Cast Blog: #RHOA

What Ever Happened to Spark St. Jude?

Episode 18: Bravotv.com's Associate Editor counts down this week's top three moments.

No. 3 - Say What?

The "black baby" drama continued (and hopefully came to an end) this week when Kim confronted Cynthia about her comments in South Africa. It was a little awkward to watch until Cynthia admitted in her interview that she didn't actually remember what she had said. Oops! But they were going on and on about it for a good five minutes! It kind of made the whole thing anti-climactic yet hilarious. Perhaps there is value in 'Wives telling other 'Wives what they're saying behind their backs -- that way at least someone knows what you've been saying in case you've forgotten.

No. 2 - The Royal Wedding Dedication

If there's one thing Phaedra has really driven home this season, it's that she loves pomp and circumstance, whether it's at a funeral, a birthday, or her son's dedication ceremony. And nothing says pomp and circumstance quite like royalty, so Phaedra went ahead and booked a photo shoot fit for the royal family in honor of Ayden's dedication. And she certainly looked like the queen of Atlanta in that red, leopard-print dress. I only wish she had gone with one of those over-the-top headpieces she was trying on to really drive home the "black royalty meets Michelle Obama" look. (Side note: If Phaedra was a drag queen in another life as the stylist suggested, I want to travel back in time and meet her).

I do have to admit that Ayden was adorable in his little tux on the throne. Hopefully these pictures added that "touch of elegance" Phaedra was going for.

But most importantly, what happened to Spark St. Jude of the notorious pickle photo shoot?!

No. 1 - Wigs are Not Microwavable

The most valuable lesson we learned from this episode was by far Kim's harrowing tale of flaming wigs. Evidently one should never microwave a wig. Who knew?! Kim popped it in a plastic bag for a deep conditioning treatment, turned it on, and cooked herself a wig flambe. If only that moment had been captured on tape. Sigh. Perhaps that was why she hadn't used the oven at all, the incident of the burning wig had scarred her for life.

Next week Phaedra continues her funeral home education by meeting with a grieving family. Or so she thinks...

Claudia: Some People Have a Vendetta

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on the group therapy session.

Bravotv.com: Did you feel like progress was made at the therapy session?
Claudia Jordan: I do and I don't. The main people that needed it were not willing participants. One took off because she couldn't deal with hearing about how her actions affected the rest of the ladies. And the other that stayed, well… she received apology after apology without ever acknowledging any of her own wrong doing. That's not right at all. How is it that the woman on the receiving end of a physical attack has apologized to her assailant on several occasions, yet she has yet to show any remorse? That's downright insane to me! At the end of the day, there are lots of situations in this group where one can claim they were "provoked," and if the response/excuse every single time was physical violence, we'd all be in jail! And the sad thing is in this particular environment I felt that everyone else there was really ready to do the work and participate. So if ever there was a time to drop the ego and do the right thing and apologize simply for the purpose of starting the healing process for the group, then that was the time. Some people are just too stubborn and refuse to humble themselves. That happens when you are babied your entire life -- you feel like you can do no wrong. The rest of the ladies (including myself) however have all apologized and taken responsibility for contributing to the discord. But just pay attention to who never apologizes and who always does. I do not think that is because one "group" has been causing all the negativity in the group. But I do think that is because some have an agenda and a vendetta, while the other group is actually trying to make things cool and move on.


But on the flip side I will say that therapy was beneficial. In that one session we did get some good guidance from Dr. Jeff, who I would like to apologize to on behalf of the group for how he was mistreated. He came to help us and was insulted, disrespected, and his professionalism was questioned, which he did not deserve. So Dr. Jeff, I am sorry for how you were mistreated. The session did just highlight that some of us are mature and able to speak respectfully to one another, even if we have an issue with them, and some just cannot stand the sight and sound of someone we have decided not to like just because. All in all we did the best we could, and everyone who stayed did seem to really want to get along. And things were definitely better at work after the session. We were cordial and friendly.

Bravotv.com: Why did you decide to meet with Dr. Jeff one-on-one?
CJ: I have never, ever once claimed to be perfect or without flaws. And when I say I want to really resolve things, I am not just offering lip service -- I really mean it. If there is something that I am doing wrong that is contributing to any of the strife amongst the group, then I'd like to address it and do my part to work on me. I think most of us have issues with others because of past hurts that we perhaps never really dealt with and that cause us to act out in certain ways that may bother others. I am not saying I do this necessarily, but I have no problems talking to someone to at least try to be a better person. I for sure have made my share of mistakes and have experienced a lot of pain and disappointment in my life, but I've also been extremely blessed. But at the end of the day, my intention is always to grow and learn from it all and to be a better woman today than I was yesterday. Dr. Jeff is great at what he does and was for sure an asset to the group. Thank you, Doctor!

Bravotv.com: Did you and Porsha manage to get back to a better place?
CJ: It seemed that way. But I had made the decision that regardless of whether or not she was going to continue the peace treaty, that I was going to do my part to keep it cool, polite, and cordial. And so far so good.

Again I'd like to thank the fans for all their support and love and enthusiasm for #RHOA! I was in Miami Beach and Miami Gardens with the morning show this past weekend for Jazz in the Gardens, and the love I got from all the fans of the show was next level! I was truly flattered and humbled, and I will never let any of this get to my head and change me. I'm grateful to be a part of this and for all the amazing opportunities that keep sprouting from this. I just wrapped a movie called The Hills that I have a lead role in, which will be out in the fall, as well as another film called Love is Not Enough. I'm also working on a product line (to be announced soon) and more calls have been coming in from Hollywood for more great acting roles. I also had a great time with my girls in Miami and ran into a bunch of awesome people doing their thing that love the show too! I feel so rested and at peace. I'm healthy, happy, and appreciative. #ThankYouGod

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