This week’s episode had several themes, but the one that was most poignant to me was the relationship that exists between mothers and daughters. That relationship undeniably starts during gestation and hopefully lasts a lifetime. As babies our mothers nurture us, as adolescents our mothers often annoy us, as women they guide and encourage us. Our youthful vision is often impaired when it comes to the value of our mothers. However a mother never loses sight of her purpose to protect, support, and nurture her child.
A mother daughter relationship is one of many peaks and valleys, yet through it all our mothers are often our strongest supporters and loudest cheerleaders. Like myself, all of my castmates are mothers. In this episode, Kim comforts her daughter Brielle as she expresses her skepticism towards their new addition to their family. Cynthia continues her struggle of balancing her husband and her family as she expresses her concern in a heart-to-heart conversation with her mother and sister. Kandi is finally able to speak with her Mama Joyce about the boundaries of their relationship as a mother and daughter as well as best friends, while Sheree grapples with whether or not she should pursue legal action to enforce her child support agreement. Whether we like it or not, our mothers serve as our support system; someone we can call for advice, affirmation, or consolation. Our mothers’ expectations set the bar for the standards we subscribe to in life and cascades over all we do often affirms us, and at other times it convicts us; but it’s always laced in our conscience.
Phaedra, You truly are an eloquent speaker. I don't know if you read these responses or not, but I am always uplifted when positivity is spoken. I do hope that you also use your voice for speaking to young lost girls. I think that you have a way with words that would encourage them to do more with their lives. I am fan of education, eloquence, individualism, humility, and a love of God. I feel like you exemplify all of those. Keep moving positively forward.
I thought it was nice you brought cake to share w/Kandi and apologized for how her mom was offended by the stripper. Instead of getting an attitude, you humbled yourself and did the right thing. CLASS ACT!
This blog brought tears to my eyes. I loved you last year, this year I worship you! Beautifully said.
Phaedra you are the real one on the show you didn't start off in the show but you start in last season and I love you I don't see you to be fake but soooooo real
Everybody Knows........you are slowly becoming a favorite ;-) I couldn't have said it any better. That was a very good observation of the past episode where you took the high road and highlighted something that others may have not invested the time to actually see. Love it!!!
You are so awesome, Phaedra! It's nice to see an intelligent, accomplished woman on reality TV. I thought you gave good advice to Sheree, and hopefully she'll take it!
i really appreciate u and being a beautiful smart professional wife and mother! You break the stereotype people have of black women,,wish there were more like you on the show..take care of your husband and baby and let him be the man! you are super funny when esp when you called Peter Papa Smurf or uncle Ben..lol..that was so right on even Peter should laugh...Peter was very wrong for starting a fight w/Apollo he looked very tired but Apollo set him straight without laying a finger on him and calling him old and get ur money up hurt more than a azz whipping. Hang in there and keep giving us the educated side of Atlanta housewives..
I just love you Phaedra!!!!!!!! I appreciate you using your blog in a positive way instead of using it as a tool to be mean and vindictive. I would hope that you all would use your time with BRAVO to bring in a counselor and air it on television. This will inforce positive things along with some of the not-so-nice things that happens on the show. We all know Nene Leakes needs it as well as most humans. There is something in everyone life that they can use to sort out their behaviors. I love how Bethanny F. used her show to open awareness that no matter how much money you have and no matter how happey your are, something still bothers and hurt you. I would love to see Atlanta do a one-on-one counselor with it each of it's ladies.
Phaedra, I agree with your blog about mothers. Hopefully, you will have many friends and associates in your life, but you will only have one mother. You might not always agree with your mother, but you must always respect your mother. Now, about your interview this week, "Peter can make a dollar out of 15 cents, he is a pimp". That is not a compliment. Stop with the negative comments, stop disrespecting other cassmates, spouses and mother (i.e. Peter and Joyce).
Phaedra, I just have two questions for you 1. Would you have invited your mom to Kandi's party? 2. Why do you like to stir the pot? I do appreciate your blogs theme but, you have not addressed your bad behavior these last few episodes. You have stirred the pot and sat back and watched things unfold. I am disappointed in your behavior because I thought you were this nice southern but you are totally different form who you TRY to portray yourself to be....Very disappointed viewer
I love you! Plain and simple. Of all the ladies, you are by farm my favorite and someone I would love to have as a friend. The ladies that you do befriend are fortunate indeed!
You are so right about the relationship between a mother and a daughter. I lost my mother 15 years ago when I was expecting my first child. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about her and miss her terribly. I now have a daughter of my own and try to live up to the example that my mother set. Sometimes it's hard to be so patient but my daughter is like a little piece of my heart walking outside of my body.
You ALWAYS have the best blogs of ALL the Housewives in the Housewives franchise bar none. I am so proud of you. Everything you said is so true and eloquently penned. God bless you, your Mom and your family.
Phaedra, how come you never mention the conversation Kandi had with her mother this episode about that stupid male stripper u gave Kandi as her b-day present. Her mother was right! you made sure your husband and your mother weren't there. You toasted about how classy you are at Kandi's party and u decide to give her that classless, nasty b-day present... Next time you should toast about how classless your b-day presents are...
Phaedra, you are FABULOUS! a gal friend of mine, fell is obsessed with your babys personalized highchair, we have searched the internet for it, can i ask where you possibly got such a spespecial chair from. Stay the fabulous you that you are.
I love you this year Pheadra! But it really erked me when your hubby called you "fat"... he needs to learn some manners!
You are the best!!! I enjoy watching you. You put all of the other housewives to shame! Your way with words are "priceless"
I think you are smart and funny but I don't know if you could be my lawyer cause you love the drama and rumor spreading( you might tell my business know what I mean). I looked up to you last season but now I'm asking can you tone it down as far as strippers(who bless himself and get some regular acts for the show~no feelings would be hurt or better yet same him for private parties only-lol) and gossip? I still love you though. I think you and NeNe could have been good friends!!!
I so love you this season! You keep me and my co-workers laughing with your classic one liners!!!! I am truly a fan!!!!
Phaedra I agree with the other posters, this article was well written. I love how maternal instincts have taken over. Only a mother could have put that as eloquently as you have. You are becoming a favorite. I like how you stand by your man. Be careful and really listen to what he has to say, this episode he shared something very personal with you, I hope you caught the seriousness of his conversation and the hurt. Thank you for being upstanding. BTW, I forgive you for Ridikulous (that image still burns my eyeballs). Again, really hear your man. He's talking to you in a way most men are afraid to speak. He shared his fear and concerns with you and the world. Hear him. God's best to you both.
I just wanted to tell you that I think you are absolutely amazing. You are hilarious, well spoken and just inspiring. I love watching the housewives for all of them drama and just craziness, but you add a 'real' side to it as well. You seem to perfectly blend while somehow staying above all the bullshit and low blows. Just wanted to say you are awesome!
Stick with kandi...stay away from sheree...nothing but drama. Don't forget the smack Kim said about your pregnancy....don't trust those chicks!!! You are hilarious:)
I love you. I was raise to be the prefect young lady. Growing up in Alabama, when my mom heard me say I like boys for the first time, I woke up the next week in a boarding school. Never aloud to say what I really felt. So, girl I love your pearls of wisdom and your realness. Pray for me to let go and live. Keep being you!!!
Most importantly, I am so happy that you and Apollo made up with Cynthia and her Husband Peter. PERFECT!
Phaedra, you are a beautiful woman inside and out. I love your style. I love your sassiness! As this season has been going on, I just can't understand what beef you have with NeNe? Please, please, please do not let Sheree pull you into that. You are way too classy for that. You are tainting your image by being 'clickish' with Sheree. Right now, Sheree is grasping for straws to stay relevant. She is not on your level...or NeNe's for that matter. Please continue to be yourself and let them work out whatever issues that have among each other.
you are the best love you and your family my dream is to meet you and your husband and baby you are so cool i look up to you so much i am in the same shoes as your husband i date a lawyer and im not a big time person but he loves me just the way i am.
My mom is sitting here with me reading your blog. I just told her how special she is to me and without her I wouldn't be the woman that I am. Thank you so much for reminding us what and who are really important in our lives. God Bless You....
I agree with you. I am a mother od three, my oldest is 23, 19 yr old son and my baby is 17 will be 18 in Feb. The other day she did not come home from school, and I could not get her on the cell phone. I was so terrified that something happened to her. I cryed and begged the lord to let me find her safe and ok. I realized at that time that in my heart she is still my baby and how my world stopped for that period of time that I could not find her. I truly do not know how mothers handle losing they're children. I know I am not strong enough. It makes me sad that I can not treat her like a small child and keep her under my wing. I have to let her go soon as she will be starting college next year. I did tell her after a huge hug that she will be on restriction for a week for not letting me know where she was. The reason why it frightened me so much is because she never ever does that, she always calls me and ask my permission to go to a friends house after school. I guess you can imagine how frightened I was when she did something so out of her charicter. I know she feels bad, but I feel I still have to punish her. The only thing I can say is parenting is hard, and letting go is the hardest part.
You are one classy lady.My daughter and I always talk about how we love you after each show. You remind me of my family well educated, full of humility,compassion,God fearing and we love to have fun.
Phaedra you keep it real..Hopefully that God will bless me with such a fabulous life as yours and I can see what yall be talking about you know is drama filled..All that is not needed from her.I see why her name was not on the list..
I think that Kandi's mother is going overboard with the stripper think. I feel that she should not have been at her birthday party anyway. This was suppose to be for her and her girls. You are are mother so why are you there. THey should have had lunch or an early dinner and Mama Joyce should have been at home in the bed.
Phaedra, you are eloquent, classy and so professional. Some of the girls need some lesson. Apollo is blessed because you are a professional classy smart women and you got his back. I to hope Cynthia wake-up, Peter is the weakest link, does he have a temper? And Apollo you are the bigger better man. Phaedra, when are you going to write a book? You motivate and inspire women world wide.
This blog is beautiful. You bring such a positive spin on the show. Thank you for bringing something so positive to the show.
Very eloquently put, Phaedra. Kudos to you for using your blog in a positive nature...but you are absolutely HILARIOUS, girl! ; ) Thanks for keeping me laughing. GOD bless you & your family.
Phardra I love the way you just tell it like you see it. I love your class and how you bring so much to the show. You try and help where there is trouble and keep things funny even when they are not. You are so sharp. I love your style in dress and the way you handle your husband and child. You are a loving mother, wife, and daughter. I get so tickled when you talk about the donkey butt. Girl you are funny!!! I also like your professional way you handle your clients and friends. You tell it like it is without hurting their feeling. Peter was put in his place really good by your husband. I like the way you let him do what he had to do as a man in defending his wife. That was a class act. I love you and hope to see you get that money for Sheree from her ex because she need it for those kids. I know you will do everything in your power to handle the situation and get Sheree what she needs to maintain her kids. Thanks for the blog this week it was powerful. You are a wonderful lady keep it up!!!!