Cynthia Bailey

Cynthia couldn't believe Kenya's behavior during the Jet Magazine open call.

on Nov 5, 20120

Welcome back!

First and foremost, let me say THANK YOU to all of you that have shown me so much love and support. Life is full of ups and downs, and at the end of the day, the only thing that you are left with is your friends, family, and most importantly, God. Your kind words and well wishes are greatly appreciated and are always right on time.

I am so excited to fill you guys in on everything that's been going on in my life. It has been a long time, and so much has happened. I am blessed to say that my family and I are doing great. By the grace of God, we all are in good health and living a happy life. Let me start by saying that my 12-year-old daughter, Noelle, is truly the love of my life. I love that little girl so much that when she is in pain, I am physically sick about it. No mother ever wants to see her child suffer mentally or physically for any reason.

I decided to homeschool Noelle, because she was having some issues in school, not academic but social. The environment for her became one that was spirit-breaking as opposed to spirit-lifting. I know my child very well, and she was not flourishing. It was hard to watch her try to find her own identity, and own who she is. No matter how much love and support she got at home, when she went to school she was torn down. I noticed that her behavior went from confident, strong, smart, and happy to low self-esteem, quiet, withdrawn, and sad. Her eating habits changed, grades dropped, and she started biting her nails uncontrollably. It was heartbreaking, and I felt so helpless. At first, I took the "tough love" approach, and told my child the usual things like, "This is life," "this is how school is," and told her that she has to "stick it out." I had flashbacks of my own childhood issues with bullying and trying to fit in. It was very difficult, and I wanted so badly for my mother to protect me and make it all better. Now as a mother myself, I will go to any lengths to protect my child and family. When it got to the point where I could no longer watch the light go out of the same eyes that used to light up a room, I took Noelle out of school. I was literally dropping her off one morning for school and was kissing her good-bye when I paused for a moment to look at her, and I did not like what I saw. That was it for me, I was done. I told her to get back in the car and took her home. I immediately felt a sense of relief, and guilt left my body. I knew I was doing the right thing. I never had any regrets, and I never looked back. Noelle was home schooled for the rest of the year.

145 comments
uanadoll78
uanadoll78

Kenya once again its tact for me here...As a former "Miss USA", who should be so honored that JET magazine asked you attend the judging. In addition, to that you need to really check how you conduct yourself in public if you choose to keep carrying that (19 year old title) with pride. There is proper way to communicate effectively with people who are aspiring to get into the modeling field. As your final comments to the candidates were comforting at the end, your lack of compassion for their efforts beforehand were disgusting (i.e. you could clearly see that all over the JET representatives faces) which made your final comments irrelevant. I won't even start on the unprofessional manner you treated Cynthia’s staff (before you start calling on bodyguards, get your money up and your business up sweetie!!) Nobody who matters, cares about you or your name. Please don't be the next "Miss Ghetto USA"

comedy
comedy

Sorry to hear that your daughter wasn't doing well socially in school. I'm glad you were able to help her through that! I have to say I am starting to relate to you this season and may have misunderstood you before, for that I am sorry. I don't know if you realize that you weren't well liked these past seasons but either way I don't think that will be an issue this season. I feel you will gain respect from fans of RHOA for sticking up for yourself to Kenya and coming out as an individual. Good luck and God bless!

jazzyyazzy15
jazzyyazzy15

Oh I forgot I applaud you for homeschooling your child my daughter has been home schooled all her life and she has a very active and full life. Public school is not the end all be all.

jazzyyazzy15
jazzyyazzy15

I really like you Cynthia I really think you are a very classy lady and have always risen above. There have been a few bumps along the road but after all you are a women sometimes we just cant help the drama

cheryl.cantyrashada
cheryl.cantyrashada

Why, exactly, is Kenya even on rhoa? She's NOT married, she's NOT a housewife, she doesn't seem to have a life that's why she's stirring things up. SHE'S A COMPLETE WASTE.

Hulali
Hulali

This was your best blog ever!! I actually laughed out loud while reading it!

aabenson
aabenson

That's right Cynthia..put the playboy bunny..ooppppppss I said that Kenya in her place! Please teach her some class!

JazzyTee
JazzyTee

I said this before and I will say this again. Cynthia= HAUTE COUTURE FASHION MODEL!!!!

Kenya= PAGEANT FIGURE, PRINT MODEL, ACTRESS. uggghhh, and Actress is written with a strong urge for all to look up her credits. 

Cynthia has worked with Naomi Campbell, (my fav) and a HOST of other SUPER MODELS!!!, Kenya has worked with......(please fill in blank) I got nothing.

 

Cynthia, continue to be YOU. I heart your personality, poise, and overall demeanor.

DestinyKhan
DestinyKhan

CYNTHIA,

YOU NEED TO PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH. DON'T BE FAKE. AND YOU ARE. . STOP BEING JEALOUS OF KENYA SHE IS A BEAUTIFUL GIRL. BEAUTIFUL. SHE NEVER HAD A MOTHER. BE CAREFUL. SHE IS THE BEST THING THAT HAPPEN TO REAL HOUSEWIVES IT HAD  BECOMING BORING.  YOU AND PETER NEED TO GET IT TOGETHER. SERIOUSLY.

tasheika
tasheika

miss cynthia,

i am one of your biggest admirerers! you always seem to maintain class and dignity when dealing with the less fortunate... those like ms. moore who were never taught manners and how to treat others wth respect. i applaud your parenting and continue to wish you and mr. thomas (jamaica stand up!!!) the best! cant wait to see more of this season.

p.s. please tell me someone puts that beast in her place at some point because from the looks of upcoming season, she is completely "OUTTA ORDER!!!"

love and blessings

lady22
lady22

Kenya was plain rude. In my opinion she wanted to be as dramatic as Marlo from last season and came off looking just like that....tacky. I love watching these housewives shows but i think Kenya should not be holding that peach. She comes off as classless and has a potty mouth

bosh
bosh

Cynthia, I understand exactly where you are coming from with your daughter.  I had the exact same thing happen to my daughter when she was around 8 years old.  I did the same thing, tough talk, but finally had to take and home school her.  People didn't understand but it was the best thing for her.  It brought back her confidence and healed her.  I eventually found a great school for her and now she's in high school and doing extremely well.  If I had not taken action just as you did, no telling where how daughters could be.  This bullying has caused a many suicides and we can thank God our daughters were not victims to suicide.  Stay the classy woman you are.

Michele2361
Michele2361

SOmeone needs to "talk" to Kenya, keep it up Cynthina!

JessZee
JessZee

Cynthia I feel you are a woman with class, sophistication and a person who cares about others feelings. My husband usually does not watch your show but he did for a bit during this evenings show he commented that Kenya,s was obnoxious and that she looked terrible in her close-ups. She should be the one retiring I did not even know who she was before she came on the show. Just keep the class and dignity when around her; I know how hard it will be to work and associate with a woman like her so be strong. Plus she may have a inferiority complex.

Ehunley
Ehunley

Omg, Cynthia you should have stood up and thrown that GHETTO woman Kenya out. I can tell you and her are not going to get a long. I think you are a beautiful woman and not much in to drama but being on this show with these woman you need to stand standing your ground and speak your mind. Good luck!!

Rockerman
Rockerman

Your daughter is a smart girl choosing school over you! You don't quite seem to be in touch with what she wants. An embarrasing scene that!

 

Interviewing the models was an exercise in restraint but at the cost of the poor girls having to listen to that Kenya. You're quite the funny one in the solos with the camera and in your blog, but spineless when you should've squelched big mouth. A lot of hurt feelings while you dithered and tried to look coooool.

Racheale218
Racheale218

I am sad that you were treated that way by Kenya. She stepped in and basically was taking credit for two of your events that I'm sure you worked hard to organize. I was thinking about what positive could come out of such rudeness and it came to me. Kenya felt that aligning herself to such well organized, well attended events would somehow add to her reputation. Be proud of who you are and where you are that someone would want to emulate you.

wyattemurphy
wyattemurphy

Cynthia I hold you in high esteem.  I wish you the best in all that you do.  I think you are very gorgeous (whatever your age).  However, I do not think Kenya is pretty, confident, nor classy.  She is rude, obnoxious, and has VERY bad skin.

jennifer.adelman.7
jennifer.adelman.7

Cynthia,  You are a beautiful and refined lady.  Do not let the peanut gallery get to you please!  You have a very sweet personality and gorgeous face and figure.  You are a role model for women of color and non color really because you keep the your grace in the lions den.  Do not change girl, you are right. and come out respected.... Best to you!!

goals2bmet
goals2bmet

.... also, congratulations on making sure that your daughters needs are being met.

goals2bmet
goals2bmet

Thank you Cynthia for representing women as well as you do.  You are an example of what all of these women on reality tv should be like.  It is unfortunate that Kenya was as horrible as she was and I am sorry that you, the Jet representative, your assistants and the models had to endure her 'mean girl' attitude.  Keep it classy!

debharrington
debharrington

Just remember, when you perceive someone as being rude, please don't return the rudeness. It will make you just as ugly as them and sink you down to their level. A lot of times, the high road is a silent one.

merin99
merin99

You are hilarious Cynthia!  I love the "you need a hug" comment.  Ain't that the truth? 

 

I relate to what you said about your daughter.  My son is having some anxiety problems at school, and sometimes I think the whole system crushes his spirit.  If it doesn't improve, I will happily have him home school.  Don't second guess the mama that has her eyes, ears, and heart, right in the situation. 

BigSister3
BigSister3

I agree with Terry that you should have asked her to leave as soon as she started up.  Done.  The way she spoke about the models...Terrible and vicious.  You are better than her and that is why I am shocked that Kenya was still sitting there.  I'd never ask her back to your studio.

quette432004
quette432004

Hello Cynthia , as I watching the first episode I think of Drakes song, I'm so proud of you. You always keep it classy. May God bless and keep you growing

laces
laces

Congratulations, Cynthia, on maintaining your cool in the midst of madness!  I wish you every success!  you are truly beautiful inside and out.

Julie201
Julie201

The exorcism comment is the funniest.  The church would probably fall on top of Kenya the minute she walked in.  You should've had security escort her out when she first started.  She was obviously trying to make you look bad in front of everyone.

Constance1
Constance1

Cynthia, good for you! Kenya is a backstabbing wanna be and YOU are who she wants to be! Love your comment about her needing an exorcism as well as a dermatologist; whatever cosmetic company she represents, it's just not working!! What a mess! And, let'snot forget she won Miss USA back in 1993! Even in 1994, she still wasn't a "public figure!" She reminds me of the high school homecoming queen who 20 years later still brings up the fact that she was the homecoming queen! Obviously, nothing has been happening in her life and she can't get past this event a generation ago. Pitiful.

MsDee1
MsDee1

 my daughter experience the same thing and I took her out of school in the 5th grade and let her go back in 9th which she was excited until she found out that the same kids from 5th were still mean and willing to make her life miserable. the kids now-a-days are on a whole another level its as if they have no spiritual covering  and they know when a child has the of God upon them attack. I finally moved and put my daughter in a performing arts school where she has adjusted are the kids all cool NO but the artsy spirit of creativity helps. Keep up the good work and remember pray cover your daughter with prayer because God is the ultimate Father we must rely on His protection over seen ans unseen things that come to destroy us and our families

Cynhar
Cynhar

OMG! Cynthia! Girl reading this made my day! Love it keep it real I'm keeping an eye on you!

conversationmaven
conversationmaven

I was so disapponted by Kenya's behavor. I actually do now who she is and remember hen she won Ms. USA and when she was a guest on sitcoms like "In The House and others. I looked up to her and thought she was far classier than her debut on RHOA indicated. So I guess my question to Kenya is Are You Proud of The Way You Are Ruining What's Left of Your Image??

queenieking
queenieking

Hi Cynthia, I think as hard as it was to handle that situation with " whatsername" you did it most respectful and professionally. I expected nothing less from you. She is an unprofessional, narcissitic, jealous and nasty human being and that is our first impression of her! Just keep your beautiful intelligent head up and KNOW she isn't fit to carry your luggage!!

Love you and your family.

teri557
teri557

Cynthia, you should have told that woman Kenya, to leave when she continued to make all those nasty remarks to the girls. The way she spoke to your employee was disgusting. You sat there and allowed her to have your employee removed from the auditions...really???!!! When something like this happens and I see people watching, then they turn their heads away, roll their eyes, shake their heads, but say NOTHING....???? Why? What's with the apathy? Why do people allow things like this to happen and do nothing, say nothing? Are people that afraid of doing the right thing, or just afraid no one will like them? Maybe, people will like and respect you MORE if you stand up for the people who need protection from bullies. So Miss Cynthia, grow a pair!

Angeeleoliciousumphress
Angeeleoliciousumphress

kenya was tacky and unprofessional. not becoming of a former ms usa. yuck high def is not her friend.

kadijah
kadijah

Hey Cynthia, welcome back !!. I thought Kenya was WAAaaaaaaaaaaaay out of control. I bet it wasn't easy for those ladies to come out on in those bathing suits to be judged. your facial expression when you said coochie crack, coochie crack, coochie crack had me cracking up.

legna412
legna412

Cynthia, you should have told Kenya to leave. She was VERY disrespectful and rude. She is a has been and no one knows who she is!

penneyone
penneyone

Cynthia,  I enjoyed your blog. I never liked or disliked you. This season so far you seem like a new person and I like that very much. You can be strong with out NeNe around you. Give that new chic hell.....I admire what you did with your daughter. Stay strong..

kktraveler
kktraveler

You are such a class (and funny) act, Cynthia!!  You really have your head on straight and know what it's all about -- love everything you said about your daughter and being a mom.  And I laughed out loud at your comment about Kenya needing a hug -- so true!!!

Lck
Lck

Kenya is Marlo # 2.. Next.

ali.toal.5
ali.toal.5

hahahah that is way too funny very well put! I was astounded at how disrespectful she was in your place of business to YOUR staff it was completely classless! 

Kelonda
Kelonda

Work Cynthia, you said that. She needs to get her life. She was very rude to the contestants, you and your guest. She was being a straight jackhole. When you can see someone's bad skin on tv it must be even worse in person. Instead of paying for security, she needs to pay a dermatologist to clear that up.

april-jennifer
april-jennifer

u were never really my fav but i appreciate you defending those poor girls she insulted. Its obvious she is incredibly insecure so she tears people down.

sweet_shawty32@yahoo.com
sweet_shawty32@yahoo.com

Funny blog Cynthia. But I must say that you have way too much class to even worry about or make jabs about her. We know who the bigger person is. You invited Kenya to your place of business, and she acted a fool. She has already belittled herself. She doesn't need any help. And as far as your daughter, I agreed with what your ex said, but I also see your side. Yes, it's apart of life, adapting to different situations and different crowds of people. Switching schools was probably the best idea. But my nine year old daughter gets "in her feelings" quite a bit herself, so I could see myself going to extraordinary lengths to keep her happy too. So nobody should be upset with you about that one. Keep on keeping it classy girl!

kconner
kconner

 @DestinyKhan I was abused as a child but I don't use that as an excuse to act poorly!  She's 41 for God sake.  Time for her to take accountability for who she is and stop blaming her childhood!  That only gets you a pass for so long.  I figured that out in my 20's!  I am the only one who is responsible for my actions, she is responsible for hers.  And, NO ONE is jealous of Kenya.  There is nothing to be jealous of.  

love4me
love4me

I agree with your comments lady22. I am sure it was someone else in Atl. to put on the show other than Kenya. She maybe the shows big mistake this season because I don't want to watch her. My opinion about the rude comments is that she's jealous of those young pretty girls. She's so much like Marlo and I don't want to see her back either. The show don't need Kenya or Marlo.

islandfan
islandfan

 @JessZee Kenya does have an inferiiority issue. Check out how she over reacted when her boyfriend mentioned he asked Kandi out once and she truned him down.

audioslave
audioslave

 @conversationmaven Agreed...and if Kenya was being her true self in no way would she have won Miss USA. I for one never heard of her and hope never hear a thing about her again. She is a pathetic excuse for a human being period.

penneyone
penneyone

 @Lck  I'm soooo glad Marlo was not asked back. I couldn't stand her. She was too hard-core for this type of show....