Cast Blog: #RHOA

Did Kenya Steal Phaedra's Idea?

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Claudia: I Am Not Asking for Sympathy

GIF Recap: Saltines, Anyone?

Kenya: Why Would Apollo Try to Hurt Phaedra?

Did Kenya Steal Phaedra's Idea?

Cynthia shares her thoughts on the booty video brawl.

Hello everyone! I was working and traveling, so I did not get the opportunity to post my blog for the last couple of weeks. So let's go back for a minute, because I would like to address a few things.

Business is business, and it is never personal. Unfortunately, doing business with friends rarely ends well and usually ends up kicking you in the butt, be it donkey or stallion!  I wish Phaedra much success with her donkey booty video, however I am not (nor have I ever been) involved  in any way. The possibility of The Bailey Agency doing the casting for the video did come up in casual conversation at my PT moscato launch party at Bar One, but there were never any serious discussions or meetings with me to move forward from Kenya or Phaedra. I assumed that the dynamic duo had decided to do the casting themselves or used another company. So when my staff brought it to my attention that Phaedra had sent out a tweet saying that there was a donkey booty casting at The Bailey Agency, I shut it down immediately. I would never assume that I was entitled to a free service of any kind from any of the ladies’ businesses and will always expect the same in return. Casting is one of the many services that we provide at The Bailey Agency and of course we get paid a fee to do it. Once my position was clear in regards to the casting, the rest of the dialogue was between Kenya and Phaedra. Donkey booty or stallion booty, no one in this group is a jack ass when it comes to their business or money! Kenya and Phaedra are both strong, smart women, and I have every confidence that they will work it out! No pun intended.

Let's go! This week’s episode:

Runway Red Kids Fashion Show!

I had such a great time casting and rehearsing the children for the Runway Red fashion show. This was a big deal for The Bailey Agency, and I am proud to say that we showed up and showed out! The production was a huge success, and all the kids did an awesome job! I love being involved in anything that involves the little ones, especially when it is for a good cause. Thank you to everyone that was a part of making the event a fashion extravaganza! Special thanks to my staff for all your hard work, I could not do this without you!

Side note: I love me some Ayden, he is absolutely adorable! I was very excited to see him rip the runway, but without his t-o-y-s and s-i-p-p-y-c-u-p, he wasn't having it. The runway could have been made out of gummy bears, but Ayden wasn't walking down it! Had Apollo not come to the rescue, I would have been happy to carry him down the r-u-n-w-a-y myself! We don't call him Prince Ayden for n-o-t-h-i-n-g!
Am I Team Stallion or Team Donkey?

Neither! I don't want a donkey booty or a stallion booty. I am very happy with the one that God gave me. As a matter of fact, I would be more interested in a butt video that focused on making my butt a little smaller! I have MORE than enough going on in that department and would hate to see it get any bigger than it already is! However, if I had to choose between the two, I would say stallion. I just think stallion sounds more flattering than donkey. I have been called a stallion before, and it was always meant as a compliment. I think I would actually be offended if I was referred to as a donkey in any way. Sorry, nothing personal against donkeys! There is no reason for me to pick sides, as I will have no financial gain from the success of either. I support both. Good luck to both asses!

Side Note: Just because I would prefer to be called a stallion as opposed to a donkey does not mean I am now best friends with Kenya. No way, Jose! I just like the name better, period. Since Kenya apologized in Anguilla for acting a fool at the JET casting and Phaedra apologized for butt dial, I have been good with them both.

Do I think Kenya stole Phaedra's idea?

Yes

Do I think it's right?

It's really none of my business, that's between them. Kenya and Phaedra got themselves in this mess, and they will figure out how to get out of it! I do have my opinion, and it is this: Business is business! The deal went bad, feelings got involved, and they are no longer friends. Now it's strictly business, and the best video will speak for itself. Phaedra A.K.A. Donkey Booty

I like Phaedra, and I have not had an issue with her since the butt dial. We talked, she eventually apologized, and I accepted. Phaedra and Kandi are friends, just like NeNe and I are friends. Phaedra and I are still getting to know each other, but for some reason people seem to think that we have been friends for a long time and are really close. Maybe it’s because I am the only one that comes to all events? OK, we all know that I didn't make it to Ayden's last birthday gala! While I will always support Phaedra, we don't exactly talk every day and vacation together. I really love her sense of humor and over the top ways. She just says and does the silliest things! I love making fun of Phaedra's craziness, because she really owns it! You gotta love it! Besides, how can you now make fun of a booty battle? It's so ridiculous!

Side Note: When I told Phaedra about what happened with Kenya after the JET casting, she didn't seem particularly interested. Although I never asked anyone to pick a side or a team or get The Bailey Agency tattooed on their chest, it felt like to me that Phaedra was just a little too excited to embrace Kenya right after the whole thing went down. Just telling you how it felt. She told me that she thought Kenya was just so much fun! I remember laughing and saying to her, "Yeah, let's see how much fun you will think she is when she comes for you!" Guess y'all are not having fun anymore?

Being Two-Faced?

I make every effort to support Phaedra in everything that she does, but it takes more than that to have an actual friendship. How is joking around with Kenya about donkey butts talking about Phaedra behind her back? One of the things I like about Phaedra is that she is funny, and I definitely think she can take a joke. Phaedra and I are still getting to know each other, and until we are truly friends, I don't feel like we owe each other anything.Side note: In my opinion, Kenya has a better body, proportion wise. I did not say a better butt! I was blessed with the opportunity to see Phaedra’s naked butt (draped in fish net) up close and personal for almost a whole day in Anguilla. I will never forget what it looks like, and let me just tell you, that thang is super tight! No cellulite and jiggle free. Now until I see Kenya's butt in the flesh, I have to give the actual butt trophy to Phaedra!

NeNe’s Point of View

NeNe was in LA working on The New Normal for pretty much all of the booty drama. I was lucky enough to get caught up in this nonsense right after we meet at the school about the casting that did not happen. Was it not clear in the episode that I said I’d rather have a stallion booty rather than a donkey booty before NeNe had even voiced her opinion? Oh, since I said it first, maybe NeNe just likes the stallion booty because I said I did? Now imagine that!

Bronner Brothers Show

In addition to helping judge the hair event, I was also launching my new hair extensions line Hair Couture! It's the hair that I wear all the time and on the show. It is also the hair I had in at the reunion show! Go onto cynthiabailey.com if you are interested!

Most Asked Question:

Was Major and King in the fashion show? Yes they were! Messiah and Deyjah were as well. They did a great job!Be sure to tune in to RHOA on Sunday because this butt thing is about to get really stinky (oops!), I mean sticky! Trust me, YOU DO NOT WANT TO MISS THE NEXT EPISODE! (I am not even joking with you guys right now! It’s going to take crazy to a place where you have NEVER seen it go before!) So bottoms up!



Love and appreciate you guys!

Cynthia Bailey

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Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on NeNe Leakes' apology and the double standards within the group.

WHEW! What trip! First of all I'd like to thank Demetria for inviting us all down to Puerto Rico for her do-over. And honey, what a do-over it was! The rooms were cute and cozy, the weather was amazing, and the pina coladas were fantastic! And on top of all that I really got to know Demetria a little more, and I just adore her. And of course like always I had a great time with Kenya and Cynthia. Those two really know how to have fun, and I appreciate their laid back and easy going demeanor. Our time at the pool was fun -- especially watching Kenya attempt to speak both Italian and broken Spanish to our bartender in an attempt to wrangle up some local cuties!

Dinner…well the evening once again started out fun, fun, fun! I was with my girls Demetria, Kenya, and Cynthia, and it was all so effortless and easy breezy! We were making toasts in honor of our gracious host as well as to new friendships. The tone of the evening certainly changed when the rest of the ladies showed up. I don't think I saw any one of them besides Kandi acknowledge Demetria, our host. Girl, I need these folks to take an etiquette class or something around these parts! But I digress. Things got heated between Demetria and Ms. Parks, and it was all downhill from there. I honestly couldn't understand the treatment of Demetria from Phaedra. On a shady scale from 1 to 10, I give it an 8.

As for the little disagreement I was involved in, Iet's just say it was a fight of words with lots of bobbing and weaving that was capped off with a verbal scalping! Lots of low points and crass things said, and plenty of one sided yelling. I am proud to say that I maintained a calm and classy demeanor throughout and let my wit, not my volume, do my work against several malicious false statements made by the mother hen.

Kandi's party was fun as always and it was nice to see all the ladies get along and have fun -- something I think usually is missing when certain people are in the mix. But I will say on that night it was great hanging with all the ladies. I had a great time and was surprised at who excelled and who struggled with the Pass the Potato/dildo game!

The bus ride to Demetria's performance was interesting. First we got the news that one of the women in our group would be stepping in and taking over for Sherri Shephard in the Broadway play Cinderella! That was great news, because I heard that Sherri did her thing, so although those are some big shoes to fill, even getting a chance at that role is huge, and I acknowledge that. Kudos!!!

I guess I should address the argument with Linnethia (Is that how you spell it? One day I will get it right!). I think I showed maturity when I congratulated her on her newest gig, but I felt I'd take that time to also make the point that she is not the only one working. Often times that is her narrative: "I'm the only one that will be left standing. I'm the Queen! I'm the only original! I'm rich! They are not on my level!" I mean it's exhausting to constantly hear these things, but even more laughable that it's being said to a group of women -- the majority of this group has been working on their own long before the phenomenon of reality television. I know I'm dating myself, but I've been a member of the Screen Actors Guild since 1994. I just don't think people that are used to working feel the need to constantly tell everyone that they work. We're all adult women, aren't we supposed to be working? When one behaves like this, it makes it difficult to "give props," yet Cynthia and I both did regardless of the shade.

Some may think I'm a pit bull or that I was wrong for not accepting NeNe's weak apology. Well I don't know how these ladies do it, but where I'm from apologies for bad actions usually come with an explanation so there is an understanding as to why it happened in the first place. That was my entire point for pressing NeNe. I wanted to know why that was the go-to thing to attack me with -- my integrity as a woman. I've experienced lots of things in my life, I know a thing or two about sexual abuse, so for me to be called a "whore" and have someone talking about my private parts is for sure a trigger. I don't want to get into all the ugly details, but let's just say my life was affected by that word, and it is something that cuts me deep. It seems that has followed me throughout my life. Maybe because I am considered somewhat attractive, the go-to insults are "whore, ho, bitch, and slut." I remember not being able to have sex for years after what happened to me, and men getting frustrated with me and again using that word to hurt me when that was the furthest thing from the truth. I wish people would be careful with the words they chose to use, because you never know someone's back story. So I was demanding NeNe tell me why she was calling me a whore, and she refused to answer that question, so that was why it was so difficult for me to accept a simple, "Well, I'm sorry!"

Now is there a time or occasion when the use of that word is warranted? Absolutely! That should be reserved for women who exchange sexual favors for money or gifts, not because you are losing an argument. When you make these gross declarations on a huge platform, you give the green light for others to follow. I have had hundreds of people repeat this to me since NeNe screamed it at me, and it's not right. And I find it ironic that since then a very false list has been circulating the internet of all these alleged lovers that I'm being linked to, several of which are married to women I am cool with. The timing could not be any more convenient for some. This list is mostly false, not 100% but mostly! Once again, we must be careful with how we characterize one another, ladies. I know that I do not speak on something unless I am damn near 99% certain of it and pretty much know. I encourage others to follow suit.

As for the other lady I fussed with, well, it may have seemed unwarranted and I am sorry about that. I just wanted to make a point that the double standards in this group are crazy! I just don't how for some women it's, "Close your legs to married men," and then to others it's, "Do you girl, get your coins!" It gives me a headache trying to figure out the rules of engagement in this group! Ugh! Can I get a handbook of the rules? Because these double standards are killing me. I need for things to make sense.

I have to say I loved, loved, loved Demetria's performance! I knew she could sing, but I didn't know she could SANG! It almost brought me to tears seeing a beautiful and kind woman living her dream and doing it so damn well! Despite all the shade and negativity she had to deal with leading up to her show, she handled it like a true professional and pushed all that nonsense to the side and flourished. She for sure is an inspiration. Sometimes when I'm down I tend to curl up and hide, but to see Demetria fly high after all the nonsense was inspirational! I will continue to support this woman, and last I heard she was climbing up the iTunes charts and was at number 4! Take that, naysayers!

OK this was my most personal blog so far, and just a taste of things to come. I will continue to try to be an open book so you all can really get to know me. And in the process I hope some who share some of my struggles can feel better about their own and take comfort in knowing that you do not have to feel like you are alone and that you are damaged goods. There is life after tragedy and there are rainbows after the rain. Trust me, I know! I appreciate the love and support from those that have found something in me to relate to. I read all the comments and messages, and I just want to say the love has been overwhelming. Seriously guys and gals! Words cannot express how wonderful you guys have made me feel since joining the show. I love you all! XOXO

 
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