Hello everybody! This week’s episode was the cause of much controversy and debate for me. It all circled around the decision to do my gospel song Stay Prayed Up. I knew when I decided to do it that a lot of people would be shocked, since I often talk about sex, have an adult toy line (Bedroom Kandi), and host a sex and relationships internet show (Kandi Koated Nights). I knew that some people would give me the side eye, but I didn’t know that it would be to this extreme. When the episode prior to this one aired, which first showed me mentioning that I wanted to do a gospel song, I got so many angry tweets. Can you believe a woman actually tweeted me and said, “Bitch you can’t praise my God”? I was like wow… People always said that the worst things to debate or bring up are politics and religion. Well whoever made that statement knew exactly what they were talking about!
Thank God I don’t let things get to me. I’m a very open and honest person. I say what I want to say when I want to say it. If I feel like doing something, I do it. I felt that I wanted to do this song, so I did, and I’m glad I did. This song is my testimony. I’ve been through things in my life that would break some people down, but I push through it and I try not to wallow in my sorrows, because I have a daughter and I never want her to see me brake down. I pray every day. I’m not the poster child of what you might envision as a religious woman, and I know that, but I come from a religious family.
Why is there so many excuses for being disobedient to what God requires of u as Women. I feel embarassed when I watch women who say they Stay Prayed Up....but the fruit of the Spirit is not present in any of the women of RHOA. Please...somebody be brave enough to raise a standard, because that is when God really can make u successful!!!
Kandi you my girl and you do you don't worry about the HATERS even the ones in the church because GOD will take care of their judgements
What I think is so interesting is how others judge so.. I don't recall Christ hanging out a lot with the polished religious few. He used many to his glory that society labeled "deviant types". I have a close friend that the world would have labeled 'deviant type' who's music reaches those not found in the polished pews of a church setting. @Aziza wears her diva heels, clothes and make-up when ministering to the crowds sharing her story of how she used to party all night AND still got up Sunday morning and went to church. She would go in one way with liquor vapors still on her breath, her fish net hose and mini high skirt BUT come out completely changed by the anointing she received being in the presence of the KING. She did this for years until one day sipping on a glass of E&J the night before church lost its luster so she stayed home. Aziza has had her ups and downs, heartaches and deviant moments but through it all she has stayed true to her God even when her lifestyle and music has been labeled and perceived by others as not quite fitting for the house of our God. In the meantime people from all walks of life around the country are flocking to her music ministry in droves. Why? Because she is 'real' people with 'real' life choices and issues but still hungry for change. Still hungry for a Savior. Still hungry for our God to make sense out of their complex/complicated lives. My words to Kandi is to keep on, pressing on. None who judge has the power or authority to say to you "Well done thy good and faithful servant".... Just 'Do You' as He, in His infinite wisdom, created you to be... People are fickle so don't die over an insult or live for a compliment because tomorrow they will change their minds. .... JDear
Hi Kandi... I really don't have anything negative to say about your gospel song "Prayed Up." I liked that you included Marvin Sapp on it - that was a very smart move for many reasons. You go girl (Martin!). LOL! I am glad that you understand that people will be negative and they will find all kinds of ways to tear you down, but only God can judge your heart, Kandi.
I think you are the bomb! And that house? Girl you got it going on! And that man? Child... he is too cute! And your daughter? She is a precious angel. And your mama? Do what you can to make her happy!
Keep your head up Kandi!!!
Many "saints" often forget that they have a past, and that they haven't been saved their entire lives. The good news is that you are rich, so you can afford not to care what anybody thinks about you. Plus, that gospel song is one of the best things I've heard from you as a solo artists. Not that I didn't like the other music, but I could tell you really left your heart and soul in the studio on this track. The "true" Christians should be proud of you and this song because it shows that no matter what you do in life you can still give GOD the glory and praise. Plus, it shows that despite all your success you still recognize how good GOD is which is more than I can say for a lot of other artists.
Kandi, I can't no wait to purchase the album. I encourage you to continue to remain humble. Because God choose whelm ever he will to see lives change. No that you not alone, My testimony to you Kandi. I myself was in an dark place in my life, in 2006, I lost my ex finance, he was murder, was shot 7 times and body was set on fire, but god allowed some one to come along to catch the guys as well as put the fire out. We was also able, to have the funeral with an open casket. I cried, cried, prayed and ask god why. But thou it all he give me peace and he kept me and my 3 handsome sons. Today, I'm happily married to an wonderful god fearing man. I have started my own Custom Corset Couture Line. At the end of the day Kandi God knows your heart, so you are an inspiration for many,many, women today. Continue, to let God lead you and you follow him. ( god gave me this CHOSEN BUT NOT PERFECT!!!!) keep your eyes on JESUS...
Kandi, worry not. Some of these critics are the same people who believe masturbation is a sin. The rest of the critics have never read the Bible or heard about 'casting the first stone' and its true meaning.
Welll maybe they will hear the gospel while they play with the sex toys! what a combination kandi!
I believe you should do what you do the best. Now if that changes you it will if not it will not. We love your music no matter what form it takes. So don't let any one tell you where your heart is. Just make good music and all else will follow. Great song and it will be a hit.
Choose this day whom you will serve. If God is God then follow Him. If you choose to follow Him then you need to repent. Kandi, you know enough about The Lord to know that you can't have it both ways. You must choose.
I think you are a good business woman, and very smart with your money, that's why you have more than any of your cast-mates on the show. However, if you are going to do Gospel, do Gospel, I can not identify with you, a double minded man is unstable in all his ways. You can't be as sexually open as you are, have a sex-toy line, and living with a man (not married), and expect people to listen to you sing Gospel. If you are R & B, or soul, do that. You can not mix the two.You can not serve God and Satan.
Kandi, God is not turning you away, he welcomes anyone who would praise Him and give Him the Glory! We should all be more like God and less judgmental!
Something else if Marvin Sapp didn't have a problem with doing this song with you who in the heck cares about what others have to say. We all know he's Prayed UP!!!
you know what people kill me claiming to be christians but there judging others as quick as they can. Kandi girl you have a beautiful voice and a beautiful spirit. Don't worry about what these haters out here have to say. As far as you speaking your mind on the NeNe situation please NeNe aint no dang saint. So people of God STOP judging when you don't have that right. Kandi keep your head up and stay prayed up God Bless you and Rilly and the love of your life. Stay the way you are don't change for anything or anyone keep doing you Lady!
So people who don't like the song for their own personal reasons are o so judgmental but the ones who do aren't judgmental ... People are on here stating their opinions ... Why bc kandi wrote a blog & and this comment lines are for...I'm sure everyone knows their not perfect... Duhhhh ... & those who keep saying don't worry about what others think their hating , uhmmm just bc a person does not agree or like a song or something another has is not considered hating , they simply just might not like it ...& she says I don't care what others say she obviously does or she wouldn't have a blog all about it and try to justify what she doing if she really didnt care what others think... everyone's a sinner & not one sin is greater than another...point blank she making a song about god calls it gospel & she getting paid off it ... U either like it support or you don't ...
why are you beggin for food over and over. thats what dogs do. and btw you were in nene's driveway not a parking lot
Kandi, I and cannot judge your past, present, or future but I can encourage you. Your song speaks about prayer, a conversation with God, not only for yourself but for anyone seeking guidance. You knew you would receive backlash, but you did it anyway. God uses whomever He wishes, however He wishes, and when He wishes. Perhaps if all Christians left the judging up to God and encourage others without bashing them a whole lot of people will turn to God and develop a personal relationship with Him. I encourage you to keep trying and to keep relying on God. The Bible tells us that those who are persecuted for His sake are blessed and their reward is great in heaven. Keep seeking after God!! I commend you for your efforts and especially for your successes. Stay prayed up!
Kandi, first, you go to Nene's house after she told you guys not to bother, then you act so classless by asking for food to go, while she is telling you to leave. Don't you have any self respect? And you waited for the food and tried to peep into her house. Could you get any ghetto-er?
anarah I thought it was "tom foolery"- she was joking around, don't take things so seriously. There has to be some drama in these shows because you would not watch otherwise. So laugh it off and don't take these scenes so seriously. It was funny .... laugh it off. :)
I figured Kandi would get a lot of negative comments about the gospel song. I am wondering why she wanted to do it.
@Brownsa9577 I believe when a celebrity does something out of character it beings much controversy which in their terms brings more money in their pockets ... Tv show ratings now song being played all day & everything else she empires will rise... So I thinks she feels well people are going to have something to say regardless so y not just do it I'm gonna get paid regardless & put my name out there even more... Just like when she came out to do country music... Same thing.... All for the money... Sad
Brownsa9577 Relationship with God is personal. It's a personal song from her heart. Some where, some place, someone will always say something "negative". For Christians, we are not under a law, we are under His grace.
Brownsa9577 I did not think it would be controversial. She is a singer, songwriter, business owner, producer. This is a talented woman who happens to own a business that sells adult toys. That does not mean she should not explore all opportunities that come her way. Would I do that - heck yes. Why not? There is room for it all. :)
Kandi, why did you guys even go to Nene's - she said don't come and good night. But no you all disregard what she said - go to her house and seem surprise she won't let you in? You all are lucky she even open the door. Also you then ask for something to eat, really?? After being 3 hours late and then try to turn it around and make her look like to bad guy? I'm not a Nene fan - but this is one time I have to agree w/her. Shame on all you women and especially you Kandi
cheriefran I just wanted to know why they were late to begin with.Did anyone know why they were late? What was the excuse?
housewifefan2012 I have no idea - I don't remember hearing why they were late other than they are always late.
kandi why are you in the limo still talking smack about nene. u need to stay prayed up. and cynthia u once again sitting there not saying a word in defense of your bff. shame on you too
kandi is gonna feel the wrath of ms nene leakes at the reunion. go in and let have nene
When people write and tweet you negative comments like the ones you received you must realize that they are coming from a bad place. I am not much like you in any way but I respect your tenacity. Congratulations in ALL your endeavors, whether I understand them or not. You are God's child and doing a great job!
Just because people tell her the truth of her ugly ways does not mean they are coming from a bad place, give me a break, like you are the only one the has the right to an opinion because you "like " her. Even God's children act bad and she does all the time!
CarmenE stlouisviewer CarmenE, thank you for allowing us to recognize "God's Children" "acting bad". Because Last I heard, the Bible says, "Judge not, lest thou be judged." How about this: Read the Bible and get familiar with the text BEFORE casting stones. Just a STRONG suggestion. You can take that to your friends who THINK they know what the Lord is doing. Lastly, although the Word says, Saints will judge the Angels, the difference between what Jesus preached and your mentality could not be more opposite. I'm gonna have to go with the idea, You're NOT a Saint. There will be no further judging here; at least NOT IN THE NAME OF JESUS!
She's a coward in spite of her "teancity." She had a lot to say about NeNe behind her back but she said not one word except her "ghetto" response about getting a plate to go, to NeNe's face. She knows NeNe would have "read" her as easily as she constantly let's Kim "read" her and dog her to her face! Coward.
I am not surprised you didn't post a blog. If I were Nene not not wouldn't I have let you in, I wouldn't have come to the door. I would have sent one of the caterers to tell you that you have 90 seconds before Mre Leakes calls the police. And to remember the LAPD have a history.
thats right. i would have told them to beat it from the intercom. remember nene said she has security
shame on u kandi. why did u find it necessary to go in on nene during interview last nite. YOU AND THE REST OF THE HATERS WERE DEAD WRONG. u gonna feel the hammer of nene come down on you at the reunion. she hinted at it on wwhl. and btw stay outta pinky's. thats the last place u need to go for a meal
It is sad when people of God or representing him think that they don't have to set any standards and can live any kind of way. I think Christianity is taking God's grace too far!. He always said repent and stop sinning. Not just go to strip clubs, introduce laciviousness to people and shack up and do what ever you want. Be not deceived, God is not mocked what so ever a man soweth that shall he also reap. God also said be hot or cold but not lukewarm cause he will spew u out of his mouth. You can not serve God and the devil at the same time.
We need to stop kidding ourselves and have some standards. I am so proud of Porsha for standing up and having some morals and not attending the strip club. Christians are supposed to be persecuted for standing up for what is right. That's how u know u are about that life, that Christian walk.
That is why the way to God is narrow because all these other fence straddlers aint getting in, including me if I decide to choose to stay in sin. She aint even admitting she needs to stop sinning. This is reprobate mindedness. Yes I know all about Judging and praying for people but she got to want to hear the truth too and most importantly repent and stop sinning on purpose. Sad churches don't preach that part of the bible today and sending alot of people to hell.
pyt I agree and also pleased that Porsha demonstrates some morals. Yet ,she's labeled "dump" How sad it is when a women displays and tries to be a good wife with a happy family, while several comments, this season, have been very negative towards her. Black people, please quit down-playing YOUR people. Refrain from speaking anything if not encouraging or positive. Thank you.
It shows no respect when people go out of their way not to come on time. (30 mins not 3 hrs). Kandi, I don't think anyone should be ashamed of their upbringing, but when you know better you do better.
On another note, Sing Girl, the Lord knows you heart and your soul!
She will do anything for a buck how bout you donate the proceeds to this song to a good cause.
Read Corinthians before you do anything Godly... Because you cannot make a song about staying prayed up if you are enjoying or mocking people around you who are suffering... True conviction will show itself... I hope you get what I'm saying....
I really love the song too Kandi, for one you are singing for the Lord and I really felt that in the song it was something that was in you. To tell the truth the words " I stay prayed up ", In real life you have to stay prayed up its a cold world out here. I'm happy for you.
it is so sad to hear "so called" christians pass judgement on Kandi. I love the song and the way she has allowed God to use her! It is a good thing she stays Prayed Up to deal with you ignorant people!!!