Kandi Burruss

Kandi answers your questions about being late to NeNe's dinner and the conflict with Kim over the name Kash.

on Mar 4, 20130

Anyway, after moving into the new house we would tell everyone that came to visit when I would give them the tour of the house that “This is going to be Kash’s room” when I would take them to this one particular bedroom upstairs.  I would say it EVERYTIME… People would make jokes about it. Kim came over to my house and I could’ve sworn that just like with everyone else I told her about Kash’s room. So when I had heard she had the baby and that she named him Kash, I felt like that was not cool for her to use the same name I had been going on and on about, and I wondered why would she take my idea. I was not the only one who felt that way. I got so many calls and texts from other people who know us both on the day she announced her child’s name. They also thought she took it from me and that it was not cool. It’s not that people can’t use the same names, I think it was more the principle of the whole thing that bothered me. My thoughts were that when I gave her the tour of my house, why didn’t she mention that she wanted to use that name for her son too if she already had that idea. Well, since then a mutual friend said that Kim had mentioned the name to her before, and that she really believes Kim didn’t get it from me. So I have to ask myself, did I not mention to Kim the whole “Kash’s room” idea when I gave her the tour of my house? Had I not told her about my list of names as I have told so many other friends? I guess it could be possible that I didn’t, but it would be hard to believe, because I could have sworn we said it to EVERYBODY that we gave the tour to, and it’s not like Kash is a common name. At least I didn’t think so. That would be weird to think that Kim and I think that much alike…

I’m over it now. It doesn’t even matter anymore. It’s her child’s name and that’s fine. I know people think it’s silly to come up with names for kids you don’t have yet, but I’m sure I’m not the only person who plans for the future with someone they love.

231 comments
binkydinky
binkydinky

Baby names can be incredibly private and about the family, hence why stealing someones baby name is just the height of rude! When I was pregnant I thought of one person who was a huge influence on me and my daughter was middle named after her :) Phe was always an Ophelia as she rocks!!

 

 

If I have any future kids? Jared, Jacob or Joshua for boys, girls? dunno...but I dont plan on any more kids just now!!

mystic29
mystic29

I'm from UK and I love the show but unfortunatey we are well behind, the season we are on is Kim is just about to have her first son is this the one she callled Kash?

Papirazzi
Papirazzi

you are the most standup housewife in atlanta.  your achievements reflect the successes you have made for yourself.  i know you ain't trippin bout kim ---- shes a big liar.

balharbour
balharbour

Suing Kim won't change the fact that your biggest hit in a decade came from her mouth and not yours - poor Kandi!

BadPerm
BadPerm

Three hours late for a dinner party or anything else for that matter is rude, inconsiderate and inexcusable.  This seems to be a habit with many of you on this show. 

Nikki2389
Nikki2389

I agree with you when you said that Nene had a right to be upset with you guys, but she did still have people at the dinner. Her whole argument for not letting you guys in was because it was late, and she had to get up in the morning. If it was so late to have company, then why not kick out the guest that were there as well? But you all knew you were wrong! As for Kim, at the rate she is going she is not going to have anyone to depend on pretty soon, because she has messed over everybody(including her own parents). She never takes responsibility for anything. Now that she has her own show, all of a sudden she don't need any of you anymore. No matter how successful you become, you will always need a real friend. Not ones that you pay aka Sweetie!

msmuse2
msmuse2

Kandi Burruss It's times like this I wish I could pick up the phone and drop some wisdom on a sister...probably the same wisdom your mom would impart but coming from someone other than "Mom" makes it easier to hear. Well, "Your Big Sis", my BLOG name when I blog, would say, "If you want to name a future son Kash, DO IT! People enter our lives for a season. Considering the direction her life is moving compared to yours, by the time you decide to grow your family, Kim will be the last person on the planet you will be thinking about. She has shown you who she is and unfortunately, I don't see an asset on your side of the ledger that is a direct or indirect result the 'relationship' I have seen play out on television from the beginning of The Real Housewives of Atlanta". Move on without a backward glance! One final point, regarding your talent search, I reached out to you by way of your agent via ImdbPro. Please check in with them and if possible reach out to be by the end of March. I would like to offer suggestions in two areas that will set you apart from the mundane talent searches being launched almost daily and ways to tap into that passion artist often don't know how to articulate. Looking forward to a brief conversation about the talent search. Respectfully, "Your Big Sis".

darkhours1
darkhours1

I had the name for my daughter when I was 6 years old.  We had a wonderful, smart, funny babysitter named Jackie and I decided I would name my daughter Jackie after her because she was such an inspiration to me at a tender young age.  And I wanted my daughters name to be Jackie, to be called by Jackie at school, etc.  Officially, we had to write Jacqueline on the birth certificate but we always called her Jackie.  When I was in high school, I decided to name a son, should I have one, Glen Michael for reasons I won"t continue to wax on about to you kind readers.  Point is, it does happen that children's names can be fixed upon long before a pregnancy.  This note is in response to the questions posed by some people about whether people pick names before a child is even conceived.  Yes, and more often than people think on the surface.  Think about how many names, culturally are already predetermined like in the Greek culture -- 1st born son is after the paternal father, 1st daughter is after the paternal mother. Certainly this is not a hard and fast rule but these naming traditions still exist.

birdie30
birdie30

UGGHH....last night's episode was icky overall.

QuePsiPhi
QuePsiPhi

Kandi, Guess what?  I will bet you a cheeseburger, that someone had the name Kandi before your mama named you Kandi.  So my question to you is, did your mother steal it from them?  Kandi, leave that foolishness alone its just a name.  I'm sure you have stepped in deeper puddles don't be so shallow.  Much love, now go write another song!

Amanda18
Amanda18

Kandi,

 

I love your duet song "I Stay Prayed Up" (I hope that's the right name.) is awesome!  I can see why your father was so proud of you.  It seems like song writing is so effortless for you.  I had missed a lot of the Atlanta Housewives, so I watched from around 5:pm - 9:pm yesterday.  I see some people say you are complaining about  Nene not letting you guys into her house.  I agree with her not letting you guys into her house at midnight, but wasn't Nene 2 hours late to her own party where Kim was trying to leave?  I don't think you are a complainer, I just think you speak your mind unlike Cynthia who looks like the cat that swallowed a canary.  I'd rather have the realness.  I've noticed that Phaedra brings sex into everything like the continuous talk about her "donkey booty," her boobs, etc. and almost every conversation she has.  I couldn't figure out why you guys went to a girl strip club and made such a huge deal out of it.  I think strip clubs are pretty nasty to begin with.  Plus, I don't really enjoy seeing people's crotches and butts shaking around.  I'm pretty open minded too, but I think strip clubs are nasty.  It seems like you ladies would have had much more fun if you went out to dinner and then dancing. 

pinktiger
pinktiger

Kandi, why is it that everytime Kenya & Phaedra have words, you always seems to open your mouth like your are Phaedra's bodyguard. Mind you own business!! OH, THE LAST THING YOU NEED TO DO IS ARGUE & GET ANGRY OVER FOOD AND BEING HUNGRY. KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED WHEN IT COMES TO FOOD AND GETTING INTO OTHER PEOPLE'S BUSINESS!!!!!

Gingertee21
Gingertee21

I never thought that I would say this but you talk way to much sometimes There was reason for you to elaborate on what Cordell expects from his wife because it is the business of no  one there. Not everyone wants to see a woman take it off.

charlie@company
charlie@company

Khandi......the girls were looking quite bored @ your sex toy party!!!! But I must say that your home is looking fly on the next episode!!!!! You even dressed-up in Black, White, & Red to match the decor.....you go Ms. "Prayed-Up"!!!!!!!!!

macnmac
macnmac

No on can steal a name cause you don't own it. 

Diamonddebbie66
Diamonddebbie66

Kandi I'm jut glad you're not being so damn messy this season. 

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

Kandi, don't get so hung up on Kim stealing your future child's name anymore because she's envious of you and your success.  She's trying to compete with you, but losing a mile a minute. Keep doing you and don't get caught up in her mess or the messes of other women.  It makes you look bad.  Keep doing you.

msmuse2
msmuse2

It's times like this I wish I could pick up the phone and drop some wisdom on a sister...probably the same wisdom your mom would impart but coming from someone other than "Mom" makes it easier to hear. Well, "Your Big Sis", my BLOG name when I blog, would say, "If you want to name a future son Kash, DO IT! People enter our lives for a season. Considering the direction her life is moving compared to yours, by the time you decide to grow your family, Kim will be the last person on the planet you will be thinking about. She has shown you who she is and unfortunately, I don't see an asset on your side of the ledger that is a direct or indirect result the 'relationship' I have seen play out on television from the beginning of The Real Housewives of Atlanta". Move on without a backward glance! One final point, regarding your talent search, I reached out to you by way of your agent via ImdbPro. Please check in with them and if possible reach out to be by the end of March. I would like to offer suggestions in two areas that will set you apart from the mundane talent searches being launched almost daily and ways to tap into that passion artist often don't know how to articulate. Looking forward to a brief conversation about the talent search. Respectfully, "Your Big Sis".

MizzouTraveler
MizzouTraveler

The dinner / cocktail party was for 9.  By the time, the honored guests showed up at 12, wasn't just rude but was more than likely the time it would've been wrapped up at the latest.  Caterers are expensive etc. Nene was also gracious enough to find them amazing accommodations etc on her dime.  But whatever............

Debi4fun
Debi4fun

Kim did not steal the name Ka$h from anyone.  let's face it Kim was pregnant and she had a Son and named him Ka$h.  There is no reason what so ever you can't name your Son IF you have a Son Ka$h also.  It is not like she is your Sister.  I know my Niece named her Son the same name as my Brother named his Son so years have gone by and no drama.  They are blood related cousins and love having the same name.

DJ1023
DJ1023

I understand NeNe being upset. I would have been too. BUT.......she should get over it. If she has been late to your events I call that Karma. Just sayin!

CrzyDiamond
CrzyDiamond

Kandi, Kandi, Kandi.....STOP making excuses & blaming everyone for your poor behaviour. If you were hungry while waiting for Phaedra,,ORDER A PIZZA.  Im sooooooo disappointed in you, you acted like a 5 yr. old. And your comment about going back to the house that NeNe rented for you...classless. Get your butt straight girl, I needf you to be my favorite again.

WrightsvilleBeachHousewife
WrightsvilleBeachHousewife

Kandi, I don't care how tired, hungry or whatever you are. You behaved SO badly at NeNe's and in the interview that you should be ashamed of yourself and hope that your daughter doesn' see how rude you were. To be that late to someone's home is inexcusable. Period. How rude to the hostess. How would you have felt if you had gotten ready for everyone and then waited 3 hours +? Not much like making them a snack, I would imagine. You should have apologized. And you still aren't. That speaks volumes about your character. Won't be watching the new show. Glad your porn line in doing well and your are engaged. Keep that up, 'cause you sure aren't "movin' on up".

 

Pearlz
Pearlz

Kandi, you have always been one of my favorite housewives....grounded, talented and with success and money that YOU worked hard for and deserve.  I hope that everyone saw the dinner incident as a teaching moment.  EACH person is to blame and several of you have talked about going to the house after NeNe said don't come...with you and others going along with the crowd.  Cynthia said she was on time and was 'taking one for the group.'   Each of you are adult women who can think for herself...sounds a little childish I hate to say.   A big question for me....you said there was no food at the place NeNe rented...where did all the food come from that Kenya was cooking the next morning?

Purple86
Purple86

One of the things I like about Kand is that she is truly down to earth and engages in real "girl talk" with these ladies as if they are her real friends. No, she does not have a patent, copyright etc on the name, Kash. But expressing frustration that someone she befriended "stole" her baby name is simple, fun girl talk. Keep doing you Kandi.

C.Hawkins225
C.Hawkins225

Kandi, as talented as you are you still remain common. In that I mean when you knoe better you do better. Why would you call out how many times anybody else was late, You were extreamley late! That;s not cool and it was very disrespectful to your host. It doesn;t matter how much money was spent on you ladies. I would also like to say how hard it is to see my black sisters still actibg stupid! Not even woman enought to say" You know we are wrong and we are sorry" Your trying to justify yourself! You have to much money to behave so COMMON!  Get your act together Kandi and get some class about yourself! Real Talk!!!

BrooklynBravo
BrooklynBravo

People cant steal a baby name. A) you didn't create name Kash B) real babies

trump imagery babies. C) if the name means that much to you use it any way

CarmenE
CarmenE

Kandi, one of your problems is you LOVE to dish it out but then you can't take it.  You stir up more trouble then anyone on the show. 

Amanda18
Amanda18

Where do some of these people learn English?  It's kind of funny but shockingly bad at the same time.  Kandi, you are my favorite Atlanta Housewife because you are real, intelligent and funny.  My daughter and I met you at a BrandsMart which was way outside of Atlanta.  You were so kind to everybody even though it was late in the day.  You were taking pictures with people and signing autographs.  You never lost your smile!

Mrsbb
Mrsbb

I bet you will just cry like you did about the song . When Kim would not pay you. And say again it okay . You want get messy with her . Like you done with other's you and Phaedra . You two always do underhanded stuff . The way you two did with Marlo . After she said that you was a big mama .You acted like someone sent you her mugshot . To put it out there. You did the same thing with Sheree . You and Phaedra went to her houses to show that it was nothing there . You two always are messy . With other can't wait for the reunion show . To see how fast you cry when Kim get on you . And watch you cry it going to be so good and funny

msmuse2
msmuse2

@balharbour ...really? That's the best you could come up with? Before pressing the "send" key, cool off and come back to it later because your response was clearly an emotional one. I don't know either of these women, however being a part of the entertainment industry or for that matter any legitimate business, the proof is in the bottom line...bottom line as in accounting/business. In addition to character, compare revenues generated by these women...dollar to dollar, year to year; (you pick the year/s) then return to the discussion. I recognize American curricula no longer requires passing "ethics" be a condition of being graduated from high school but your position strongly supports that argument!

721parker
721parker

If the record had gone out exactly the way Kim sang it that would have been a disaster. She can't sing and Kandi and her crew worked miracles.

BrooklynBravo
BrooklynBravo

 @darkhours1 I don't think there is anything wrong with picking a name before conception. But the issue comes about when people think they have a monopoly on names and that it should be banned from anyone in their circle. Which to me is ridiculous. First of all, someone can't even guarantee 100% that they are going to be able to conceive. And if you can, what if they never have that son or daughter that they planned on? Should that name now be off limits to friends and family because someone called dibs?

lovelymimi
lovelymimi

 @QuePsiPhi But, if you tell a close freind what you are planning to name your furture child and that same freind names their baby that same exact name.... Come on now, that would upset anyone.

QuePsiPhi
QuePsiPhi

 @Gingertee21 I agree Kandi didn't have to elaborate on the issue, for that matter no one did.  However,  Porsha comes off looking stupid as hell.  I'm 42 year old man and i can tell you that Kordell is controlling the heck out of Porsha.  She will never grow with his thumb on her neck.  How does this sound, "he expects me to be home when he gets there."  Really!  Real men want real women not puppets.  She is a 25 year old girl who has never had her own and does not know what it means to be an independent self made woman and if she continues to allow Kordell to treat her that way she will never know that feeling.  Its actually scary.  She actually said: "he let me."  I was like oh my damn!  This isn't 1945 women have evolved.  Grow up Porsha and put your big girl panties on.  Say what you want about Kenya, but she is here own woman with her own shyt and she doesn't answer to a man.  Oh by the way this is coming from a man perspective.

QuePsiPhi
QuePsiPhi

 @Diamonddebbie66 Part 2,  Kenya is did with Pheadra and Apollo what you should have done with Kim,  Kenya, like her or not is a business woman who knows her worth and expects to be compensated for her efforts.  I can't blame her for that.  We all know it takes money to make money and Pheadra and Apollo wanted something for little of nothing and that's not the real world. 

 

Case in point, Pheadra tried to have this bullshyt casting call at the Bailey Agency without brokering a deal with Cynthia,  What did Cynthia do?  She promptly stopped that mess and canceled that sloppy message the casting call that Pheadra put out over twitter and FB.  Cynthia wasted no time explaining to Pheadra that she was going to be paid for the casting call and that things were going to be handled a certain way. 

 

My issue with you is,  you have all of a sudden become this big supporter of Pheadra, and it has made you come much like Cynthia looks when she is running up behind NeNe.  Don't get me wrong, I don't agree with some of Kenya's antics i.e how she handled herself at the party you threw for your new beau.  I agree there is a time and a place for everything, and your party was not the time nor the place.  However, I will say this for Kenya,  right, wrong or indifferent she is uniquely Kenya and she makes no apologies for who she is.  and she keeps it 100 even when its messy.

 

Get back to being the Kandi that we all loved in your first two seasons.  Distance yourself for Pheadra she is hella messy and two faced and liar.  Much love sista, I just had to give you a piece of my mind.

QuePsiPhi
QuePsiPhi

 @Diamonddebbie66 Are you serious? This is Kandi's Messiest season yet.  Not that she should or would give a damn about what I think but I'm going to give her a piece of my mind anyway.  Kandi when you first started the show I loved your character. You always kept things classy, you stayed out of the drama.  You would listen to people and only offer your opinion when asked.  You were level headed and calm even when Nene was tripping with you.  I became an instant fan and I was relieved to fine a likeable, real down to earth character on the show. 

 

Now, your all on Pheadra's tip and I'm like wow really!  I hate to tell you this but you are coming off two faced and insincere.  I will give you an example of what I mean.  decided to side with Pheadra over this workout video thing before you knew what the facts were.  You are in the music business, you know all about the business aspect of things i.e contracts, distribution deals, production cost etc.  In Kenya's defense she put countless hours of work on for Pheadra and Apollo, who were clearly trying to get something for nothing and did not want to pay Kenya what she was worth. 

 

You felt the same way about Kim a few season ago when she did not share any of the proceeds from tardy for the party with you or the ring didn't mean a thing.  You were pissed at how Kim handled things from a business aspect and it later soured your relationship with her. 

imarelic100
imarelic100

 @MizzouTraveler

I think if Nene had truly cared about making her guests 'comfortable', she would have ACCOMMODATED *them* and allowed for their rest after an obnoxiously LONG day of travel to come see her - INSTEAD of just trying to SHOW OFF with her fancy dinner (WHO, btw, has a FORMAL dinner at 9PM?)

That 'dinner' was ALL aout Nene's EGO - NOT her generosity!

imarelic100
imarelic100

 @WrightsvilleBeachHousewife

Nene was acting her usual self-centered, arrogant self.

Kandi has been established as an artist for YEARS and I can just imagine how silly some of Kandi's friends and associates thought Nene was for being so PHONY for the cameras.

Believe me, if Ryan Murphy traveled cross-country to see Nene and was late, you think she would have 'showed her ass' as she did?

michelle.lucas.3150
michelle.lucas.3150

Remember everyone. Money don't buy you class. There are people in this world with much less of a bank account, but more class.

Nikki2389
Nikki2389

 @Amanda18  "Where do some of these people learn English?" LOL! It cracks me up how people can get so nasty, but can't properly articulate sentences! LOL!

imarelic100
imarelic100

 @Mrsbb

How can you compare the truly talented and authenic Kandi with that felon Marlo? I mean, my GOD?

Marlo was (and is) an ALL TIME LOW for ATL - almost completely destroying the show!

SunShyne_in_Florida
SunShyne_in_Florida

 @Mrsbb

 

Good points.  Regardless of Kandi claiming to be doing her thing and making money, Kandi is a follower, not a leader, just like Nene stated.   

Gingertee21
Gingertee21

 @QuePsiPhi

 It isn't 1945 and I agree with Nene that I believe Porsha has dreams, but that doesn't mean that she doesn't want the life she has. There is nothing like seeing yourself on TV to get an idea of how you come across and maybe watching themselves will help Porsha and Cordell. Miss Kandi sure apologized this week, even Nene (queen of often ridiculous comments cooled it a bit) I am pulling for them even though some of the others watch themselves and remain clueless.  I don't  think that Porsha always comes out looking stupid. On many occasions, we have seen Porsha stand and speak on her own behalf and she does very well. She may not always be able to put her thoughts into words and her thoughts get a bit muddled but  she'll figure it out. One thing is for certain, a few of the girls on there seem to have a problem with how well Porsha lives and they should get over it.

lynda.drummings
lynda.drummings

 @QuePsiPhi  @Gingertee21 Yes, I agree but Kenya is also alone wanting a man in her life. Porsha has that and is happy with it. As she has stated on more than one occasion, she wants to be a housewife. She said she has always wanted to be a housewife. So I take that as her being happy with where she is in her life. Everyone does not want the corporate life style. She comes from money and she married money. I am sure if she wanted to do something else, she could. If Kordell decides to walk away today, she can still survive financially on her own which is why I think she is just looking to have a family right now and later she will decide if she should pursue something else. Let her have her fun! She is still young.

lynda.drummings
lynda.drummings

 @QuePsiPhi  @Diamonddebbie66 I think you are so wrong about Kandi. Phaedra was not going to do anything for free. Phaedra say she will pay her just not what she was asking. Every business person knows there is an negotiating process when dealing with any contract. Kenya did not like the deal and neither did Phaedra. What is wrong with saying NO to any deal you feel is bad? Nothing! Kenya took that NO to another level and stole the idea to make a point and then tried to make it out to look like it was Phaedra's fault as to why she stole it. Makes no sense at all. So in Phaedra's defense, Kenya should have moved on and not turn this into a showdown between the two. I think Kandi, as a business women, saw that and refuse to back it. I am a business women and is highly offended at Kenya for taking the idea and making it her own. It could happen to any of us and we should never honor or condone such actions. Especially women who are looking to be successful or who are already successful.   

angel22
angel22

@imarelic100 @WrightsvilleBeachHousewife Say what you want but Nene has calmed down a lot and became very successful. The house she rented for them was beautiful and she had a right to be upset. The people the hamburgular saw were the caters packing and cleaning up. Nene is not on drugs, not robbing or stealing from anyone therefore it would hurt to be happy for her.

Amanda18
Amanda18

 @Nikki2389  @Amanda18

 I know.  Sometimes I will be on the Oprah site reading some of the comments about how Oprah is a hypocrite or how she never says the word God.  Then you listen to one of her talks and she says God the whole way through it.  I just love Oprah and Kandi because they are very honest.  Honesty is big with me.

angel22
angel22

@lynda.drummings @QuePsiPhi @Diamonddebbie66 She didn't have to copy copy Phaedra but it was clear to me that Phaedra wanted something for free. Do you remember her telling Kendra that Kandi's fiancé would do some for FREE?