Kenya Moore

Kenya opens up about her experience.

on Feb 12, 20130

EXPOSED

When I decided to join the cast I knew that it meant that I had to expose some very dark personal issues that I struggle with. One is that I have the propensity to completely block out hurtful things from of my mind as a coping mechanism. When my OB/GYN first discovered a lump in my breast during my annual exam, she directed me to get a mammogram. That’s when things turned for the worst. I did as she advised but my experience was so unpleasant that I never told any one or ever called back for the results. No woman wants to be told they could possibly have cancer. I thought the worst and took inventory of my life. Did I have my personal affairs in order? What if I couldn’t be treated? Would I have to undergo chemotherapy? Have a mastectomy? Lose all my hair? All these questions flooded my mind. The fact was and is I could possibly die from cancer.



I lost both of my grandfathers to aggressive cancers, and two very young friends under the age of 30 (Keith and Michelle may you rest in peace) whom I was very close to.  I watched them all fight for their lives and dwindle down to mere skin and bones. I would never wish cancer on my worst enemy. No one deserves to suffer or die that way.

220 comments
msreutebuch
msreutebuch

I'm writing this on behalf of my sister in law, who does not have access to the internet:  Dear Ms Kenya Moore,  Thank you for  saving my life.  I am a hell raising, 70 year old, German grandma that has never been sick or had a mammogram in my life.

Then I watched Atlanta housewives when you gave yourself a breast exam.  I gave myself a breast exam and  I found a lump in my right  breast.  I decided I was just being a hypochondriac.  Then you had a biopsy and I remembered my lump and it had grown considerably. Yours was benign, but mine was not.  I had a biopsy and the doctor said I had a fast growing cancer that would have been in my lymph nodes and bloodstream in a short time.  But it was so small and after two operations, they got it all. 

I owe you my life and I think about you daily.  If they are ever mean to you again on that show, call me--I'm tough too!

Karen Reutebuch, Shelton, WA 

Wondrous
Wondrous

Cancer scares, I can only imagine this is beyond taxing, to say the least. I do not wish that upon anyone. I do have to say though, Kenya is a waste of time and space on this show. It used to be enjoyable to watch and now all I want to do is vomit. Miss USA- ha! It is disgusting that a woman who once represented the United States would act and look like such a clown. You look even worse when you try to threaten pregnant women, very big of you Kenya! Get the F off of this show so we can actually watch it again. And with all that 'money' you got, fix them damn acne scars woman! Gross. How does that feel, not so nice when people are mean is it? Remember always, God don't like UGLY....

Georgie58
Georgie58

I started really liking you when you went through the Breast Cancer scare. Please keep up the softer side of you. Your beauty does not show when you are being mean. Happy you didn't have Cancer. Now, keep the softness, it suits you. Walter was not for you, I believe he is Gay.

PrincessSkyy
PrincessSkyy

I'm happy you are cancer free..be bless.

pyin
pyin

What I'm going to say at first is going to sound mean.... but follow me here. Usually Kenya, when you are on camera you are trying so hard to be better than the others, you are argumentative, critical and always trying to prove that you are somebody people HAVE to respect because you were Mss USA. Up until now I honestly have not seen you as a beautiful woman because you have been projecting ugliness from the inside. HOWEVER, the first time I saw your face and thought "that woman is beautiful, was when you were sitting in your Dr.s office. She was about to tell you that your tumors were benign. You had a soft look about you that I had never seen before. What I realized that made you beautiful was the presence of HUMIITY!!! Please stop competing with the other women and being ugly. Keep that sense of humilty as it is an important quality. Humility looks good on you - and I really saw your beauty for the first time

ijsmith2007
ijsmith2007

Hello Kenya, first let me start off by saying my dear you are truly blessed and I pray that you realize that. I'm a two time breast cancer survivor. The cancer in my breasts was caused from stress and some other factors but mostly stress. Yes I had chemotherapy, yes my hair and eyebrows fell out, but being in that situation made me the person I am today. I live life to the fullest each day, because each day we wake up is a gift from God and its up to us what we will do with it. Will we consult the Lord and follow His plan for the day or do our own thing? I choose to continue to consult the Lord I pray that you will be greatful for the Lord sparing you from this very hard sickness and be just a little kinder, and more patient with people. You certainly do reap what you have sown!!!!

Daisyatl
Daisyatl

Damn Kenya You are a piece of work! I was so hoping to read this blog and have a  new and unexpected feeling of respect for you! I  really thought your experience with the breast cancer scare woud endear you to all the real fans of RHOA.But no, that wasnt the case!  You some how turned blogging about this experience to once again playing the victim and poking  jabs at the other cast mates. Not one hint of humility! I really think this is just a way of making money for you. You will stoop at any level to  remain on RHOA and that is really sad!

missydeeva
missydeeva

I am glad you are cancer free,thank God for his healing, but I really hope the show drop you, you make people not want to watch the show. When you come on the remote get a work out. Please twirl away, 1983 Ms USA,your time is over. Bye bye,Walter was a very smart Man, he ran fast forms you, now you need to run fast from the show.

EloiseM
EloiseM

QUESTION!!!!!  Where is Kenya's day-after WOE IS ME POST?

zocola
zocola

God bless. Horrible experience even to just watch.

lisass
lisass

I LOVEEEEEE you Kenya you are beautiful and funny and very interesting! SOO glad ur on the show you show what its like to be s strong woman! 

terifairy1
terifairy1

Dear Detroit Barbie,

                                  I wish you would twirl right off the show. Watching you is toxic. I do not watch any episodes you are in and I miss watching the show. Please exit stage right. Thank you.

 

                                  NOT A  GONE WITH THE WIND FAN !!

 

JEM1
JEM1

I liked you finally in this episode. You seem to have found a new you. You were sweet and funny and ladylike. I hope this new found you will continue. Probably not but it was nice for this time. Cancer or any health issues can scare one into seeing life in a better light. People should leave Walter out of conversations with you. It is over and done..why beat the dead horse. Hopefully nice Kendra will continue!

magpie2013
magpie2013

I am glad you are ok. You are an awesome addition.

Camar
Camar

You have a temper you need to work on that my dear

mollytex
mollytex

Kenya, glad your biopsy revealed benign results.  You should not expect however, for your castmates to come running with the flowers and candy.  We ALL need to do self-exams, go to the Doctor, get our mammograms and follow through with whatever needs to be done.  The fact that you're STILL harping on this just again shows how self-involved you really are.  Stop playing like you're a victim. You are NOT a victim! You do NOT have cancer! So, SHUT UP ALREADY and move along.

BTW, stop blaming everyone for your stress,too.  That stress is all yours.  Figure out a way to deal with WHATEVER comes your way. You're wwaaayyyy too old to not know how to calm yourself down.

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

I'm glad your biopsies were benign.  You need to take a good look at your behaviour and change whatever is within your power to change.

 

BYW- Did anyone see Beyonce quickly say "gone with the wind fabulous" in an inteview after the Superbowl? Or did BRAVO shop that in?

yolsmoo87
yolsmoo87

Kenya,  I was so scared for you, but I'm glad everything is clear so stop worrying about Walter and the others and just take better care of you because all you have is you.

tigger2715
tigger2715

Kenya, glad your results were negative. I've gotten the call you received, to come in for more tests. Mine, too, were negative. We are both blessed!  Continue, as I do, taking the high road. 

LivingOutLoud
LivingOutLoud

Kenya, Kenya, Kenya... (glad you're all clear)

BUT... Hun, you are text book cray cray... You can flip (happy, pissed angry, manic) faster than anyone I know. When you are not hearing what you want, or getting what you want, and it is truly unbecoming of a 42 yr old woman.

 

You should have had a contract with Pheadra before you put any time ( 4 or 6 weeks) into "her" project (rule number one in business)... It's hard enough to do business with friends... The contract just makes sure both parties are protected... But bootlegging her project was classless.

ralph0106
ralph0106

You had the opportunity to be a real role model for young girls.  Instead you are an example of why many people are so anti-beauty pageants, self centered and shallow and willing to step on the backs of anyone who gets in your way.  What a fine example you are setting ex Miss USA.

Gatorgirl1
Gatorgirl1

Kenya says she had the distribution deal on the table with her production company and Phaedra didn't want to do business with her. So..... Kenya ran with it. Business is business. Why would Kenya throw a deal away for Phaedra who chose not to do business with her and seemingly shady on Phaedra's part. I wouldn't buy a donkey or stallion video but to each his own. Is there even a Stallion video? I haven't heard anything about it.

anne.edgar.75
anne.edgar.75

Kenya, I'm glad your biopsy revealed your lumps to be benign.

 

However, instead of just being thankful it was just a Cancer 'scare' and no malignancy, you still managed to blame Walter, Phaedra, et. al., for the stress you were under which caused this to come about.  Please girl, when are you going to begin to take responsibilty for your actions instead of being a lying, nasty, arrogant troublemaker and blaming everyone else for your problems? As far as your castmates not reaching out to you -- no surprise there -- you haven't been very nice to anyone this season, with the possible exception of NeNe because you know she would have torn you from limb to limb without ever laying a hand on you.

 

Also, will you please enlighten me as to what "Gone with the Wind" fabulous means?   Is it the movie itself or the dialogue, "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn?"  Seriously, have you ever actually seen the movie?

tilcookie
tilcookie

Regardless of the little cat fights between the ladies, our health comes first. Kenya did the right thing to seek about her health because the stress can actually do more damage. I think that some of the things you're going through health wise maybe a contributing factor  with the relationships you have with the other house wives. How can we as women(of any color) call ourselves friends if we can't share with one another our concerns and issues that break us down mentally and physically. We all need a someone we can confide in.  I think Cynthia does more harm than good. Relaying gossip back and forth. Your tongue will get you in trouble.

 

M_Hig_Tos
M_Hig_Tos

I'm glad you're well and that the scare is over. Now practice what you preach and tone it down just a little.

Brownsa9577
Brownsa9577

You need to be removed from the show. You should be feloniously be charged with fraud. Shame on you!

RileyRoo
RileyRoo

I am glad you are not sick.  I really don't understand why you were added as a "housewife" to this show.  For drama?  You are SO contrived, it is really not fun to watch.  I don't watch when you are on, and really hope they find some FUN woman in Atlanta to replace you!  Let's all send in ideas:)

 

kim123
kim123

Kenya, go get some meds...I seriously think something mentally is wrong with you.  The next best thing is to remove yourself from the show.  Enough already.

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Kenya what we know about cancer of all types is that it is an equal opportunity disease that is color blind...you stated you were a woman first aside from race, creed etc...yet you go on to post death statistics among black women in particular....lets not confuse anyone please.....this is not a disease of color....i hope everyone reading your blog understands that...whether asian, middle eastern or any other ethnic group.....we cannot make a stand on an illness whee we try to educate, but then, make it sound as if you may have other racial genetics, you might be spared....that would be irresponsible...and would make your on camera testing useless....to the viewers.....on another subject...the comment you made about being able to block out painful truths, has me now wondering if this is why we saw you blindsided by Walter...do you think you just pushed past the truth and his lack of commitment? Were we too rough on Walter, if you are now admitting you have blocked out bad events in order to cope...interesting......i also hope that you did not followup on your questionable first mammogram because you wanted to be on board for this show, keeping it your secret....you wouldn't do that...right??

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

Stop looking for sympathy because you have not been received well by the fans.  Many women have mammograms annually as well as biopsies if necessary.  Most lumps are benign and some are malignant.  Fortunately for you, yours were benign.  Don't make a mockery of a cancer scare just because you had to have a routine checkup and they found something.  Right off the bat, you called out your castmates for not running to your side (as if any of them would). Stop looking for attention.  Wasn't your family all you needed?  None of these ladies are really your friend so what did you expect?  Grow up and go away already.  We're done with your antics and phoniness.  And no Kenya, I'm not jealous or a hater, just smart and can see right through you.

preciouslymecindy
preciouslymecindy

I am glad that you are doing well, I wouldnt wish that on anyone. I thank God for his grace

Praz2-VA
Praz2-VA

Glad all is well with your personal issues.

dle
dle

I fast forwarded thru all of your doctor visit scenes.

katrinka10
katrinka10

 @JEM1 I can't believe anyone would buy a work-out  video from Phaedra I don't  want to look like a Oompa- Loompa.  Hang in there Kenya, and please don't  listen to all the jealous comments.  Your awesome and they are not worth listening to.

 

ShiningStarr
ShiningStarr

It kind of makes me wonder if the reason that she has been soo angry and crazy acting and soo desperate to get married and have kids is because she was dealing with the fact that she might have breast cancer and she was stressing and taking it out on everybody and wanted to hurry up and get married and have kids just in case it turned out that she did have cancer when she finally went to have her biospy done.

jaredstefb
jaredstefb

 @SoOverIt I guess you have never been through that. If you had, you would understand the fear, especially with a positive family history. I have been there. I lost both parents to cancer plus many friends and family members. I have had several biopsies and it never gets easy.

tori11
tori11

 @jaredstefb i think the point is kenya knew she did not have cancer before all of the blogs and words on the show... she is a fake..

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

 @jaredstefb

Since you don't know me, let me set you straight.  My father and his mother both have cancer right now and both have come out of remission and yet they don't feel the need to compare who is or is not running to their sides to comfort them.  Nor are they looking for sympathy.  Cancer runs in my family and we have lost many relatives over the years.  She's phony and manipulative.  Her mammogram had nothing to do with her castmates.  Nothing.  She's looking for attention.  All she had was a biopsy to test for cancer.  It was negative.  She should have a mammogram annually like any other woman over forty.  And yet her only concern was how disappointed she was with her castmates.  WTF?  What about her Aunt that was at her appointment?  She's ungrateful and there is nothing you could ever say to me to change my mind.  Comprehende?

Gatorgirl1
Gatorgirl1

@jaredstefb @SoOverIt. I'm sorry about your parents. I, too, have a strong family history of breast cancer. I started getting mammograms at 31 and I would look at a biopsy as a "cancer scare" as well. Every woman I know who has had a biopsy was fearful, as well, as the women who have routine biopsies.

grisleyplanet
grisleyplanet

 @jaredstefb

 You are so right. People don't go through biopsies for sympathy. Some of the comments so insensitive and I hope none of those making them ever have to go through waiting for the results of the test. I have family members who have cancer and it has not been an easy road to travel. Unless you have been in that person's shoes then perhaps you shouldn't try to walk the walk.

SourCandyxoxo
SourCandyxoxo

 @jaredstefb I'm sorry, but I too see right through Kenya. She looks for sympathy in every blog. And adding "None of my cast mates reached out to me" adds on another eye roll from me. This woman constantly stirs up drama, and then begs for sympathy from the fans. There are people actually suffering from cancer and she's whining about her cast mates not reaching out to her for a benign mass! Ridiculous.

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

 @Gatorgirl1  @jaredstefb

 Apparently, Kenya does or her only concern wouldn't have been why her "castmates" didn't rush to her side?