Kandi Burruss

Kandi explains her comments about NeNe's friendships.

on Dec 3, 20120

It frustrates me when I get people tweeting me asking, “Why do you feel that way about NeNe?” I’m like, did you just start watching RHOA or something? She’s been making snide remarks about me since I first came on the show. I’m one of those people that if we start off on the wrong foot, then you’ve pretty much set the tone for how it’s going to be, and clearly she and I started on the wrong foot. I try to be cool, because we are in the same circle. I know that we’re going to be around each other a lot, so I’m always cordial. Overall I respect NeNe, I just don’t deal with her too much.

Anyway with all that said, when I made the comment about her having motives when she befriends people, well, that’s how I feel. I’ve come to that conclusion over the years. Example: when she first heard about Marlo coming around, she was highly upset. I saw it with my own eyes. She was pissed. It had been in the blogs about her possibly dating Charles Grant (Marlo’s ex-boyfriend), which was something NeNe always denied. I guess she felt someone was trying to be messy by bringing Marlo around, and I understood why she could feel that way. Anyway NeNe went from being highly pissed to befriending Marlo overnight. It was clear she didn’t want that Charles situation brought up. So befriending Marlo would definitely stop any drama before it starts. Smart move. As I said, she plays chess with these women. I could add more examples, but no need. You should get my point. I actually felt like at some point she and I were getting along a lot better. You’ll have to keep watching to see it.

OK let’s move on to Kim. I haven’t talked to or seen Kim at all since what you saw on last night’s episode. Kim and I have had a shaky relationship ever since the whole Tardy for the Party drama. People always ask, “Why do you never go hard on Kim like you do with NeNe?” Well Kim and I started off on the right foot. We became close quickly. Our daughters had become good friends, and we were taking multiple trips together and had lots of fun. I have made a vow to myself that I will never fall out with friends/family about money. So when she first came to me and said her attorney felt she didn’t have to split the royalties with Don Vito (the producer) and me, I was caught off guard. We never signed an agreement giving her rights to release the song. We could have easily had the song pulled, but I was like whatever at the time. I didn’t want to fall out about money. The problem was this became the topic of every discussion. So of course it became a problem. Then when she asked me to do the next song, Ring Didn’t Mean a Thing, I did it, but I was going to charge her up front instead of just agreeing to split whatever came from sales, which is what we said we were going to do the first time. She didn’t want to pay up front. You may get over once, but never twice. So I would never allow her to release the song. That’s why you never heard any more about it. That for me made the relationship more awkward. So the communication became less and less.

416 comments
jmbean
jmbean

Kandi, love you ! You are the most truthful and real of the Atlanta house wives. Congrats to you and Todd. I must say, it's about time you took legal action against Kim . She shouldn't have been able to get away with what she did in the first place. It's lesson time !

happee4me50
happee4me50

Ms. Kandi, you go girl!!! (in my martin payne voice)

 

I admire you before RHOA, now I really admire you as a business woman...OMG! You responded to Kenya the way most women would have when it comes to their man...lol! you were so on point, telling Kenya not to bring that foolishness to your man's birthday party.  I am sooooo happy for you ,Riley & Todd!!! 

mrspettis
mrspettis

Kandi, I totally agree with the reason you choose to like keep your gaurd up when it comes to NeNe, because I've been watching and I have seen NeNe be Kim and Sheree' good friend and turn quick. I also watched when Cynthia made that frien contrct with her and she went around talking about how crazy she was and how handsome she thought Peter wassaying "the blacker the berry the sweeter the juice..... So now Cynyhia and her are the best of friends. I remember when NeNe got in your face, and you had to tell her to bring it on down!!!  I dont think yu are jealous of her you always had your independance and success, but never got on there throwing it up in at of the Ladies face.  Now that NeNe has established herself, I feel she is a much happier person, and dont have to be so on the defense all the time. As for Kim, yeah you have given her patience after patience. You always gave her a chance, well after the comments about your home, that showed me that Kim was trying to belittle you, and that was not being a friend at all! So it was time to let that go. Congrats on your engagement and wish you all nothing but happiness! #teamkandi

Tonhya
Tonhya

You all are my favorite housewives show. I like all of you and yes, I have my favorites. My favorite episode this year was the surprise re-doing of the wedding vows. Totally changed my views of Peter. I can see why they work.

I love episodes where dramas get worked out. The Aguilla trip showed the best of all of you. I loved it.

Kenya needs some mentoring, girls. She's so defensive and she doesn't need to be.

Porsha just needs some maturing. A little on the spoiled side, as in brat.

 

As for Kim, hope she's gone for good. Too trashy. She just didn't fit.

SaraJan
SaraJan

You have an awesome personality and you're the most real of all housewives. Plz don't change!! Best of luck with your new man, he seems like a good guy!

JazeenFly
JazeenFly

SMDH at some of these posts. I see why you dont get into blogging like that. I hate that you  & Ne Ne got off on the wrong foot.. Hopefully you guys will make some positive strides in the future. Beware of Kenya in which you should know this by now since you guys were done taping by the time we saw the 1st episode oif this season. I get we all have our own opinions but some of these posts are wayy off. I dont know what Xcape has to do with RHOA but someone tried to make the comparison. I have my perception on your new guy & the only thing I will say is I dont believe in cohabitation personally but if you like it I love it. 

 

I get your stance about money & friends however Kim is the exception to the case. Dude she played you. I know you are not me so you handle things differently. im glad you are not on this show poppin it off like that. You are mindful of your career & reputation but I really need you to figure out how to address Kim. You really need to speak up. 

 

Im dont think your initial motive for kenya was about Ne Ne I just wish you woulda thought it through. Kenya is gonna be trouble for everyone. remember the sayin MaKE NEW FREINDS KEEP THE OLD ONE IS SILVER & THE OTHERS GOLLD. 

Jharv241
Jharv241

I do think your trying to bring some drama to the show. All that took place with Kenya and Apollo was your doing because you invited her thinking she was going to bring the drama with Cynthia, that backed fired something fierce. I think you have some sort of agenda going on and I am definitely not feeling you nor your actions towards NeNe!

scorpioQueen
scorpioQueen

Kanndi I think that Nene putting you down about your  sex toy line really offended you. It was as if she was looking down on you and you are right to be upset about that, especially being that she used to be a stripper..... However, it seems as if you are beginning to take it too far and consequently falsely being accused of being a hater. You have no reason to hate, you have more talent & $ than any of the other women on that show. Put Nene's hurtful judgements behind you & focus on your lovely new life!!

lawsonsid
lawsonsid

oh, and ur SO right bout NeNe .... 

lawsonsid
lawsonsid

LOVE U MISS BURRESS!   with the departure of Kim (my other fav), i must hang this shxt up!  but i'll be looking for you elsewhere on tv, music, etc.  ur the best.

Rhonu
Rhonu

You can't blog? You have nothing to say about the episode?  Well you cannn talk about how you tried to start something on the bus about it was sneaky that Peter invited Greg and Nene to ride with him and Cynthia and how no one responded to you. You cannn talk about how scandelous your girl looked with that outfit on walking around the other men all day with her butt out, but then you would have to admit that she wasn't acting like a Southern Belle. You cannn talk about why you had to take a picture of another woman's butt? But you can't find anything bad to say about what Nene said or what Nene did. Is that why you haven't blogged?

Sylviastout
Sylviastout

only a year, and you move him in with your daughters, your the desparate one..........and a trouble maker and two faced Kandi

db523
db523

I agreed Kandi Invited Kenya on the trip only because she hope there will b drama with Nene. You can see d joy on her face when she told Cynthia that she is inviting Kenya. I thought that was out of place for her to do such when she was also an invitee n it was not her trip. Kandi need 2 move on n leave Nene alone. She seem innocent but is the trouble stirrer. Marlo is the perfect one for her.

balharbour
balharbour

Oh Kandi, I was so disappointed in your behavior tonight that I just had to comment.  Shame on you for attacking poor Kim again after all she did for you!  Kim Z made you relevant again (after decades of no one under 30 knowing who you were) in pop music by allowing you to produce a song (that you did not write) that became a big hit.  Rather than thanking her for revitalizing your career you took a route of hatred and back stabbing towards our beloved Kim and lost this former fan in the process.  I wonder how many other former  fans you lost with your ceaseless attacks on poor Kim after she did you a favor with Tardy for the Party.  And attacking her after she left the show with your Mom?  She always had your back and you always had a knife aimed at hers.  Shame on you Kandi Burress!

Iamahousewife
Iamahousewife

Kandi I love you so much. You are so pretty. I've ordered from your bedroom sex toy line. Speaking of sex toys and reuniting the fire in the bed room... . Looks like Ms. Leakes found another way to get the spark back in her sex life with Greg. I guess one dose of another woman being with your man will bring the sparkles back to any dead marriage. Maybe I should try that one myself.   I read online that Nene's husband Greg was caring on with another woman in Atlanta and then Nene found out and actually physically attacked the girl. Now I love Nene too but she wrong for that one. Good luck Kandi witt Todd he is sooooo sexy!  

smmb
smmb

Bottom line is Nene did say that once Kim gets what she wants and uses you up she's done with you and that is exactly what happened between you and Kim.

katmaggie
katmaggie

Kandi, you are my fav! You have class and true talent. I'm happy you found  a good man that will appreciate you. I know you don't let the drama get you down and that must take alot of effort!!! Thank you for being you! Your new home is sweet!!!

redgirl_2
redgirl_2

i'm just happy u got yourself a man....

AtlantaHousewives
AtlantaHousewives

Kandi, you know you need to quick for real because, you are stirring in the pot for real because you are always talking about Kim and you can't really talk about anyone really. And i feel that if NeNe wants to state her opinion on something she has the right to do that.  I have been watching the this show ever since it came on, so really you u can't talk about anyone. As they always said "THE POT CAN'T TALK ABOUT THE KETTLE"... Remember that one my dear!!!!!!!!!

Brownsa9577
Brownsa9577

kandi-- you got the most "sense". You and Phadre. Ever since Kim was on the show she wanted to be a wife-now that she IS. Leave her be. She wants to hang out with her family and her husband. Who can blame her? Give her a break!

bpster
bpster

I don't like Nene so I won't even get into that....Kandi you just keep it going I love your upbeat attitude. Congrats on the new boyfriend wishing you all the best!

GDukes
GDukes

Kandi you like stirring the pot

jules1019
jules1019

Kandi, no one is going to listen to you. Your focused on NeNe so much that you could not see what a looser Kenya is. Way to go inviting that Kenya Klown on Cynthia's trip. She completely made a fool of herself again. Stop bashing everyone else and open your eyes.

jatarakc
jatarakc

& I left out the fact that Kandi considers Phaedra a "friend" but @ all of Phaedra's events she's rolling her eyes & saying unnecessary & negative things. Clearly Kandi doesn't know the REAL meaning of a "friend".

jatarakc
jatarakc

Kandi has turned into the BIGGEST hater on the show. How can u say you're not HATING on NeNe when Phaedra said she worked out with NeNe, you was like "really?! Just months ago she didn't know you!" GET OVER IT KANDI! You play not both sides but ALL sides. You're like a teenager who wants her friends all to herself & can't hide her hate or jealousy for nothing in the world. smh... I used to like you but not anymore. Kandi is also doing the same thing with Kenya that she did with Marlo (tried to bring Marlo on to spite NeNe & unfortunately it failed), now I hope the same happens with Cynthia. But you & Kenya are sooo DESPERATE for a man & marriage & a child by that man so y'all could def be BFFs until Kenya goes after Todd of course! Do your thing Kandi & stop throwing salt @ EVERYBODY else!

ShiningStarr
ShiningStarr

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Kandi, why is it all of a sudden you can't stop talking about NeNe? You didn't talk about her like this last season or even the season before that. But now that her career has blown up, you can't stop talking about her. That indicates that either you are jealous of her or you can't stand the fact that now that NeNe has blew up she still won't befriend you and she makes you feel insignificant. You even when to the point of talking about her to Cynthia of all people, which says the way you feel about NeNe has become an obsession. You need to pump your breaks with NeNe because you are only making yourself look bad, especially when Kim is the one should be talking about.

 

Just to add that I can tell that something is really bothering you because you don't keep your appearance up anymore and you don't really seem happy and your attitude has changed. The clothes that you wear don't match and your hair looks unkept. I hope that your obession with NeNe hasn't gotten to you this much or if it has something to do with Todd. But I guess time will reveal what's really going on....

macnmac
macnmac

I agree Nene uses people and plays her game and you never know who she will turn on next but she will turn on someone and is far too opinionated and comes off too much like an angry person. She is always mad and fighting and tells lies too much about others. Notice also NeNe fights with people then later on down the road she decides she wants them to be her friend and don't understand why she gets the brush off and that is when she starts lying to cover for herself. Just like her husband --got mad threw him out divorced him now she is all over him--its how she works. Its like an abuser-they mistreat people then later want to kiss and make up after they hurt them and made them mad.  I understand exactly what Kandi is trying to say about NeNe --you cannot trust her cause she will turn on you about something.

tennielle
tennielle

Soooo being that Nene was throwing shade at you from the get your guarded, but being that Kim befriended you, got you to do a record for free, and jipped  you out of 2 songs, your not guarded with her. I like you Kandi but I think that people can understand the slight disdain you have for Nene, its the loyalty to Kim people dont understand. Including myself. A non-friend will throw shade, but a friend shouldnt be as underhanded as Kim has been with you. You as well throw shade at Nene so kill the innocent act

gina2066
gina2066

Kandi, you said everything NeNe does there's a motive to it!  How dumb do you sound?  Everything we all do we have motives... I go to work everyday because my motive is to get paid,  I go to school because my motive is to make more money, etc., etc,  Get a clue and stop hating so hard on NeNe, she is just a person trying to make it, like every else!

verona
verona

Taureans do not like drama and they will just play innocent when they are the ones that are guilty. She brought this chick because she wanted to see if they are classless like that white chick that was on the show.

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@Sylviastout She must be someone who falls head over heels for anyone who is able to give her any time....this guy moved to Atlanta for her?? Proves he had nothing going on where he was.......why isn't she attracting anyone who has made a name for himself?

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@db523 No Marlo put her in her place....when Kim disconnected, she had to attach on to someone and knew Phaedra liked the bzzzzzz of her line of products....so it made sense....I noticed that Kandi has one person at a time to collude with....she knew if she did not hit it off with Phaedra, she may not have enjoyed her time on the show and would have had no one to lunch with....Phaedra is her product test subject....whoa...works for her...lol

JazeenFly
JazeenFly

 @balharbour rofl @ the foolishness & lies that have rolled off your finger tips. Go check you stats. Kandi made KIM!! all Imma say bout dat!

 

scorpioQueen
scorpioQueen

 @balharbour

You cannot be serious!!! Kandi has always been a good friend to Kim and Kim in her usual fashion used Kandi to get ahead. Atleast she had a name for herself before the show, what did Kim have besides someone elses husband's $? Then look at the way Kim talked about Kandi's bought a & paid for mansion as she was getting booted out of her dream home she never could afford! If you think Kim is the ideal friend I feel sorry for your friends!!

luneeqDee
luneeqDee

 @balharbour

 lol this must be a joke. who made who relevant? who is Kim? KIm was only known as a goldigging mistress. Kandi did more work on the song than KIm would ever do in her lifetime. and let's be clear kim can't sng to save her life so Kandi did a miracle with her and she stole kandi's money. she will need it when Kroy wakes up from his dream and leave her with her crowd of children

Rozay912
Rozay912

 @Iamahousewife Sexy???He has a enormous head lmao. Kandi is always stirring the pot. Should follow Kim....NeNe does not need to be friends with her.

Nastybaby
Nastybaby

 @GDukes Yes, she does! Not only that, have you noticed that she is a horrible speaker?  She has no command of Standard English; she doesn't enunciate many of her words, uses poor grammar...ewe.  I noticed that people criticize Porsha for her slip-ups (and rightfully so), but  Kandi's about the worst one!  

 

...And no; I'm not a "hater" or anything as ridiculous as that.  Good for Kandi for being financially successful, but wealth isn't the only thing for which a person should be lauded.

heir2me
heir2me

 @jatarakc I don't think Kandi's said things she wouldn't say or hasn't said to the ladies faces. Just because how she says things on "confession" don't sound the same when she is actually talking to the person doesn't mean it's fake.  And I don't think her and Phaedra were super close last season. Ex: your friend has a dress you think is hideous, you may tell her you're simply not feeling the dress or don't like it, but when you describe the dress to your husband you might actually say it was hideous. Point Im making is sometimes, you have to make your point in a different way face to face (and with certain people) than you might otherwise because you just never know how the other person will react. By this time, I'm sure Kandi as no problem telling Phaedra she's  bougetto.

aarmau
aarmau

 @ShiningStarr ShiningStarr as i told someone earlier, I dont know what show you are watching. "blown up"? Kandi does not care about a wannabee actress with 2 supporting parts in tv shows!! She has been a grammy winning songwriter and force in the music business for her entire adult life!! And in the finance area, as both Kim and Kandi said on the reunion Kandi can buy and sell everyone on that stage put together!!! She is the only one on that show that is really rich. NeNe is new to the game. there are not a lot of roles for middle aged over fed black actresses in hollywood! NeNe better hold on to her seat. She might need to call Kandi in the future for a loan!! Poor thing she thinks that a few million dollars is RICH!

fan@0508
fan@0508

 @macnmac that's not true Kandi is just player hating on Ne-Ne. Look at some of the things Kandi allow Kim to do to her lets talk about that. Now do you remember when Ne-Ne interduced Kandi to Kim, Ne-Ne didn't think that Kandi who start mistreating her for Kim not did she Kandi was dead wrong for that. When Kandi allow Kim to do Ne-Ne like she did concerning that record deal (that Kandi herself didn't get paid for ) if Kandi like Ne-Ne then she wouldn't have let Kim mistreat Ne-Ne after all Kandi should have as a freind to Ne-Ne since Ne-Ne interduced them together, when Kim told Kandi that she didn't want Ne-Ne on the song Kandi as a friend. See the problem with Kandi is no matter how Kim treats her Kandi still kiss Kim's ass and that's a fact. after Kim took Kandi's money back from her Kandi still was like o.k. it's find just treat me any kind of way. Kandi I say make things better with Ne-Ne and make her a song by herself and both of you get paid. Because girl Kim saw you coming and when she did she saw Money signs all over you that's why Kim ran straight to the BANK with your money. Infact now that Kim isn't Kandi's friend anymore kandi need to take her to court and get her money.

Ceci2468
Ceci2468

I totally agree. It  just boggles the mind that Kandi can't see Kim for the user that she is.

Rhonu
Rhonu

 @gina2066

 She is trying to make it like everyone else! Exactly and I think that's the issue. Nene said on the reunion show that she feels that the other ladies don't think that she does anything or have anything. I feel that Kandi and especially Sheree think they are better than Nene and she does not deserve to be the breakout on the show. As so many people keep saying that Kandi has been in the business longer, Kandi is a self made millionaire, etc.

Isee
Isee

@FlutterBy Maybe real fame makes a person want to be with a regular.

Socialebritey_SF
Socialebritey_SF

@Nastybaby@GDukes

 You are so incredibly correct.

 

NeNe is the standard which all others should aspire towards. The command of social grace, the elegance in speech, the manner in which she carries herself. These attributes alone, they turn the heads of dignitaries and powerful people in media, not to mention the incredibly lucid Donald Trump.

 

Don't get me started on her TV stardom, the Oscars and Emmy's will be next, and no doubt the melodious sound of her voice in everyday speech, it would be insulting if they did not give her a grammy for it.

 

SweetHarts
SweetHarts

 @aarmau  @ShiningStarr THEN SHE SHOULD STFU WITH ALL THE SHADE SHE'S THROWING, HOW HIGH SCHOOL IS THAT!!!

 

IT'S HER BEHAVIOR THAT'S QUESTIONABLE AND THE FAN'S ARE JUST TYING TO FIGURE IT OUT CAUSE IT MAKES NO SINCE TO MOST OF US AT ALL... 

Rozay912
Rozay912

 @sinsin  @mystrece I totally agree! Look at Kandi's relationship with her Mother....she can easily make Kandi feel looooow. The manipulation started there.