Cast Blog: #RHOA

"Gone with the Wind Fabulous" Explained

Kenya shares her thoughts on the fight and gives some background on her comment.

MY LOVE LIFE

I moved to Atlanta around February, for one, hoping to rekindle the relationship I had with Walter. He was still single, said he wanted to have more children, said he could see me as his wife and wanted the same things I did. I moved forward hoping that I could have everything with him. When the RHOA came along in April, he couldn’t have been happier for me and said he didn’t mind our relationship being followed on TV. He intimated to me that he wanted to be married to me and that it would happen soon. I’m always talking about it on the show because he made it seem imminent. It was an exciting time for me.

NeNe is a good judge of character, which is why we are friends. I think she saw something that I didn’t see or didn’t want to see when we were in Anguilla.

MOVING FORWARD AND BEYOND

I was sweet and kind to all the women on this trip. I was trying to get to a better place and bond with them and move on. ALL of the women acknowledged that my behavior was positive toward them. But when someone has it out for you, they want to have a problem with you, so they will make one. Clearly, I was trying to avoid conflict until the condescending and nasty insults started being spewed at me like: “I’m a nonfactor, I’m old, etc.” I admit, I made some mistakes being too “wild” on the trip, but certainly steered clear of confrontation with the ladies. Being called old by someone only 10 years younger than you is just trite. But, some names are an abomination and one should never call a woman, especially one that you barely know. My flirting and silly nonsense on vacation doesn’t warrant being called a whore. This was way below the belt. This was unforgivable.

“NO ONE PUTS BABY IN THE CORNER”

Being called old is the last dirty word you can call a woman. The fact is, if we are lucky we will all age graciously with wisdom, grace, and dignity. If we are blessed, life is about seeing our children grow and their children grow to live a long, happy life full of love. Life is precious. After seeing the senseless Connecticut massacre this week, it makes this sentiment all the more precious. Life is never promised to us. My heartfelt condolences go out to the families who lost their angels.

I’M GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS

When an insecure woman is jealous, immature, spiteful, and/or ignorant, they will always try to tear an accomplished, beautiful woman down in order to feel better about their own lack of success. However, one cannot rewrite history. My legacy is untouchable, and I’m most proud of my professional achievements and accomplishments I have been able to bequeath despite the odds.

With that said, there have been many women whom I admire, respect, and marvel at their inner strength and beauty from the past that have provided inspiration for me as a young girl studying history and the arts. Knowledge is truly power. Without these bold, brave trailblazers, there would be no past, present, or future for generations to come. In 1939 (73 years ago) Hattie McDaniel was the first Black woman to win an Academy Award for her performance in Gone With The Wind. Ms. McDaniel played a loyal maid in a time where roles for women of color were few and far between. Hattie was widely criticized for playing a maid, but without her inner strength, it’s unclear what our legacy as a people would be now. Certainly, she has enriched my life. Her incredible feat defied racism, hatred, segregation and civil uncertainty and unrest.

In my eyes, Hattie McDaniel is a “shero.” She is the sole reason that Halle Berry, Whoopi Goldberg, Mo’nique, and Octavia Spencer, etc. (all Oscar recipients) can proudly wear their crowns of being legendary and fabulous Black women of film. I appreciate all the incredible women I have to admire and aspire to be like. I will strive to recover from my many missteps and win my fans over again despite the people who laugh when I stumble instead of offering me a hand.  I hope that I can find a man who loves me for me. But in the meantime, I’ll continue to be strong and humble and not let anyone steal my shine in order to gain fame off my misfortunes.

I’m Kenya Moore. I’m 41 and fabulous! My age, race, religion, social economic standing, and marital status are not indicators of my past, present, or future as I too can defy the odds just like Hattie. I am bold. I am humble. I am strong. I am complicated. I am complex. I am vulnerable. I am resilient. I am good. I am honest --That’s what makes me fabulous.I will forever be GONE WITH THE WIND FABULOUS. And I hope I can inspire others to be Gone With The Wind fabulous too at any age.

“We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” -Marianne Williamson

Claudia: I Give Up

Find out which friendships Claudia Jordan has decided to focus on.

Bravotv.com: Were you surprised by Kenya's elaborate viewing party?
Claudia Jordan: Yes, I was! She was pretty good at keeping it all a secret, and it was so well done! I really felt like I was going to a surprise wedding. Hopefully that was some foreshadowing of what's to come in the near future…

Bravotv.com: What did you think of Kenya's pilot?
CJ: I thought it was cute and very fun to watch. The thing about Kenya I really like is that she is comfortable laughing at herself and not taking herself too seriously. She's entertaining. I thought Cynthia was really funny and totally committed to the part. It was fun to watch it with all the girls, especially the part when Kenya played her own hair care commercial during the pilot! That was hilarious.

Bravotv.com: Did you feel that you and Porsha finally repaired your friendship?
CJ: You know, it's hard to tell. I can't say we were ever really friends, because at the end of the day we have very little in common, and I don't think I can say I know who she really is. I was totally open to it when I arrived on the scene, but it's difficult dealing with someone who's cool with you one minute, then not cool with you the next. I think too many people are inserting their opinions and changing things. I swear we will be past something and "cool," then the very next time I see her it's back to the okey doke or I will catch wind of her throwing jabs in her blog. So honestly I have given up and no longer care to beat that dead horse.

Instead I'm focusing on viable and healthy friendships with people I feel I have things in common with, like Demetria, who's one of the most hardworking and classy (yet still fun) girls I know. Like Cynthia, who supports and attends everyone else’s events. Like Kenya, because even though she's very busy and travels a lot, when we do link up, it's all positive. And like Kandi, who I'm not super close with, but we are getting to know each other more and more. And despite our friends not liking some of the folks we both hang with, Kandi never let that get in the way of being open to a possible friendship with me, and I respect that.

I was hopeful when we got back from the Philippines; Kandi, Porsha, and I even went to a club the day we got back from our 20-something hour trip home. But what happens with these shows is you make progress, but then someone on Twitter may amp you up, and you feel you have to placate those people. Or an episode airs that took place six months ago when things were bad, and even though things are good now, you get in your feelings all over again when you watch the show months later. I suspect this may be the case, but like I said, it's exhausting trying to figure out why people do what they do, so I am throwing in the white towel. I give up trying. If things change for the best, then hallelujah, and if they do not, I promise I will not lose any more sleep.

The season was fun and stressful -- I laughed a lot, I cried a few times, I opened up about issues I never really get to talk about in my day-to-day life, and I have made some pretty amazing friends. I'm getting calls to do some comedy shows, I have two films coming out later this year, I am dating, and I’m in a very good place! I'm optimistic moving forward and extremely excited about my future here in Atlanta. Thank you to everyone who has reached out to me online and in person. It's been truly flattering and humbling. Love y'all! xoxo!

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