Derek J.

Derek J gives his thoughts on NeNe's decision to send the girls home.

on Mar 4, 20130

Guess who's coming to dinner? Well, if you plan on dining at NeNe's place after 11:00 pm, it definitely won't be you!

After the small Grammy's vacay, the girls are back in action, this time in the Hollywood Hills. I must say that I got a great kick out of this episode because there was nice-nasty shade, reads, and a little hood behavior, FO-RE-YAL!

The question of the week is was NeNe wrong or right? I see it both ways. You can't come to people's houses at your leisure when something is being planned for you, but maybe you should also be a small bit more accommodating when you know how your girls get down. I actually just threw a dinner party and a few people were late, but I still let 'em in (after a curse out, of course).

97 comments
keepit@80
keepit@80

Nene, not a good planner.Why? plan a party when she knew they had a long flight. She needed to consider her friends being tired. Nene was upset b/c she had her 'Hollywood guest she needed to impress more. I Feel she was rude, not inviting her friends in any-way. The ladies had a reason to be mad at her. Nene, just took it to far over being late,she 's always late in order to be seen making her 'Grand  Entrance' 'Hello!

Blkprofessionalmale2
Blkprofessionalmale2

NeNe is the house BITCH there!!! and she has the right to do whatever she wanted to do. I say she was RIGHT!!!  However if she still had guest there and servers then she should have allowed them in. But if everyone was in their pj's and in bed then yes she was right to not let them in.

virgiesadler
virgiesadler

Nene was wrong.  She acted rachet in all the past seasons and now wants to school some1 else like her sh&* was and for the most part always been correct.  Good for her that she did an episode or 2 on Glee and now is a cast member of the New Normal and was on Celebrity Apprentice.  Its not like she is at a level where Alfre Woodard, Angela Bassett and so forth and so on are.  Its good to see that for the most part she isn't rachet like she was (tho it still peeks out from time to time).  But I still ain't heard her own up to her past craziness and say in so many words that I have learned to be different.  On the season finale she still commented like she was the only one who have the perfect costume and everyone else was just so so.

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

Frankly, they were all wrong, and it's impossible to determine who was more wrong.  There was never an explantion of why the women were so late, although  I did get the feeling that the rental where the girls were staying was not conveniently located to NeNe's rental.  And NeNe could have been a more gracious host and invited them in.

Nubiandiva
Nubiandiva

I love Nene to death, but she was wrong. This reminded me of when Kim kicked her mother out of her house at her wedding. Not cool.

deek_S
deek_S

The whole show wa wrong. Nene was right in turing them away, Yet she was wrong in doing HER guests that way. Cynthia, is the one who hold the most blame she should have turned things around  and kept the girls at home and just told Nene it was to late.. I* nhave a feeling maybe their driver may have taken advantage of alot of thier  time.

Nia5463
Nia5463

I believe NeNe needs bring it down a notch…

Get your head out of the Beverly Hills Clouds Baby, cause the same ones you

See on the way up you’ll see on the way DOWN!!!

“The New Normal” is one of the New shows that was in jeopardy of being canceled,

So she may be back in the Hood sooner than she thinks!!

Roseflowers
Roseflowers

First, considering that NeNe has been late to every event given by the ladies, I found her response hypocritical.  She was late to Kandi's Kandy Coated Nights soiree', clucked her tongue in prudish disgust the short period she was there and left early.  She was late to the party that Cynthia was giving in her honor, two hours late at that and had the audacity to be offended because Kim wasn't willing to stay longer.  She practically stood-up Cynthia and Peter when they were expecting her to be the MC for Bar One's opening.  I guess that NeNe believes that she "owns" being late for a party too.  

 

Second, NeNe was unreasonable to even consider throwing a dinner party for the group after they had been in an airport, in the air, in another airport and then in a long limo ride to see her home and sip champagne.  When one of the ladies protested about how tire she was, NeNe nastily told her to drink some Red Bull.

 

NeNe was irrational, egotistical and rigid and wrong.  Period.

tlbharris
tlbharris

I think it could have been handled better.  They were extremely tired from the flight.  They should have called her, and she could have called them.  She said, she spent a lot of money and hired caterers and servers, so I can she why she was upset.  NeNe is extra.  The girls, including NeNe is always late to everything they go to, except when they are hosting it.

aitenev358
aitenev358

I didn't see the episode, nor did I have to see the episode...whenever Ne-Ne Leakes is in the picture, bullshyt is always bubbling just beneath the surface...The woman is like a 600 lb rat in the room, with a perpetual  wound that won't heal because she keeps opening it  up just so she can have something to bytch about.   The other women seem to just tip-toe around the beast out of fear of its bark...now she may be able to whup some azz and maybe she can't, but this is the type of woman who has to be seen and heard even when she ain't looking like or saying shyt.

honeytece
honeytece

 These ladies feel they have are the housewives of ALT but their are the housewives of ani't  ATL.  Nene remember when your circle of friends get small you know you are doing something right.  Cynthia don't know whether to sink or swim loyalty is not a part o her vocabulary....... They know they were rude and wrong but this another way of getting back at you.  Ms P Parks knows what real hospitality is or is she a real southern bell NOT.

Mrsbb
Mrsbb

NeNe is right .

GeriB
GeriB

Righr to send them packing....They are so full of themselves they forget basic fundamental manners  U Rock NeNe...

ShiningStarr
ShiningStarr

Even though NeNe's approach was a little tacky, I would have kicked those heffas to the curb also if I had went out of my way to put together a dinner party for them and they show up three hours late. They are not her friends, except for maybe Cynthia, they are just her castmates, so NeNe don't owe them anything, but yet she went all out to accommodate them and give them a dinner party and none of them even apologized or gave NeNe an explanation for why they were soo late. Some of them were in the driveway making little joke remarks. I couldn't believe when Kandi asked for a plate to go as if she was a vagabond or something. The whole thing was a trip (pun intended).

Siddy4
Siddy4

When nene told them about the dinner they all were like o ok not excited at all & then they knew Phaedra missed her flight & would come in late so why not the girls get to dinner on time since it was right around the corner & have Phaedra meet at nenes esp if they were complaining how hungry they were...

orpmariposa06
orpmariposa06

Nene was CORRECT IN EVERY RESPECT!! .phaedra's stupid comment about only WHITE WOMEN ARE ON TIME...sounds so RACIST. Some people are of color are on time. ....It makes it appear that people of color are UNCOUTH !!! and disrespect is their every day behavior...Sometimes the women on this  show are an  embarrassment. 

f@voredone99
f@voredone99

Why is everyone assuming that the ladies got to LA at 1pm and were just chilling and purposely came to a dinner party THAT THEY KNEW ABOUT in their travel clothes?!  Think about it: Wake up in ATL around 4 am to catch an 8 am flight, sit in an airport for 2hours, fly ACROSS THE COUNTRY TO A DIFFERENT TIME ZONE (this is the part that most viewers are not factoringi in), wait for EVERYONE's luggage, drive in LA TRAFFIC who knows how long to who knows where, then get ALMOST THERE after all this time (don't forget that its three hours later according to their internal clocks) and the MFing limo CANT drive up the hill!  By the time they met up with Nene at the house it was probably 5 or 6...maybe later! And remember they had to wait for Phaedra to arrive which was probably 8 or 9 LA time. The last thing I would be thinking about is getting cute for a dinner party that I don't even want to go to after being up for 20hrs!!!!!!!!!

SugarLove
SugarLove

NeNe was 2000% correct in her feelings the night of the dinner at her house. They were already in town, she put them in a great hotel and yet they were late. They had the whole afternoon to prepare. The next day Greg was right in it being another day and another chance also. I didn't like the women NOT understanding where NeNe was coming from. Midnight for a 9:00 dinner? Not cool at all! When Kenya was begging and holding on to NeNe that was the happiest I seen her since she been on the show, sorry but maybe begging is what she do best. I am glad she went the next day. Porshia need to chill out before Kenya utilize her workout skills on her. Porsh was wrong for instigating at the restaurant and then giggle about it at that! smh! Cynthia looked really really nice all the way through (2 thumbs up Cyn).

 

 

lulugriffin
lulugriffin

Nene was absolutely correct....nearly 3 hours late for a catered dinner party is rude and disrespectful to the hostess.  They should have followed Nene's advice and kept driving ...and looked for food elsewhere.

 

These are no "ladies". 

Babydoll70
Babydoll70

I usually don't agree with Nene but in that episode she was 1000 percent right to not let them in.  They knew the dinner party started at 9pm.  Who has the audacity show up at midnight for dinner?  They had a driver, so they weren't lost, they had no valid reason for being 3 hours late.

Siddy4
Siddy4

Real friends would've called & esp if was at the expense of someone else... That was disrespectful esp bc 3 hours is not just oops that's like o a slap in the face esp after she did all that planning to make it so special & they were complaining I'm tired & ol well type of attitude ... Hek they were 3 hours late but didnt even have to decentcy to change clothes... So you mean to tell me you know your invited to a special dinner party with a few other guests ready to meet you & your 3 hours late but you still smell like old airplane & have the nerve to ask for a plate of food ... Ghetto ghetto ghetto smh

kimmy2009
kimmy2009

LOVE YOU DERRICK J!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Carmel25
Carmel25

If the place Nene had the ladies staying at was so close to her home, what took them so long. There was never an explanation on why the girls were so late if Nene's house so close. Also when Cynthia called from the limo and said they were late and still coming, Nene said not to come, why would they show up anyway. All the ladies are late to almost every event, but showing up to a 9:00 pm dinner at 11:30 pm is just wrong.

piperbeau
piperbeau

I would have told them to hit the rd jack!!!

denise.craig.1232
denise.craig.1232

You are invited for a dinner party at 9:00pm, which includes other guests; what makes you think that Nene is going to assume you are coming after an hour of being late and not calling, let alone 3 hours. Fashionablly late doesn't mean after the party is over. It is close to midnight, you should have been calling apologizing for not making it and ask for forgiveness, not insistng on showing up after she let you know not to. Midnight !, what you expect her to pull left overs if any out and than be left to clean up at 2:00am or later, while their disrespectful A' bellies are full and they can go home and sleep.

purpleprincess1
purpleprincess1

i'm not exactly emile post but i feel just as you do derek j when you invite people to your home you want them to be on time especially when they are guest of honor of course sometimes you can be  suttle and just kind of throw a  little shade on them for being fashionablly late. but i still love you derek j you are so awesome!!

ballerswife
ballerswife

These comments are a prime example of what is wrong with our society! When is it ever proper to meet guest in a driveway, cuss them and dis-invite them into your home? The girls were certainly wrong for showing extremely late for a dinner party, however, they were the invited from out of town guest of honor and should not have been treated so poorly! Nene should have expressed her disappointment and kept in moving. Furthermore, rewind to Cynthia's success party for Nene,when Nene showed up to her own party 2 1/2 hours late and was met in the hallway by Kim, who was leaving because she had been there 2 1/2 hours waiting on Nene's arrival. There is never an excuse for ignorance and Nene will not be given a free pass by me!

lachihuahua
lachihuahua

I think NeNe was warranted in not allowing her friends in.  First, she told them over the phone it was too late and they shouldn't come over anymore.  Second, THREE HOURS LATE!  Seriously? 

 

The only thing sillier was Cynthia and Kenya trying to hug NeNe into changing her mind.  Ladies...self-respect!  You messed up and you looked pathetic.

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

NeNe as right.  They would have gotten worse from me and she did tell them NOT TO COME.

tgait304
tgait304

Derek J,

 

You are a riot. When I and my friends, were watching the episode, we died with laughter. We agreed that the girls should've at least provided a courtesy call to state that they were running late REGARDLESS. However, I think NeNe could've approached it better. She always talking about evolving and changing, but she hasn't. That's erks the hell out of me. She trying to be high sudidy and it isn't working out for her. However, the reads in this episodes were so often that I couldn't contain myself. These girls have some nice lines!!! However, they act ghetto otherwise. I still love Kandi, Phaedra, and Cynthia. Kenya can kick rocks, Porsha, although I like her, can eat them, and NeNe can go jump off a bridge and drown with that attitude.

 

xoxo,

Tgait

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

This is LA and like NYC people do get together at odd hours. However, Nene is still an Georgia girl at heart and nine pm means nine pm.  I am still confused why they were late. But, truthfully most of this episode was a YAWN.

MoniLA
MoniLA

Exactly. What I thought was, if these girls and you are tight, were you not in contact with them whether text or phone? Did you not know where they were at? Did you not tell them to hurry up? What I think happened was she was PMSing and the "Hollywood" got to her head. No Glam-ma attitude. Other than that, Derek J, God bless you! You're so adorable.

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Derek J, by the time these women made it to Nene's they looked frazzled...these ain't no wash and wear women...I am still trying to figure out what was going on with Phaedras hair...while Nene was reading them proper etiquette....looky here....what was going on with my girls that they were so late....they had a beautiful hummer to bring them, did the driver get lost? Were they shopping, sleeping or sightseeing?? I believe that Nene wanted to wind the night down, not rev it up when her guests were about to leave....but what really makes it shady was when Nene told Cynthia for them to keep going, but they stopped anyway....That was grounds for friend forfeiture...whose idea to press on?? It wasclear Kenya really did not care how Neneehaved..she was glad there was controversy..Kandi wanted food....Phaedra didn't want to be there....Porsha didn't know she was there..and poor Cynthia was embarrassed....Greg gave them some cheese and water so they would leave, much the way you might do with a beggar...to have Kenya look in the window and talk cheap really made me want to apologize for my girls...sorry so many typos, i'm still shaking from the drama last night

Clinspec
Clinspec

@f@voredone99 You're wrong about the flight. And what time they had to get out of bed. The time difference of 3 hrs means that if they arrived "during rush hour" as stated in one of the blogs, they didn't leave ATL before early afternoon. The flight is 5 hrs long but they gain 3 hrs to their day, so if they landed @ 4 or 5 pm (rush hour) that means they left around 2 pr 3 pm ATL time. Hardly getting up @ 4 am. Also, they were served a full dinner on the plane if they flew first class which you know, they did..... There is no excuse for a 3 hr delay to the dinner or for Kandi being " starved", although I believe she was being funny about the "to go plate".

GhfalconTracy
GhfalconTracy

 @denise.craig.1232

 NeNe said on WWHL last night that she had been in contact with Cynthia throughout the night so she knew what was happening

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

 @AndreaDiamond

 I have trouble understanding  a lot of the readers' comments, too.  When did we stop using capital letters and punctuation?

TSan
TSan

@ballerswife Thank you so much for posting this. I agree 100%. I would have never treated my friends that way!

quette432004
quette432004

@lachihuahua You mean Kenya. Cynthia was just watching the scene play out.

MyE
MyE

I think NeNe was nice about it, because I would not have come to the door

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

 @tgait304

 NeNe has evolved but to be embarrassed and disrespected as they were, they bought every bit of her wrath and for ghetto Kandi to ask for a "to-go" plate, are you serious?  Grow up already.  She told not to come and yet they came anyway.  They bought every bit of that.  I probably would have shot them.  They were the guests of honor and she had other people over to meet them and this is how they roll?  How embarrassing and disrespectful which is "the smalls" MO anyway.  I don't blame NeNe one bit.

lorain
lorain

Kandi's blog stated they were waiting on Phaedra who traveled separately.  Then add the fact its 5 or 6 women getting ready and you arrived three hours late.   @@seasonedviewer7 

f@voredone99
f@voredone99

@FlutterBy: the ladies were late because they had flown  5 hours, got stuck on a hill for who knows how long, and were tired (3 hr difference)! when Nene finally got them settled at the house it was 7pm and Phaedra had not even gotten there from her flight yet. They tried to tell Nene they were tired at the house, and rightfully so, but she shut them down. Nene should not have had that dinner party the DAY the girls came! And if she insisted to have it, she should have had it at the fab house she put them up in so they wouldnt have to travel any more that day. e.Nene could have been more considerate of her travelling guests. Granted the girls were wrong because they should have called. 

quette432004
quette432004

@GhfalconTracy @denise.craig.1232 Re- watch the show

tgait304
tgait304

I don't agree. There was nothing nice about it!

tgait304
tgait304

ok and no where in that did Cynthia state they were going to be late? besides the point.

@seasonedviewer7
@seasonedviewer7

 @lorain  @seasonedviewer7

 Yes Phaedra arrived later and they could have gone on without her. I seriously doubt she would have cared as she had a horrible headache and was tired. 

10061943
10061943

 @f@voredone99

 dear fav, I'm sure if you put yourself in Nene place, you would have been very upset as well.  Nene spent money for caterers and servers and vacation house, etc., etc.  These ladies didn't even apologize to Nene for being 3 hours late, which tells me they intended to ruin her party by being late.  Midnight is never time for dinner.  Maybe an after-party????  But not dinner.  THIS IS THE THANKS NENE GETS FOR TRYING TO SHOW THESE PEOPLE A NICE TIME??????  I WOULD NOT HAVE LET THEM IN NOR WOULD I SPEAK TO THEM EVER AGAIN. 

airtonya
airtonya

@tgait304 She could have just slammed the door in their faces and said " Goodnight, Bloop" Lol!