Cast Blog: #RHOA

Kenya's Breast Cancer Scare

Cynthia on Her Drama-Free Trip

Has Kenya Found Love?

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Kenya's Breast Cancer Scare

Kenya opens up about her experience.

EXPOSED

When I decided to join the cast I knew that it meant that I had to expose some very dark personal issues that I struggle with. One is that I have the propensity to completely block out hurtful things from of my mind as a coping mechanism. When my OB/GYN first discovered a lump in my breast during my annual exam, she directed me to get a mammogram. That’s when things turned for the worst. I did as she advised but my experience was so unpleasant that I never told any one or ever called back for the results. No woman wants to be told they could possibly have cancer. I thought the worst and took inventory of my life. Did I have my personal affairs in order? What if I couldn’t be treated? Would I have to undergo chemotherapy? Have a mastectomy? Lose all my hair? All these questions flooded my mind. The fact was and is I could possibly die from cancer.



I lost both of my grandfathers to aggressive cancers, and two very young friends under the age of 30 (Keith and Michelle may you rest in peace) whom I was very close to.  I watched them all fight for their lives and dwindle down to mere skin and bones. I would never wish cancer on my worst enemy. No one deserves to suffer or die that way. It wasn’t until my Aunt Lori found out and compelled me to return for further testing. She researched and found the BEST doctor that anyone in my position could have ever had.  When I first spoke to Dr. April Speed (draprilspeed.com) she was so generous with her time, knowledge about breast cancer, and the procedure that she made me feel extremely comfortable. Notwithstanding her calming bedside manner as she spoke in a soft but confident voice that immediately soothed my nerves. I shared with her my trepidation about the process being filmed and being in such a vulnerable position on TV in front of millions. She encouraged me to be brave, noting that if we could save just one life at the end of the day, it would be reward enough.  It was clear then that I didn’t have a choice.

MY BIOPSY

Dr. Speed found not one but three separate lumps and they all required a biopsy. My aunt promised to be by my side every step of the way, and she was. I don’t think I could have done it without her. Dr. Speed assured me that I wouldn’t be in a lot of pain. The procedure wasn’t necessarily painful inasmuch as it was uncomfortable. I prayed to God for favorable results while I lay on the exam table. I wholeheartedly believe I am a blessed child. I’ve defied the odds and prevailed through unspeakable circumstances throughout my life.  I thought if I have cancer, I can beat it too with the will of God.

RESULTS

My family’s prayers worked when my doctor announced that my lumps were benign. Although I am still at risk, we now have the knowledge to stay ahead of the disease. I want to personally thank Dr. April Speed and her amazing staff for treating me with the utmost care and most dignified way possible. I realize that I have to live a less stressful life and not let people affect me the way they have. At the end of the day a person who calls you unspeakable names to hurt you, someone who intentionally maligns you out of spite; a man who tries to tear you down or break you to gain negative fame or attention for himself; or my incessant worrying about my future matters not if I don’t have a life to live at all.  My family and friends are the only variables in my life that will ever matter moving forward. I was disappointed when none of my cast mates reached out to me after learning of my ordeal when many viewers did.  Whether or not I am your favorite or least favorite person, the bond that we all have is that we are women first. I’m a woman before I am any other identifying marker such as race, social status, popularity, occupation, or religious background. I am a woman. I am a child of God and I am blessed. With that said, I beg all women to get a mammogram. If you get a call back, GO BACK. BE BRAVE. Early detection is the key to survival.  And do a self-breast examination that can be found at http://on.aol.com/video/how-to-perform-breast-self-exam-286302892. Thank you for allowing me to share my experience with you.

Breast Cancer Generalized
•    An estimated 250,000 women are diagnosed with breast cancer annually
•    Only a small number of new cases have a genetic link (5%) or family history (10-15%)
•    40,000 will die from their disease

Breast Cancer in Black Women
•    Although the incidence of breast cancer is higher among white women, black women are more likely to die from their disease
•    Death rate is 41% higher in black women
•    Black women are three times more likely to have triple negative breast cancer, which makes it more challenging to treat. (More aggressive, poorer prognosis, higher recurrence and reduced survival)
•    Black women have the lowest survival rate of all races

Awareness
•    Awareness has been the focus for 20 years, now it's time to move toward action!
•    Breast cancer typically produces little to no symptoms when detected early, that's why Mammograms are so important, get them starting at age 40 or sooner if there is a family history
•    If you get a call back, make sure your follow up; "Early detection means better protection"Behavior
•    No magic diet to prevent breast cancer but maintain a healthy weight, elevated BMI (over 25) is associated with an increased breast cancer
•    Eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables (5 or more servings)
•    Have a meatless Monday and a Wine-less Wednesday, moderation is key
•    Exercise, Exercise, Exercise! Research suggests that 30-45 minutes per day or 10 minutes several times a day can reduce risk of breast cancer.

I’m thrilled to know that my forthcoming workout video could actually help to save lives and possibly reduce the risk of breast cancer. You never know what His plan is, but what I know is that I cannot question it.

With love and hope,

Kenya
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Has Kenya Found Love?

Kenya Moore reveals there may be a new man in her life (and dishes on the Claudia/Kordell situation).

Happy Birthday to Me!

This week has been phenomenal. I took two days to celebrate my birthday. I have to say, my favorite was a couple’s massage and stimulating dinner with new people. To be honest, I feel like my life is taking a turn for the better. I think forgiveness has been key. Not only forgiving others who have wronged me, but also forgiving myself for the wrong I’ve done as well. Through my personal journey my world and heart have expanded and I’m growing every day. With that said, I’m finally able to receive and attract love the way I have always wanted.

Speaking on forgiveness, I was shocked to witness the conversation with Gregg and NeNe. She literally started the fight with Claudia, said the nastiest and vile things to her, and managed to attack me, Cynthia, and Demetria in one felled swoop. After which she contends that, “After you apologize that should be the end of it.” Really, girl? Do you ever watch yourself? How many times have I apologized to NeNe about the infamous couples' night? The “non invitation” to the masquerade ball? I’ve even apologized for all of the comments and reads across two seasons at the Tavern in Duluth! Was that the end of it for NeNe? Sadly, everyone already knows the answer.

BABY TIME

I think Todd and Kandi would have adorable children. Speaking from experience, chances of successful pregnancies for a woman rapidly decline after age 36. It’s brave of them to allow the world to see their journey to having a baby the same way I did. I wonder if Phaedra thinks Kandi has scrambled eggs as well? Point being, when people try to hurt you with statements that hit well below the belt, they often speak to groups of people, not just one person. No one should make fun of someone who experiences challenges having a baby or expanding their family. The great thing is Todd and Kandi are in a loving relationship and can take the journey together. There are many resources available to assist in family planning, and perhaps they can educate people along the way and encourage them to seek other options such as adoption. There are always children in need of a family and parents who are capable of loving and caring for them. It is a process and it will happen. #Godspeed

ROAD TRIP

OK, I hate road trips (especially with girls), but I wanted to support Cynthia and Peter by attending. My choices were few: A. Go and pull my hair out one strand at a time, or B. Get hyped in the car ride along the way to make the time go by faster. I think you know which one prevailed...LOL! I love laughing and being silly, and I’m downright goofy at times. What’s fun about hanging out with Cynthia and Claudia is I can be myself. Yes, it was silly to moon people or hang up on Phaedra, who appeared to just be making excuses about why she couldn’t go. Childish, YES! That was sort of the point. Let me live and laugh. I’m not hurting anyone with laughter.

BAR ONE

Congratulations to Peter and Kordell. Sports One Charlotte was a huge hit! I was polite to Kordell, because I have never had any real issue with him. I wasn’t surprised that Claudia knew him, because she’s a huge sports fan, but they have always just been friendly. I definitely saw some chemistry there. To the critics who think it’s messy to encourage them to date because he was married to a former Housewife, well, that’s just ludicrous. If Claudia was actually friends with his ex, perhaps I would have encouraged her to make sure she didn’t have an issue with it. But they were never friends and still aren’t.

It’s been over 2 years since they divorced, and clearly they have each moved on and are with other people (or sugar daddies). Speaking of sugar, I do not know if the rumors about Kordell are true or not. What I do know is what I see with my own two eyes is an articulate, gracious, and respectful man. Even after the divorce he refrained from trashing his ex. Granted, I’ve never been married to him nor dated him, so I have to rely on my knowledge and interaction with him now, not from someone determined to malign him.

Further, if you meet a man in his 40s who is single, he is likely divorced and someone’s ex. You never know where you find love. Frankly speaking, one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Who are we to determine if Claudia and Kordell are better suited for each other? Only they can decide that being two grown consenting adults. My advice to those who always look for negativity in situations is that you always find what you are looking for. However, most times, it is actually what it is meant to be -- a friend wanting happiness for her girl.

DETROIT PUBLIC SCHOOLS FOUNDATION WINS $20,000

Thanks for all the love and support to my many supporters and team twirl and staff that keep me pushing forward! You support me and are always honest. And thank you for all the congratulations I received from my win on Celebrity Apprentice last week. As project manager I won $20,000 for my charity the Detroit Public Schools Foundation (detroitpsfoundation.org). Unfortunately, during my high moment there are always people trying to rain on my joy. There were a lot of tweets accusing me of not using my own $20,000 when I made the donation to DPSF last year. The fact is, the Trump organization holds the donations until after the show airs to preserve the integrity of the show's outcome. Therefore, DPSF received 2 checks; one from me for $20,000 from my personal bank account and the other from Celebrity Apprentice for $20,000. The real question is: Where is NeNe's $20,000? #IllWait

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