Cast Blog: #RHOA

"Gone with the Wind Fabulous" Explained

Cynthia on Her Drama-Free Trip

Has Kenya Found Love?

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

"Gone with the Wind Fabulous" Explained

Kenya shares her thoughts on the fight and gives some background on her comment.

MY LOVE LIFE

I moved to Atlanta around February, for one, hoping to rekindle the relationship I had with Walter. He was still single, said he wanted to have more children, said he could see me as his wife and wanted the same things I did. I moved forward hoping that I could have everything with him. When the RHOA came along in April, he couldn’t have been happier for me and said he didn’t mind our relationship being followed on TV. He intimated to me that he wanted to be married to me and that it would happen soon. I’m always talking about it on the show because he made it seem imminent. It was an exciting time for me.

NeNe is a good judge of character, which is why we are friends. I think she saw something that I didn’t see or didn’t want to see when we were in Anguilla.

MOVING FORWARD AND BEYOND

I was sweet and kind to all the women on this trip. I was trying to get to a better place and bond with them and move on. ALL of the women acknowledged that my behavior was positive toward them. But when someone has it out for you, they want to have a problem with you, so they will make one. Clearly, I was trying to avoid conflict until the condescending and nasty insults started being spewed at me like: “I’m a nonfactor, I’m old, etc.” I admit, I made some mistakes being too “wild” on the trip, but certainly steered clear of confrontation with the ladies. Being called old by someone only 10 years younger than you is just trite. But, some names are an abomination and one should never call a woman, especially one that you barely know. My flirting and silly nonsense on vacation doesn’t warrant being called a whore. This was way below the belt. This was unforgivable.

“NO ONE PUTS BABY IN THE CORNER”

Being called old is the last dirty word you can call a woman. The fact is, if we are lucky we will all age graciously with wisdom, grace, and dignity. If we are blessed, life is about seeing our children grow and their children grow to live a long, happy life full of love. Life is precious. After seeing the senseless Connecticut massacre this week, it makes this sentiment all the more precious. Life is never promised to us. My heartfelt condolences go out to the families who lost their angels.

I’M GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS

When an insecure woman is jealous, immature, spiteful, and/or ignorant, they will always try to tear an accomplished, beautiful woman down in order to feel better about their own lack of success. However, one cannot rewrite history. My legacy is untouchable, and I’m most proud of my professional achievements and accomplishments I have been able to bequeath despite the odds.

With that said, there have been many women whom I admire, respect, and marvel at their inner strength and beauty from the past that have provided inspiration for me as a young girl studying history and the arts. Knowledge is truly power. Without these bold, brave trailblazers, there would be no past, present, or future for generations to come. In 1939 (73 years ago) Hattie McDaniel was the first Black woman to win an Academy Award for her performance in Gone With The Wind. Ms. McDaniel played a loyal maid in a time where roles for women of color were few and far between. Hattie was widely criticized for playing a maid, but without her inner strength, it’s unclear what our legacy as a people would be now. Certainly, she has enriched my life. Her incredible feat defied racism, hatred, segregation and civil uncertainty and unrest.

In my eyes, Hattie McDaniel is a “shero.” She is the sole reason that Halle Berry, Whoopi Goldberg, Mo’nique, and Octavia Spencer, etc. (all Oscar recipients) can proudly wear their crowns of being legendary and fabulous Black women of film. I appreciate all the incredible women I have to admire and aspire to be like. I will strive to recover from my many missteps and win my fans over again despite the people who laugh when I stumble instead of offering me a hand.  I hope that I can find a man who loves me for me. But in the meantime, I’ll continue to be strong and humble and not let anyone steal my shine in order to gain fame off my misfortunes.

I’m Kenya Moore. I’m 41 and fabulous! My age, race, religion, social economic standing, and marital status are not indicators of my past, present, or future as I too can defy the odds just like Hattie. I am bold. I am humble. I am strong. I am complicated. I am complex. I am vulnerable. I am resilient. I am good. I am honest --That’s what makes me fabulous.I will forever be GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS. And I hope I can inspire others to be Gone With The Wind fabulous too at any age.

“We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” -Marianne Williamson

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Claudia Jordan dishes on her relationship with Kordell Stewart.

Bravotv.com: Were you excited for the road trip? Did you end up having to drive the whole time?
Claudia Jordan: First things first, I'd like to thank all the viewers and fans of #RHOA for all of their support of the show and for making us the success that we are. It is totally appreciated and we recognize the enthusiasm and support for the show, and we couldn't be happier. So kudos to you guys that support us and our antics!

OK now lets get into it... I have to say I love a road trip, I really do. But when Cynthia invited me, as much as I wanted to go, I was also very nervous about getting back to Atlanta on time for my radio show. So I went hoping that if I was going to pull an all nighter, not get any sleep, and go straight to work, then dammit, it better be fun. And boy was it! From the moment I linked up with the beauties, it was non-stop laughs! I felt like a college kid again hitting the road with the ladies.

I will say this though -- I thought we would never get there. I mean a 3 hour road trip ended up being closer to 5 hours! First we could not miss a Kenya Moore feeding, because anyone that is friends with her knows that Twirl turns into tornado if she does not get her food, LOL! But I can't be mad, because the Chick-fil-A was pretty good!

And I didn't mind driving the entire time. Anyone that knows me knows I get car sick when I am not driving or I will be out cold sleeping. If you want to put me to sleep, take me on a drive. Since I was a baby (and I would cry) my mother would put me in the car and go for a drive, and I would be knocked out! So for me driving was a must!

When we got to the hotel, time was of the essence. Cynthia told me she brought a few items just in case I didn't have something, but luckily I keep a cute, sexy little black dress on deck! So I ended up wearing something I brought, but I thought that was sweet of Cynthia to care and to pack a few extra pieces in case I didn't have something I loved. Plus keep in mind this happened back when I was still getting settled into my new digs, and I think my moving truck was still missing in action at this point in time. I don't know if you guys know this, but even after my things arrived from New York City, so many things were missing/stolen from my belongings. I still need to give an earful to that ratchet moving company for what they did to me! Anyway...

We had some playful fun in the room, and I had to give Kenya a spanking because she was being a bad girl. But the thing about Kenya I really like is that she can take a joke (and a slap to the ass)! She teases me, I tease her -- no one gets their feelings hurt about it! How many of your friends can you slam on the bed and slap their booty and they don't feel some type of way about it? That's what I'm talking about! The fun girls. Women who are about their business but don't take themselves way too seriously. That's why every single scene you see with Kenya, Cynthia, Demetria, and me is consistently easy, breezy, and fun! Life is short; we should all be laughing and smiling as much as we possibly can! Don't you think?

OK so Cynthia left us (and I do not blame her, she needed to go support her man on this important evening). Kenya and I finally got to Sports One and it was packed! I was very happy to see it was a success! One of the first people I see is Kordell Stewart, which was funny to me, but I wasn't surprised, because I have that kind of random life where I will run into people in the most unexpected places. Once I was in the jungle in Puerto Rico and I ran into someone I knew! I know a lot of people and I'm very socially active.

It was good to see Kordell, because he's always been a very nice and classy guy in my presence. I met him around 1998 in Los Angeles at a First Sunday party that I think his teammate Jerome Bettis was hosting. It's no secret I'm a huge football fan (Go Patriots!), and I actually have worked on a couple of sports shows. One was Fox Sports on a show called 5-4-3-2-1, and I met tons of entertainers and athletes doing that show. Then I did another sports show with John Salley, Hugh Douglas, and Guy Torry called Ballers where we interviewed different sports stars every week and took plenty of photos with them. I also did a show pilot called The Fantasy Show, which was a fantasy football show for ESPN.

My point in mentioning all of this is not to brag about my resume, but to explain that I am a woman into sports -- especially football. Kordell was a black quarterback early on when it was a very tough position to get, because some idiots really thought that African Americans weren't "smart enough" to QB a team. My sports folks will know this was a ridiculous theory that some tried to really perpetuate. With that said, I have the utmost respect for Kordell pushing right past that stereotype and reaching the heights he did as a great quarterback for the Pittsburgh Steelers. So yes, I respect him as an athlete. When we met, I of course knew who he was. We exchanged info, chatted a few times, and became platonic friends. He never even really hit on me and was a complete gentleman. I'd see him here and there at events, and that was it. I saw him at a radio show, a party, etc. We just always had a mutual respect for one another. Nothing more, nothing less.

So when folks on social media were getting angry for "going after" another woman's ex, I had to laugh! NEWSFLASH: We are all someone's ex! And it's not like I was chopping it up with a married man or anything tacky like that. Kordell is a friend, and that is that. Besides, if you have been watching how I move on this show, I have tried to play nice with all the ladies on this show until they have shunned or disrespected me. So being new to this group, I'm not going to intentionally do anything to create more animosity than there already is. Real talk. I need my days to be less stressful, not more! Taking a selfie is not sexual activity or inappropriate behavior. Be clear -- my mother did a great job of teaching me the difference between right and wrong. But once again, the double standards of right and wrong in this group never cease to amaze me! Selfie versus side piecing? Umm, I'll take a million selfies before I go out like that!

Bravotv.com: Did you feel that Kordell was flirting with you? Would you consider dating him?

CJ: Hmm was Kordell flirting? I mean, barely. At the table when Kenya asked him if he was dating, he said straight up he was seeing someone and I think he was just having a little fun with me like I was with him. It was cute and harmless, and we were having drinks (I know, for me shocking, right? LOL!) and enjoying the successful grand opening of Sports One -- that's really all it was. I am happy to report Kordell has never called my phone late night breathing hard and has been a complete gentleman around me when I have run into him. He has chosen to not speak negatively of his ex in my presence despite the awful allegations that have been made about him, and for that he has my respect. But enough about that... When can we go back to Sports One, Cynthia and Kenya? Let's bring Demetria next time and have Road Trip No. 2!

Thank you for all the kind words on my social media and for all the new followers and folks riding with me on this crazy journey! I promise to always keep it real with you guys and share some real life experiences that I hope you can relate to. Please check out my website to get to know me a little more (www.TheRealClaudiaJordan.com), follow me on Instagram and Twitter @ClaudiaJordan, and please tune in every morning to the Rickey Smiley Morning Show. You can listen on line at www.RickeySmileyMorningShow.com.

 
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