Cast Blog: #RHOA

Kenya's Breast Cancer Scare

Has Kenya Found Love?

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Kenya on NeNe's "Embarrassing" Behavior

Claudia: "These Double Standards are Killing Me"

Kandi: "I'm Not Two-Faced"

Phaedra: I Appreciated Demetria's Apology

Are Demetria and Phaedra Cool?

NeNe on Her Apology

Cynthia: Claudia Can Read with the Best of Them

Claudia: NeNe's Behavior Needed to Be Checked

Kenya on "The Beasts"

Phaedra: Demetria Took Things Too Personally

GIF Recap: Lessons in Reading

Phaedra's Ignorant Comments

Claudia: I'm Not Surprised by NeNe's Ugly Demeanor

Kenya: NeNe Doesn't Want to Like Me

Cynthia: I'm Moving Forward in Grace and Love

Kandi: "I Wasn't Trying to Set Demetria Up"

Phaedra on Being Recognized by the Bar

NeNe: "I'm Not a Fake Friend"

Demetria Responds to the Rumors

Cynthia: Forgiveness is a Process

Phaedra: My Mother is My Rock

Kenya: "An Acknowledgement is Not an Apology"

Claudia: I Do Not Own a Flip Phone

Cynthia: It Was Awkward Seeing Phaedra Uncomfortable

Demetria: I Have No Beef with Kenya

NeNe Explains the Wig

Phaedra: I Was Hoping Apollo Wouldn't Create a Scene

Kenya's Not Interested in Roger Bobb

Claudia: "I'm the Samantha of the Group"

Kenya: Cynthia Commanded the Runway

Phaedra: You Don't Often Come Across Hair Burglary

Cynthia: "I Pray We Can Make Peace"

Claudia: I Could Relate to Cynthia's Insecurities

Cynthia's "Non-Conversation" with NeNe

NeNe: The Pit Bull Act is Not a Good Look

Kenya: If It Looks Like a Fraud...

Phaedra: "I Moved Past This Years Ago"

Claudia: I Am Not Asking for Sympathy

Kenya's Breast Cancer Scare

Kenya opens up about her experience.

EXPOSED

When I decided to join the cast I knew that it meant that I had to expose some very dark personal issues that I struggle with. One is that I have the propensity to completely block out hurtful things from of my mind as a coping mechanism. When my OB/GYN first discovered a lump in my breast during my annual exam, she directed me to get a mammogram. That’s when things turned for the worst. I did as she advised but my experience was so unpleasant that I never told any one or ever called back for the results. No woman wants to be told they could possibly have cancer. I thought the worst and took inventory of my life. Did I have my personal affairs in order? What if I couldn’t be treated? Would I have to undergo chemotherapy? Have a mastectomy? Lose all my hair? All these questions flooded my mind. The fact was and is I could possibly die from cancer.



I lost both of my grandfathers to aggressive cancers, and two very young friends under the age of 30 (Keith and Michelle may you rest in peace) whom I was very close to.  I watched them all fight for their lives and dwindle down to mere skin and bones. I would never wish cancer on my worst enemy. No one deserves to suffer or die that way. It wasn’t until my Aunt Lori found out and compelled me to return for further testing. She researched and found the BEST doctor that anyone in my position could have ever had.  When I first spoke to Dr. April Speed (draprilspeed.com) she was so generous with her time, knowledge about breast cancer, and the procedure that she made me feel extremely comfortable. Notwithstanding her calming bedside manner as she spoke in a soft but confident voice that immediately soothed my nerves. I shared with her my trepidation about the process being filmed and being in such a vulnerable position on TV in front of millions. She encouraged me to be brave, noting that if we could save just one life at the end of the day, it would be reward enough.  It was clear then that I didn’t have a choice.

MY BIOPSY

Dr. Speed found not one but three separate lumps and they all required a biopsy. My aunt promised to be by my side every step of the way, and she was. I don’t think I could have done it without her. Dr. Speed assured me that I wouldn’t be in a lot of pain. The procedure wasn’t necessarily painful inasmuch as it was uncomfortable. I prayed to God for favorable results while I lay on the exam table. I wholeheartedly believe I am a blessed child. I’ve defied the odds and prevailed through unspeakable circumstances throughout my life.  I thought if I have cancer, I can beat it too with the will of God.

RESULTS

My family’s prayers worked when my doctor announced that my lumps were benign. Although I am still at risk, we now have the knowledge to stay ahead of the disease. I want to personally thank Dr. April Speed and her amazing staff for treating me with the utmost care and most dignified way possible. I realize that I have to live a less stressful life and not let people affect me the way they have. At the end of the day a person who calls you unspeakable names to hurt you, someone who intentionally maligns you out of spite; a man who tries to tear you down or break you to gain negative fame or attention for himself; or my incessant worrying about my future matters not if I don’t have a life to live at all.  My family and friends are the only variables in my life that will ever matter moving forward. I was disappointed when none of my cast mates reached out to me after learning of my ordeal when many viewers did.  Whether or not I am your favorite or least favorite person, the bond that we all have is that we are women first. I’m a woman before I am any other identifying marker such as race, social status, popularity, occupation, or religious background. I am a woman. I am a child of God and I am blessed. With that said, I beg all women to get a mammogram. If you get a call back, GO BACK. BE BRAVE. Early detection is the key to survival.  And do a self-breast examination that can be found at http://on.aol.com/video/how-to-perform-breast-self-exam-286302892. Thank you for allowing me to share my experience with you.

Breast Cancer Generalized
•    An estimated 250,000 women are diagnosed with breast cancer annually
•    Only a small number of new cases have a genetic link (5%) or family history (10-15%)
•    40,000 will die from their disease

Breast Cancer in Black Women
•    Although the incidence of breast cancer is higher among white women, black women are more likely to die from their disease
•    Death rate is 41% higher in black women
•    Black women are three times more likely to have triple negative breast cancer, which makes it more challenging to treat. (More aggressive, poorer prognosis, higher recurrence and reduced survival)
•    Black women have the lowest survival rate of all races

Awareness
•    Awareness has been the focus for 20 years, now it's time to move toward action!
•    Breast cancer typically produces little to no symptoms when detected early, that's why Mammograms are so important, get them starting at age 40 or sooner if there is a family history
•    If you get a call back, make sure your follow up; "Early detection means better protection"Behavior
•    No magic diet to prevent breast cancer but maintain a healthy weight, elevated BMI (over 25) is associated with an increased breast cancer
•    Eat plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables (5 or more servings)
•    Have a meatless Monday and a Wine-less Wednesday, moderation is key
•    Exercise, Exercise, Exercise! Research suggests that 30-45 minutes per day or 10 minutes several times a day can reduce risk of breast cancer.

I’m thrilled to know that my forthcoming workout video could actually help to save lives and possibly reduce the risk of breast cancer. You never know what His plan is, but what I know is that I cannot question it.

With love and hope,

Kenya
KENYAMOORE.COM

Claudia: Kordell was Barely Flirting

Claudia Jordan dishes on her relationship with Kordell Stewart.

Bravotv.com: Were you excited for the road trip? Did you end up having to drive the whole time?
Claudia Jordan: First things first, I'd like to thank all the viewers and fans of #RHOA for all of their support of the show and for making us the success that we are. It is totally appreciated and we recognize the enthusiasm and support for the show, and we couldn't be happier. So kudos to you guys that support us and our antics!

OK now lets get into it... I have to say I love a road trip, I really do. But when Cynthia invited me, as much as I wanted to go, I was also very nervous about getting back to Atlanta on time for my radio show. So I went hoping that if I was going to pull an all nighter, not get any sleep, and go straight to work, then dammit, it better be fun. And boy was it! From the moment I linked up with the beauties, it was non-stop laughs! I felt like a college kid again hitting the road with the ladies.

I will say this though -- I thought we would never get there. I mean a 3 hour road trip ended up being closer to 5 hours! First we could not miss a Kenya Moore feeding, because anyone that is friends with her knows that Twirl turns into tornado if she does not get her food, LOL! But I can't be mad, because the Chick-fil-A was pretty good!

And I didn't mind driving the entire time. Anyone that knows me knows I get car sick when I am not driving or I will be out cold sleeping. If you want to put me to sleep, take me on a drive. Since I was a baby (and I would cry) my mother would put me in the car and go for a drive, and I would be knocked out! So for me driving was a must!

When we got to the hotel, time was of the essence. Cynthia told me she brought a few items just in case I didn't have something, but luckily I keep a cute, sexy little black dress on deck! So I ended up wearing something I brought, but I thought that was sweet of Cynthia to care and to pack a few extra pieces in case I didn't have something I loved. Plus keep in mind this happened back when I was still getting settled into my new digs, and I think my moving truck was still missing in action at this point in time. I don't know if you guys know this, but even after my things arrived from New York City, so many things were missing/stolen from my belongings. I still need to give an earful to that ratchet moving company for what they did to me! Anyway...

We had some playful fun in the room, and I had to give Kenya a spanking because she was being a bad girl. But the thing about Kenya I really like is that she can take a joke (and a slap to the ass)! She teases me, I tease her -- no one gets their feelings hurt about it! How many of your friends can you slam on the bed and slap their booty and they don't feel some type of way about it? That's what I'm talking about! The fun girls. Women who are about their business but don't take themselves way too seriously. That's why every single scene you see with Kenya, Cynthia, Demetria, and me is consistently easy, breezy, and fun! Life is short; we should all be laughing and smiling as much as we possibly can! Don't you think?

OK so Cynthia left us (and I do not blame her, she needed to go support her man on this important evening). Kenya and I finally got to Sports One and it was packed! I was very happy to see it was a success! One of the first people I see is Kordell Stewart, which was funny to me, but I wasn't surprised, because I have that kind of random life where I will run into people in the most unexpected places. Once I was in the jungle in Puerto Rico and I ran into someone I knew! I know a lot of people and I'm very socially active.

It was good to see Kordell, because he's always been a very nice and classy guy in my presence. I met him around 1998 in Los Angeles at a First Sunday party that I think his teammate Jerome Bettis was hosting. It's no secret I'm a huge football fan (Go Patriots!), and I actually have worked on a couple of sports shows. One was Fox Sports on a show called 5-4-3-2-1, and I met tons of entertainers and athletes doing that show. Then I did another sports show with John Salley, Hugh Douglas, and Guy Torry called Ballers where we interviewed different sports stars every week and took plenty of photos with them. I also did a show pilot called The Fantasy Show, which was a fantasy football show for ESPN.

My point in mentioning all of this is not to brag about my resume, but to explain that I am a woman into sports -- especially football. Kordell was a black quarterback early on when it was a very tough position to get, because some idiots really thought that African Americans weren't "smart enough" to QB a team. My sports folks will know this was a ridiculous theory that some tried to really perpetuate. With that said, I have the utmost respect for Kordell pushing right past that stereotype and reaching the heights he did as a great quarterback for the Pittsburgh Steelers. So yes, I respect him as an athlete. When we met, I of course knew who he was. We exchanged info, chatted a few times, and became platonic friends. He never even really hit on me and was a complete gentleman. I'd see him here and there at events, and that was it. I saw him at a radio show, a party, etc. We just always had a mutual respect for one another. Nothing more, nothing less.

So when folks on social media were getting angry for "going after" another woman's ex, I had to laugh! NEWSFLASH: We are all someone's ex! And it's not like I was chopping it up with a married man or anything tacky like that. Kordell is a friend, and that is that. Besides, if you have been watching how I move on this show, I have tried to play nice with all the ladies on this show until they have shunned or disrespected me. So being new to this group, I'm not going to intentionally do anything to create more animosity than there already is. Real talk. I need my days to be less stressful, not more! Taking a selfie is not sexual activity or inappropriate behavior. Be clear -- my mother did a great job of teaching me the difference between right and wrong. But once again, the double standards of right and wrong in this group never cease to amaze me! Selfie versus side piecing? Umm, I'll take a million selfies before I go out like that!

Bravotv.com: Did you feel that Kordell was flirting with you? Would you consider dating him?

CJ: Hmm was Kordell flirting? I mean, barely. At the table when Kenya asked him if he was dating, he said straight up he was seeing someone and I think he was just having a little fun with me like I was with him. It was cute and harmless, and we were having drinks (I know, for me shocking, right? LOL!) and enjoying the successful grand opening of Sports One -- that's really all it was. I am happy to report Kordell has never called my phone late night breathing hard and has been a complete gentleman around me when I have run into him. He has chosen to not speak negatively of his ex in my presence despite the awful allegations that have been made about him, and for that he has my respect. But enough about that... When can we go back to Sports One, Cynthia and Kenya? Let's bring Demetria next time and have Road Trip No. 2!

Thank you for all the kind words on my social media and for all the new followers and folks riding with me on this crazy journey! I promise to always keep it real with you guys and share some real life experiences that I hope you can relate to. Please check out my website to get to know me a little more (www.TheRealClaudiaJordan.com), follow me on Instagram and Twitter @ClaudiaJordan, and please tune in every morning to the Rickey Smiley Morning Show. You can listen on line at www.RickeySmileyMorningShow.com.

 
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