Cast Blog: #RHOA

Kicking Out Porsha

Kenya shares her side of the finale blowout.

FOREVER RELEVANT

From Halle Berry to Hattie McDaniel, who was the first Black women to ever win an Academy Award in 1939 74 years ago, the cause célèbre for my desire to honor these iconic women was the shocking and ignorant insults and remarks heralded toward me in Anguilla by a 31-year-old girl. I was told I was irrelevant, old, and a nonfactor at 41 being a part of history by becoming the 2nd black woman to be crowned Miss USA.

After I overcame my sadness and disdain at the ignorance and lack of respect that exists in America from some slightly younger, historically-challenged individuals, I felt it my responsibility to honor the women who have undoubtedly paved the way, opened doors, and broken racial barriers and stereotypes amidst hatred for women, which has allowed people like me to proudly walk through. I put a lot of time and effort into the party. I thought of each woman individually and assigned them costumes based on who their dynamic personalities. It was easy… I chose Kandi as iconic Tina Turner, because she is a powerhouse musical talent, strong, sexy and bold. I saw Cynthia as the iconic Diana Ross from Mahogany as she struggled in love and her modeling career in the film. Phaedra loves to flaunt her sexuality and her body and iconic Eartha Kitt as Catwoman was a perfect fit. NeNe was a no brainer as iconic Grace Jones. She was beyond powerful, bold, fierce, and untraditionally beautiful and simply stunning on screen. I knew NeNe would own it, and she did! Iconic Pam Grier had alarming beauty, obnoxious curves, and she owned being a strong, sexy, take-no-prisoners, kick ass and take names later, bad-ass. I live for her and was happy to pay homage to one of the most incredible women to ever be seen on the silver screen. Halle Berry is and will always be one of the most beautiful women in the world. In B.A.P.S., she was a young, pretty, unpolished, fun, and likable diamond in the rough. Her character arc showed her grow, mature, and become a beautiful polished Black American Princess who was willing to accept change. Perhaps, my vision was too complex for a self-centered little girl to understand. “MALICE CONTENT” A.K.A. MALCONTENT

I’ve heard the comments that it was a “set-up,” or “non-glamorous,” “malice content” (malcontent is the correct word), which is utterly absurd. NO ONE takes that kind of energy from me.  This is just as ignorant as the first comments that were the catalyst for the event. Tina Turner was not “glamorous,” Grace Jones was not glamorous, nor any of the other characters aside from Cynthia as Diana Ross. I should not be surprised by the pervasive idiocy that exists in one’s own head. Most importantly, as a show of my appreciation for the ladies, I gifted each of them with beautiful diamond and gold necklaces with their initials courtesy of David Yurman. Therefore, I planned on a beautiful, drama free night honoring ALL the ladies, bar none. Yet, someone wanted to ruin my big night by showing up and showing out.

All the girls came to the party and never once complained about their assigned costumes. My amazing team created live reenactments from the movies of each character the girls were appearing, so it was imperative that they came as their assigned ICONS. If they didn’t want to comply with the hostess’ requests, they should have simply declined the invitation and stayed home. What clearly was premeditated is someone making their own rules to upset me at my own event, which I meticulously planned and paid for. Most importantly, I extended an olive branch toward forgiveness. When you have a history with me of being disrespectful, spiteful, and unapologetic, then you will be shown the nearest exit to the left.

KEEPING IT REAL CRAZY

I love me some NeNe, but she did not hesitate to “kick us out” of her house party that we never got in to. I listen, but I don’t have to always agree. However, I appreciate and respect her opinion. In this case, I felt that I should have merely asked “Dorothy” to leave rather than have her escorted out. I have always apologized when I feel I have been wrong. (Phaedra, Cynthia, Anguilla).  Yet, I have NEVER received one apology from someone who called me “whore, trash, raisin face, old, ashy” and taunted me throughout the year often laughing at the unfortunate demise and pain in my relationship, even invited my ex to a party, insulted me after I was uncomfortable at the shameful spectacle made at her charity event I politely left, told I was on the curb where I should be… In any event, I realize that I am a bigger, more reasonable, and more accountable person. Life’s experiences have immeasurable value. I would be insane if I did the same thing over and over and expect a different response. I cannot expect more from someone that only wants to win at all costs. They will lose every time in life. We are all culpable for our actions. I own up to mine.

A SINCERE THANK YOU

Agree or disagree, love or hate me, like or dislike my choices -- you are engaged, you are entertained, and you have been significant in my journey. With that said, my journey is my own. My life is my own. My consequences for my actions are my own. My existence in the world is my own to create. I thank you for challenging me on my decisions, actions, and often over-the-top and dramatic reactions. Thank you for helping me look inside myself and challenging me to be a better person, better friend, better businesswoman, and better mate and a better mother and wife to be. My life is evolving before your eyes and mine, and I appreciate all the contributions and constructive opinions and heartfelt advice from all the viewers. I look forward to all that God has in store for me. But one thing you can count on from me in the future. I will always be me. I will always be true to myself. I will always be consistent. I will always live my life as I see fit and I make no apologies for being my organic self. Most importantly, I will always be Gone with the Wind Fabulous!

I want to thank my fabulous team who helped to put my event together and include their Twitter addresses:

Special Thanks To:

Moore Vision Media @KenyaMoore
PR Agency | Event Producers: @TheGarnerCircle @tgcPRagency
Grey Goose Premium Vodka @greygoose
David Yurman Jewelry @davidyurman
Upscale Magazine @upscalemag
African Pride Hair Care @myafricanpride
Rai Designs @theraieffect
Imperial Soire Event Planning & Catering @imperialsoiree
PA Universal @pauniversal
OMG Booth @omgbooth
The Green Room - @therealgreenroom @terrivaughn
Tommy Ford - @bigTommyFord
Eboni Elektra L!ve - @ebonielektra
Uber - @uberatlanta
Miss Brie and the Band - @MissBrieDidIt
Pianist Daniel Moore - @IamDanielMoore
Dj B Barnes - @BBarnestheDJ
Eshe@eshe2xgrammy
My beloved family and friends

Charity Partner: 40 Girls and Some Shoes  - @40girls1

Thank you for your support and for making my event ICONIC!

Xo,

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***Recently we all heard the news of Kordell filing for a divorce. Whil it’s no secret we have our differences, I never want to see anyone in pain or suffering and would never revel in that kind of news. I wish her well. I’m a fool for love and want couples to be happy. Hopefully they will both find happiness again together or apart.

Check out some of my pics from the party!

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Claudia on Her Breakdown

Claudia Jordan explains what really brought her to tears.

Bravotv.com: Are you loving your apartment now that’s decorated?
Claudia Jordan: I love my place, but it's not quite where I want it to be yet. In my other houses and apartments I'd be so fast to get my places together in the first few days I'm in there, but honestly I've been so busy with the transition to Atlanta and my new job that I haven't really been as on point as I'd like. And that's been across the board -- with my hair, clothes, apartment, etc. It's just been a bit overwhelming with working on the radio show five days a week plus appearances, live remotes, as well as my other work I do for CNN/Headline News and my podcast. My day starts at 5am and goes until 11pm some nights. But in my few spare moments here and there I was able to get some crystal chandeliers installed that I love! I bought that amazing black chair from Modani (the furniture store Kenya and I shopped at) and a few other items. I still want to get some accent walls painted and a few more pieces and then I'll have my place where I want it to be. I actually love decorating but at this point in the game I still didn't even know where to go to shop! But it's getting there!


Bravotv.com: Why did you break down when discussing the Porsha situation with Kenya and Cynthia?
CJ: Really I was not crying about Porsha or the fact that I'm biracial! There was such a buildup of so many things that it just took one little thing to push me over the top. I am not that emotionally invested in Porsha, and if you ever catch me getting there, please take me out to pasture and put me out of my misery! Let's be very clear -- like crystal clear -- I am not jealous of Porsha, she has nothing I want or couldn't get if I wanted it. I do not want her life, hair, body, mouth, or situation. I've never been the type of woman that couldn't co-exist with successful women. I've never had the need to be the "star" in my group of friends. I actually like to surround myself with women that are upwardly mobile, intelligent, fabulous, successful, independent, and inspirational. So to suggest jealousy over a woman that only has more material items than me for now is laughable.


Again, being the new girl on the block on the radio show was extremely stressful. I had to sit in the seat and take over the position of a very beloved radio personality that's by far one of the best in the business. To say her fans were upset was an understatement, and that's totally understandable! It was pretty much a no-win situation for me. And I was very aware of what folks were saying. Now all I wanted to do was work and collect my check and go home with as little drama as possible. I was trying to fit in with a new crew in a new city; I had to leave my friends and family up north, and honestly I was overwhelmed and the move was bittersweet.


So when I was pulled aside by several people at the station and told they noticed the tension and it was making folks whisper and feel some type of way, honestly even though I knew it wasn't something I was doing, I kind of panicked. I so did not want to be that chick bringing drama to a new job. That and only that was the reason I asked Porsha to lunch in the first place and even bit my tongue that day when she was acting like a child at the table deflecting and discussing lotion in the middle of a talk. You guys now know I have no problems reading a chick, and looking back I think some can appreciate and acknowledge just how much I held back that day. I mention it to say this: I only held back to really try to make things be cool between us at work. You saw Porsha was being shady as hell to me at work way before Puerto Rico. So when I came for her on the bus it was beyond justified. It was a buildup and I let out all the things I had held back in all of our other interactions that she brought upon herself. So yes, my crying was not about being biracial and it was not over Porsha. I was stressed and sick of all the B.S. that was coming my way, and it was a culmination of lots of things. Basically I was over it.


Bravotv.com: Was it awkward when Ricky pulled in Porsha to try and smooth things over between the two of you?
CJ: Hell yeah it was awkward! I did not go to Rickey to talk about Porsha! I handled Porsha just fine without anyone else's assistance and did not need back up. She is not a tough cookie to crack. I went to get feedback about my progress with the show, and when Rickey decided to bring Porsha in, it frustrated me because I didn't think it would be productive, and again, I wasn't there for that! But at the same time it's Rickey's show, and if he felt the tension (and he admitted he did) and wanted to see if he could help, then who am I to tell the man that gave me a job what to do regarding his show?


I never brought up Porsha's name. She's right about one thing -- we don't work together (besides the episodes of Dish Nation when the show asked me to come on), but we do work in the same space with the same people, who are casualties of our issues. I was fine with us ignoring each other in the hallway, but when it got to the point where folks are pulling me aside telling me it was getting weird for them and I wouldn't want that getting to Rickey, then I'm going to do my part to make it better. We both owe it to Rickey and the rest of the employees that are affected. Period. Point blank. If Porsha wants to play fake and act like I'm imagining things, that's fine. But at the end of the day, it is what it is. And the truth is the truth. I do not operate in the land of make believe; I tend to live in a thing called the real world. So I don't regret anything I've done, because I've done it with purpose and with no shady ulterior motives. I'm a realist and that's that!

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