Kandi Burruss

Kandi opens up about her engagement and Riley's relationship with Todd.

on Jan 24, 20130

I hope Porsha and Kordell’s marriage lasts for a lifetime, but I will say that I was shocked when she told me that they didn’t do a pre-nup. I don’t know why I was shocked, but I was.  Well, some people like things the good ol’ fashion way, and there’s nothing wrong with that. To each his own!

Moving right along, let’s go to the talk with my daughter and Todd. Riley cracked me up when she said she met him and a month later he was moving in. She was exaggerating. I dated him for a few months, introduced her to him, and a month later he was spending the night a lot. LOL! Todd didn’t move in until we moved to the new house, which probably was nine months into our relationship, six months after Riley met him. It is always a big debate as to when the right time is to introduce your child to someone. It kills me when people like Wendy Williams, who had both of her parents in her life and is now raising her child with his father her husband, dog me out saying what they think about my daughter meeting the man I’m dating. I personally feel if you’ve never been a single parent or the child of a single parent household, then don’t pass judgment. You cannot relate to my situation. I have been a single mom, and I was raised in a single parent home.

What works for me and my daughter may not work for everyone, but I will try to shed some light on how we’ve done things. My daughter and I had a long talk one day, and she told me that she wanted to meet the guys that I was considering dating when we were in the just friends phase. I said to her no that’s not cool because she doesn’t need to meet every guy I date. I didn’t want her to see different men coming around. In response she said, “Well if they are just your friend, then there’s nothing wrong with me meeting them, but I don’t want you to wait until you love them for me to meet them, because what if I don’t like them? Then you may not want to break up with him, and I’ll be unhappy.”

237 comments
ChickaSays
ChickaSays

Kandi, I think your mom wants you all to herself and if you don't straighten her out she will ruin your relationship. It seems she is suspicious of every man in your life because she wants you to take care of her and a man in your life will come between that.  Too close for comfort I'd say. You deserve to be happy and live your own life.

r23monique
r23monique

I really love the relationship Kandi and Riley have, and I AGREE most people wouldn't understand the struggle of being a single mom, but a woman as well. Do what works for YOU Kandi! Kenya just MAKES me sick, I had to stop watching because I just don't like her personality or her characteristics as a friend.  Kenya lost me when she was dogging the models at the Bailey Agency and when trying to be a HOMEWRECKER!

mzbenson
mzbenson

kandi you are such a snobb i dont like you at all you think that your so great fame an money has realy made you think you are all that your butt is too big it looks nasty an im sure its hard to keep clean an dont smell you showed up late a neenee house an was talking sh..t girl please thats y she didnt let you in lol and you cant sing to me sounding like a bird on crack get off the tv show cause your played out fake self yea you need that money you got to be somebody

rayward23@gmail.com
rayward23@gmail.com

Kandi, God bless you and your family. Girl do what your heart lead you to. There are people who has all kinds of thoughts, and feeling about your life because u r in the spotlight. But, Girlfriend, you have to "Stay Prayed Up", and follow the Sprit that rest inside you. Be Happy!!! A Fan always. H.W. From Tampa, Florida Congrats to u and Todd. Also, you are my favorite Housewife because you are fair and REAL.

WrightsvilleBeachHousewife
WrightsvilleBeachHousewife

Honey, if there is 1 thing I know for certain in this world, it is that you are a fabulous parent to that girl. I loved the new song and was thrilled to see you making music that moves you. Wishing you nothing but love. (I have "I'll Fly Above" on my Ipod and listen to it all the time when I walk) xo

carrie.baggett.3
carrie.baggett.3

Kandi God bless you i love the soñg i cried my eyes out, it made my soul happy there is nothing as good as soul gospel i need that..best show ever.keep up the good work, God bless you and the show

dlsapp
dlsapp

Kandi, I'm so glad you are not so "bedroom Kandi" this season.You were really starting to get on my nerves, especially having a young daughter. Also glad that you Mom isn't attending functions with you because when you and Phedra get together.................... Congrat's on your engagement. Sex toy's and Gospel, what a combo!

shalissa23
shalissa23

Kandi, you are an amazing daughter, mother, fiance, and friend. Your the only woman in the group thats level headed, smart, and has real talent. Keep up the good work!

 

 

carcynlee
carcynlee

Kandi,  saw your comments justifying doing a gospel song.   There is no need to justify anything that you do.  None of us are sin free.  Christians seem to forget that we aren't sinless, we sin less (some of us anyway).  Keep doing you.  There is NO ONE that can or should judge you.   Thank you for the song, I pray that it ministers to someone's spirit, that lives be changed through it.   

 

Your Sister in Christ,

 

C~

MsSepia
MsSepia

I want to congratulate Kandi on her engagement. Kandi is a smart young woman. I'm going to trust her to know her circumstances and make the right and best decision for herself and her daughter. She has done a grest job shielding her daughter form the RHOA drama. We've seen her sparingly. I like the idea of a calaboration with Marvin Sapp. Kandi's talents makes her capable of dabbling in any genre. She dabbled in Country Music during another season. She has definitely proven herself to be a talented lyricist. I like that she tries different things and doesn't put herself in a box. It was nice seeing her dad on the show. It was that much more special because of their past. Kandi is showing us who she is as a person. I wish her nothing but success and happiness. ms. Burruss keeps it real most of the time. I hope she continues to be who she is and lay it on the line on an as needed basis.

kjones0160
kjones0160

Love that your doing a Gospel song with my fav. Marvin Sapp. Love to see your dad and hope you two will have a great relationship from now on!!

sfire
sfire

So happy for you!! Congrats

catperry2011
catperry2011

Kandi:  Congratulations on your engagement.  I am a new fan of RHOA.  I didn't think I'd relate, but I find many of you to be the most likeable of all the housewives, and I like you the most.  You and your mother are real class acts.   I was so moved by your new single.  I don't know anything about gospel music but I would totally buy this. 

deldiosdi
deldiosdi

Hi Kandi, I just want to say i seen the show with your dad and you singn to God. It brought tears to my eyes. I watch all the house wives shows and out of all of them you can tell you are the only one with any sense ,lol. Seriously that song will bless you cause it came from your heart. God knows our hearts. I use to be a biker chic on drugs. Now I clean houses for filthy rich people .I have turned my life 100 percent over to God. I am so blessed and it is cause I am a good person always have been and I see you have always been .I love your new Gospel song congrads gonna be big. Praise the Lord.

SteffieJ
SteffieJ

Congratulations on your engagement! Love, love, love ya Kandi! You're awesome!

Shorty1961
Shorty1961

Kandi, do you really think that it's a good idea for you and Todd to live together while your daughter is an impressionable young girl? I don't have a problem with people living together without being married, but when there is a child involved, things have to be done differently.

smile1234
smile1234

I am so happy for you.  I agree on the pre-nup thing. You always kept it real. Loved your singing. You caugh  good one this tie. I know your other love was taking from you but he is i heaven and He will approved for you.

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

Loving the Gospel!

Congratulations and Best Wishes on your engagement.  He really seems like an awesome guy.

Jaee2000
Jaee2000

Hello Kandi: I'd like to CONGRATULATE you and your fiancée on your engagement. May God bless the both you to always just see each other and no one else in your relationship. Please do not use any examples from your fellow cast members and their marriages. Just allow God to be an intricate part of your love, devotion and respect for each other. Build your life together independent of any outside influences. Keep your business to yourself and you will keep busy-bodies out of your business! I just soooo appreciate your down to earth personality. You are totally in touch with reality and have been an example of NOT letting success change your head and direction. You are by far a keeper..... I wish you well and pray that God will continue to richly bless and anoint your life.

amh474100
amh474100

Kandi!

Just wanted to say that you are my FAVORITE housewife, well you and NeNe are tied anyway, but that's only because she has CHANGED so much! In my mind anyway I think that you have grown to love her as well, and is also a good indicator of WHY your my favorite housewife. I mean honestly, if someone can get a grip and move on with their life and their attitude we are the same type of person (I'm assuming here, cause obviously I do not know you like that) that says OKAY, whatever I like who you have EVOLVED to becoome :) Anyway, all I'm truly trying to say is that you are my favorite, hard working single mom on the show!

I am so absolutely delighted with your engagement and believe that you have EARNED and DESERVE happiness so much so that I'd stick my neck out there and say, I'm almost positive you and Todd will be extremely happy and blessed! He seems to be a GREAT young man as well!

You have done so well with your daughter that I'm confident she will adjust fine to the changes coming in her life, which I'm sure you have minimized!

Love you, from a T.V. screen :)

P.S.

I only registered here today to comment on Kendra's blog, and let me tell you...I am NOT a FAN!!! I really wouldn't waste my time as a single mom  working 40+ a week here in Tennessee- but, I am pretty sure that because I'm from the South, I GET IT! LOL  Regardless, I do NOT get that  heiffer!

Anyway, I could not go through the trouble of registering and all that B.S. without hitting you up! Hey! If you ever need assistance with your BLOG, I have MAD writing skills, and a seriouse understanding of P.R. sooooo just hit me up! I'd love the same opportunity as you ladies have had to take care of my family, yet be at home holding down the fort as well! my email is Shell0169@hotmail.com

Love you, Love your MUSIC and love your Spinal Fortitude and PASSION!!!!

lovegardening
lovegardening

Hi Kandi, Congratulations on your engagement.  I wholeheartedly agree with the prenup.  May I use this opportunity to address something that bothers me each episode I watch the show?Though this may not be read by you, I feel compelled to get it off my chest.  Ready...here goes...Would you please hire a landscape company to trim your shrubs and sod your yard.  Hopefully this will occur by next season.  Your huge yard lacks flowers and diminishes the home's beauty.  The camera man shoots from the bottom of the hill and it looks a HOT mess.  Next, can we hire an interior decorator?  Please don't have us revisit your home next season and it looks a hot empty mess.  No, we CAN NOT do it ourselves.  Have you not watched the other housewives shows.  Atlanta Housewives homes are EMBARASSING!!! no pictures on the wall, no accent rugs, cheap furniture, EMPTY KITCHENS (no decanters filled with food).  Always preparing their own foods; it's ridiculous, and poor Phaedra won't even let us in her pathetic looking home.  Quit bragging about your house being paid for, yet living like a pauper.  Come on I'm looking for better next season.

reginagarvin
reginagarvin

i love to death but you cant sing you sound like your crying 

RRuck
RRuck

Kandi,

Congratulations on your engagement and that things seem to really be going well for you. I like to see happy endings. God bless you and yours and  I'm looking forward to hearing your gospel song. Blessings to you!!

GDukes
GDukes

Kandi  sing your heart out I love you can't wait for the Gospel songs and you are beautiful lots of luck and joy

DoMeSTiCLoveN
DoMeSTiCLoveN

Kandi!! I've always thought you're way too put together to be on a drama filled reality tv show! and I just heard a preview of your new music..... YOU GO GURL - gospel, gospel, gospel. I'll be one of the first to purchase... show your glory and let it shine... following you!! Congratulations on your engagement!! xx happiness and blessings to you!

ckhanna
ckhanna

Why do you care about the DVD ??? None of your business . You sure have become a sneaky person. Spreading gossip all the way around.

cherylol
cherylol

Congratulations Kandi on your impending nuptials.  I hope you are as happy in your marriage as my husband and I have been for almost 23 years.  I have to admit that of all the housewives of RHOA, your demeanor has garnered my respect.  I do not know why the women of RHOA have not expended more effort in trying to earn your friendship.  I sincerely wish you the best in all your future endeavors.  

Karma@55
Karma@55

Kandi, you've truly grown on me as one of the housewives... Unfortunately I've dismissed Cynthia because she has changed into a two faced female and I don't like her new

Amanda18
Amanda18

Hi Kandi!  You have always been my favorite housewife.  Congrats on your engagement!  My daughter and I met you about a year ago in Georgia when we lived there.  You were signing autographs outside of a store.  Even though you had tons of people to meet, you were so approachable and kind.  I have the picture of the you, my daughter and me from that day, and I framed it.  Thanks for being such a kind person.  Also, congratulations on your sex toy business doing so well!

terewood
terewood

HI KANDI  CONGRATS ON YOUR ENGAGMENT ATLEAST THIS IS A TRUE COUPLE!!! NENE GETTING A DIVORCE JUST SO SHE CAN GET MARRIED ON TV IS THE MOST RIDULOUS THING I EVER HEARD OF.DONT NOBODY WANT TO SEE HER AND HER OLD ASS MAN GET REMARRIED JUST FOR THE FREE WEDDING AND THE MONEY SHES MADE A MOCHERY OF MARRIAGE AND SHE NEVER STOPS TALKING ABOUT "OH IM ON GLEE" OR "IM SO TIRED TODAY I WORKED ON MY SHOW ALL DAY"LETTING EVERYBODY KNOW SHES ON SOMETHING DONT FORGET ABOUT IT  NOW. IF SHES GONNA BE AN ACTRESS  SHE NEEDS TO "ACT" LIKE ONE ALL THE OTHER ACTRESS AND ACTORS OUT THERE DONT TELL US TIME AND TIME AGAIN "OH IVE BEEN WORKING ALL DAY" JUST SHUT UP ALREADY NENE!!! AND ANDY YOU REALLY FELL FOR HER BULLSHIT DIVORCE DRAMA? HOPEFULLY NOBODY WATCHES HER SHOW AND IT WILL BE A TOTAL FLOP!!!

cappy69
cappy69

** I meant to say Phaedra IS NOT a genuine person!

cappy69
cappy69

Congratulations on your engagement Kandi! I only have 1 concern; why are YOU so concerned about the DVD drama?! Kenya and Phaedra are not "friends". Kenya just joined the cast, so why are you acting so surprised that they're both acting this way toward each other? When Kenya first started talking about Cynthia, Phaedra claimed "love: her then. Phaedra is a genuine person..period! Call Kenya what you want, but at least she's transparent! Stay out of the drama..remember your song :Rise above it"..Your in something that has NOTHING to do with you!

WendellWilliamsnyc
WendellWilliamsnyc

How the heck did you tell kenya she should have known better than to not have her paperwork together with Phaedra, when you didn't have your paperwork together with Kim.

Pacific
Pacific

Kandi, congratulations! You deserve happiness, peace and love. Somehow, with great humor, you are able to stay out of the drama and at the same time be honest and direct. The world is lucky to have you!

BizzyLady
BizzyLady

Kongrats Kandi (& Todd too)!!  Konsider naming that baby Kash!

JEBFP6969
JEBFP6969

I'm so happy for you Kandi!  Love you on he show..you keep it real.  Best of luck to you & Todd & Riley! Such a lovely family! 

carolm
carolm

Kandi, I am so elated for you...You and Todd make such a nice couple...As for the wedding, my suggestion is to have a small wedding only with family and then one hellofa big reception.  Lord know you throw a great party and then you can relax at the reception and not be all nervous and such...God Bless you and your family, lots of luck to you

jlovan
jlovan

Congrats Kandi, very happy for you and Todd.... Forget the haters.  Also, It's good to see you and NeNe talking. 

Both you and NeNe are great role models. Keep up the great work.

peanutbutternchocolate
peanutbutternchocolate

Congratulations Kandi,  you should think about a small intimate wedding on a romantic quaint Island or a beautiful spot in South Africa and have the reception in Atlanta. I wish you and your family much happiness, you deserve it.  You are one of my favorites on the show, stay grounded.  A prenuptial is essential in your case, be safe not sorry..     

jdolph
jdolph

Love you Kandi.  Best wishes.

teresa.wilsher.7
teresa.wilsher.7

 @mzbenson

 you have to be miserable in your heart to write something like this about another human being!!!  I am going to pray for you that you look inward and start loving yourself and when you do you will realize you would not like someone to talk about you like that and so you will stop doing this to others.  Kandi did not deserve your rude and disrespectful comments.  Let her body of work speak for itself.  GOOD JOB KANDI AND THANK YOU!!!!!!

carrie.baggett.3
carrie.baggett.3

@carcynlee yes we all have sinned and come short of God glory Kandi thanks for that song it touched my soul i cried my eyes out and to see your Dad cry made my heart happy May GOD give you more songs like that, i needed that keep up the great work, hurry up and put it where we can get it.. your Dad is good looking and his voice wow do he sing? ...all the ladies here fell in love with your dad..

kathy.jackson.90834
kathy.jackson.90834

@reginagarvin never mind Kandi I got this one, I am sure Kandi thanks you for the love however you won't be missed in the line at the music store were ppl for along time have thought she was a talented and gifted artist and SINGER. But good lord home girl has been cashing royalty checks for awhile hmmm. Maybe a ear nose and throat specialist is in your future lmao!

ckhanna
ckhanna

@cappy69 well said. Rise above it all. Stop the gossiping.

ckhanna
ckhanna

@WendellWilliamsnyc HAAAAAA . Easy to tell other people what to do.

Gatorgirl1
Gatorgirl1

I'm not an expert or a gospel fan but I think Kandi is truly talented and I like her twist on the gospel music.