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Calling Out Kenya's Lies

Cynthia has some rebuttals for some of Kenya's talk at the party.

I am so grateful to have celebrated my daughter Noelle's 13th birthday! Yes, I have a teenager now, and I know she is going to need me more than ever. These years are very important "growing years," and I am dedicated to making sure she blossoms into a beautiful, smart, kind, respectable young lady. I strive to be a mother that my daughter can look up to, and be proud of. There is never a moment in the day when Noelle is not on my mind, and in my heart. She is always with me, even when we are thousands of miles a part. I have achieved much success in my life, but the only thing that I am truly GREAT at is loving Noelle.

I love strong, powerful women! I always try to surround myself with smart, ambitious women because they empower me, and I can learn so much from them. Drama or not, I recognize, and respect that the ladies I work with are smart, confident, and all about their business. I have received a golden nugget from each of them, even when it may not have been coming from the kindest place! I love the irony of it all. You can empower people, and not even know that you are doing it. You never know where you may find inspiration, so always keep your eyes open because it may be hiding in some very "unlikely" places.

The LET YOUR SUCCESS FLOW party that I put together for NeNe was my sincere attempt to congratulate, and applaud her on her a job well done! I am inspired by her fearlessness to go out and conquer opportunities that even she could not image would be coming her way. She has astonished many with her soaring success, and just when people count her out, she always lands on her feet! Cheers to you!

It was Nene's idea to not make the party just about her own success, and to make it a celebration for all the successful women in our circle. I loved it! At least for one afternoon the girls would get all dolled up, sip champagne, and celebrate each other. The party was a huge success, the ladies were stunning and positive affirmation filled the air. However, there were a couple of bumps in the road:

Kenya telling Phaedra and Kandi that JET magazine asked her to be a judge at The Bailey Agency.

Cynthia -- that's the first lie. I invited Kenya to The Bailey Agency, and had I not she would have not been there, period. Out of the kindness of my heart I asked JET if they would mind if she joined us. While they weren't exactly jumping up and down about it, I got them to agree to let her come. Tip: Never tell a lie that you will definitely get caught in. Especially if the truth will eventually play out on national television.

Sidebar: No one has the authority to invite anyone to do anything at The Bailey Agency without my approval. EVERYTHING has to go through me first since it is my school.

Kenya telling Phaedra and Kandi that her security kicked Carlton (my assistant) out of The Bailey Agency.

Cynthia -- And that would be the second lie. The man at the school with Kenya approached Carlton, we all had words, and he was told to have a seat. That's exactly what he did. End of story.

Sidebar: I had no idea that guy was her bodyguard . I just assumed he was a family member who just came along with her for the car ride.

Extra sidebar: It was a bit disappointing to watch Kandi and Phaedra faces light up with so much joy when Kenya was berating me at their first lunch. Their facial expressions were irreplaceable and unforgettable.

I adore Vanessa Williams, we actually have many friends in common. I called her to ask for advice and help with my pageant. She was so gracious, positive, and excited to assist me in any way she could. Her love and support wer very validating, and meant the world to me! It was such an honor to get personal counsel from the first African American woman to be crowned Miss America. I am inspired by her strength, talent, kindness,and generosity. Much continued success to you and your amazing career. You are the queens of queens! Sidebar: I am still looking forward to lunch with you the next time I'm in New York City.

"Success doesn't just come to you, you go to it." -- Marva Collins

"A crown, if it hurts us, is not worth wearing." -- Pearl Bailey

"Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door." -- Coco Chanel

Tune in next week to RHOA at 9pm on Bravo. I appreciate and love you guys!

Cynthia Bailey

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Claudia: I Felt Good About the Reunion

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on NeNe Leakes' breakdown and the reunion as a whole.

Bravotv.com: What was going through your mind when NeNe walked off?
Claudia Jordan: Well the reunion was quite an experience. When NeNe walked off, initially I wasn't sure what was going on to be honest. But I did notice she seemed to be trembling, so I knew she was definitely feeling something very real to her. I just didn't know what set her off at that point. So at first I was a little taken back. I had never seen her cry, but we are all human and everyone has their breaking point.

Bravotv.com: Do you think NeNe had a real breakthrough?
CJ: I honestly did think at that moment she really did. Her demeanor was different afterwards. And I even heard from her after the show. That to me was a good sign that perhaps we could all really move forward and start fresh. I know I'm always open to squash some beef, especially if it's nothing deep rooted and something surface. I don't see why not. But like I said on the show, we all have a story and things that we have had to deal with and overcome. I think we need to not think our problems are bigger than the next woman's and respect one another's struggles -- whether we think they are major or minor. One woman's problems are not more important than the rest. And I think if we can all learn to be sensitive to the next woman, then we are on our way. Hopefully that moment was the catalyst for change in NeNe and in others as well.

Bravotv.com: Do you feel like everyone ended the reunion in a better place?
CJ: I'd like to think so. I do think some will probably never be open for change and are just stuck in their own way, while others really took advantage of the opportunity to take something from it all. I'm not going to worry about those that do not wish to grow and move forward. I will just focus and give energy to likeminded individuals that want to get along, move forward, grow, learn, and progress. I know I felt good about the reunion. I know I didn't chime in a whole lot. And I think I had good reason. You don’t get to see everything, but I felt it was important to let the people who had real issues with each other hash it out with no outside opinions, just like I said in the Philippines. When people interject their opinions and thoughts when it’s not their issue, it just adds confusion to the situation. One of the cast members in particular is good for that. Always adding "well I think..." when it has absolutely nothing to do with her, and I feel those extra unnecessary comments can potentially add fuel to the fire and then there is no coming back. So if my silence was going to help the progress of the group moving forward, then I will take that "L."

Yes, it's "cute" to "read" and get in an epic one liner or rant, but sometimes you just need to shut the hell up and let folks deal with each other and let them do them. I have no problems with that. Plus my opinion on everyone’s situation doesn't need to always be heard -- I wish more of us felt the same way. I will say that this seemed to be a great starting point for folks to move forward and put their money where their mouths are when it comes to being a grown ass woman. I really hope everyone wants to. It'd be great to see how things could go if we spent less time fussing and more time co-existing peacefully. #ThatIsAll

 

As the season has come to an end for me, I just wanted to say wow! What a roller coaster ride it has been! I had no idea getting into this that any of it would happen. I thought I'd come on board, have a little fun, bring a little light-hearted fun, and make some new acquaintances. This show is huge and everywhere I go people come up to me and say such amazingly sweet things, and I am truly humbled when they tell me how they can relate to me and appreciate my realness. I was particularly touched when a teenage boy who was gay and biracial that had always felt like an outsider reached out to me talking about suicidal thoughts he had. We spoke and I was beyond moved when he told me that he could relate to some of the things I spoke about and that I somehow inspired and encouraged him to keep going. Those are the moments that make all the drama and fussing and fighting truly worth it. I want to continue to use this amazing platform for important issues. Again I thank Andy, Carlos, Joy, Lauren, Stephen, the entire cast and crew for this amazing opportunity. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

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