I was disappointed when none of my cast mates reached out to me after learning of my ordeal when many viewers did. Whether or not I am your favorite or least favorite person, the bond that we all have is that we are women first. I’m a woman before I am any other identifying marker such as race, social status, popularity, occupation, or religious background. I am a woman. I am a child of God and I am blessed. With that said, I beg all women to get a mammogram. If you get a call back, GO BACK. BE BRAVE. Early detection is the key to survival. And do a self-breast examination that can be found at http://on.aol.com/video/how-to-perform-breast-self-exam-286302892. Thank you for allowing me to share my experience with you.
Breast Cancer Generalized
• An estimated 250,000 women are diagnosed with breast cancer annually
• Only a small number of new cases have a genetic link (5%) or family history (10-15%)
• 40,000 will die from their disease
Breast Cancer in Black Women
• Although the incidence of breast cancer is higher among white women, black women are more likely to die from their disease
• Death rate is 41% higher in black women
• Black women are three times more likely to have triple negative breast cancer, which makes it more challenging to treat. (More aggressive, poorer prognosis, higher recurrence and reduced survival)
• Black women have the lowest survival rate of all races
• Awareness has been the focus for 20 years, now it's time to move toward action!
• Breast cancer typically produces little to no symptoms when detected early, that's why Mammograms are so important, get them starting at age 40 or sooner if there is a family history
• If you get a call back, make sure your follow up; "Early detection means better protection"
Cancer scares, I can only imagine this is beyond taxing, to say the least. I do not wish that upon anyone. I do have to say though, Kenya is a waste of time and space on this show. It used to be enjoyable to watch and now all I want to do is vomit. Miss USA- ha! It is disgusting that a woman who once represented the United States would act and look like such a clown. You look even worse when you try to threaten pregnant women, very big of you Kenya! Get the F off of this show so we can actually watch it again. And with all that 'money' you got, fix them damn acne scars woman! Gross. How does that feel, not so nice when people are mean is it? Remember always, God don't like UGLY....
I started really liking you when you went through the Breast Cancer scare. Please keep up the softer side of you. Your beauty does not show when you are being mean. Happy you didn't have Cancer. Now, keep the softness, it suits you. Walter was not for you, I believe he is Gay.
What I'm going to say at first is going to sound mean.... but follow me here. Usually Kenya, when you are on camera you are trying so hard to be better than the others, you are argumentative, critical and always trying to prove that you are somebody people HAVE to respect because you were Mss USA. Up until now I honestly have not seen you as a beautiful woman because you have been projecting ugliness from the inside. HOWEVER, the first time I saw your face and thought "that woman is beautiful, was when you were sitting in your Dr.s office. She was about to tell you that your tumors were benign. You had a soft look about you that I had never seen before. What I realized that made you beautiful was the presence of HUMIITY!!! Please stop competing with the other women and being ugly. Keep that sense of humilty as it is an important quality. Humility looks good on you - and I really saw your beauty for the first time
Hello Kenya, first let me start off by saying my dear you are truly blessed and I pray that you realize that. I'm a two time breast cancer survivor. The cancer in my breasts was caused from stress and some other factors but mostly stress. Yes I had chemotherapy, yes my hair and eyebrows fell out, but being in that situation made me the person I am today. I live life to the fullest each day, because each day we wake up is a gift from God and its up to us what we will do with it. Will we consult the Lord and follow His plan for the day or do our own thing? I choose to continue to consult the Lord I pray that you will be greatful for the Lord sparing you from this very hard sickness and be just a little kinder, and more patient with people. You certainly do reap what you have sown!!!!
Damn Kenya You are a piece of work! I was so hoping to read this blog and have a new and unexpected feeling of respect for you! I really thought your experience with the breast cancer scare woud endear you to all the real fans of RHOA.But no, that wasnt the case! You some how turned blogging about this experience to once again playing the victim and poking jabs at the other cast mates. Not one hint of humility! I really think this is just a way of making money for you. You will stoop at any level to remain on RHOA and that is really sad!
I am glad you are cancer free,thank God for his healing, but I really hope the show drop you, you make people not want to watch the show. When you come on the remote get a work out. Please twirl away, 1983 Ms USA,your time is over. Bye bye,Walter was a very smart Man, he ran fast forms you, now you need to run fast from the show.
I LOVEEEEEE you Kenya you are beautiful and funny and very interesting! SOO glad ur on the show you show what its like to be s strong woman!
Dear Detroit Barbie,
I wish you would twirl right off the show. Watching you is toxic. I do not watch any episodes you are in and I miss watching the show. Please exit stage right. Thank you.
NOT A GONE WITH THE WIND FAN !!
I liked you finally in this episode. You seem to have found a new you. You were sweet and funny and ladylike. I hope this new found you will continue. Probably not but it was nice for this time. Cancer or any health issues can scare one into seeing life in a better light. People should leave Walter out of conversations with you. It is over and done..why beat the dead horse. Hopefully nice Kendra will continue!
JEM1 I can't believe anyone would buy a work-out video from Phaedra I don't want to look like a Oompa- Loompa. Hang in there Kenya, and please don't listen to all the jealous comments. Your awesome and they are not worth listening to.
Kenya, glad your biopsy revealed benign results. You should not expect however, for your castmates to come running with the flowers and candy. We ALL need to do self-exams, go to the Doctor, get our mammograms and follow through with whatever needs to be done. The fact that you're STILL harping on this just again shows how self-involved you really are. Stop playing like you're a victim. You are NOT a victim! You do NOT have cancer! So, SHUT UP ALREADY and move along.
BTW, stop blaming everyone for your stress,too. That stress is all yours. Figure out a way to deal with WHATEVER comes your way. You're wwaaayyyy too old to not know how to calm yourself down.
I'm glad your biopsies were benign. You need to take a good look at your behaviour and change whatever is within your power to change.
BYW- Did anyone see Beyonce quickly say "gone with the wind fabulous" in an inteview after the Superbowl? Or did BRAVO shop that in?
Kenya, I was so scared for you, but I'm glad everything is clear so stop worrying about Walter and the others and just take better care of you because all you have is you.
Kenya, glad your results were negative. I've gotten the call you received, to come in for more tests. Mine, too, were negative. We are both blessed! Continue, as I do, taking the high road.
Kenya, Kenya, Kenya... (glad you're all clear)
BUT... Hun, you are text book cray cray... You can flip (happy, pissed angry, manic) faster than anyone I know. When you are not hearing what you want, or getting what you want, and it is truly unbecoming of a 42 yr old woman.
You should have had a contract with Pheadra before you put any time ( 4 or 6 weeks) into "her" project (rule number one in business)... It's hard enough to do business with friends... The contract just makes sure both parties are protected... But bootlegging her project was classless.
You had the opportunity to be a real role model for young girls. Instead you are an example of why many people are so anti-beauty pageants, self centered and shallow and willing to step on the backs of anyone who gets in your way. What a fine example you are setting ex Miss USA.
Kenya says she had the distribution deal on the table with her production company and Phaedra didn't want to do business with her. So..... Kenya ran with it. Business is business. Why would Kenya throw a deal away for Phaedra who chose not to do business with her and seemingly shady on Phaedra's part. I wouldn't buy a donkey or stallion video but to each his own. Is there even a Stallion video? I haven't heard anything about it.
@Gatorgirl1 just like the deal with Phaedra didn't go through(she had the deal on the table) , Kenya walked away. Kenya could have done the same with the distribution deal....the original dvd was not being produced, so she should have walked away with her reputation in tact...I am sure it happens all the time. Instead Kenya's reputation is now one of a producer who steals her client's ideas. Which says to me that Kenya really is not this hot, in demand producer. Kenya needed to make that "little" money...Kenya is a biter.
Kenya, I'm glad your biopsy revealed your lumps to be benign.
However, instead of just being thankful it was just a Cancer 'scare' and no malignancy, you still managed to blame Walter, Phaedra, et. al., for the stress you were under which caused this to come about. Please girl, when are you going to begin to take responsibilty for your actions instead of being a lying, nasty, arrogant troublemaker and blaming everyone else for your problems? As far as your castmates not reaching out to you -- no surprise there -- you haven't been very nice to anyone this season, with the possible exception of NeNe because you know she would have torn you from limb to limb without ever laying a hand on you.
Also, will you please enlighten me as to what "Gone with the Wind" fabulous means? Is it the movie itself or the dialogue, "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn?" Seriously, have you ever actually seen the movie?
Regardless of the little cat fights between the ladies, our health comes first. Kenya did the right thing to seek about her health because the stress can actually do more damage. I think that some of the things you're going through health wise maybe a contributing factor with the relationships you have with the other house wives. How can we as women(of any color) call ourselves friends if we can't share with one another our concerns and issues that break us down mentally and physically. We all need a someone we can confide in. I think Cynthia does more harm than good. Relaying gossip back and forth. Your tongue will get you in trouble.
I'm glad you're well and that the scare is over. Now practice what you preach and tone it down just a little.
You need to be removed from the show. You should be feloniously be charged with fraud. Shame on you!
I am glad you are not sick. I really don't understand why you were added as a "housewife" to this show. For drama? You are SO contrived, it is really not fun to watch. I don't watch when you are on, and really hope they find some FUN woman in Atlanta to replace you! Let's all send in ideas:)
Kenya, go get some meds...I seriously think something mentally is wrong with you. The next best thing is to remove yourself from the show. Enough already.
Kenya what we know about cancer of all types is that it is an equal opportunity disease that is color blind...you stated you were a woman first aside from race, creed etc...yet you go on to post death statistics among black women in particular....lets not confuse anyone please.....this is not a disease of color....i hope everyone reading your blog understands that...whether asian, middle eastern or any other ethnic group.....we cannot make a stand on an illness whee we try to educate, but then, make it sound as if you may have other racial genetics, you might be spared....that would be irresponsible...and would make your on camera testing useless....to the viewers.....on another subject...the comment you made about being able to block out painful truths, has me now wondering if this is why we saw you blindsided by Walter...do you think you just pushed past the truth and his lack of commitment? Were we too rough on Walter, if you are now admitting you have blocked out bad events in order to cope...interesting......i also hope that you did not followup on your questionable first mammogram because you wanted to be on board for this show, keeping it your secret....you wouldn't do that...right??
It kind of makes me wonder if the reason that she has been soo angry and crazy acting and soo desperate to get married and have kids is because she was dealing with the fact that she might have breast cancer and she was stressing and taking it out on everybody and wanted to hurry up and get married and have kids just in case it turned out that she did have cancer when she finally went to have her biospy done.
Stop looking for sympathy because you have not been received well by the fans. Many women have mammograms annually as well as biopsies if necessary. Most lumps are benign and some are malignant. Fortunately for you, yours were benign. Don't make a mockery of a cancer scare just because you had to have a routine checkup and they found something. Right off the bat, you called out your castmates for not running to your side (as if any of them would). Stop looking for attention. Wasn't your family all you needed? None of these ladies are really your friend so what did you expect? Grow up and go away already. We're done with your antics and phoniness. And no Kenya, I'm not jealous or a hater, just smart and can see right through you.
SoOverIt I guess you have never been through that. If you had, you would understand the fear, especially with a positive family history. I have been there. I lost both parents to cancer plus many friends and family members. I have had several biopsies and it never gets easy.
jaredstefb I'm sorry, but I too see right through Kenya. She looks for sympathy in every blog. And adding "None of my cast mates reached out to me" adds on another eye roll from me. This woman constantly stirs up drama, and then begs for sympathy from the fans. There are people actually suffering from cancer and she's whining about her cast mates not reaching out to her for a benign mass! Ridiculous.
You are so right. People don't go through biopsies for sympathy. Some of the comments so insensitive and I hope none of those making them ever have to go through waiting for the results of the test. I have family members who have cancer and it has not been an easy road to travel. Unless you have been in that person's shoes then perhaps you shouldn't try to walk the walk.
@jaredstefb @SoOverIt. I'm sorry about your parents. I, too, have a strong family history of breast cancer. I started getting mammograms at 31 and I would look at a biopsy as a "cancer scare" as well. Every woman I know who has had a biopsy was fearful, as well, as the women who have routine biopsies.
Apparently, Kenya does or her only concern wouldn't have been why her "castmates" didn't rush to her side?
Since you don't know me, let me set you straight. My father and his mother both have cancer right now and both have come out of remission and yet they don't feel the need to compare who is or is not running to their sides to comfort them. Nor are they looking for sympathy. Cancer runs in my family and we have lost many relatives over the years. She's phony and manipulative. Her mammogram had nothing to do with her castmates. Nothing. She's looking for attention. All she had was a biopsy to test for cancer. It was negative. She should have a mammogram annually like any other woman over forty. And yet her only concern was how disappointed she was with her castmates. WTF? What about her Aunt that was at her appointment? She's ungrateful and there is nothing you could ever say to me to change my mind. Comprehende?
jaredstefb i think the point is kenya knew she did not have cancer before all of the blogs and words on the show... she is a fake..
I am glad that you are doing well, I wouldnt wish that on anyone. I thank God for his grace