Phaedra Parks

Phaedra shares her thoughts on all the mother-related issues from this week's episode.

on Dec 8, 20110

This week’s episode had several themes, but the one that was most poignant to me was the relationship that exists between mothers and daughters. That relationship undeniably starts during gestation and hopefully lasts a lifetime. As babies our mothers nurture us, as adolescents our mothers often annoy us, as women they guide and encourage us. Our youthful vision is often impaired when it comes to the value of our mothers. However a mother never loses sight of her purpose to protect, support, and nurture her child.

A mother daughter relationship is one of many peaks and valleys, yet through it all our mothers are often our strongest supporters and loudest cheerleaders. Like myself, all of my castmates are mothers. In this episode, Kim comforts her daughter Brielle as she expresses her skepticism towards their new addition to their family. Cynthia continues her struggle of balancing her husband and her family as she expresses her concern in a heart-to-heart conversation with her mother and sister. Kandi is finally able to speak with her Mama Joyce about the boundaries of their relationship as a mother and daughter as well as best friends, while Sheree grapples with whether or not she should pursue legal action to enforce her child support agreement. Whether we like it or not, our mothers serve as our support system; someone we can call for advice, affirmation, or consolation. Our mothers’ expectations set the bar for the standards we subscribe to in life and cascades over all we do often affirms us, and at other times it convicts us; but it’s always laced in our conscience.

193 comments
kevyn
kevyn

Phaedra, like most that have commented. I enjoy your charm you add to this housewives edition. You are the one who seems to understand that there a real segment of entertainment to the show but you are no unrealistic that your fans and viewers crave the constant drama added by other cast members (i like your friendship with my other favorite Kandi). For real, why do you guys let NeNe get the last word? She only wins arguments or decisions by default because she yells. Keep up that magic that is you on the small scene. Last part, you do know you husband has a huge fan base from a specialized community as well. Hope that doesn't bother you because you seem opened-minded. Happy New Year.

flutterbyu
flutterbyu

Phaedra, OMG you need your OWN show. If it weren't for you I wouldn't even watch the Atlanta Housewives, although I do like Sheree also. I am so bored with Kim and that hair, and NeNe and her big mouth, Kandi and her music career, Cynthia and her co-dependancy. You keep it real.

Viewer
Viewer

Phaedra, I loved how you handled Sheree's ex-husband in the courtroom. I think Sheree was fooled and out smarted by him, not you! You know exactly what he is doing and what your plan will be and how to proceed in the next up coming court dates. He will probably hire an attorney at the last minute and ask for many postponements just to aggravate Sheree. Sheree needs to sit back, take a seat and enjoy the long ride because it looks like this will not be a speedy one.

Lady Belle
Lady Belle

Phaedra, you are my favorite HWOA. I admire your professional demeanor, your style and elegance. You have a beautiful family and youhave life long dreams and goals that will prosper, that's the Favor of GOD.You are truly my favorite. and one thing that many women can learn from you is "How to keep a cool head in hot situations". Be blessed girl. Lady Southern Belle

Lady Belle
Lady Belle

Phaedra,

You are my favorite HW.I truly admire your professional demeanor at all times, I appreciate how you value the definition of a Lady. You also know how to "keep a cool head in hot situations", and I appreciate that. I enjoy and look forward to seeing you on the show every sunday night. I pray that you be blessed and successful in starting your Funeral Business. You are definitely my role model and my favorite HWOA. love girl. Lady Belle.

trecema100
trecema100

phaedra miss etiquette you knew from jump that kandi mother was coming. why did'nt you have a stripper at your baby shower?

Ms. Understanding
Ms. Understanding

Phadra watch how your relationship goes with Sheree (Heree). She only cling on to people that can help her. After the show on Watch what happens I know she was behind Lawrenece in everything he said. he said what she wanted to. She throws the rock and hide the hand. she is just a user. She is unhappy because she is broke I'm glad you gave her that check back. It was gonna bounce anyway. She wanted you to take the case free. After it was over she ran straight to you to get that check back. I was not to fun of you last season but, you have turned out to be one of my favorites. I want to see you hanging out with NeNe and Cynthia. Kandi is just 2 faced. She runs back and forth. What are you waiting on to see her for who she is. Keep up the great work lady.

b50
b50

Phaedra you are great. You're professional and hilarious! You don't curse and you always handle yourself in a lady-like manner. Your family is lovely and you represent RHOA better than any of those other chicks and you're married. Sheree is is ungrateful, dumb and an opportunist, Cynthia is weak and silly, Nene is a loud mouthed, jealous fool, Kandy is naive, and Kim well...whatever. Phaedra you really do need your own show. Leave those losers. Nene does not make the show as some delusional people believe; you do.

DC native
DC native

Phaedra - I don't feel you did your due dilligence in repersenting Shree. During your meetings with Shree about the court case, you never prepared her for the pros and the cons. You portrayed an image that all things would work in Shree's favor, and that was so not the case.

cool person
cool person

i really like you this season you put your opinions but in the right way, not to offend people i like that ..the girls should take notes

Armstead-Raymond
Armstead-Raymond

Oh hell to the NO! Mrs. Parks anytime you got to start looking for your money, something ain't right. Oh l love it when you returned that check. Lets see if the next attorney going to play with her ass of even hold her hand. Let it be known in order for you to hold your title you must be qualified. Thats Gospel! Gucci!

KauLillian
KauLillian

I think you’re a real Southern Belle. I just love you:- your style, your values, I just love you.

Ife
Ife

My husband says that there are only three women on Reality TV who aren't gold diggers, and all three of them are on RHWATL...you are one of them! I enjoy your presence on the show. I enjoy your honesty, and I think that you deserve a show of your own (seriously). I love all of the women on the show in different ways, but I am very impressed by your accomplishments and ambition. I was raised partially in the ATL metro area, and I am currently a junior at the college of Charleston, studying for the Dental Admissions test. Thanks for being a good role model on reality t.v (even with that stunt called Ridickulous...lol...I loved that. Sorry, I used to dance in the "A", and I'm not ashamed), and I definitely plan to see you at the top!

FonDre
FonDre

Phaedra! I absolutely love you on the show! You, Nene and Cynthia are my favorites. They should bring DaShawn (sp) Snow back and let you girls run Hotlanta in a more classy comical way! The other ladies are toxic and boring! Most did not like you last year but I did right out the gate. You brought a fresh educated/genuine spin on the show. Not to mention you don't hide the fact that you are a Christian. Keep up the good work! Btw...your family is beautiful!!!

KEEPNITREAL
KEEPNITREAL

Phaedra you are by the far my most favorite Housewive of all the seasons.

MS. DENISE
MS. DENISE

I THINK YOU HANDLE THE COURT CASE WELL. DUE TO THE FACT SHEREE DIDNT GIVE YOU FULL DETAILS OF WHATS GOING ON WITH HER AND HUSBAND. SHE DIDNT PREPARE YOU AT ALL FOR THAT CASE. SHE SHOULD HAVE PUT HE JAIL THE 1ST TIME, SHE MIGHT WOULD HAVE GOTTEN HER MONEY. BUT AM PROUD OF THE WAY YOU HANDLE THAT SITUATION BETWEEN YOU AND HER. YOU CANT CONFUSE BUSINESS WITH FRIENDSHIPS

msjazzycat
msjazzycat

I don't believe the check was good in the first place. She needed to get it back from you. If Sheree had 5,000. she would buy a handbag. She lead you down a road that you probably know the paticulars about by now. Glad you gave the bad check back.

Southern Lady 08
Southern Lady 08

I don't understand why people say "I didn't like you at first, but now I do." Judgmental much??? Furthermore, who needs your stamp of approval? Anyhow, Phaedra you are a wonderful person and your character shines through in your actions. Continue to be you and don't change for anyone!

The Real Reality
The Real Reality

Ok, its very obvious that many of you, including Phaedra, have ABSOLUTELY NO CLUE as to what intelligence, class, and etiquette are. Phaedra comes off as a shallow, delusional wannabe. From her tacky habit of calling out every designer name brand that she sees the girls wearing, to her often incorrect grammar. She's a lame! Plain and simple! If you guys are really looking for class, elegance, and style then look no further than Cynthia. She is the real deal! and is the only woman on that show who acts educated.

Oleatha
Oleatha

You are one of my favorites on RHOA. I understand that you are a caring and helping person but I feel the Sheree assasinated your character on the last episode...and she didn't want you to cash that check because she knew it would not clear...that's just my opinion. But you are a true Southern Belle and a real housewife.

Clo Clo
Clo Clo

Phaedra,

I truly ADORE you on Atlanta Housewives. I will admit, it REALLY upset me the way Sheree treated you regarding the case. You did your job, and because of her lack of understand of the system AND he past experiences with lawyers, I feel like she took things out on you and not only that, gave you the run around for your check! But the way you handled that situation, SUPERB! Let her go to another lawyer who is going to charge her FULL PRICE and not be as caring and sympathetic as you are. But as you say , "THAT BURNED MY BISCUITS!!!" her doing you like that. Stay Blessed! You are an amazing woman and a great friend.

shanikamarie
shanikamarie

I luv me Phadrea Parks she is so Intelligent and very outspoken I would like to be like her some day when I was younger I wanted to be an lawyer just like Mrs.Phadrea Parks but I have a lot of work to dooooo

Queen C
Queen C

Phaedra, just started watching the show, but have to say you are my favorite wife. Love those high collared tops you are wearing. Very stylish. I think you did the right thing in giving S her check back. S is in a state of denial if she thinks you were responsible for her current situation...after 4 years of not doing anything, how did she think you were supposed to magically make everything all right?

ylegrande
ylegrande

I love you girl, you are so funny. Go get them

Shawnypink
Shawnypink

You are my favorite hw! The definition of a true diva!

Lejax Creations
Lejax Creations

It was so wrong of Sheree to bad mouth you and try to ruin your hard earned reputation just because she doesn't seem to have a clear understanding of the court system. I guess she thought all would be settled in one hearing? Or she thought you had a crystal ball and would know she sold furniture awarded to her ex and he would file a motion about that? I told her this on her blog and told her she owes you an apology. I like her but she was really disappointing in this situation. She said Bob outwitted you but the truth is Bob outwitted her. You told her to do this right away but she didn't and he beat her to it by filing first. Clearly she was the one who was outwitted by him and she's taking it out on you and that is not fair. She should have stuck you realizing all would not be settled in a day, especially when she has issues like that of selling property that wasn't hers to sell. She'll learn the hard way. I just hope she stops bad mouthing you and realizes how wrong she was, does the right thing, the classy thing and apologizes. We love you, you are the best thing to happen to the show since it started. I told Andy if you open the funeral home he has got to give you your own show. It would be awesome and I would watch it. :)

PamJ
PamJ

I love your pink eye shadow!!!

ngoanessele
ngoanessele

Phaedra Sister...I love me a black educated woman!!!!!! Kudos to you. I love how you rock those Herve Leger Dresses......you do shop yourself.... the cheapest one is a thousand!!!!!

classactdime
classactdime

Pheadra!! Ms. Parks if you're nasty... I so love you. Your son is georgous. You are a true blue southern belle with a twist. KUDOS to you for putting that money hungry, man looking, bitter Sheree out of her misery. I'm so glad you saw her daggers before they stabbed you in the back. She is an opportunist who will latch onto anyone who can bring her a little closer to her ''7 figures'', she never got. You are my inspiration sister girl. I have always wanted to be a attorney and own my own funeral home. Live it up!!! You have a good head on your shoulders a good husband and a little handsome gift from God. Don't let the likes of He by Sharee become your demise. She is nothing but evil. Questioning your law knowledge, while her son sleeps on an air mattress. WE LOVE YOU PHEADRA PARKS!!!

AMY D.
AMY D.

phadera i love you more each wk. i love watching you and it is finally nice to see a intelligent women on the housewives show. i missed seeing apollo and your baby this wk. they are both adorable. i am glad you and sherre worked things out "right or wrong you both did the right thing. she came to you and told you to your face how she felt and you gave her money back. i personally feel you both made the right decision. i am a white woman, but i have a pretty nice donkey. men have always loved it so i know what you are talking about.

merry christmas,

Diva Ann
Diva Ann

You are a top professional and classy dresser. Loved the way you severed legal relationship w/Sheree.

BABBZI
BABBZI

YOU ARE A CLASSY LADY, A LITTLE FREAKY BUT A TRUE CLASS ACT. YOU AND CYNTHIA SURPASS THE OTHER WOMEN IN REGARDS TO CLASS, GRACE AND SELF CONTROL. MAYBE ITS BECAUSE YOU TWO WOMEN ACTUALLY WORKED FOR WHAT YOU HAVE BEFORE RHOA. (KANDI TOO) STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF AND YOUR SON. THATS TRUE LOVE. EVERYTHING ELSE IS OF LESSER VALUE. GOD BLESS.

knowledge
knowledge

Phaedra you have become one of my favorite housewives. You actually have your own career and business. Unlike some of your coherts! You along with Candy make me really proud to be african american and female. Of course you are a beautiful sista and Apollo"GOD LAWD" he is devinely fine! I am proud of you and all of your accomplishments. You represent well. I am so confused by kim Z(who sleeps with other folk husband and actually finds someone-Kroy a.k.a sucka)who is reported to have a spin-off show. All I can say is WOW! Must be what? I could never figure out why she was on the show to start with. There is absolutely no diversity(no african americans) of this nature on other Housewives shows! Thank you Phaedra for being classy,smart and beautiful!

MsRachel
MsRachel

Sheree is no friend all she does is blame other for her mess up life, And like Nene said she hits below the belt. I think she's very much unhappy and she think name band things can buy her happiness.

Donna2
Donna2

Phaedra, you are my favorite. You are a joy to watch. You make me laugh each episode! You call it as you see it without getting yourself all in an uproar like some of your cast does. I love it! And I totally thought Peter was out of line with Apollo at the baby shower. And just for the records, Apollo would have taken him. I was like old man sit down before he crushes you!

Vivy
Vivy

Phaedra, it upsets me to see Sheere bad mouthing you. If I recall correctly, you are the only ATL housewive with a real job and a real education. If anything, these ladies should respect you and look up to you. Obviously, you were doing your job. Sheere was stupid to wait so long to file court papers for child support. The fact that bob served her fist was Sheere's fault and not yours. You clearly told her to go to court and get him arrested. Sheere should take onwership for her mistake and not blame her lawyer for it. Keep it up girl! You make us women proud to see a successful independent black woman!

fanatical
fanatical

You crack me up but Every knows you should have put your prayer cloth over Riickculos.

TashaDMV
TashaDMV

Alway's follow your first mind!! Knowing Sheree previous encounter with lawyers, I don't know why you attempted to help her. I'm glad that you gave the check back...it probably wasn't good anyway and to think you reduced your rates for her!! Nobody that has an open child support case, and not getting a dime of it, will sit around four years and do nothing! Nene, Sheree, and Kim are all opportunist, because they were nothing before RHOA!! Let's see how Sheree handles yall friendship now!! Despite all the negativity you might have got concerning Ridickulous, I would have loved to see that performance...Lol!! I hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday!!!

Cee loves ATL house wifes
Cee loves ATL house wifes

Phaedra. You handled the situation with Sheree and the court proceedings very well. How do you feel about the comments that Mrs.Lawrence, Sherees best friend/hair stylist, made in reference to you being a "Fake" attorney? I think that you made a wise choice in no longer representiing Sheree, because if the child support case is not resolved to Sherees satisfaction, she could take it out on you. This could impact your friendship aswell as your reputation as an attorney. Again, this situation was handled well and shows a great deal of maturity on your part. As we have seen with the situation with Kim and Khandi, it is best not to mix friendship with business.

157kah
157kah

Could not stop laughing at you last night. So cute, clever, and a step ahead of the rest. This funeral business is hilarious...gorgeous baby and gorgeous husband.

Marcia M
Marcia M

I love you Phaedra! You are my type of girl. It is amazing that you were able to find the human loving side with all of the housewives in regards to their children....except for that darn NeNe. That girl does not have a nurturing bone in her body. I love the way you handle yourself and you have a great sense of humor. As far as Momma Joyce being mad...don't sweat it. I believe that she needs to stay in a mother's place and being at a party for her daughter and her peers was not the place for her. Had she not have been there, she would not have saw the happenings. I think you are a class act. We love you here in Warner Robins, GA!

N.J.Hartman
N.J.Hartman

Phaedra I think that you were on the road to beating Bob to the punch when you told Sheree lets getting locked up for failure to pay. Its her own damn fault for giving his ass the chance to draw up contempt papers. If his ass was locked up he could have never done anything but pull out the check book and pay up!

Oklahoma Viewer
Oklahoma Viewer

I understand your friendship to give Sheree back her money. But truly your office did alot of work and she was unappreciative. I also hope one of your referrals was a bull dog lawyer because that ex of hers is a DOG. I don't know how she got involved with him but she better change her ways or life is going to hand her cold wake up call. Friends or no Friends. Seems she would rather be shopping than getting any back support from her ex.

view er
view er

TINGS THAT GO WITHOUT SAYING

You are a wonderful attorney and a gracious woman. You never made a misstep though Sheree was willing to throw undeserved blame at you. I just wish she had been strong enough to follow your advise.

But that aside I just thought you handled it beautifully.

tchoupiotulav
tchoupiotulav

When you said and I'm paraphrasing " models are pretty people and if Cynthia wants to make them believe that they are going to become models after they pay her money then good for her". It was the way you said it!!!! You need to be on a tv show like The Office! You are WITTY!

Bren N.
Bren N.

Hi Phaedra. You are absolutely AMAZING and my favorite housewife. You are smart, classy, and intellegent, and an absolute jewel to the African American community, especially in Atlanta. Sheree don't deserve to have you as a friend nor attorney but you have to look over people who don't understand the judicial system. Sometimes all they need is someone with a good head to lead them in the right directions. Keep smiling and moving forward. Best wishes to you, Appolo, and the little one. Hugs n Kisses, Bren.

on the edge
on the edge

Paedra I am a true fan granted i felt that you did start that mess at Kims baby shower. I felt that you should have not said anything in the first place. However, I think you did a wonderful job on your broke friends case and personally she wouldnt of gotten her check back but then again it probably would have bounced from here to kingdom come. Things did back fired on her because she was too busy crying over a sorry man. Maybe if she had a yard sale and sold all those expensive handbags and shoes maybe she can have some money. lol.

anniemaereed
anniemaereed

Great job in court!!! Its sad that Sharee has been to court as many times as she has and doesn't know the basic dress codes. Thumbs up to Bob too!! Thanks for returning the check to Sharee. Why have drama while chasing down your payment. Even if she get an attorney out of state she will still have the same results.

Lorna G.
Lorna G.

Kudos Phaedra for giving that retainer fee back, you are a true professional. Some people need to be fed with a long handled spoon, namely Sheree. I hope she finds her worth within herself, her children deserve that much.

DesiD
DesiD

I keep seeing these comments saying: "I was not a fan last year BUT......" well, I WAS a fan last year and I'm a bigger fan this year. You're are so funny and beautiful and AWESOMENESS PERSONIFIED!!!! You're my drag persona, girl. I LOVE YOU!!!! Sheree needs to take your advice (I understand she felt blind sided but that was HER own fault for not filing a motion to get him tossed in jail for not paying, and she probably needs to take her mother's advice (who is a financial expert) because home-girl is not good with money. I know that lot she has is in her mom's name. She needs to get it together. You keep it strong. Peace, love!!!