Phaedra Parks

Phaedra explains why Willie was the only choice to be her mentor in the funeral business.

on Nov 15, 20110

During this week’s episode my quest to enter into the funeral business is highlighted during a visit with my friend, the legendary Willie Watkins.

Willie and I met almost ten years ago during a fundraising event held by my mentor, the late attorney Charles Mathis. Charles was not only known as one of the best litigators in the South, but he was also known for having the most elaborate events in Atlanta. When I entered the practice of law over twelve years ago during the swearing in ceremony, the judge stressed the importance of having a legal mentor and a sounding board.  As I stood before him I recall him saying in a stern voice, “A mentor should be a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction." As I left the courthouse that day, I pondered on who would be willing to take on such a task.  I knew I needed a mentor who would understand my vision and encourage me to pursue my goals. Most people who know me know I have always had lofty dreams and what some might consider an eccentric personality. Much like myself, Charles brought his great work ethic and an even bigger heart from his small town to the big city of Atlanta. He loved to help people, entertain, and most of all, win cases.

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Pastor J
Pastor J

Phadrea thank you for remembering C.A.M. jr. I miss him so, a true friend and legal genius.

Blessings, PBJ

Ms. Nichole a.k.a  Ms. Silver
Ms. Nichole a.k.a Ms. Silver

Mrs. Parks you keep being who you are hunny,my daughter and I just adore and love you!! You are such a postive black role model for our girls you show how a black woman is suppose to be, not a jump off, gold digger, bowing down to a man you show us how to be stand tall beside your man. Keep on being you classy, beauitful (love the hair, make up and style of dress) you aspire my daughter she looks up to you love ya girl!

DCPlaya10
DCPlaya10

Phaedra - You may be many things: acid tongued, self promotor, disingenuous, self delusional...but the ONE thing you are NOT...is a Southern Belle...and the fact that you believe it is a monumental joke...on you.

MalikaNATL
MalikaNATL

Phaedra I think that you should Not hang with Sheree its obvious that she is so messy/jealous of NeNe. Now its so that obvious that your as Messy and Sheree is. You both always sitting around making NeNe the topic of yall conversation as though you both dont have any business of your own. Now you claim to be classy buy now im beginning to see a different side of you. I think its all because of you hanging with that Jealous Sheree. Also when you so called appoligized to Kandi and brought her a cake duh you should have sent that cake to her mom. She is the one that you upset and almost broke-up a mother/daughter relationship. I think you still owe her an appoligy since your so classy and christian (ha). By you suppose to be a classy woman you should have known that was not the appropiate place for a stripper to be exposing himself. You should have had it in a private room an ask all those that want to attend can but if not its well understand. Now if you gona claim to be Classy and a southern bell then theirs a certain standard you must uphold. Not being seen with messy women(Sheree) or always the author of confusion,speaking evil of someone rather than going to them like you did with Kim about her being a nurse. Bottom line Practice what U Preach!

kadence
kadence

hmmm!!! hmmmm!! you are funny!!!

Lena Tee
Lena Tee

Let your haters, be your motivators.

sharonl
sharonl

phaedra, You are my favorite, the show it would not be the same without you. Even though NeNe make think other wise.I really admire you. I to am an attorney I just finish Law School and passed the bar . But I cannot find a job and I am so fustrated. Is there any advice you can give me on how to get my career started? Thank you in advance

HSWFAN
HSWFAN

I was very touched by you and Sheree, sitting in your office talking about child support. I sympathize with Sheree, I have been in a similiar position, you hope their dad will step up, because it is the right thing to do. But I agree with you, she needs to put her kids first, and that means doing the right thing, no matter how hard it is....glad she has you for support.

marmarvelous
marmarvelous

Phaedra, I owe you an apology. I totally misjudged you last season. You have thoroughly captivated me this season. You are funny and insightful; your astute comments are always right on time! Plus, you are a businesswoman. An educated businesswoman. You get your money!!!

Dana M.
Dana M.

Phadera, your son is adorable. You seem to be the only one with your ish together.

Patty Jones
Patty Jones

Phaedra, You are gorgeous, smart and Funny!!!!!!!!!!!!

Patty from up North

Alexandra1095
Alexandra1095

Phaedra, I think the stripper thing was way too much. He was actually pleasuring himself? That is not southern belle's behavior! That is just gross.

Rechelle Carey
Rechelle Carey

Phaedra, I just Love you and your status and the way you carry yourself. Your abilility to hold your own is so me!. Your Husband is holding well and I am impressed because, 26 years ago, I did 3 years in prison but i have managed to hold it together. I have something that you and your husband might be interested in and my dream was to become a Lawyer of Defense. However, because of my conviction I cannot take the bar. I am a criminial Justice Major with 30 credit hours remaining. I would love for you and your husband to take a look at my proposal for the youth and those incarcerated. Much Love To You A True Motivator for Me.......

Cynical Cynthia
Cynical Cynthia

Jesus take the wheel. How does a woman with a prayer cloth and holy oil in her purse know a nasty ol' stripper like that sinful fellow you brought to a swanky event? I guess money is money and the person matters not when they're paying you to represent them in the entertainment world. Just seems like a woman with so many alleged morals and Southern Belle class would know better.

ms nekesha
ms nekesha

i love phaedra she my favorite she so down to earth an the best sense of humor eva!! an she dress her ass off go girl u a bad b***h!!!! great choice apollo!

msbaketball47
msbaketball47

I like you better this yr.Im glad you are in your own world!But you kill me with the quotes..But why is your husband so angry..mainly when you was feeding the baby i got mad...And way you and khani need to stay away from the dramas

mrs. rich
mrs. rich

Phadra you are not a true southern belle. A true Southern bell would never have to say she is a lady her character will express that. I see you as a money hungry lawyer, haven't got the money that you claim and trying t make a name for yourself. I do applaud you in you success in completing your law degree but put it to work,maybe this show will assist you in this. A lady of Southern statues who say she got it going on would not have married and x-con. I know you did it for the look you are not fooling me,materialist you are and a rich lady would never have married Appollo.truth. So you continue to full the public ;I know what I know and you got a lot of work to do of your image. Watch NeNe ,Cynthia and Kandi and pay attention. Maybe you will learn something. and be careful with sharae look a little manly to me with a wig on.

Jerri M.
Jerri M.

Phaedra! I LOVE you! I am a Southern woman, and that fact that you are proud of that and try to emulate that I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Work it out girl!

ricepudding
ricepudding

Phaedra, you are very funny love you on the show as well as NeNe. you two make it worth watching. LOL

just me
just me

please show more of phaedra and her fine husband with their baby, more of cynthia with her husband and daughter and more of nene with family. i guess we all have our favorites.....those are mine.

Robert West
Robert West

One more thing I just love Ms Khandi and Sheree.. I remember Khandi from Excape and she is still doing her thang.. Smooches to you ladies... Phaedra, Khandi and Sheree.. Tell Nene to kick rocks..

Robert West
Robert West

Ms Phaedra you BRING IT! every episode. You are FABULOUS.. That HATER Nene leaks is so jealous of you she can hardly breath.lol You are a fierce Diva, Business woman, Mom and Wife. Keep doing your thang Ms. Lady!!

Viewer (psy/analyst)
Viewer (psy/analyst)

A southern woman at heart, beautiful and smart. Phaedra isn't just a beautiful black woman. She is a wife, who allows her man to be a man, a mother who loves her child, and a buisness woman who is not afraid to exploir her options. Most of all...although Phaedra is opinionated she takes time to choose her words.

It takes inner strength and intellegence to not react emotionally when someone negatively attacts your character and confidence to know that negative opinions don't matter.

Phaedra is a refreshing addion to the Atlanta housewives. She addresses each situation stategically....It is nice to see a Black woman who is not caught up in all the reality TV drama...

MichelleNYC
MichelleNYC

Phadra, you are great. The things you say are hysterical. Your man Apollo is a great guy and had every right to defend you as he did mith mean Peter.

Tracey Harris
Tracey Harris

Phaedra,

I think you should not have addressed Peter's ignorant comments at Kims baby shower, it was not the time, nor the place. Your husband was put in a position to defend you, don't put him in that position again. I think you are funny, and I believe you married a genuine man. Keep you and your husbands business to yourself. You and Apollo could have addressed Peter at a different time and place. It was inappropriate. You should apologize.

rocket girl
rocket girl

i think apollo is acting as a angry father and u the complete opposite in order to pitch the stage for your own spin off. but u dont have that much charisma or tv charm to pull it off on your own.

Vee Lu
Vee Lu

Phaedra, I think that you instigated that brawl between Peter and your husband. I'm glad that Apollo defended your honor but if he had a problem with Peter then HE should have addressed it instead of you. If you didn't like what Peter said about you, I think the "southern belle" with all the manners and etiquette knew that wasn't the place to address those issues.

heatherphipps
heatherphipps

Phaedra, I love you. If I was there at the table I would have said something, too. It would be very hard for anyone to face Papa Smurf after whaht he said about the housewives. Team Phaedra and Apollo. You are my favorite!!!!!!!!!!!!

Youaregreat
Youaregreat

I am very pleased with the way Apollo stood up to Peter, Peter had to be put in his place by a real man and your Husband showed him what a real man looked liked...I felt that Apollo was not only offended by the way he spoke to you, but by the way this man ( if you can call him a man) had made nasty comments about all of the women at the table except Kandi, if Kandi was not one of the richest women on the program I am sure he would have found something negative too report about her too. ( he may have to( borrow) money from Kandi someday) I dont have respect for men that have to go in their wives pockets either...Kudos to you and Apollo

rhondak
rhondak

for some reason a lot of people aren't able to see through your BS, but trust when i say that there are a lot of us who do. i didn't buy your story last season when you lied about not knowing your due date. i knew then you were one of those women who are about status. we all know that you were pregnant before you were married. and if so, who CARES? the problem is that you represent so many women who front about what their lives really are. you instigated that tiff at the baby shower which shows the lack of class you have. that was not the time nor the place, knowing that your husband had a problem with it. and speaking of your husband...smh. i know a few well educated Ivy league women like yourself who marry beneath their level. im not speaking on salary, im speaking of marrying a former thug convict. doing so just to say that you have a husband. it's ridiculous and BEST believe Apollo is and will grow tired of your and your antics because it's already starting to show in his behavior. he is not equipped with the self confidence that is needed to keep up with women like yourself. ive seen it too many times. you and Kim are just tacky. and the prayer cloth..please..i wish that some of you weren't on tv contributing to this bad stereotype and stigma placed over Black women..you and Sheree that is..

A Viewer
A Viewer

I like you and you're work ethic. You are a classy lady, hard working and admirable. I also think that sometimes you wear that "Southern Belle" too tightly it's almost like you look down on people. But I still like your personality. Also, I really don't think you gave Nene a chance. Regardless of what others may say, it seems like you didn't take the notion to see for yourself and going with whatever they say. Just my observation.

Mum
Mum

I could respect you if you had actually read the article in which you are criticizing Peter and as an attorney I would expect you to understand what hearsay actually is, someone saying something may or may not be true. I thought attorney's were trained to deal with the FACTS. I, as a Black American Princess representing a 4th generation of HBCU educated college graduates wants you to know that you are no southern belle, you lack true southern grace and carry yourself in a most indignant way, as well as socializing with "those" people. You wear too much makeup, and you do not have a classic wardrobe style befitting a professional or a southern belle.

Mz Southern Belle
Mz Southern Belle

Phaedra, I enjoy your witty southern charm. There is nothing wrong with you going into the funeral home business as well as holding it down being an attorney. I saw an episode where Kim questioned you being in ther funeral busniess. At least you are not like the monkey wearing a blonde wig who does not have one job! Unless you count being on the show or using that expensive Vee jay jay! Excuse me, if I missed an episode where she went to anyone's hospital and worked as a nurse. The only work I've seen was her worrying the hell out of Sweetie, working poor Kandi's nerves trying to make her sound presentable on "Tardy for the Party and taking over Dereck J's skills to make her own wig line? Multi-talented, sister girl, go on and do your thing.

QUEENxPEACHES
QUEENxPEACHES

I really love you this season Phae, Apollo too. I think you are classy and definitely the ultimate Southern Belle. I hope you don't fall into it with any of the other ladies this season, I hate seeing you stoop down to their level and making unnecessary rude comments behind their backs. Everyone see's their snarky catty-ness and your biggest fans love you for not being that and still getting your point across intelligently. Cynthia's husband definitely started the drama at the baby shower and Apollo of coarse stood up for his woman how he should. I didn't really care for you last season, but your slowly becoming my favorite (I don't know what it is about Kim, lol) Best wishes doll.

ac010505
ac010505

For someone who is so smart, you did a very dumb thing. Why? Because someone gave their opinion of you, and you didn't like it--even though you acting as they described you. YOU ruined Kim's shower. (Not that I mind that.) You instigated a confrontation with a man who you knew little to nothing about, for the purpose of...what? What did you expect hot-headed and clueless Apollo to do, but walk right into your trap, when he should have been putting you in check? Did you get what you wanted? I don't think so. Frankly, I think you disrespected Kim and Kroy, Peter and Cynthia, but most of all Apollo. He had just told you that he didn't like the spotlight. And, what do you do? You set him up. You don't know Peter. Peter could have had a weapon or he could have knocked the hell out of Apollo, and Apollo could have easily went to jail. One thing for sure, he was definitely in the spotlight. I know you say it, but do you really have Apollo's back or just your own back??

Strong Woman
Strong Woman

Phaedra, just want to tell you I think your a great person and your bless to have a great education and job and family. But when you and your husband was at the table feeding your baby the feeling came over like I been down this road before people can change but we cant change people if Its a dog sooner or later it will bark take it from me protect everything you work hard for your money your name your house your job because love dont hurt and sometime us women need to let go things that we love the most in order to live your very pretty and you have a whole life ahead of you

ChrystalLace
ChrystalLace

I want to thank you for representing strong, beautiful, educated and independent thinking women. God bless you and your family.

Number One Fan
Number One Fan

You are sooooooo funny. Love you on the show!!! Stay away from Nene. She will bring you down.

Viewer
Viewer

You are the funniest housewife... Your comments about Peter had me laughing out loud. I was just about to give up on the show b/c it is being over run by the Big Bully NeNe. Thank goodness, you, Sheree and Kim have broken away. Don't let Candy get sucked in to NeNe crap.

Viewer
Viewer

I adore you Phaedra. Peter and Cythnia came to that shower to start crap, they probably were sent by the biggest hatter in Atlanta NeNe. Your man was great. Keep being the Southern Bell we love to watch....You let your man be a man...

anneaw
anneaw

Good to see you and your husband taking the high road. Cynthia's husband (as well as NeNe her best friend) are loud mouth, classless, trouble makers. Wow, is your little one sooooo cute! Not surprised though because of his good looking parents.

ReneeVA13
ReneeVA13

Hey Phaedra- Once a convict, always a convict! A zebra doesn't change his stripes, neither does a convict. Find it hard to believe you don't know what "your" husband does for a living! Please! Girlfriend you aren't fooling anyone. You are a lawyer, guarantee it you know what "your" husband does for a living. Sounds kinda shady to me.

LadyTee132
LadyTee132

I only watch occassionally, but Phaedra is certainly one of the biggest hipporcritsI've ever seen. She is not passionate for Law, not passionate about Caring for those who Mourn, Not passionate about Friendship, and not passionate about "Holy" Matrimony. The Love of Money is the Root of all evil and this is her motive for everything. There is nothing wrong with motive, but its the LOVE of Money which has become her god. I have to give you credit for keeping your other idol god looking good, YOU!

Vivian young anderson
Vivian young anderson

phaedra love you and your family,keep your husbands back to the fulest and know that the others are mad because there husbands and or what ever are not hafe the man that your husband is. stay keeping it real not scripted for the camras and like others and let your husband know that not all people are ignorent and too keep his head held high much love

Vivian young anderson
Vivian young anderson

Phaedra you and your family are a breath of freash air the real keep your husdands back and tell the haters to f off there just mad because none of there men are hafe the man that you husband is tell him to keep his head up and real people have his back understand and know the truth,much love and respect.

Lady LaLa
Lady LaLa

Hello Phaedra,

I think you are a wonderful mother, wife, friend...just a great lady. Keep being you. You are my favorite househouse. You are a class act and there is nothing better than classy lady that loves the Lord.

Precysely
Precysely

Phaedra, I don't know where you were when your husband STARTED that crap with Peter, but he wasn't defending you- he was showing the fans how it is possible that he is an ex-con. You and Sheree are so ghetto, you two should be best friends. How are you going to claim to be classy and "the ultimate Southern Belle" when all you do is instigate and keep mess going?

CathleenSB
CathleenSB

you are the best of all housewives! I do mean all of em too..just a great personality and fun to be around! You are the real thing! hands down my favorite!!!!!! xxoo