Cast Blog: #RHOA

When Phaedra Met Jane Fonda

Has Kenya Found Love?

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Claudia: I Am Not Asking for Sympathy

When Phaedra Met Jane Fonda

Phaedra explains how her time vacationing with Jane Fonda inspired her to plan the Africa trip.

Happy New Year! Hopefully your holidays were all that you hoped for, and 2012 has found you with a renewed sense of purpose. This is the time of year for reflection and resolutions. The New Year spirit fosters anticipation of a tomorrow that is better than yesterday. The year 2012 is significant, as the number 12 represents order. Historically, the number twelve has great significance; most noteworthy, Jesus appeared in public and uttered his first recorded words at the age of twelve; there were twelve sons of Israel; twelve apostles; twelve imams in the Islamic religion; and twelve astrological signs of the zodiac. 

Similar to the number 12, in the past three episodes, we are inviting order into various aspects of our lives. Sheree and Kim give great attention to their physical beings –- by keeping their bodies in perfect tune. Kim and Kroy strive to bring order to their blended family. As they settle in to their new home, they address and set the tone of order by clearly communicating their expectations to their daughters. NeNe attempts to bring order to the relationship between her and her business partner. Cynthia and Peter open their hearts up to bringing order in their marriage as they receive counseling from Pastor Pollard and patiently work on communicating effectively. Lastly, Apollo and I explore order as it relates to our funeral home venture and our friendship with Cynthia and Peter. 

Often change requires an initial visit to an uncomfortable place both literally and figuratively. In order to effect change it may be necessary to "unlearn" some things and get into a place which forces you to think differently and redirect your perspective. In such a space the environment is ripe for mental and spiritual evolution. As I began planning our upcoming voyage to Africa, I reflected on a perspective changing vacation in 2009, which not only renewed my spirit but also enlightened my purpose. During that summer I had the distinct pleasure of vacationing with Jane Fonda in South America, touring the picturesque Galapagos Islands. This trip proved to be a pivotal turning point in my life. I soaked up the exquisite wisdom dripping from each conversation. Ms. Jane's courageous spirit and feisty personality gave me insight and direction. Even in the moments of silence, my spirit was afforded bountiful guidance and wisdom. Everybody knows it is not what you say but what you do that sets the best example for others. Listening to Ms. Jane speak about her experiences and her beautiful African American daughter and meeting her birth children gave me hope that anything is possible if you dare to dream and are willing to work hard.

The reflection of my time with Ms. Jane in 2009 propelled me to create a life changing experience for myself and the ladies by arranging an adventure to Africa. I want to pour into others that which has been poured into me – purposeful perspective, while having an amazing exploration. I knew it was imperative for me and the ladies to be mature enough to look beyond any unresolved issues to include everyone on this voyage to Africa. With the majority of us being descendants of Africa, as African American women we should lean on the wisdom of Jane Fonda who eloquently noted, "We are the pioneers of this generation, the ones who need to compose together a template for how to maximize the potential of this amazing gift of time, so as to become whole, fully realized people over the longer life arc." I know this trip to Africa will inspire a shift in perspectives while opening our minds and hearts to richer possibilities. During this New Year, I pray that you find your physical, spiritual, and mental beings in a state of order, and that your steps are ordered by God. 

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Claudia Jordan dishes on her relationship with Kordell Stewart.

Bravotv.com: Were you excited for the road trip? Did you end up having to drive the whole time?
Claudia Jordan: First things first, I'd like to thank all the viewers and fans of #RHOA for all of their support of the show and for making us the success that we are. It is totally appreciated and we recognize the enthusiasm and support for the show, and we couldn't be happier. So kudos to you guys that support us and our antics!

OK now lets get into it... I have to say I love a road trip, I really do. But when Cynthia invited me, as much as I wanted to go, I was also very nervous about getting back to Atlanta on time for my radio show. So I went hoping that if I was going to pull an all nighter, not get any sleep, and go straight to work, then dammit, it better be fun. And boy was it! From the moment I linked up with the beauties, it was non-stop laughs! I felt like a college kid again hitting the road with the ladies.

I will say this though -- I thought we would never get there. I mean a 3 hour road trip ended up being closer to 5 hours! First we could not miss a Kenya Moore feeding, because anyone that is friends with her knows that Twirl turns into tornado if she does not get her food, LOL! But I can't be mad, because the Chick-fil-A was pretty good!

And I didn't mind driving the entire time. Anyone that knows me knows I get car sick when I am not driving or I will be out cold sleeping. If you want to put me to sleep, take me on a drive. Since I was a baby (and I would cry) my mother would put me in the car and go for a drive, and I would be knocked out! So for me driving was a must!

When we got to the hotel, time was of the essence. Cynthia told me she brought a few items just in case I didn't have something, but luckily I keep a cute, sexy little black dress on deck! So I ended up wearing something I brought, but I thought that was sweet of Cynthia to care and to pack a few extra pieces in case I didn't have something I loved. Plus keep in mind this happened back when I was still getting settled into my new digs, and I think my moving truck was still missing in action at this point in time. I don't know if you guys know this, but even after my things arrived from New York City, so many things were missing/stolen from my belongings. I still need to give an earful to that ratchet moving company for what they did to me! Anyway...

We had some playful fun in the room, and I had to give Kenya a spanking because she was being a bad girl. But the thing about Kenya I really like is that she can take a joke (and a slap to the ass)! She teases me, I tease her -- no one gets their feelings hurt about it! How many of your friends can you slam on the bed and slap their booty and they don't feel some type of way about it? That's what I'm talking about! The fun girls. Women who are about their business but don't take themselves way too seriously. That's why every single scene you see with Kenya, Cynthia, Demetria, and me is consistently easy, breezy, and fun! Life is short; we should all be laughing and smiling as much as we possibly can! Don't you think?

OK so Cynthia left us (and I do not blame her, she needed to go support her man on this important evening). Kenya and I finally got to Sports One and it was packed! I was very happy to see it was a success! One of the first people I see is Kordell Stewart, which was funny to me, but I wasn't surprised, because I have that kind of random life where I will run into people in the most unexpected places. Once I was in the jungle in Puerto Rico and I ran into someone I knew! I know a lot of people and I'm very socially active.

It was good to see Kordell, because he's always been a very nice and classy guy in my presence. I met him around 1998 in Los Angeles at a First Sunday party that I think his teammate Jerome Bettis was hosting. It's no secret I'm a huge football fan (Go Patriots!), and I actually have worked on a couple of sports shows. One was Fox Sports on a show called 5-4-3-2-1, and I met tons of entertainers and athletes doing that show. Then I did another sports show with John Salley, Hugh Douglas, and Guy Torry called Ballers where we interviewed different sports stars every week and took plenty of photos with them. I also did a show pilot called The Fantasy Show, which was a fantasy football show for ESPN.

My point in mentioning all of this is not to brag about my resume, but to explain that I am a woman into sports -- especially football. Kordell was a black quarterback early on when it was a very tough position to get, because some idiots really thought that African Americans weren't "smart enough" to QB a team. My sports folks will know this was a ridiculous theory that some tried to really perpetuate. With that said, I have the utmost respect for Kordell pushing right past that stereotype and reaching the heights he did as a great quarterback for the Pittsburgh Steelers. So yes, I respect him as an athlete. When we met, I of course knew who he was. We exchanged info, chatted a few times, and became platonic friends. He never even really hit on me and was a complete gentleman. I'd see him here and there at events, and that was it. I saw him at a radio show, a party, etc. We just always had a mutual respect for one another. Nothing more, nothing less.

So when folks on social media were getting angry for "going after" another woman's ex, I had to laugh! NEWSFLASH: We are all someone's ex! And it's not like I was chopping it up with a married man or anything tacky like that. Kordell is a friend, and that is that. Besides, if you have been watching how I move on this show, I have tried to play nice with all the ladies on this show until they have shunned or disrespected me. So being new to this group, I'm not going to intentionally do anything to create more animosity than there already is. Real talk. I need my days to be less stressful, not more! Taking a selfie is not sexual activity or inappropriate behavior. Be clear -- my mother did a great job of teaching me the difference between right and wrong. But once again, the double standards of right and wrong in this group never cease to amaze me! Selfie versus side piecing? Umm, I'll take a million selfies before I go out like that!

Bravotv.com: Did you feel that Kordell was flirting with you? Would you consider dating him?

CJ: Hmm was Kordell flirting? I mean, barely. At the table when Kenya asked him if he was dating, he said straight up he was seeing someone and I think he was just having a little fun with me like I was with him. It was cute and harmless, and we were having drinks (I know, for me shocking, right? LOL!) and enjoying the successful grand opening of Sports One -- that's really all it was. I am happy to report Kordell has never called my phone late night breathing hard and has been a complete gentleman around me when I have run into him. He has chosen to not speak negatively of his ex in my presence despite the awful allegations that have been made about him, and for that he has my respect. But enough about that... When can we go back to Sports One, Cynthia and Kenya? Let's bring Demetria next time and have Road Trip No. 2!

Thank you for all the kind words on my social media and for all the new followers and folks riding with me on this crazy journey! I promise to always keep it real with you guys and share some real life experiences that I hope you can relate to. Please check out my website to get to know me a little more (www.TheRealClaudiaJordan.com), follow me on Instagram and Twitter @ClaudiaJordan, and please tune in every morning to the Rickey Smiley Morning Show. You can listen on line at www.RickeySmileyMorningShow.com.

 
Read more about: