Cast Blog: #RHOA

The Kash Debate

Kandi answers your questions about being late to NeNe's dinner and the conflict with Kim over the name Kash.

Well last night’s episode was another episode that had Twitter on fire! LOL! I had so many people asking me what’s up with me and NeNe. They were telling me how horrible we were for showing up late to NeNe’s event and so on and so on. It seemed like people were mad at me for ALL OF US being late.



OK let me just share my opinion about the situation. First off, yes, it’s wrong to be super late to a dinner. I know that. There is no excuse to be that late. I’m not saying it is cool for us to be that late. We all (except for Cynthia) typically have a problem with being on time, including NeNe. I can recall many times when NeNe has showed up super late to different things we were doing, so that’s why I was surprised that she was snapping so hard. When she said on the phone that she wanted us to turn around and not come, I was OK with that. I can’t remember whose bright idea it was to go over there anyway. We were rolling as a group, so if that’s what they wanted to do, then fine, but we all were tired and hungry (not just me, but I was the most vocal about it). We had a five hour flight that got us to LA smack in the middle of rush hour traffic. It took over two hours to get to the house NeNe rented for us. When we got to the house, there wasn’t anything to eat there. We still had to wait on Phaedra to get there before we left for NeNe’s house. NeNe waited with us a little while before she even went back home. She couldn’t have left before 8:30 for what was a 9:00 dinner, so she knew we would be late. Nonetheless there’s a major difference being an hour late and being three hours late.

I didn’t even change clothes, because I was ready to go. I have no idea what took so long, but it wasn’t me this time. I remember it took Phaedra a while to get there and that was the main reason for the wait, but other than that I can’t recall what took us so long to leave. By the time we did leave I was STARVING.  When I’m hungry I get moody, silly acting, and my patience is super short. When we got to her house and saw her waiting outside to go off on us, I was like really? Why are we standing here and begging this woman to let us in her house? This is stupid! Even though we were late, I did feel like she could’ve still let us come in. I would have let them in if it were me. When I was walking over and peeping in the window, I was being silly. My point was if I came all this way to see you, then I need to see something dammit! LOL!  But when I saw that some of the guests were still there, it pissed me off. At that point I felt like she was trying to show out on us in front of her LA friends. If it was over and everyone was gone, OK cool, but if people are still here, why can’t we come in? So I was done looking like a fool in her driveway, and I was ready to go find something to eat at that point. Looking back the best thing to do would have been to go straight to NeNe’s house after we got to LA and just let Phaedra meet us there. Then we wouldn’t have been late, NeNe wouldn’t have been mad, and I wouldn’t have been hungry! LOL! But that would’ve been too much like right, and we just don’t like to do it the right way…


OK the other topic that everyone was tweeting about was when I said Kim stole the name Kash. Kim was tweeting stupid B.S. that of course people retweeted to me, so that I could see it. I think I explained this before, but I’ll briefly touch on it again. For many years I used to always keep a list of names for if I had any future kids. Kash was one of the names. When Todd and I started dating, just like many people do, we talked about if we ever had kids what we would name them, and Kash is the one name we agreed on. Although you see me saying we were going to name our kid Kash because we bought our house in cash, which really wasn’t the reason we picked the name. It was a joke. Not the part about buying the house in cash, that is true, just the part about why we chose that name. Anyway, after moving into the new house we would tell everyone that came to visit when I would give them the tour of the house that “This is going to be Kash’s room” when I would take them to this one particular bedroom upstairs.  I would say it EVERYTIME… People would make jokes about it. Kim came over to my house and I could’ve sworn that just like with everyone else I told her about Kash’s room. So when I had heard she had the baby and that she named him Kash, I felt like that was not cool for her to use the same name I had been going on and on about, and I wondered why would she take my idea. I was not the only one who felt that way. I got so many calls and texts from other people who know us both on the day she announced her child’s name. They also thought she took it from me and that it was not cool. It’s not that people can’t use the same names, I think it was more the principle of the whole thing that bothered me. My thoughts were that when I gave her the tour of my house, why didn’t she mention that she wanted to use that name for her son too if she already had that idea. Well, since then a mutual friend said that Kim had mentioned the name to her before, and that she really believes Kim didn’t get it from me. So I have to ask myself, did I not mention to Kim the whole “Kash’s room” idea when I gave her the tour of my house? Had I not told her about my list of names as I have told so many other friends? I guess it could be possible that I didn’t, but it would be hard to believe, because I could have sworn we said it to EVERYBODY that we gave the tour to, and it’s not like Kash is a common name. At least I didn’t think so. That would be weird to think that Kim and I think that much alike…

I’m over it now. It doesn’t even matter anymore. It’s her child’s name and that’s fine. I know people think it’s silly to come up with names for kids you don’t have yet, but I’m sure I’m not the only person who plans for the future with someone they love. Well, although the whole debate about the name is null and void to me (as well as pointless), I do have to bring up one thing said by Kim. Kim tweeted that she wants Andy to bring a lie detector test to the reunion so that we can see who is lying about Kash’s name. I don’t get the part about seeing who’s lying about the name, because clearly I didn’t get the name from Kim. The only question is whether she just so happened to think of the same name or if she got it from me. Which doesn’t even matter. BUT I think Kim has a great idea with this whole bringing a lie detector to the reunion! I would love to add more questions to the list for Kim to see if she would pass… I find it strange that someone who’s always been described as a big liar, even by her own parents, would suggest bringing a lie detector test to the reunion. Girl, you are setting yourself up for failure! Even though Kim and I are not on the best of terms, I wouldn’t even wish that on her. Can you imagine the can of worms that would open up if they bring a lie detector to the reunion? If all the alleged lies from Season 1 until now were able to be confirmed or disputed? Hmm… I bet she would lie her way out of taking the test if that happened! LOL!

Did you guys get to see the commercial for my new show The Kandi Factory? I’m so excited about it! It airs April 9th at 10pm. I hope that you tune in and please spread the word!

Also, my single Stay Prayed Up is available now. Here are the links:

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Much love,
Kandi

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Claudia: Some People Have a Vendetta

Claudia Jordan shares her thoughts on the group therapy session.

Bravotv.com: Did you feel like progress was made at the therapy session?
Claudia Jordan: I do and I don't. The main people that needed it were not willing participants. One took off because she couldn't deal with hearing about how her actions affected the rest of the ladies. And the other that stayed, well… she received apology after apology without ever acknowledging any of her own wrong doing. That's not right at all. How is it that the woman on the receiving end of a physical attack has apologized to her assailant on several occasions, yet she has yet to show any remorse? That's downright insane to me! At the end of the day, there are lots of situations in this group where one can claim they were "provoked," and if the response/excuse every single time was physical violence, we'd all be in jail! And the sad thing is in this particular environment I felt that everyone else there was really ready to do the work and participate. So if ever there was a time to drop the ego and do the right thing and apologize simply for the purpose of starting the healing process for the group, then that was the time. Some people are just too stubborn and refuse to humble themselves. That happens when you are babied your entire life -- you feel like you can do no wrong. The rest of the ladies (including myself) however have all apologized and taken responsibility for contributing to the discord. But just pay attention to who never apologizes and who always does. I do not think that is because one "group" has been causing all the negativity in the group. But I do think that is because some have an agenda and a vendetta, while the other group is actually trying to make things cool and move on.


But on the flip side I will say that therapy was beneficial. In that one session we did get some good guidance from Dr. Jeff, who I would like to apologize to on behalf of the group for how he was mistreated. He came to help us and was insulted, disrespected, and his professionalism was questioned, which he did not deserve. So Dr. Jeff, I am sorry for how you were mistreated. The session did just highlight that some of us are mature and able to speak respectfully to one another, even if we have an issue with them, and some just cannot stand the sight and sound of someone we have decided not to like just because. All in all we did the best we could, and everyone who stayed did seem to really want to get along. And things were definitely better at work after the session. We were cordial and friendly.

Bravotv.com: Why did you decide to meet with Dr. Jeff one-on-one?
CJ: I have never, ever once claimed to be perfect or without flaws. And when I say I want to really resolve things, I am not just offering lip service -- I really mean it. If there is something that I am doing wrong that is contributing to any of the strife amongst the group, then I'd like to address it and do my part to work on me. I think most of us have issues with others because of past hurts that we perhaps never really dealt with and that cause us to act out in certain ways that may bother others. I am not saying I do this necessarily, but I have no problems talking to someone to at least try to be a better person. I for sure have made my share of mistakes and have experienced a lot of pain and disappointment in my life, but I've also been extremely blessed. But at the end of the day, my intention is always to grow and learn from it all and to be a better woman today than I was yesterday. Dr. Jeff is great at what he does and was for sure an asset to the group. Thank you, Doctor!

Bravotv.com: Did you and Porsha manage to get back to a better place?
CJ: It seemed that way. But I had made the decision that regardless of whether or not she was going to continue the peace treaty, that I was going to do my part to keep it cool, polite, and cordial. And so far so good.

Again I'd like to thank the fans for all their support and love and enthusiasm for #RHOA! I was in Miami Beach and Miami Gardens with the morning show this past weekend for Jazz in the Gardens, and the love I got from all the fans of the show was next level! I was truly flattered and humbled, and I will never let any of this get to my head and change me. I'm grateful to be a part of this and for all the amazing opportunities that keep sprouting from this. I just wrapped a movie called The Hills that I have a lead role in, which will be out in the fall, as well as another film called Love is Not Enough. I'm also working on a product line (to be announced soon) and more calls have been coming in from Hollywood for more great acting roles. I also had a great time with my girls in Miami and ran into a bunch of awesome people doing their thing that love the show too! I feel so rested and at peace. I'm healthy, happy, and appreciative. #ThankYouGod

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