Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Kandi Burruss weighs in on the confrontation between NeNe Leakes and Claudia Jordan.

Last week’s episode of The Real Housewives of Atlanta was crazy. Let me just say, despite all the shade that was going on between Demetria and Phaedra, it was nothing compared to the argument that happened between NeNe and Claudia. First of all it was unexpected -- nobody was expecting Claudia and NeNe to get into it. But at the same time what did you expect? Something is going to pop off if you tell somebody that you can’t believe they have a brain, but I don’t think anybody was expecting Claudia to react the way she did. Yes, I did feel like Claudia got the best of NeNe in the argument, because there was a lot that was said. Every time NeNe had something to say, Claudia had a comeback for it. It was funny and hilarious, and Claudia just seemed to be saying the things that everybody has at one point wanted to say, but probably never did. The reason why I say everybody is because I look at the blogs, I see the tweets, and there have been a lot of times that people over the years have said, “Why didn’t you say that?" Or "Somebody needs to tell her this!" Or "Somebody should do that!" So all the things that people have said on Twitter that someone should have said to NeNe, Claudia said that day. And it was hilarious to me.

I see people have been tweeting me saying, "Oh you’re two-faced" -- no I’m not two-faced, because I really don’t have a very close relationship with either one of them. Both of them are cool, but I just don’t have a close relationship with either one. So if one of them says something funny, I’m going to laugh, I’m sorry. You can be mad all you want to, but if Claudia says something funny, I’m going to laugh, if NeNe says something funny I’m going to laugh -- I don’t owe either one of them anything. So it is what it is.

Some people felt like NeNe got the best of Claudia in the argument, but I didn’t feel that way. For one that argument was even longer than what you guys got a chance to see. But on top of that I felt that sometimes it seems when NeNe gets frustrated or upset with someone, her go-to thing is to talk about is, “You're broke, I have more money than you,” so I was used to that, it was nothing new to me. But the stuff that Claudia was saying was funny and she was very calm about it. I’m not a good arguer; I wish I could be as quick on my feet as NeNe and Claudia are. I’m not quick on my feet like that when it comes to going back and forth with somebody. I get angry, and sometimes it gets all out of hand for me, but for them they’re good at just going back and forth with their words. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not, because I know NeNe has said she says things that she regrets later. But it’s of course better than someone getting violent; they just fought with words, and it was amusing.

OK enough about that, I know people have their lives, I do too. To me NeNe's funniest moments of the conversation were when Claudia left the table. When NeNe kept talking it was so funny! When she started taking about that bob, I was looking at my own hair thinking, "Well I have a bob! Wait a minute, hold on, how are you going to talk about bobs like that?" But it just was so funny, she had us cracking up with the way she kept pretending she was rolling her hair up, it was just hilarious.

But outside of that, with all the drama that was going on between the girls, I felt like having another Bedroom Kandi party was the perfect interruption we all needed. We needed something that was going to be fun, that could bring everyone together, or at least get us on the same page for once, and I feel like I was able to do that. I know people are always asking why I'm constantly talking about sex, but when you talk about sex, you always laugh or smile, because it only brings happy thoughts. That’s the one good thing you can say about that, and when I brought out some of our Bedroom Kandi products and we played the game, the Bedroom Kandi version of hot-potato, it was hilarious. But better than that it helped everybody to mend their ill feelings for a moment at least, because people who didn’t even get along with each other still had to work together to play the game, which I thought was a great thing. People were laughing and smiling -- there were no arguments, there were no side-eyes, and I felt like it was perfect. Ain’t no party like a Bedroom Kandi party, 'cause a Bedroom Kandi party don’t stop!

Anyway, so on to the bus. The bus ride went horribly. I thought that everybody was on the same page after doing the Bedroom Kandi party, but obviously not. I thought it was good that NeNe apologized, because she doesn’t normally apologize, and I thought it was a good thing for her to clear the air with everyone. But Claudia just didn’t want to accept the apology. She wanted to keep going on and on and on about why NeNe had said those things. Come on girl, can you just please just accept the apology and keep it moving? Or don’t accept the apology and be quiet. Nobody wants to keep going on about the same thing over and over again, so that was irritating to me.

But then she had to blast Porsha, which I felt was completely uncalled for. I didn’t even understand why she even had to bring that whole situation up. That’s one thing that I don’t like about a lot of the girls. It seems like they purposefully want to bring up negative things about you, to put you on blast, or to put everything out there. It’s not like Porsha was even the topic of that conversation, so I don’t know why she felt like that was the perfect time to blast Porsha. It was just really unnecessary, and that’s just how I feel about that. Who Porsha is dating or who did or did not buy Porsha's car I don’t feel had anything to do with anybody on that bus, and I didn’t feel it was necessary.

So enough of that, at least from that point on we all were able to still put our negative feelings aside and make it to Demetria’s performance. I thought Demetria did an outstanding job. That was the first time I’ve ever heard her sing, and I thought her voice was beautiful. I thought she did a good job with her performance; she had a lot of personality on stage. You guys only got to see the one or two songs that they showed, but of course her performance was longer than that, and she did a great job. I don’t know if she could be a pop star. When I think of pop stars, I think of young teens, early twenties, so I don’t know if she is necessarily a pop star, but she is definitely an entertainer, and she definitely could put out an album. I think she definitely would have a lot of fans if she had the right team behind her, and I was glad we could be there to support her. The funny thing is she didn’t even have a clue about what went on in the bus, so luckily that whole negative drama missed her and didn’t affect her performance. Thank the lord, thank the lord.

All right, until next week! Everybody please follow me on Twitter. I know you like to go back and forth on Twitter, so feel free to go on my Twitter page and go back and forth with me @Kandi. You can hit me up on Instagram @KandiBurruss and follow me on my website Kandionline.com. And please go to BedroomKandi.com and book yourself a Bedroom Kandi party, because clearly a lot of us need to have a Bedroom Kandi party in our life! See you!

 
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