The 'Stay Prayed Up' Controversy
Kandi was surprised by some of the negative feedback she's gotten about her gospel song.
Hello everybody! This week’s episode was the cause of much controversy and debate for me. It all circled around the decision to do my gospel song Stay Prayed Up. I knew when I decided to do it that a lot of people would be shocked, since I often talk about sex, have an adult toy line (Bedroom Kandi), and host a sex and relationships internet show (Kandi Koated Nights). I knew that some people would give me the side eye, but I didn’t know that it would be to this extreme. When the episode prior to this one aired, which first showed me mentioning that I wanted to do a gospel song, I got so many angry tweets. Can you believe a woman actually tweeted me and said, “Bitch you can’t praise my God”? I was like wow… People always said that the worst things to debate or bring up are politics and religion. Well whoever made that statement knew exactly what they were talking about!
Thank God I don’t let things get to me. I’m a very open and honest person. I say what I want to say when I want to say it. If I feel like doing something, I do it. I felt that I wanted to do this song, so I did, and I’m glad I did. This song is my testimony. I’ve been through things in my life that would break some people down, but I push through it and I try not to wallow in my sorrows, because I have a daughter and I never want her to see me brake down. I pray every day. I’m not the poster child of what you might envision as a religious woman, and I know that, but I come from a religious family. You guys got a chance to meet my dad on this episode, Rev. Dr. Titus Burruss Jr. His father and grandfather were Bishops in the Churches of God Holiness. I have always been the rebel grandchild. The rules were sooo strict there. I would go, but I never officially joined. My grandma would always say, “Kandi why won’t you join? You don’t love the Lord.” And I would reply, “I love the Lord, Grandma, but I know I’m not going to follow the rules. So I’m not going to join and stand in front of the church and say that I’ll follow the rules when I know that I’m lying.” Well, clearly I’m still not following the rules, but I still love the Lord.
There are a whole bunch of people just like me that can relate to the words of my song. It’s funny, because when my group Xscape first came out, my Grandma would say, “Don’t you wanna sing for the Lord, baby, instead of those worldly songs?” Well, here I am singing for the Lord, but I guess I’m too “worldly” for some people to accept it. I love Twitter, but it is an open platform for people to slay you… But lucky for me, I have just as many people or more that show me love. This week I’ve heard the dumb and negative like, “How you gonna sell sex toys and sing gospel. Do you want us to play Stay Prayed Up while we vibrate on your dildo?” My answer to that is NO, DUMMY! I’ve also heard the positive like, “I cried when I heard your song. It’s helping me get through my day right now.” People have been having debates on blogs and on radio stations asking if it is OK for me to have an adult toy line and sing a gospel song. My friend laughed the other day and told me that she’s shocked there’s so much controversy about the song, but it’s good because so many people are talking about God and prayer. I’m so happy that I got a chance to work with Marvin Sapp! His voice is amazing. I loved the fact that he didn’t judge me and told me not to explain myself to people. He helped take the song to the next level. Please get the single and really listen to the words. Here’s the link! I’d love for you to post it on your Facebook or Twitter pages. https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/stay-prayed-up-single/id603720988
OK, enough about me. I want to congratulate Cynthia for doing such a great job on her first pageant. It was grander to me in person than even watching it on TV. A lot of people wouldn’t have been able to pull that together on their first go at it, and I’m sure it will only get better!
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