Phaedra thinks this week was all about family and gratitude.
Posted by Phaedra Parkson Nov 27, 20110
A few days ago my dear friend, Monica, stopped by to help me start my family tree. She completed hers recently and successfully traced her lineage back to the early 1800s. To give me some perspective, she shared a sample family tree which read at the bottom, “Like branches on a tree, we grow in different directions yet, our roots remain as one.” With Thanksgiving upon us, it is the perfect time to reflect on the importance of family and gratitude. On Thanksgiving we typically surround ourselves with family and remember the importance of enjoying the simple things in life while we stuff ourselves with turkey and all the other delightful fixings of the day.
While family and gratitude are not blatantly obvious in this episode, if you watch closely it is the recurring theme. During this episode, you see Apollo and I defending each other. I point this out because in any healthy relationship it is essential to know each other’s heart; and by doing so, you are able to speak on behalf of one another whenever misunderstandings arise. In any relationship, especially marriage, misunderstandings are inevitable. Marriage is not only the union of two people, but of two families; which often can be just as rewarding as it is challenging. I am very proud of my husband and grateful for our family.
Phaedra, you have become one of my favorite housewives. You are truly the life of any party and know how to have a good time and know how to show a good time to others. I felt that if Ms. Joyce was that uncomfortable at the party she could have excused herself like a lady and not rag her daughter out at her party in front of her friends. In my opinion Ms. Joyce didn't seem to regard that her daughter was a mature woman and her & her friends might enjoy that kind of entertainment. Thanks for giving Kandi a great party I would have had a blast had I been invited. Phaedra continue to be blessed.
Phaedra, I think you are hysterical!! I also think that ReDICKulous was in poor taste. Another venue, and also not in mixed company would have been a better way to give Kandi a gift. Anyway, you have totally given this season some pizazz, so keep the one-liners coming..
This is in response to those who thought it was either Phaedra's or Kandi's fault for Ms. Joyce getting upset at Kandi's party in behind the stripper.
First off, neither one of them were at fault. I blame Ms. Joyce. Ms. Joyce made a comment she doesn't want others to have the impression that she parties with her daughter. However, she was at her very grown daughter's b-day party. She should not have been there in the first place. Ms. Joyce could have celebrated Kandi's birthday earlier that day along with Riley. I'm not understanding why she blew up the way she did. All she had to do was excuse herself until the "live" entertainment was over and come back and enjoy her daughter's b-day, & on the next day discuss how she felt about the stripper & her feeling disrepected. This is Mother Wit 101 & the mature way of handling it.
Now I must say this Ms. Joyce cannot be a homegirl to her daughter & still demand the respect she feels she deserves just because she's her mother. I look at it this way. Most people think it's funny & cute when a two year-old repeats a cuss word he heard his mother/father said, but when that two year-old turns into a 15 to 18 year old cussing you down real hard & all of a sudden it's not cute anymore. Again, Ms. Joyce cannot be a homegirl to her daughter. As a seasoned woman, she should know how to have the right kind of relationship with Kandi. Kandi should still be able to come to her about anything that's on her mind/heart to say & Ms. Joyce should have an open ear & know how to give good advice to her when needed. When a parent shows the difference what a mother is and a friend is, there will be no need to demand respect, it'll automatically be given. Plus, there will be no room for confusion like Kandi showed when her mother confronted her about the stripper at her party.
Kandi is one of the three I love on RHOA (Phaedra & Sheree are the other two).
However, in this past Sunday's episode Kandi was helping her mother take photos to post on a singles web site & I heard her refer to her mother as "girl". Here's Mother Wit 101 again - I'm a 36 year-old woman & I highly respect my mother. I do not refer to my dear mother as "she", "her", & "girl" and anything of the sort. This is how I was raised & I'm pretty sure others as well. Ms. Joyce didn't say anything about Kandi calling her "girl". She must don't know that's disrepectful. Remember this - A teacher cannot run with the students.
Hi. lol I've liked you since the first episode I saw you in last season. I love how you have a strong sense of self AND can still be a great wife and mom. It seems these days that women, especially my generation, have it in their minds that in order to be a "good wife" you have to, in some way, wait on your husband hand and foot and not have a strong career of your own. Thank you for popping this bubble of stereotypes. In reference to Kandi's party... Eh.. things could have been done differently. However, the way I see it, you did it for Kandi; your intention was not to please everyone present. On the flip side, I feel it was an awkward setting in which to have Ridickulous perform. (Furthermore, I see the reason behind why NeNe left, but feel it was a little overly dramatic). Had it been a different setting, I feel your gift would have been better received. But, again, what's done is done . Some people think that your gift contradicted your "claims" that you are a Southern Belle. I think this is due to the common belief that southern belles are 1)snooty/ stuck up and 2) can only have "stuck up" fun. Either, ignore them. You are who are you and it's for the better.
Anyhoo, stay blessed and I hope that everything you hope and pray for shall be yours!
Phaedra~ I love ya girl! You are so real! You are in the position to do this as well. Don't let anyone rain on your parade. I will tell you, I noticed a deifferent side to you this year. It's wonderful! A true southern bell. Work it, walk it, and talk it. You got it baby! Well done. My best to you and Apollo. =)
the first episode i felt so sorry for you.you were the odd girl out. every one was against you,and now you are bud's with the same one that talked bad about you. but as you say "everybody know's". well everybody know's you keep your friends close and your enemies closer. still you are funny and i like you better this time around than last season.
LADIES -- PHAEDRA DID NOT DISRESPECT HER MOTHER. SHE MADE SURE HER MOTHER WAS NOT THERE - SHE PROTECTED HER MOM. KANDI, ON THE OTHER HAND OWES HER MOTHER THE UTMOST RESPECT AND DIDN'T THINK SHE SHOULD GIVE IT TO HER. THAT IS KANDI'S MOM -- NOT PHAEDRA'S. KANDI SHOULD HAVE STOPPED THE SHOW UNTIL SHE COULD GET HER MOTHER OUT OF THERE. I AM THE SAME AGE AS KANDI'S MOM AND I FELT DISRESPECTED ALSO AND MY DAUGHTER WAS NOT THERE. GET OFF OF PHAEDRA AND PUT THE BLAME WHERE IT SHOULD BE -- WITH KANDI.
Phaedra, you are my most favorite. I like you because you remind me of myself and you don't care how the others will react to your punchlines...... I think they are soooo funny, I will love to have someone as funny as you in my circle,I think that NeNe has been jealous of you and your success since day one, she didn't even give you a chance. It's alright cuz her only claim of fame is celebrity apprentice and that show hunny!
Phaedra, it's because of you that I LOVE THE SHOW!!!! you are funny smart, n successful! I loved how u took the time to make ammends with Kim and Kandi on the show. It shows that you have a kind heart, and are thoughtful!
when Nene burns me up, you are there to cool me down and make me laugh!! Girl you are soo funny I absolutely adore you!! I just imagine how it would be to spend a day with you, truly an unforgettable day for sure!! Thank you for being the Housewive with REASON, i love you, on the show and pray that you and your family will continue to be Blessed!!....hmmm Im thinking The Phaedra n Apollo show, Bravo how about it???
Mrs. Phaedra I must say this season you have made me laugh so hard. You are my favorite housewife. You are a complete package beauty, brains & booty(donkey)...lol. Keep it real and continue to be a good mother and wife.
very disrespectful to Kandi's Mom - would you invite your own mother to such
disgusting behavior at a birthday party. You should be ashamed....Isn't your mother a pastor or your father or something? Really I mean where is the wisdom?
Miss Phaedra, Thank you so much for your comments!! You crack me up&made me laugh so hard on last nights epi! Hysterical so keep em coming!! Love Love Love your attitude&the way you present yourself! So tell Sheree, to call me for a stylsist, cuz she needs one! She(by Sheree) has no clue how to dress for herself! I'll do it as charity, just so she can find a man! TY again for constantly entertaining me w witty remarks! Peace! Happy Holidays!
I agree with NeNe.....Phaedra is a fake and a trouble maker. She started the confrontation between Cynthias husband and her hubby @ Kims baby shower which was very tacky. Wrong place, wrong time. Made them all look tacky. like u can't take black people anywhere. Always gotta show out. And it was all phaedras fault.
Phaedra-From my understanding, you didn't grow up on the well to do side of Athens. You probably from the hood yourself in Athens. Bar One is not really located in the hood, it is located in an area that has been revamped and rebuilding. Also, remember where you came from too.
Phaedra beside your husband being FINE your son the finest little baby I've ever seen I hope to see a lil CUTE daughter real soon to complete your UNION...but most of all I think you're one of the most CLASSIEST Women I've ever seen you truly have defined and change the concept of ghetto women on reality shows..Thank you just for being YOU..please don't let the ATL show or spin off show I no you'll be getting "lol" change WHO you are ..a lot to be learned from you..I would love for you to come speak at my daughter 2012 graduating class You are the perfect pick for the job..Blessing to you and your FAM>>>My 1st real reality TV Hero...
Love you since day one Pheadra, you have me rolling, you are so funny. I also like the way you checkmate NeNe your first season as she though she could punk the new girl. YOU SHUT HER DONE VERY LADY LIKE. I like the way you support your husband and care for your family. Baby Aden is such a sweetheart. Yourself and Kandi represent black women well. Hope mama Joyce forgive you as I know in your heart you meant well
Everyone knows you don't invite a stripper to perform in front of one's mother. Your mother wasn't there. Why did you think it was o.k. for Candy's mother to witness that atrocity? Everyone knows that disrespectful.
For someone who is so religious and mom being a preacher, you talk about sex and ass a lot. It was so inappropriate to talk about your "bah dunk a dunk" with the contractor. How would your husband feel about that?
NeNe did not have to egg mama Joyce on. She was already furious before she saw NeNe. However, I don't think her anger was directed at the wrong person. Kandi was not the one at fault. The guilty party here was Ms. Phaedra.
By the way, mama Joyce had every right to be at her daughter's 35th birthday party. No one knew is was going to turn into a porn show. That was again Ms. Phaedra's surprise. So Phaedra, did your mother watch that episode? What did she think?
Mrs. Parks im just wondering why u can't forgive NeNe or Cythnia for talking about you but yet you love Kim and she's the one who had the most to say about you your husband and your unborn child last season... Please look back last season because you befriended the wrong person
Phaedra...Everybody knows your the smartest lady on housewives!!! I am a white woman rasied by parents from GA and AL from the 50"s, but what they dont know is that I love your witty southern ways that no one i know makes since but all you have to say is every body knows and you have won me over. You are one smart southern cookie and this white ole lady loves you to death! Everbody knows that Bambi loves her some Phaedra!!! You are wonderful and I love you!!
you are crazy girl - love you. i love it when you, kandi, sheree, and kim get together - too funny. that weird model has to go - so strange and nene is just into herself i guess that is why the model and her get along that model just loves nene (is she really a model) she is not all that.
Love ya girl! "Work hard, Play hard" should be ur mantra:) At first, the "southern bell snobbish" attitude was reflected early on. However, as the season unfolds, you are "fierce"! Keep doing what u do, cuz u r on fire!
I never really comment on these blog things..I just mostly watch and listen, but I had to come to say ..I think you are a hoot! Some might say you are a little snobby since you require the finer things in life but I say go get em girl! You have such a cute personality and sense of humor. I am so glad that they added you to this mix of women. If I didn't have a break from self absorbed NENE ..I probably wouldn't watch at all. You and the rest of the girls outside of NENE make a great cast and are having a good time with the show..which is what it should be. You have come along and taken some tension out of what was a soon to be gone "Houswives of Atlanta"! P.S. Your son is the most precious baby!
Phaedra, Phaedra, Phaedra. What were you thinking? I know you saw Ms. Joyce sitting there (she was sitting right next to Kandi). The stripper was cool, but it went to far. You should not be apologizing to Kandi, but to Ms. Joyce. Now to Kim's baby shower. Um, why did you bring up the Upscale interview Peter did? There is a time and place for everything, and that was not the place for it. You sit and talk about Peter (that you want a clean man with no babies), Um, your husband was in prison for 6 years. For the record, your husband did not stick up for you. If that was the case, he would've stepped to Peter first without you saying anything. But you guys thought that Peter was going to back down...not! Why did you have to speak up for Sheree? Peter was not lying when he said, she wasn't cute. She's not! Phaedra, stop being messy. Mrs. Southern Belle...lol
People dont seem to understand..it isnt abt Nene stripping or how she used to be a stripper..its the fact that this was done at an upscale party..yes kandi likes sex..who doesnt??!! its natural!! BUT theres a time & place for everything..there were mothers and men around..i dont think most of them wanted to see that.. how abt if Kandi was gettn married, should Phaedra bring a stripper to her wedding simply bc she likes it??! cmon now..Nene was right to leave, u dont do those things there..they were all dressed up, maybe if it was just ladies & in a different setting, it would have been more appropiate.! :)
Miss High-Class Parks you are too funny. Loving you this season. Kandi liked the hung dancer and he earned his money so hey...whatever.
With a few more episodes like this one you could have your own show, corpses and all.
Phaedra, I loved your birthday gift to Kandi. Kandi loves talking about sex so I dont know what the big deal is. Nene acted if you committed a crime and ironically she was a stripper. I just dont understand, she used to be around stuff like that so why is she acting as if she is above that. Has she forgotten that she used to strip? Now she is acting like she is so rich and she used to be broke as hell. She used to dress cheap and she couldnt even afford to give to charity at Shere's event. She needs to get down off her high horse.
Ms. Joyce need to hang around people her own age and stop running behind Kandi trying to control Kandi's life and what she do. Look at the way she treated AJ. If Kandi was making a mistake let her, just be there if she does. By the way I do like Ms Joyce. Phaedra, keep doing your thing and ignora your haters.
Phaedra: last season, I hardly liked u a lot. this season however; u are my favorite housewife. U r looking exceptionally beautiful, u handle yourself very well and u have a beautiful family. That baby is a handsome little fella. All the best to u. Not really thinking the 'funeral' business is quite your thing! BUT I still wish u the best in all u do!
I love how you keep it real. Especially, the episode when you were walking your son down the street and you seen your new neighbors. I would have said the exact same thing. Please dont change, you are such a joy to watch!
You seem to really enjoy instigating. How classy is that? You claim to be a Southern Belle, but really... you just appear messy. Kim's baby shower was neither the time nor the place to address any issue you had with Peter. Just like you inserted your foot in your mouth when discussing how "clean" a husband of yours would have to be w.o having children prior to your marriage... Please stop. I am sure you are a decent enough person, but this behavior makes me view you as petty, childish, and meanspirited.