Phaedra Parks

Phaedra discusses the significance behind Ayden's party location and his 12 cakes.

on Mar 21, 20120

This weeks' episode marked two firsts: my husband's first speaking engagement and our son's first birthday. The first occurrence of any event is the most memorable because it leaves an indelible mark in our memories and sets the precedence for similar events to follow. I was very proud of my husband's courage in speaking about his past and extremely excited to celebrate our son's first birthday! Most people have their favorite occasion or holiday; for me, it’s birthdays because they are a personal holiday celebrating one's entrance into life. We certainly cannot predict the arrival of our last birthday, but we can surely and grandly celebrate each birthday as we are blessed to see them. I wanted our son's first birthday to be a memorable occasion which would set the tone for each birthday to come.

As I began to ponder how we would celebrate Ayden's joyous arrival, I thought about all the things he loves -- swimming, ice cream, snow cones, sailboats, barbeque, and, of course, cake. My family is very close-knit and always enjoys a great gathering, so I certainly wanted to be sure to make this a memorable family occasion. The only location I considered was the water park conceptualized by and named in memory of my dear aunt, Frances Meadows. My aunt Frances was the first woman, and first person of color, elected to city government in Gainesville, Georgia. Her political platform was family based. The Frances Meadows Aquatic Center is a concept she fought for in order to facilitate positive family interaction. Unfortunately, she lost her battle with cancer before the park was completed. While her most championed cause of the water park and athletic facility for families did not come to fruition until after her death, the city thought it only befitting to name the aquatic center in her honor.

174 comments
angel67
angel67

Hi Phaedra,  

 

This is an old post of yours, but I was interested in your concept behind Ayden’s birthday party.  Initially I thought it was over the top, but after reading, I understand.  Besides, it’s not for me to judge.  I planned our daughter’s  2nd party for about a year. Even though it was small in comparison, I really don’t have room to talk.  

 

As a fan, do you mind me asking if you would plan an  event without Dwight?  Just once.  

Fanny1951
Fanny1951

Phaedra, I just finished watching all 3 reunion shows and I just loved how you kept your cool and stayed classy, even when you were brought into the madness! Thank you for remaining part of the program. You have a fine husband and beautiful child, and I love your way of thinking as regards celebrating those things important to you. A couple of those 'ladies' could take lessons from you regarding being kind and quiet!

I noticed here that some are advising you not to get too involved with some of the ladies on the show. But I will say this, Kim has come into her own and is living life fully like you do, and has really settled down into her life. I think she would be a fine friend to you and your children could play together.

Anyway I really find myself caring about you and your little family. I look forward to seeing you next season!

Fanny

Sandra Taylor Boyd
Sandra Taylor Boyd

Hi Phaedra, Yes, your certainly one of my favorite Housewives! I like the way you try to remain neutral and steer clear of the chaos! Your lil Ayden is the cutest lil one I've seen by far! As a Mother, do whatever you want for him, that's what we do as parent's. It is very apparent that you and Apollo love that lil boy with all your heart. People are going to have their opinions, at the end of the day that's what they are, "opinions.

Lastly, continue being the Southern Belle you are, but ease up on the "deceased" comments out of respect for the dearly departed. Love ya! Ms. San

carboqueen
carboqueen

Phaedra is one of the main people bridging the great divide between the women; but have no fear Nene and Marlo will read you quick, fast and in a hurry if you talk crazy. You know just about what you can and cannot say in their presence unless you want to get read.

Chinyere
Chinyere

You are my favorite in this episode.Keep it up

rho101
rho101

Sorry Ladies Example and all Nene haters, but Nene ain't going nowhere UNLESS she wants to go. Because Nene is the show, she has the personality, she can carry the show all by herself and the other women know it. That's why they talk about her so bad. I know this must hurt so I suggest you call Dr Sherry to help you get over it.

babyluv60
babyluv60

Phaedra you are so CRAZY!!! I love your attitude on the show. You and your family are just as cute as a button. Anyway you want to celebrate any event is just fine with me. Keep up the good work!!!!

Vegas vegas
Vegas vegas

I have really grown to love you and I think you are very smart. You made sure you were in practically every scene this season by being a bridge between the "smalls and talls"...BRILLIANT! I wish some of the ladies got along better because between you, nene, Marlo (sometimes) ...I am entertained. Sheree and Kim don't appear to be the best people to surround yourself with, a bit selfish and delusional.

Please tell me you read the ENTIRE hell out of Sheree for questioning your ability as a lawyer. She was disrespectful and I understand your position, you dont work for free or any IOU's so you having to chase her down for a check will absolutely put the brakes on any work you were doing for her. She was rude and ungrateful, it seemed.

I'm looking forward to the reunion!

Ladies Example
Ladies Example

Phaedra is truly the best housewife on this show and her family is adorable. Blessing for continue success. Bravo good job adding her and the family to the show. Please do something with that dag on NENE. Folks are tired of her ignorance, loudness and lack of class. Phaedra maybe you can teach her a thing or two.

ViewerTerry from Sedona,AZ
ViewerTerry from Sedona,AZ

Phaedra, Just keep showing us the real you. You are a real joy to watch. Remember many people look at smart, successful women as bitches. They are just jealous You are more real, have class and lots of ambition. Watch your back around Sheree, she would stab you and Kandi in the back without a second thought. She is heading back to the ghetto she came from. I do feel bad for her kids. You are so cute, your whole family is so adorable. You are good at not getting Into the middle of the drama, they do drag you in but you tell the truth. Keep The good friendships you have but Kim will turn on you if you don't put your nose up her behind . You are to busy for that.

tamiah robertson
tamiah robertson

i love you phaedra!!!!!!!!!!!!! you are my favorite housewife!! and ayden is so beautiful=)

modonna
modonna

phaedra

you are one of the funniest classiest women on the show i laff at you and with you and your little guy is absolutely gorgeous keep yourself true to yourself

JDIXON
JDIXON

Phaedra, you are my favorite RHWOA and you always will be

limelight
limelight

Girl, whatever your money buys. You loved it and Ayden will not remember it. -Keep making light of everything!

Aloha808
Aloha808

Phaedra, you are a great entertainer. Would love to see YOU on Celebrity Apprentice, since I think you would surely win!

julia vaughn
julia vaughn

Goading that family into spending fouteen grand on a funeral was ugly. And it showed you for the greedy business woman you are.

casteels4wv
casteels4wv

Phaedra, You are so funny I absolutely Love you ! Bravo needs to make you a spin off show for sure ! Let's get a potician started..I'm just sayin !

RHOA fan of NENE and PHAEDRA
RHOA fan of NENE and PHAEDRA

Your Hilarious and stop talking about people behind their backs (or cracking jokes if that's what you wanna call it).

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

Phaedra you are definately a lady on the grind. Do you!

Kim7
Kim7

I AM NOT FOOLED BY PHAEDRA. WHEN SHE WAS TALKING TO THOSE PEOPLE ABOUT A CASKET FOR THIER DAD, WHICH TURNED OUT TO BE A TEST, PHAEDRA SOUNDED INSINCERE, MONEY HUNGRY & JUST NOT REAL. sJE JUST SEEMS LIKE IT'S AN ACT. SHE IS NOT AS HIGH CLASS AS SHE MAKES HERSELF OUT TO BE. THE ONLY THING I RESPECT ABOUT PHAEDRA IS HER EDUCATION. THEN AT WILLIE WATKINS PARTY SHE INVITES EVERYONE TO A WAY TOO LONG EVENT & IT REALLY IS NOT MUCH ABOUT HER, BUT RATHER TO BRAG TO THE GIRLS ABOUT BECOMING A PARTNER. PHAEDRA ACTS EXCITED TO CHARGE A LOT OF MONEY ON CASKETS. WHO CARES WHAT YOUR CASKET COSTS. IT SHOULDN'T BE ABOUT THAT BESIDES YOU CAN'T TELL IF YOUR DEAD WHETHER OR NOT YOU ARE IN A $10,000.00 CASKET...STUPID.

Yahgirl G
Yahgirl G

Love your character Phaedra! Do your thing and I believe you and Ne Ne could be really good friends...at the end of the day the two of you just do you. No change. You get one life, live it to the full as you put God first.

Haterville
Haterville

Phaedra Parks’ event? Finally all the ladies agree on something; the event was extremely long and extremely boring. Thank God is over. That was funny.

I hope to see you next season Phaedra. You are unique.

lol21
lol21

Your family is so cute together. You were funny explaining NeNe's knew man on WWHL. the world according to Phaedra: well you know it's polite to talk when someone is giving a speech. LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 Phaedra some people don't know that but Kroy does. Although he did not understand what was going on, he did not speak during the presentations or walk out. He just ate his food and put on the proper face. i like Kroy and Apollo. Apollo is a great dad he and Aden look like twins. By the way, we want to see more of your mother like her personality mmmhmmm. Bravo did a great job airing Apollo's speech. They're great at showing inspirational things to uplift and change the ommunity for the better.

funeralgal
funeralgal

Phaedra, let me preface this by saying you are my favorite on RHA. I think you are beautiful and hilarious, a great combo! But as someone who has been a funeral director for many years now, I am disappointed in how you have chosen to represent both the profession and yourself. Funeral directors are already underrepresented in entertainment and when people do see them it's often a caricature and almost never positive. To flaunt your interest as being purely financial, and for you to insinuate that if someone really loves their family member they should spend more money, is wrong and makes everyone in our profession look bad. It may be considered entertaining to BRAVO to portray your comments in this light ( I realize much is edited for that purpose), but for someone watching who may have just lost a loved one and gone through the experience of arranging a funeral and the financial conundrum that can result, I assure you, it is not entertaining. True, funerals are expensive, but I know first hand that the amount of hard work that goes into putting it all together (something people outside the profession rarely understand or see) more often than not justifies the costs. Where I work, we struggle everyday with the negative stereotypes that exist about funeral directors taking advantage of grieving people. Adding to this are the endless scandals that come up indirectly from the mismanagement of cemeteries and crematories. Whether or not you wanted to be, as a member of this profession, you are now an example to the public. Please, as someone who thinks you are better than this, consider discussing this on the reunion to help redeem yourself with the profession.

Lee1
Lee1

Keep doing you Phaedra!! Love your business acumen and beautiful family.

Not a fan
Not a fan

PHAEDRA IS JUST WANNABE. HER IDEA OF CLASS IS LAUGHABLE.

Davora Bell
Davora Bell

Phaedra, you go lady, you are so classy!!! Don't change your style. Please please tell me where you got your bird cage with the matching fan, That is my style, I would love to have the set to wear to church. My God continue blessing you and your family.

Lively1
Lively1

I think what ever you do, Phadrea you do with style I love you..Very classy and fun to watch amongst these others nincompoops.

loveLisa
loveLisa

I think your a little doll. You alway's make me laugh. Your so funny and do not even know it. Your baby and Husband are beautiful! In real life you are the type of person I would hang with. Your my fav next to Miss Lisa Vandepump. Keep being you, Phadera.

Redbird
Redbird

Phaedra. I just loved your son's dedication ceremony. Seeing baby Ayden being presented to the audience was priceless. Keep on bringing us precious memories. It just amazes me that people would rather see the cast members attack each other and call each other names than to see a ceremony that was honorable, respectful and funny. Keep on doing what you are doing. Can't nobody bring it like you.

creampie6
creampie6

All I can say gurl is you do you. Stay on top of your game. U r doing your thing and don't let anyone hate on you for how you do big for your son. I think that is so adoring. It will make him know he is important/ and he is loved. I think you were so classy for staying out of that drama that sheree started to stir up between kandi and kim. you simply stated that kandi didn't mean it as sheree tried to imply and left it at that. you know how when to act like a lady and when to let your hair down.

Crystal Slaughter
Crystal Slaughter

Phaedra,

I am told that I look like you and that is a compliment. You are hilarious.

I love your life and it is apparent that you do too.

R.N.
R.N.

Phaedra, Peter could take lessons from Apollo, on how to be a gentleman.

remember africa
remember africa

Phaedra is my favorite; however, I just have to say I am not much of a blogger, but in light of the Africa trip,I just have to say, Phaedra was the main one who seemed emotionally touched by the less fortunate children in Africa, so, true , it is your money and your son, but after that trip I think (just saying) that if that trip truly affected your perception on life, 12 cupcakes would have been sufficient (or 24) but not so wasteful. Come on Southern Belle, you are blessed and your example affects many. Ayden is a blessed baby boy whose values will come from you and your husband. p.s. body is banging, however, one size larger on the outfits wouldn't hurt, but this fool I'm sitting next to loves it! lol blessings!

Allyce
Allyce

Is it me but doesn't cutie pie Ayden resemble your mother? He's a beautiful child. Hurry up and give him a little sister or brother. Also Apollo is gorgeous. I love the family picture of the three of you. Nice looking family!

ViewerEve4ever
ViewerEve4ever

The party was very nice and if you can afford to buy how ever many cakes for your son without losing your cars or home then go for it.

teamneneleaks
teamneneleaks

Phaedra,

I dont know why you invited Sheree she talked about your baby's b- day and the 12 cakes. go back and watch the episode, I think she is jeolous and fake.

shon willis williams
shon willis williams

I think it was wonderful and Phaedra u r one of my favoirate house wives so classy and stay that way its looks good on you

Lois R.
Lois R.

Hello Phadrea

I think you are one of the smartest and wises housewives. Always think big, nothing is to much for your son. I have a son which he is grown now but nothing in this world is more important then him. Live your life the way you see fit, you went to Law school and I know work hard to get were you are today so do your thing the sky is the limit. I think it's great that you didn't judge your husband because he has a criminal record. everyone makes mistakes.

katie Jenkins
katie Jenkins

Hey Mrs. P We meet today and you were awesome, i think you enjoying the Gift God has given you and your husband. If you bought 150 cakes your son, money and life. Keep blessing people and your reward will be great, what you make happen for others God will make happen for you.

Lella from OC
Lella from OC

I love your witty comments and your over the top fabulous parties. You are truly entertaining. Don't change.

Happinessandjoy
Happinessandjoy

Phaedra,

Your son's birthday party and dedication were wonderful. Simply because it was what you wanted to do for YOUR child. Not anyone else's. It cracks me up how people make comments about what someone else needs to do/not do. If it is what you want to do for child, then do it. I too just had my first child and we had a huge dedication celebration. And I am in the process of planning his 1st birthday and that will be even bigger. Of course everyone know that a 1 year old won't know what's going. It doesn't take a genius to figure that one out. The 1st birthday celebrates his/her first year of life and it is a celebration for the parents who has taken care of him and watched him grow thru it. So to all those you have a negative comments on how she chooses to celebrate major milestones in her son's life, I say kick rocks. You keep doing you and I am going to do the same because I am sure people have talked about me too and how I choose to celebrate my son's milestone and will continue to talk. And they can kick rocks too!

Kimberly Davis
Kimberly Davis

I love the celebration of his birthday and his blessing ceremony! Do it Phaedra! Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are by far my favorite on the show. sheree is a broke hater and you were nice not to take her money but she owes you for just going to court with her triflin tail!

DAWG
DAWG

Phaedra,

The babies birthday party was fabulous.

Now let's talk about you girlfriend (if I may call you that), you need to buy your clothes one size larger. They are fitting to tight and it seems like you have a hard time walking. I"m just saying, this is what a true girlfriend would honestyly tell you and we would just keep it moving :)

Oluchi
Oluchi

Dearest Phaedra, Please keep in mind some of us have recently lost loved ones and your playfulness and your mother's disrespectful comments hurt us. I was deeply offended by her comment of "they can't feel it" speaking about how the deceased are handled. I think there should be a disclaimer prior to scenes in the funeral home. Viewers should be given the opportunity to choose whether they want to view it. Otherwise, excellent acting....I hope most of it is acting.

ViewerDee
ViewerDee

Phaedra, you have become my favorite Housewife on the show. You always keep it real and real funny. You maintain your poise and morals with which you were raised, but you are not a stick in the mud. I am a cake baker, so I was very intrigued by all the cakes at Ayden's party. I'd like to know which Atlanta bakeries you ordered them from, so I can look at their websites. Thanks.

jacob10
jacob10

phaedra, stop showing your funeral parlor business it is depressing, to say the least. when that part comes on i change the station. it is not entertaining for us who has lost close love ones. you seem to take it as a big joke,and it is really all about the money for you.

Viewerauntiekinaz
Viewerauntiekinaz

I guess I live vicariously through all the housewifes shows and love all the women you are by far one of my favorites, your grounded love your family and I don't think you would be your without your personalized touch. Wish you and your family well. I also like the fact that Apollo is sharing his story and struggles it makes your family all the more relatable.

I know there's so much more to all the housewives but I can't get enough!

nyc212
nyc212

A's birthday party and dedication so fabulous, so spectacular, so Pheadra...everybody knows you never let us down at your extravaganzas..

mikmar9130
mikmar9130

Phedra, I must admit, I didn't know what to think of you during the first episode. But I must say, I just love your poise, attitude, and how you handle everything with a very smart, yet funny comment. Only you can do what you do and get away with it. You are a wonderful person, your husband seems a little shy but, looks like he's getting used to the cameras (he always looks mad) he has a nice smile, so tell him to smile once in a while. And your son, well he's just soooooo adorable!!! You are a very lucky lady, God Bless you and your family!!