The BAM! Squad

Episode 4: Bravotv.com's Assistant Editor counts down the top three moments.

Nov 27, 20110

No. 3 - Not So Joyful Joyce

No matter what age you are, there's no bigger buzzkill than being reprimanded by your mother. Yes, even if you're 35. I really felt Kandi's pain when Mama Joyce let her thoughts be known about Mr. Ridickulous' performance. In front of all the guests. At any rate, maybe it made Kandi feel like she was a little girl again.

The best part however was how the camera kept panning to Phaedra as she looked on gultily as the lady behind the Ridickulous appearance. Oops!

35 comments
toottoot
toottoot

@Arlesha, yes we are all grown, which means we can decide what we do or don't want to see. I can't for the life me understand why you would want to see a man give himself head. That is beyond disgusting, I would have thrown up. To each his own, but this was no ordinary stripper-it was in COMPLETE poor taste.

wizz kidd
wizz kidd

I love da show and please believe it nene loves Peter they r going to b together and Cynthia will c da real nene then...CYNTHIA NENE IS NOT UR FRIEND SWEETIE ..AND ALSO KHANDI'S MOTHER SHOULDVE JUST LEFT INSTEAD OF MAKN IT OUT A BIG SITUATION GO HOME LET UR DAUGHTER ENJOY HER BDAY AND IN ORDER FOR PHAEDRA TO BRING DAT SHE KNOWS WAT HER FRIEND LIKES ..

pualani k.
pualani k.

In response to momtotwo beauti... on December 2, 2011:

You let your CHILDREN watch this franchise? Why why why would you do that? Instead of scolding reality tv personalities, I suggest you find another outlet to entertain your young children.

Kfenwick
Kfenwick

RHOA just lost forever a viewer or two. I thought the stripper was over the top and EXTREMELY distasteful. I have always heard about preacher's children, but now I truly see that they are the "freaks of the world"...Thanks, Phaedra for being a role model to so many young women, who unfortunately watch this show. However, my friends and I, will never watch again...BRAVO!!!

Thickcop
Thickcop

I was lost for words!!!!!!!!!! This show has hit an all time Low for sure!!!!!!

Aureliagurl
Aureliagurl

I think Phaedra, the lady and southern belle was just plain tacky! For one thing, if I am having a party and invited friends and family - it seems rude that a person would high jack MY party by bringing entertainment that I DID NOT request. Secondly, I don't think Phaedra she would have subjected her mother (the good Rev) with the sight of Redickulous putting his privates parts in someone's drink. Nothing against strippers but, it is common sense to never assume you should spring this form of entertainment on others - as we saw it did not work.

Viewer1992
Viewer1992

If Phaedra really wanted to give Kandi a "stripper" for her b-day, she shouldn't have done it in a sophisticated setting where people, like Mama Joyce, would be offended by it. If it was in a hotel room, or Kandi's house where it was just her and a few friends, that would be one thing... and not only that, there were also STRAIGHT men at the party too (like Peter), not just women and gay guys. I'm pretty sure they didn't care for the stripper, anyway.

Also, good job Bravo, for airing that. You've hit a huge low. First Tamara in the bath, and now this? Good job :/

momtotwo beautiful kids
momtotwo beautiful kids

I just want to say to Bravo that last weeks episode was awful. You let air NeNe say " he sucked on his own penis" with out warning people that if you have young children in the room to ask them to leave. In my opnion, this is a type of pornography and will NEVER watch ANY of the housewife shows. I have asked ALL of my mom friends to ban this show as well. Bravo, I thought you had more class than this!

Dawn R Forks
Dawn R Forks

I realize Kandi you are 35yrs old, but there is just somethings you don't do in front of your mom. Kandi it may have not been your fault about your friends surprise but when you seen it you should the respect to tell your mom to leave or to go into another room. No matter how old you are that is still your mom friends come and go, but your mom will always be your mom no matter what.

susanMary&Joseph
susanMary&Joseph

I'm posting to support Mama Joyce. I'm glad she walked out; It was horrible that she had a front and center seat for that inappropriate display. Bravo, you blew it just as much as ridickulous.

OHIO says OH WELL
OHIO says OH WELL

I totally agree with Phaedra... the gift should fit the recipient, and this gift did! Kandy is a GROWN woman (she was hosting her 35th birthday party), which means her mother is an EXTREMELY GROWN woman. I am sure she has seen strippers before, and if she did not like what she saw, she should have turned away or closed her eyes. I think she was totally wrong for getting upset with and blaming Kandy. It was a gift from someone else to her. she wasnt even aware that it was going to happen. She behaved very immature. it was all in fun. GET OVER IT!!

Cini
Cini

Pleeease print this comment because some people on here are missing the point so badly it's making my head hurt!! Redickulous is not just an ordinary stripper and this was no ordinary strip show, I have been to plenty of those. What some seem to not realize or to simplify is the fact that this man spun his gigantic appendage around for anyone to be subjected to fluid cast off, dipped that thing in Khandi's drink and the kicker, performed FALACIO on himself, why are some people acting like that is normal stripper behavior? I agree with the people who compare this to porn more than just a strip show. I totally am far from a prude, but for Phaedra to bring that type of circus act to a birthday party was so inappropriate..in other words TACKY. I don't know why people are blaming Nene for Mama Joyce's anger. Mama Joyce is a grown woman and as Khandi stated not a prude at all, but where does one draw the line? I guess this was the line for Mama Joyce. If you watch the show again, Nene did not even initiate leaving, Peter came over and asked her if she was ready to leave and she said yes. I guess some of you just hate on Nene so much that she is the blame for everything. I think for Nene and Cynthia to leave was the best thing to do, after all, this was not a girls night out this was a sophisticated birthday party in a mixed company crowd, Cynthia was there with her husband for goodness sakes, my husband would have pulled me the heck out of there too! Nene used to be a stripper this is true, but there are so many degrees to stripping from just suggestive covering to full nudity. I'm sure Nene did not do full nudity from the way she speaks of it. As far as Nene introducing Redickulous at a gay club and receiving a lap dance in the past, it seems like she was hired that night as either a hostess or MC, was paid good money and that was all in the spirit of the night. That is the proper time and place for such an act but that doesn't mean Nene enjoyed it even then, she likely did a lot of things in the past she didn't always enjoy, that's how she got "Very, very rich!

Louisiana Lady
Louisiana Lady

Classy Phaedra... Like her "Sip and See" this must have been a "Dip and Taste" Phaedra should have suggested he tone down his act for this event.

Louisiana Lady
Louisiana Lady

Phaedra & Kandi lost major points in this episode. I know Kandi's mom is comfortable and open to a lot of things....but Kandi should be able to understand her mother's feelings. This was totally disrespectful in all aspects. Twirling your p*nis around, dipping it in her drink, then licking himself. Come on BRAVO....this is too much! Kandi is beginning to get out of hand with the sex crap. If this is the route she's taking maybe she should leave BRAVO and go to HBO!

Princess Diva
Princess Diva

I think the stripper was not a good look. That should have been done in the privacy of her hotel room. Phaedra should be ashamed of herself, especially after Kandi told her that her mom would be in attendance. I understand how Ms. Joyce felt, if I saw a grown man put his pee pee in his mouth I would probaby be upset too. As far as NeNe is concerned I would have walked out too. Ater seeing this man stir Kandi's drink with his genitals I would have been done too. I threw up in my mouth after seeing that. I think Peter and Cynthia were just as appalled by what was happening so, I don't think she was being a puppet she came with her husband and who wants to stick around for something like that when your husband is by your side. I wonder if Phaedra would have presented that gift if Apollo attended the party? Hhhhmmm As far as Lawrence is concerned he looked like a darn power ranger...I understand his preference but, geez it looked like it was Halloween and he was wearing his Wonder Woman outfit. And what was up with Sheree turning her nose up and giving that I gotta boo boo face everytime NeNe said a word? (she wasn't even talking to Sheree) and you people call NeNe high schoolish I think Sheree has got her beat. Get over yourself already Sheree and act like the grown lady you claim to be. Can't wait to see what's going to happen next.....

Jusea
Jusea

On the After show the stripper said Nene knew him. And he said that in the past he had performed a LAP DANCE for her. Hmmmm.

PHARMACOLOGIST200
PHARMACOLOGIST200

Disturbing mental porn! Belongs on a porno channel so children will not accidentally see it when switching channels!!!!!!! What's wrong with you Bravo??

SoulSista73
SoulSista73

Like her Mom said in the clip...I'm cool with stripping, but NOT NO MESS LIKE THAT. That was NO strip show. He didn't even take his clothes off...that was a live porn show, Phaedra and Bravo should be ashamed!! I'm with Team Mama Joyce on this one!!

 Penelope
Penelope

This show has proven to me that none of these women have class. This show has more than likely ran its' course. Really, how stupid and class-less can an attorney be while protesting that she is the ulimate southern belle? I am embarrassed for all women.

Janeanne
Janeanne

Tasteful strippers are fun at parties but I have never seen one that was totally nude. How horrrible of Bravo to show this I thought I was watching a porn show.

Denise16
Denise16

This part of the show was wrong in so many ways, and first and foremost Kandi should be very upset with Phaedra for disrespecting her mother the way that she did. Miss Phaedra knew the details of his performance and that it included sex acts that should not have been a part of her birthday party. Because you know she would not have done such a thing to her mother. If I owned the place where the party took place Bravo, the stripper, and Miss Phaedra would be sued.

Sunflower Mommy
Sunflower Mommy

Phaedra is such a contradiction! Such a proper southern belle and so raunchy at the same time? It's a little weird, but I'm all for individuality of identity. If I was at that party I would have hid under the table.

georgiapeaches
georgiapeaches

Kandi has a live streamed sex talk show, she also sells sex toys. Now how can Mother Joyce have been so offended. Once the stripper came out of the box, mom had plenty of time to exit into another room. I think this is the perfect time for mother to realize she shouldn't attend all events that Kandi attends. Mother Joyce let Nene feed her about that stripper and made it known she was pissed. I think Mom went a little too far considering Kandi is an adult and this was Kandi's birthday celebration. Hopefully she gets the hint and say home like most of the other mothers. She won't have to voice her displeasure if she stay in her lane. I don't like strippers either but I wouldn't have made a scene for my daughter either because Nene was instigating it. I can't believe the stripper Nene acted like she didn't like it. Is Nene calling the kettle black. Don't forget how you made your money early in life Mrs. Hipocrite Leakes. What was grosser than her talking about sex with Greg......pew!

kri
kri

BWAHAHAHAHHAHAH--------(inhale)----BWHAHAHAHAHAHAHA------(inhale)-------BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA ....war stories.

nonesuch
nonesuch

I just want to know will the uncensored version appear on the DVD?!? ;-)

rhoms
rhoms

I agree with Laineylainey's comment, the stripper's performance was disgusting. Mother Joyce however, carried her complaint too far, nobody was forced to watch.

Nene, Cynthia and Peter need to get the heck off the show. Cynthia has told her sister everything and of course she is upset, what did Cynthia think her reaction would be? Why wasn't Peter upset with Cynthia after he watched all her comments about him? She's the one that has caused people to not like him, the BUM!

weezer7
weezer7

I agree with the mom. That was not the place or time for that type of performance. Yes, Kandi's Mom is a grown women but that was tasteless and classless. Now if that was a bachlorette party and you and your girls were around so be it. Not everyone likes to be shown outrages or outlandish things. Phaedra could have used a better time, rhyme and reason to show something that required a certain level of volgarity. To some, that was a piece of cake but have some level of respect for all your guest. Kandi obviously has a little freak in her but not all women or people do. Tolerance level is everything!

twinboyz
twinboyz

The stripper was inappropriate. Regardless if her mom has been around them, there is a time and place for all things. Phaedra is the blame, but Kandi allowed her to do it. She was made aware of the man's "ability". As for Cynthia, if she wouldn't tell her sister all her business, she wouldn't have an opinion. She need to keep her marriage between her and Peter. I love NeNe. She just tells it like it is. Regardless if she has stripped in the past, people grow up. If I were there, I, too, would have left.

Arlesha
Arlesha

The show was one of the most entertaining. I have been to parties and yes there have been strippers at the parties. It was entertaining. Nene and her puppet Cynthia ran out of there like a couple of 5 year olds. We are all grown here. There was free food, drinks and some adult entertainment. For all the kids out there don't watch and run like Nene. Also, Ms. Joyce was a hypocrite, either you don't mind strippers and dildos (like you said last season) or you hate strippers (like you said last night) pick one Ms. Joyce, really.

Arlesha
Arlesha

I thought the show was funny. I have been to parties and yes there have been strippers and I have never run like a little girl. It was all in fun. We are all grown; Nene and her puppet Cynthia ran out of there like a couple of 5 year olds. There was free food and drinks and a little fun entertainment, grow up ladies. And Ms. Joyce was the biggest hypocrite, either you are used to having strippers at parties (like she said last season) or not; pick one Ms. Joyce, really.

LaineyLainey
LaineyLainey

The Housewives have hit an all time low - I can't believe you guys aired that stripper's performance. I thought it couldn't get any raunchier than Tamara Barney in the bathtub. Tamara is in 2nd place now.