Cast Blog: #RHOA

On Donkology

Phaedra gives us a lesson in all things donklicious.

Throughout the season, I have done things that some people considered bizarre, over-the-top, and downright "ReDICKulous." Just as our beloved Oprah has her favorite things, so do I; one of them being my love of round, full buttocks that I fondly refer to as the "donkey booty." As a self-proclaimed Ph.D in donkology, I dedicate this rant to all things donklicious.



In my journey as a distinguished donkologist this season, some people have questioned whether or not I have unnatural desires for women while others have enjoyed my donkey booty rhetoric and noted that they have a donkey stretching their 2% lycra jeans to the point of no return. My reason for celebrating the voluminous bottom is neither sexual nor deviant. Since my early childhood, people have always commented on my more than ample bottom. From the overused, "Can we get some fries with that shake," to, "Oh My God Becky!" from Sir Mix Alot's big booty anthem Baby Got Back, I have heard it all. In middle school, I remember boys slyly attempting to pinch or touch my butt on a regular basis, because it was just “so big.” I was often embarrassed because most girls my age did not have such a curvaceous figure. At times, I often felt very self-conscious. As I began to research in a quest for knowledge to determine what was normal I stumbled upon the epidemic of body dysmorphic disorder. In my reading, I learned that the feelings I had about my body were very normal. The studies revealed that in the United States, over half of young girls are unhappy with their bodies. This number grows to almost 80% by the time girls reach seventeen. While as a woman and mother I now know that the teen body is possibly our best body. During my teen years I wasn't that wise or secure. Instead of enjoying those wonderfully carefree years when you can truly indulge in delicacies without much worry about unwanted pounds, bloating, and all the other additives that stir the pot as we gracefully age into adulthood, I was worried about having the perfect body as depicted by the media. The more I looked, the more I noted nothing on the runways or in magazines remotely looked like me. Unfortunately, everything stamped perfect and beautiful looked more like a stick figure than a Coke bottle. I knew I would never be able to conform to these unrealistic body types short of a buttock amputation.

However, when I looked around I noticed most of my friends did not fit this perfect prototype either. While some of us cared less, many of us fell prey to extreme measures: bulimia and eating disorders. Many people do not realize the disturbing truth that one out of every four women in college has an eating disorder. While there is a fine line between a healthy weight and what some quickly label as "fat" women, we make it harder on each other by being each other's worst critics. Amongst women, criticism is more common than compliments. Throughout society, women have become obsessed with everything that is truly not normal; being rail thin, having stomachs as flat as a washboard, and hair longer and thicker than a horse’s tail. Everyone seems to want exactly what they cannot have. If we all looked the same, we would be fembots rather than women. Hence my celebration of the donkey booty is an ode to every woman who ever thought something about her body was imperfect. Being different can be beautiful. I love every woman who proudly embraces her curves and realizes six packs are for colas, not abdominal muscles. There is something to be said for being secure with who you are and celebrating what God gave you. None of us will ever be the prettiest, smartest, or thinnest at every moment in our lives but we can all be confident in our own space and body. Everybody knows only a dog wants a bone! So when I say, “Let me see your donkey,” I am really saying, “You go, girl, rock it! You're beautiful!"

In closing, I want to personally thank everyone who tuned in this season with an open mind and gave us the opportunity to share our lives with you. To my fellow Housewives, none of us are perfect, but we are all courageous in allowing the world to witness our personal triumphs and most vulnerable moments. God speed until next season!

Love,
Phaedra

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Kenya: This Was My Season of Vindication

Kenya Moore opens up about her journey this season and gives an update on her pilot.

Life Twirls On
I love this title because it’s a testament to my life. This season has been my year of vindication. Thank God, because it was a long time coming. Some of my fans were so angry that I had been lied on for two years that they wanted blood. They and myself were angry and hurt that someone would physically attack me and never issue an apology for their actions, regardless of whether or not they felt justified. And who could forget the years of being called a whore a thousand different ways all in the name of Jesus?

Forgiveness
I’ve learned many lessons along the way and forgiveness is one. I have to admit I could not have done it on my own. I have my family to thank for that. I’m from Detroit and I was raised in survival mode from day one with a mother who vowed to “dog me for the rest of my life.” Therefore, I will always be a fighter. But my focus has shifted and I have too much to lose. I have realized I cannot make a person do the right thing, I cannot educate beyond one’s rudimentary limitations, and I cannot change anyone. However, what I can do is take responsibility for myself and sit back and let karma do the rest -- funny how that works.

My Sister’s Success
One of my favorite principles is you have to be as happy for another person’s success as you are for your own. I’m that girl who roots for all the girls to win. This isn’t me versus NeNe… One can’t deny that just six years ago no one knew who NeNe was and now she has had some acting success. I congratulate her as another woman who has worked my entire life in the entertainment industry and all of our accomplishments must be acknowledged and respected alike. There is room for us all -- not just one at a time. I refuse to pull someone down like a crab in a barrel; jealousy has never existed in my heart. With that said, it’s a lot easier to root for someone that is humble, gracious, and most of all thankful.

Life Twirls On!
“As an artist, I’m sensitive about my sh--” –Erykah Badu

LOL! I’m no different. I single handedly wrote, executive produced, financed, created, directed, and starred in my independent television pilot. Although the viewers only saw a glimpse of what it really takes to produce a TV show, it’s no joke. My name was on the line as well as my financial investment. But if I am going to gamble, I’d bet on me every time!

All the girls and I were in a good place but I still felt vulnerable. It’s torture to expose yourself in that way, to allow people to experience and criticize your work. But as you know, everything is not for everybody. With that said, it is a comedy and I did what I set out to do and that was make people laugh and entertain them. They all seemed to really enjoy it, and I especially appreciated Kandi, Demetria, and Claudia’s enthusiasm and love they showed me during the screening.

As a producer, it’s most fulfilling is to be able to employ others and give opportunities to talented people who may not otherwise be afforded them. Over 50 people worked on this production, and I want to thank my cast and crew for their priceless contributions and my Co-Executive Producer, Brandon DeShazer, for always coming through for me. There was so much excitement on social media as #LifeTwirlsOn was trending, creating a demand to see the entire show! The viewers have spoken and we will be airing the pilot very soon! Stay tuned for an official announcement.

To Team Twirl:
I see you, I hear you, and I thank you for fighting my battles for me. A lot of people have followers, but I truly have loyal fans. You have my back and I couldn’t do this without you. There was so much new positivity for me this season that it is unchartered territory for me. Don’t worry, I’m still that fiery, funny, shady, crazy Kenya that will read you for filth while twirling on my 5” heels you all have come to love or hate. From Celebrity Apprentice to Millionaire Matchmaker and talk shows like Wendy Williams, you continue to show up and make my shows some of the highest rated ever. Love me or hate me, I appreciate the fact that you can’t stop watching me! I love and appreciate you all.

Now Twirl!
Kenya

Life Twirls On premiering in May go to facebook.com/thekenyamoore and like me to get access to a special preview!

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